How to Destroy Approach Anxiety and Start Talking to Women

[4mAALIKcHIN4]

who the HELL disliked this! aw dang it, i got mustard on my shoes, from jumping up in "dislike" disgust.

[bluetextonwhitebg]

The people that dislike this video clearly have no clue who this man is. ;-)

[reyaniashinn]

Best thing about AA.

Thx from Brazil

[xSharktastic]

If your steering both left and right your already way past breaking the controller.

[greyndog1]

Ross you make so much sense I feel i've experienced this it's just like giving in realizing your your afraid but also just realizing that it dosen't matter

[LDNsIDOL]

this guy is seriously giving advice? he looks like he hasn't seen daylight in years, possibly spending too much time in the basement with his kids, he has truly crushed his approach anxiety. As for the people taking this seriously and listening to him..slippin.

[falloutshit]

Does it matter when you say "same" or "changing" or do you just randomly switch between the words?

[AntOnTable]

is his face really nessasary?

[mikel461]

@AntOnTable hahaaha

[Chillz0r7]

what do you mean wth tune into raw feeling ? do i need to feel angry or? extremely happy?

[Uberlaser]

@Chillz0r7 Neither - Don't try to feel any specific emotion. Tune in to what you are feeling NOW in the situaion.

Just feel where the feelings are in your body. How strong they are. What TYPE of feeling (e.g. pressure, pain etc) and just accept that they are there.

[leopower7]

Where are the other parts? Plz help!

[betlamed]

Hehe, gotta love that RJ is now preaching zen!

[Behindspace90]

So actually, what you are saying, is: "don't think, just act"?

[kjun13]

It's one thing to research and talk about approach anxiety, but all that disappears when you actually try to approach. It's a crippling fear that takes your whole body.

Instead, go out there initially with the INTENTION TO FAIL. Your caveman-fear of being kicked out of the tribe will go away once you realize that there isn't a 1000ft fall if you screw up.

You must learn to take a hit and recover to realize that it truly is all in your head. Then you will be unstoppable.

[Neorio]

Approaching women is like playing at a casino with free credit. The odds can even be heavily stacked against you and you can end up losing most of the time... but all it takes is for one jackpot to turn your life around.

...and besides.... women like attention - ANY attention. Doesn't matter what you say to them... they know you're interested. That makes them happy. At the very least they may not want to sleep with you, but they won't hate you for it.

[boombox638]

I have anxiety problems, not just when it comes to girls, but just in general. Could these techniques work to rid me of my anxiety alltogether?

[irkman123]

Man I love how I have progressed.. I can talk to any woman I want. without any fear. Great sign I'm getting better. I also get approached by woman too.

The only thing I need to work on is how to get them attracted.

[yungtrill420]

@irkman123 We're on the VERY SAME boat.

For the most part, I am able to feel approach anxiety a lot less (but not completely gotten rid of) and I am able to approach them and talk to them. But I am ready to take my skills to the next dimension. I'm thinking about buying Swinggcat's "Foundations For Generating Attraction" as it provides a wonderful education, but there is SO much misinformation out there that's hard to pick.

[yungtrill420]

@irkman123 I have also experienced leaning in to try to kiss girls to practice manifesting the behavior in an effort to weaken the conditioned response to feel that icky sensation, BUT and it's a VERY BIG "BUT" the problem is, I NEARLY got arrested last week for going around the Flea Market USA in Miami, FL talking to 5 different black girls and leaning in to try to kiss them.

[yungtrill420]

@irkman123 (cont.) But like I was saying, I DO have experience in leaning in to TRY to kiss a girl and I would do it, because I'm used to the rejection, and it's based on a psychologically proven principle of "classical conditioning". But this nasty 4 day old memory holds me back. I guess I just have "Fear Of Getting Arrested".

[yungtrill420]

@irkman123 BTW, I'm Leonardo, a Scorpio (11/02) NICE talking to you.

[wraios2]

Ι got more nervous just by watching this vid! It's to much to think about when you try to approach a woman. In the end don't you just need a blank accepting mind?

[mnypwrrspkt]

hey bro.. ur video is so good, u should have a paypal account so i can give you a donation right now, cuz i feel like a kid in a candy store.

