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  • @juicywusea most people are doing multiple for witch i dont undertsand why put when women multiple date men its a diffrent story put what if god told uto find somebody else even doe you date 5 diffrent women that wasnt for u

  • I feel dating is just a area for emotional and physical comfort, therefore if you are dating, you are not depending on God to 1. Find you the perfect husband/ wife, your dating to "try out" multiple partners to find the one, which means your not trusting God to fill you and find you someone perfect. 2.Your setting yourself up for heartbreak which can be damaging to the soul and you are settling yourself up for temptation to have ungodly bonding, such as sex. Locked lips lead to locked hips. ;)

  • I am a Christian but if I had to go through all this and made into an interview or if I had to meet church members to be down my throat, I would leave as fast as I can.

  • Not to be funny but i do not think many women in church could answer these questions correctly let alone men, I love events and music like everyone else but if we are serious about being Christ centered we need to take some time and learn sound Christian doctrine.

  • @ceeker248 " love events and music like everyone else but if we are serious about being Christ centered we need to take some time and learn sound Christian doctrine." You said a mouthful! Amen to that!

  • Thank you for this video, i needed it. I've been so confused on what I should look for in a guy. It's hard you know.

  • This is awesome. As a young man, 24, this causes me to examine my heart and my relationship with God in reference to dating and in my relationship with God as a whole. God Bless you Pastor J.

  • Love these questions! Posted them on my facebook. However, I have yet to find any Scriptural evidence to support the American concept of dating. I used to date but quit two years ago when I could not find any support for it the Scriptures. Anyone been able to find Scriptural support for this? And please, don't tear something out of context. I have been studying theology for nearly 20 years and can tell when this is being done. I am being sincere. Message me if you would like.

  • @MrNickKane

    Interesting point...I quit dating because I got sick of women not respecting themselves and apologizing for it.

  • I love this video, a wonderful eye opener.

  • wow your good...keep them coming.

  • HE NEEDS HIS OWN SHOW!

  • ROFl hes so funny!!!! hhahahhaa i lvoe him now!!!

  • I LOVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!! WOOOOOOOOO!!!

    MAN! I so so SO agree. Right off the bat with numero Uno... that is SO important- espicially in this day and age! *Cough Emergent church* cough* Christian Universalism...*cough

    GOD BLESS YOU PASTOR COX!!

  • Pastor, with all do respect these are great questions for a woman looking to be saved by a man however, Ladies/Gentleman read Matt 6:33.

    If you need more understanding read how the LORD appeared to Solomon in a dream by night: 1 Kings 3:1-11

    You don't need hard biblical questions to ask a man "Ladies" or a woman "Fellas" before getting involved.

    Keep on praying Pastor.

  • if you worked in my local church i'd actually go lol x

  • nice list, but sometime God call us to marry someone that not in Christ for many reason.

  • Is there a text version of these questions? I couldn't get past his self-congratulatory comments about how deep and profound his questions are.

  • True! this one guy that said... he was a christian, came with that I was raised in the" chruch i was baptize when i was  younger ",wow

    ladies take heed to this

  • Very thought provoking questions! They go right to the heart and motives.

  • How do I get a copy of those questions?

  • @evangelistsantified write it down!

  • Y'all ever heard of Hells best kept secret?

  • First we as women need to sit down and answer these questions ourselves to see if we are in the right place spiritually to make sure we are ready to even be considering getting into a relationship with a Godly man or anyone for that matter. Because once we get a godly man are we even gonna know what to do with him if we cant even answer these ourselves? Thanks pastor!!!

  • These are EXCELLENT!! I hope your book is on the way Pastor J. These questions need to be in it. Thank you!

  • ...Sounds like an exam

  • Excellent advice my brother. You mentioned so many things to ask that would have never thought of. And yes this should apply not only to the man, but the woman as well.

  • these are some tough questions...but i'll make sure to ask next time i want to get involved wiv any man. thnx :)

  • Excellent advice! I need to create a worksheet of these for myself and any potential friends of the opposite sex.

  • lol..."or Massages" He better speak the truth! that's how stuff starts! this is all funny but truth!

  • wow pastor what camera did you use to film this???

  • I like #6 cuz idolizing a relationship is a big temptation, but it don't get to much time being put on blast.

    And it's like saying God's #1 and will you be willing to back down if we lose focus? I like it, i like.

