I enjoyed your video but I was expecting to hear alot more about people who manipulate and lie. There's someone in my life who just doesn't like me. She lies to her friends about me before they even meet me. There is no sane reason for this person to hate me but she does and it's out of control. It can't be jealousy because I'm no attention seeker or anything. When I broke out in tears because of her accusations, she just laughed. This person feeds off of my emotions but she lives with me.
The problem with this video is that you can give it only one tumb up. I try hiting it couple of hundred times to no avail. No mater. The video is great and the lady in it even greater!
wow ty so much for this video. I lived with my older sister (im 22 shes 31) for a year and a half..and it was the worst year of my life..she was an extremem emotional vampire. and i didnt kno it at the time cause i didnt kno that term, but what ur saying describes her..an its taken me a while to heal myself but living there really messed me up..i was thinking about seeing a therapist but i dont kno wat to do..i dont want to do all this because of her u kno? its been really hard to deal with...
Can i just say there is a psychological technique called CRM the Conscious Retraining Method that you can use on emotional vampires and it's as simple as ignoring the person don't look at them just get on with your own business.
Wonderful video. I'm enjoying all your videos, thank you for providing them. You are such a lovely person and speak from the heart.
I have a co worker who is mentally draining me and another coworker with her negativity. We usually escape the office together on our lunch hour. I was once told if someone is negative towards you or screaming at you to mentally imagine yourself in a bubble of light that they can't penetrate.
thx. this is a very important point. vampires show up, if they feel disturbed. they can't cope with true love and light, as it reminds them of their own pain, they can't let go. telling them clearly, that their games are not working anymore, without changing your opinion, when they start changing their tactic of manipulating you, is the first necessary step. never mind their reaction, as it is not your problem or responsibility. no matter how hard the try to put the blame on you
thanks for the info on this vid i think my nan is an emotional vampire cus she always moans about life leaves me drained idk what to do shall i ignor her when she in that state
Every time I have "got rid" of a partner in an abusive relationship, the next mate I had was even worse. Now I know that next time, I will have to "make peace" with the person and situation and be responsible for my actions and their consequences.
THANK U FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO!! some of the best advice right on point about dealing with the emotional vampires !!! i know a person like this and i am taking this advice!!
My boss was an emotional vampire. After working there for only 5 months I stopped eating, stopped sleeping, and cried nearly every day. I saw this video, and it really resonated with me. I quit today. I stood up for myself, and I'm glad. I feel better already.
I had a relative who was an emotional vampire. The way I dealt with it was to become gradually unavailable over time. Usually these people will take a hint and find a new target. People like that are not good for my mental health.
yes exactly.i have a friend who is emotionally draining.i am always there for them every and any given time to answer my phone because i never let them down and i truely care and i give this person advice and i tell them the best way to handle their situations always being understanding and giving them sincere advice but no matter what they continue to live in misery and it has gotten to a point where i feel that there is nothing else i can do
i am here for them every single day and i do all i can as their friend but when there is nothing else a friend can do to help, professional help is what is needed and i have suggested that my friend get professional help but they dont want it.i feel that this person is sucking the life out of me and i do love them to death but to keep my own sanity i have no choice but to lessen my availability. i just really wish they would get the mental help that they need because they truely do need it
It is so hard when the difficult person/emotional vampire is your mother . . . ohhh the guilt that your mother can bring on! There is such a fine line between accepting her as negative and manipulate, while loving her as my mother. Thank you for posting this - it helps me with something I have long struggled with!
my brother is an emotional vampire ( to think that he earns P50 thou monthly) he always tell me he as 6 kids to feed and no home of his own and blah blah that he is so exhausted with working daily... and he would inject words like " if only someone could help him finance the house .. " he never clarify that he will pay the financer if ever.. that i think is the pity syndrome like what this you tube is saying... i hope madam alkistis can advise me on how to handle my brother ..
Wow! Contratulate yourself for coming forth. It is the first step towards learning to use your power WISELY. It is GREAT that you are channelling power, but you need to use it well, otherwise it will burn YOU in the end.