[mnypwrrspkt]

amazing teaching ability Ross

[littleidiot8]

Bad sci-fi movie, BAD sci-fi movie????? If your advices weren't so good, that remark would make me never watch you... :)

[cashmab]

I was frankly surprised and amazed at how much of an instantaneous effect this had. I watched your "breakfast with RJ" segment on this topic, and that had some addtional important details -- such as suggesting that the "anxiety" is really just sexual energy. Great way to think about it. Also on a similar note, the bouncing basketball of orgasmic energy in Fear into Charisma is a great tool, and has really worked. The key is to practice it regularly. Thanks for producing RESULTS!

[ceeIoc]

good stuff!!!

[standekoster]

This Helps

but EFT does the job in

5 minutes

[yunase]

Maybe the best info you can get on the subject. This is real gold...

[pyramidhead138]

you need to speak up dude

[fit2bboss]

nice video...liked it alot..=]

[Abgef]

Tnx to mr. Ross...one of his vids really helped me in the past when my AA was overwhelming.

[taskwazen]

This kind of approach works. I lost my "approach anxiety" long ago. I looked for it the other day but I couldn't find it.

[POZDRAW]

How did you lose "approah anxiety" please tell me man, cuz i started approaching a few days ago.. and i am having big troubles walking up to hot girl and when i start conversation my voice shakes and my entire body i can't even control my self at that moment it really sucks man!

[chipmunkspunk]

don't try to control yourself.

feel the feelings without resistance or a story. i've been doing that for a while now. interesting to see jeffries espousing it.

but yeah, it works REALLY well. you will be amazed how after a while you suddenly unclench and feel crystal clear

[xDinomanx]

@POZDRAW I get that a lot but the best thing to do is remind yourself that you want to talk to the person. It's a matter of sticking that message to your head saying you want to talk to this girl. Another useful thing is when you break this barrier and get a conversation going, make it revolve around her (it's ok to talk about a topic you might like but don't get over-excited, that is a bad habit to pick up). e.g. Ask her how she is going, what she did last weekend, what she does as a hobby.

[ezname1234]

@POZDRAW find an unattractive thing about them or make them up, it can help

[POZDRAW]

@ezname1234 Yea, true that. By the way i like snakes too, i got a milk snake and my brother got a python ;)

[paulphoenix007]

you could take about how to build an state of mind.. some people talk about this, but at the same time some dont tell how to do that... and that shouldnt be doing with beers and similars.. i think you get the point.

[taskwazen]

If you're full of anxiety then she's feeling like leaving.

[steviepua]

It certainly helps to not fight against anxiety consciously. Focusing on one's anxiety just tends to make you more aware of it and you can get caught up in a cycle of feelings.

Better to decide to break that cycle and try something completely different, as is suggested.

SteviePUA

[taskwazen]

This method for approach anxiety works wonders.

[warzenstein]

This is right. It comes to the point where seeing beautiful women isn´t giving any pleasure, because these forces start to tear you apart and it´s just easier to give up and go away.

[m0dzyz]

In life there are no guaranties, There do or not do. That is the things that people forget.

[harryji108]

Definitely eye-opening and mindboggling at the same time.

[taskwazen]

This is specific advice for specific results!

[Nocturnatum]

I think many men have this problem, in fact not just men. Everybody has approach anxiety or rather 'friction' and I think this advice is a whole different kettle of fish compared with seduction alone.

[Bizmarkie36]

I struggle with this too, I see the HB and freeze before I can even do any of the mental exercises Ross suggests...

[speedseduction]

I hope you can now see that I have a radically different view of it. I don't think it's anxiety-rather, it's friction, like two surfaces rubbing against each other in an opposite direction. And then it's about misinterpreting what that means: does it mean an external threat and impending defeat or just it just mean there is an internal conflict going on to notice and correct? Love bringing the clear light of intelligence to these issues.

RJ

[TheJimmy1722]

How to destroy approach anxiety indeed! I'm gonna check this out tonight when I go out. Let you know how it goes...first gonna check out the rest of the playlist though.

[sedwards85]

Awesome video and really helpful. Thanks Ross! I'm gonna go check out the rest of the videos on this playlist now.

[mannycomforter]

ross iwent walking around chico st... i was so nervous around women..thanks for the wisdom..u r the master

[marounkayal]

Thank you Ross for this video and all your vids.

i studied all the methods out there...

In My opinion, you are the guru of seduction and only you.

Thx for everything.you changed my life :).

[Nikolo777]

DAMN ROSS

I WILL GET PAST THIS!!!

thanks