  • the questions r good ones but i cant answer them all so if i actually used the list to help me judge who is datable and who is not, i wont b dating ne man

  • Hey, Is there anyway that you could send me those questions to my page? You were talking to fast and some of the words were coming thru messed up were i couldnt understand them. Plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz thank you! you are a blessing!!!

  • I REALLY LOVE THIS! THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO!!! I WILL DEFINITELY BEGIN ASKING THESE QUESTIONS.

  • weeeellll....I love this video and I agree with everything...BUT idk that many men who would answer these questions to the proper standard...*sigh*....but i wouldn't dare not ask at least some of them cuz if u don't ur looking for trouble...lol

  • this would definitely LOWER the number of divorces in the church i think....

  • If women did this more, men would follow and straighten up in character

  • @pookypoo77 I would think they would want to do that for themselves regardless....?

  • Whew! Hanging on the rim! Oh wow... Great stuff, brother!

  • LOL!!!! 4:00-4:25 WOW! lol 

  • Too funny :) I love this you go Pastor!

  • do u have these questions in word, so i can print them out?

  • beautiful job pastor and brother...

  • This is the dumbest video I ever seen. No one can base their life or relationship soley on the bible. NO WOMAN or MAN is a saint, and doesn't sin. That is impossible. If you believe that you are a non-sinner than you are lying and your sinning right there. Also If a girl asked me some dumb shit like that. I'll ask her "Have you ever held an M4? Defending yourself from men who want to kill you because you are an infindel, while watching your friends die?" I believe in god and thats good enough.

  • I really love this!!!!!!!

  • 15 Questions for a man? I am sure he will run away!

    Now where are the 15 Questions for a woman?

  • Phase 1

    1. Theology: Is the Bible 100% Gods word and only Gods word?

    2. Salvation: Is it only by grace and faith and by what Jesus accomplished...or are their works involved?

    3. Are you a Christian: how, when did u become one and how do you know ur in the faith now....and support ur answers with scritpures!

    3. The last girl you dated; can she say she is abetter christian after dating you?

    4. Are you willing to sit down with my spirtual leader and tell them what ur intentions are with me?

  • are u in a relationship?????

  • @balletnow: You want to come across as non-compromising, because that's what Christ is. If your decision to follow the Lord 'no matter what' is so intimidating to a gentleman that it "runs him away", he should keep on running because he's not for you or for any truly sold-out-to-Jesus woman. If a guy is turned off by your commitment to the Lord, it's HIM who needs to consider change, not you. Don't compromise righteousness for sentiment; stick to the truth as God defines it, regardless . . .

  • PASTOR COX! GO AHEAD GO AHEAD GO AHEAD! You lashed me on the first questions being about theology!! (had to pause lol) And the way you do it is so watchable, you need to be on tv so you can reach more people!! God bless you and some. Let me just post this to my face book!!!!!!!!

  • :D like 30 seconds into this I was already like... i LOVE THIS VIDEO!!!!!!!!!

  • hmm so when should a woman ask a man these questions? I'm kind of afraid that if I were to ask a man these things when we are still friends (but there is potential) it will run him away. I want him to know that I will never settle, but I want to make sure i'm not coming across as a very demanding and a nagging woman. What do you think Pastor Justin?

  • @balletnow you can't be afraid that you would run a guy off becasue if is the one that God would have just for you there is nothing that you could do to run him off, remember its about living up to God's standards and determining if a man truly lives a life for God.

  • This is great Pastor Cox!!!! You make me laugh...i love your dancing!!! :)

  • Pastor Bro, I wuv what you doing...but uh-ruh, I gotta tell you that some folks use the Bible as a weapon, they've used it to justify and uhhhhh, validate slavery...to validate raping their wives....so, throwing scripture is cool but I'd rather SEE a Godly scripture in action, not hear a brosky talk to me about words on a page. Walk not talk. Now, walk it out, now walk it out... :-)

  • GOOOOLD. Amen, I loved this.

  • What kinda camera is you using ??

  • Love love LOVE this video!!!!!

  • I want to make an application from your questions!!!!

  • Ths was tight really help me examine my walk and i always wanted to know thank you for breaking it down instead of telling us to just pray on it b/c that is what i usually get when i ask people at the church. THANK YOU SO MUCH

  • If a woman has to ask these questions, she's better off becoming a nun! SERIOUSLY!

  • @lakebay972 i disagree with you. Women have to have standards if not the men will mess over them because of no standards, but if a girl gives a guy standards he has a choice he can follow them or leave her. It's just that simple it's not complicated and no one has to be a nun. If they are on the same level spiritually then they will agree if not then it won't work.

  • @lakebay972 why you say that

  • yes please i would love to have these questions..what si your facebook name?

  • Christian pussy is the best!

  • LOL.....this vid is he bomb for sho! Pastor this is great. Those some deep questions, but i love them. Thanks for keeping it real and keeping us on track. Keep up the good work and God Bless.

  • love this dude!!!!!

  • I like it. this is not something that you hit someone with stright out of the gate.

  • Wow sooo funny but so true. Now I have my eye on someone ... but would I dare ask all those questions? Tough questions for a girl to ask, and tough questions for a guy to answer ... :D I'll try my best

  • @3:14 !!! COMEDY.

    QUESTION 3!! wow... && Can i have somebody call her to VERIFY HER ANSWERS..GET ITTT PASTORRR

    <3

  • "Back up your answer with the bible" Lol! I love it

  • @Jessicametoplay i love this as well, i had a male friend who tried toplay me lol, i pray for him still...

  • I absolutely am going to use this Godly wisdom to up my spiritual standard. I agree with OAD82 by making sure that I am able to answer these questions myself! Thanks so much for allowing God to use you to speak to us! God bless

  • This shows me I don't need to be dating until I can answer all the questions myself. Thanks for the word! :-)

  • This is sad. He is sad. This message is misogynistic, painful and embarrassing to watch, not only as a black woman, but as an ex-christian. Wake the hell up people. That is all.

  • WOW I guess i shoulda watched the whole vid be4 pausing and writing that all down lol but that was very helpful

  • #8 praise God!

  • What happens when the girl meets a brotha whose had "no" previous relationship before meeting her?

  • !!!yoooo im a new subscreiber...but this video iss waayy past 2 real!!...i luvv it alreadii!!!...

  • Yet another example of patriarchal black church leaders doing literally everything they can to keep single black women lonely.

  • This guy is an idiot. Women should concern themselves with whether is honest, faithful, smart and good to them. Leave the stupid list of jesus-freak questions at home.

  • this is idiotic who in the hell is goin to ask these questions????

  • What happened to just wanting a man that respects you, treats you like an equal, and is a good person? I mean, dang.

  • HAHAHAHAHA....aye Bro, you crazy!!!! Blessings. WAYYYY different from MacArthur, but truth nonetheless

  • this video is ssssoooo deeep. pastor Justin hit the nail on the head man. GOD BLESS U!

  • hey can u send me these question i like this this is dope

  • Can definately work the other way round too! This is great! A woman can't just ask them for the sake of it, she has to mean it! She has to want God first! This is great! Loving the vids

  • DANG I WOULD HAVE TO SAY I GOTTA USE THIS ON THE WOMEN!!

  • "Let the women learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression." (I Timothy 2:11-14)

    'Nuff said

  • i will do question 13.....

  • u rock Men since the video of Jay-Z I m your fan #1 men keep talkin cool

  • some of the qs would be a bit much to ask of someone who doesnt know u yet (10) lol but its alot still, once day i myself will meet the criteria

  • HUMMM? This may be why many Church women are single and so lonely,or LOL, waiting on of Jesus to bring them a man. If that man has a heart in love, by love he will treat her right, if he loves himself. LOVE is GOD and LOVE is a state of Conscience IN LOVE one will truly do Godly toward self and their love. MY wife was a Christian, Father a pastor. By the love and Knowledge of Self, our Ancestors and myself taught her the facts of OUR forgotten African History and set her free of religion. ASE

  • jejemon level 100 hahahaha

  • #3, 4, 8, & 10 LOVE IT...Will be using these four questions because I've never thought of these.

  • Excellent keep up the biblical standard, funny to bro.

  • WOOOHOOO!!! This is brilliant stuff!!! Am glad you did this- this is real stuff!!

  • So...Pastor Cox...I love this...am I suppose to memorize this list? Can you have someone act it out...and put it on youtube. I am pretty socially sound...but I feel like you got to be real smooth to ask all these questions. Sincerely.

  • what if hes not into god like you are, what are you suppose to do now ?

  • I love this.. as a woman I shared with with my brothers... IT'S REAL

  • DANG, THIS IS SERIOUS... SOME PEOPLE AREN'T READY FOR THIS??? I'm sitting next to a couple...lol

  • I JUST LOVE THIS...I REALLY NEEDED TO HEAR THIS! GOD IS SOO GOOD AND LISTENS TO PRAYERS. GOD BLESS YOU FOR ALL THAT YOU DO. STAY BLESSED PASTOR.

    IN HIS LOVE

  • I COULD OF DONE WITH THESE QUESTIONS 2YEARS AGO WHEN 1ST MET MY BF

  • This is the most ignorant dogmatic bull I have ever heard. You really think you can judge the morality and quality of a person by their adherence to your religion? This may actually be what women want, a man that is willing to do whatever he is told...

  • He is right on with the questions even though they maybe to unreal for todays standards, but if the other person does answer, HONESTLY, this is a great start.

    Nothing is guarenteed, even if your questions are perfect and on target. God Bless.

  • Man, I'm a Youth Pastor in Oklahoma and I'm gonna use this stuff! You brought TRUTH and made me crack up, keep it up Justin! Galatians 6:9

  • lol love #3; and #15... whooo!!!

  • wow, god bless you pastor j!!

  • lots of wisdom-wow.. crackin me up 2- love your personality. wow -this is crucial.. one WRONG person can stop your purpose & destiny..God truly does write some good luv storys IF we wait on him.. gooood video.God bless

  • Brilliant, but first and formost, I'm gonna make sure that I could answer these questions myself.

    Thanx Pastor Cox!

  • @OAD82 lol u are soooooo right. I was just thinking many of these questions women couldn't even answer themselves.

  • @OAD82 Same thing I said, I was like wow I need to answer these myself

  • HA! YEAH BOI!!!

  • Q8: whats wrong with hugging? All the other "hand off's" can be followed but why should guys be so restricted?

    Q9: Well how can a guy guarantee? Yes both should work as a team in prayer, reading + studying God's word, but what happened to "working out your salvation with fear and trembling?" Girls/women aren't like children...if they need a guy to sustain them in Christ, how did they sustain themselves as singles?

  • Bro you are too funny. I love you so much.... as a bro-in-Christ. haha

    Some of these can totally be asked to girls by dudes! Good questions... the last one was a bit... woah... though. XD

    "HANGIN ON THA RIM!" XD

  • does anybody know what his shirt means

  • is it ok to marry someone who is divorced and a pastor?

  • I feel like this is a midterm to a possible final... GO AHEAD pastor J!!!!

  • @Milla0721 lol

  • so how long into the friendship should we ask these questions?

  • @kjkp2006 :p as soon as a "friendship" turns "relationship" ;)

  • my bf;s anwsers, what you think?

    1." well its going to you in the long run, applies to everyday life" - my bf

    2. "he went back to Christianity because God showed him he exsisted"

    3. " no, she really did go to church forreal"

    4." yes, because it seems like something interesting, im not trying to do anything tht goes against God"

    5." no cuase she is a jealious person. "

    6." i would try to spend more time with God and you"

    7." we aint doing nothing sexual, furthest is hand"

  • That curves question. I asked a dude that. He paused and looked at me and asked I would stay with you but is that even possible?

  • I <3 your videos!!! Awesome!

  • WHAT YOU KNOW ABOUT NUMBER 8 (Absolute purity) PASTOR J!?!?!??!?!?! LOLOLOLOLOLOL

  • this is good stuff...but shouldn't guys do this to. Brothas need a standard too. We all need to make sure none of us is getting in each others way or causing the other to sin.

  • those are some tough questions... totally legit though.

  • keep up the good work pastor j

  • yo, he was right, these questions hit me hard. I'm glad you made this video, so know as a man I can think deeply about my answers. Thanks pastor, this will help me to think more deeper about when and how I enter into a romantic relationships. And also it gives me some good questions for the girls. hey came at us hard, but the ladies have to answer some of these hard questions too. Cuz both men and women have to check themselves before we enter into relationships

  • Pastor thank you for your video's. Your video's are very encouraging and interesting. Keep preaching the truth!

  • 4:15 and 5:00 are my favs. hahahaha

  • so Christian couples cant hold hands?...

  • OMGosh!!! If the search is hard already ... asking this question ...Lordy Lordy ...Women will be looking for ever.

  • whats wrong with holding hands? I am serious. I honestly am not sure because Ive never really been in a true relationship so it confuses me why Christian couples shouldnt hold hands?

  • @LOJETE85 I think he's giving the extreme scenario in the question to make a point. I personally don't think its wrong to hold hands, but every couple has to has consider what God is saying to them and what their boundaries are.

  • @LOJETE85 He never said Christians shouldnt hold hands. It was a question for those that may not want to hold hands in a relationship. There are some things that seem as not a big deal to some, that could be a major stumbling block for others :-)

  • @mizzreddy I didnt say he said it was wrong. I was just simply stating that I dont believe that its wrong.

  • [applause] you're good

  • Thank you brother. Next relationship, if ever, will definitely ask these questions. Wrote them down & saved them.

  • im a dude lol and uh...i watched this not only to better myself but mos def to see if i got these qualities ... GUD LOOKS PAST COX

  • im a dude lol and uh...i watched this not only to better myself but mos def to see if i got these qualities ... GUD LOOKS PAST COX

  • hey, I wrote down all the questions which turned out to be some work in between writing, pausing watching and understanding not that its not worth the work just recommanding build in pauses or something like that.

    Question: It sounds like we should turn away any man that is not a godly man but what if he gets a chance to get to know god through us/me. I know that sometimes we just hope he will change but sometimes they do. Doesnt he derserve the opportunity to get to know god.

  • Wow. A lot of good stuff to follow, Hard Suff, but good. This is the ideal, not many men can stand up to it, but it's a great starting point.  This can solve a lot of headache down the road.

    I hope many a women take this to heart.

  • Excellent Excellent Excellent!!

  • i love this.

  • The problem is that these are NOT dating questions. These are MARRIAGE/SERIOUS DATING questions. If these questions are not answered when your relationship gets to that point, chances are you are not dating properly. To quote Henry Cloud, "Dating does not hurt people, but dating in out-of-control ways does." I'm not mad at the brother because I'm sure he is helping A LOT of females, but he is doing nothing to actually teach people how to guard their heart. (Col. 2:20-23)

  • love the scripture

  • @steppa03 For me, I don't believe in dating around. I've got too much doing and my time is precious. I have guy friends and two brothers, I can learn about the male psyche from them. So when I decide to date someone, its because I feel "it's time." So these questions are perfectly justifiable when you rank "dating" as a serious task. It's not a past time for a christian whose life is about God and what HE wants to do in and with you. Dating is never not serious for a mature christian. my opinion

  • I had to watch this again. =0

  • me too!

  • Yes...thats what it is...I wish I had this list before I wasted time with that waste of time joker that i was wasting time WITH! lol I appreciate this Pastor J..God Bless Ya Ministry

  • you betta TALK about it..wish I these questions b4 I had WASTED time since that waste of time joker that i was with...you da greatest man! God bless ya ministry!

  • Pastor you killed it with this, dudes it you mad about it carry yourself with the likeness of Christat

    Hey yall show you nonchrist friend this video Check out the vid i did of Trip called Fall to Redemption. Good News pt 1

  • Hah.. hah.. hahaha. I think you should put the thing about getting a copy from facebook at the beginning. I have been watching and pausing and rewinding for the last 30 minutes so I could write them all down! hahaha.

    Anyway THANK YOU for this! These are awesome points to think on as a single 20-something who's not even sure if marriage is in her plan yet. Awesome biblical stuff!!!

  • This is AWESOME

  • this pastor is a real talk ay check out trip lee, fall to redemption, Good news part 1

  • how about you just seek GOD first and let the rest come after GOD will direct the man as to who his wife is and then when you get to the point that your ready to be married those questions will have already been answered ...the woman should be so lost in GOD you gotta search HIM out to find her

  • lol

  • Man, this is my 2nd time listening to this and you on point Young Blood, You Crazy! Keep it Up.

    God Bless

  • I've been married for 6 years, to a wonderful husband. Thank you Pastor Cox for formulating this questionnaire it is excellent!. The truth is young single women need to think and investigate the man they are interested in before they get involved. Ladies don't choose a man based on how you feel, think and listen to the Spirit of God, not the voice of your impatience or desperation.

  • haha ur such a funny pastor. i suscribed.

    ur vids will help me in my faith :D

  • AMEN!!!

    Preach the word Pastor Cox. I need to start doing those rules asap.

  • I absolutely LOVE it!!!! Keep on keeping on Pastor. God Bless!!!

  • man hold up Pastor Cox this ones is too real for youtube lol!

  • @illholla84 ... the tuff part is the "Give me 3 people that I can call to verify your answer"... Bam!!!!!!!... lol. That Bananaz.... but good stuff.

  • @illholla84 Yes, dude! I'm like wow! This is amazing!

  • Can the women who are asking these questions also answer them? lol seriously these are tough... I'm a female and if I were asked these questions I would be hung up. real talk lol

    Be Blessed <333

  • WORD.

  • wowsers!

    awesome,, im soo gonna do this! dang i have high standards lol

    Godbless you sooo much bro