With power comes RESPONSIBILITY.Watch all my videos very carefully.
I got that at the video," give me back my freedom" or something like that.. I made a list.. to be free from my sweet mom. 1st of all, to be totally responsable for myself.
I have made progress over the last 12 months but it is very draining. He is angry at everyone and everything. Im slowly takng away the triggers that set him off. What bothers me the most, even when surrounded by nature and beauty or new life, he will have to remind me of the delicacy or how it will be spolt and ruined, it's like even that has to get a negative spin to it. Very negative and dark, i have managed to help him escape his blackness by making him realise he is doing it to himself.
You close the relationship in a Loving Way. At the same time-you need to be very clear and firm, because, they will try all their 'tricks', to get you back into the relationship.
Never leave them in a 'bad'-'aggressive' way, as this only shows your fear of them, and you will attract them even more to you.
The term emotional vampire is so right for some people. Why? Because when you are around them you can feel that you are somehow being diminished. There is a neediness for sure but doesn't necessarily look weak. It may indeed look strong and tough. It can be an attitude too and it can be taught as there are entire nations of people that are stereotypically emotional vampires, perenial victims that build entire histories celebrating victimhood and entitlement. Elitest and victim all in one.
This is great. It confirms to me that I am growing in my life. There was an emotional vampire who tried to get me to help her with work projects because we needed to act like a "team". She really only wanted someone to tell her if her work looked good or not. And someone to listen to her life difficulties. I got out the first time I felt drained. And I did it in a nice way. Thanks for the great video.
its unfair. its just so outrageously unfair. Is it ridiculous to think these ppl deserve to be punished? because they never get punished, because of course "they're a victim aswell" but look at what they do to ppl! look at the 'abuse'. People get locked up, fined and punished in all sorts of ways every day for different abuses... Why should this one be special. its so unfair. Took 2 years to simply realise my emotional vampire, another year to release from it... so unfair.
I really like your point about how to divert negative energy from another person by proactively making decisions that will affect and change the dynamics without absolute termination of the relationship. It is also interesting how you believe that the decisions you make in one relationship will influence future relationships (much like karma).
There are many "individualy -ingested- oppressors" in our world/lives, each with varying degrees of impact and residual effects and each done through various forms of communications.
Not to get too long on this
Some are social interactions (indirect/direct gestures, biases, treatments, manipulations, words) - relative to one or more persons, within parameters of either gender, race, education, religion, status, fame, age, culture, personality type, country, physical features/height
vampires seem to have radar for people who are sympathetic, honest, generous and compassionate. I've had three in a row attach themselves to me, to the point where my life is at rock bottom. I've learned my lesson but it sure was an expensive one.
I don't do well with what you've termed emotional vampires. I seem to have a very low tolerance for this sort of person. That's probable why I own five cats. Emotionally there much easier to deal with even though they need attention it's not all the time. The people your talking about here cause me to turn around and run for the hills! :-)
dont think you personally have to worry about any one vampiring you or expecting much emotional giving or support from you.You are to caught up on your vain sense of your self to be able to give anything of emotional value
Yassou! Ti Kanese! Pardon my awful spelling. I am Canadadian with Greek Heritage. Much of it is forgotton. I just wanted to say that you are absolutely wonderful at what you do. And you are a stunning beauty!
But i once had the experience where "to end it all" with multiple times beeing louder/harsh was the only solution for a complete exit out of it. Seems some people just understand it finally (when nothing else did help), when u react the same way as they did to you, but what do i know...
A life coach? That's just cool. *pushes orange button*
Thank you for your interest in my work. If you would like more details about life-coaching, view my website, or subscribe to my channel. Greetings from Greece, Alkistis
I enjoyed your video but I was expecting to hear alot more about people who manipulate and lie. There's someone in my life who just doesn't like me. She lies to her friends about me before they even meet me. There is no sane reason for this person to hate me but she does and it's out of control. It can't be jealousy because I'm no attention seeker or anything. When I broke out in tears because of her accusations, she just laughed. This person feeds off of my emotions but she lives with me.
27loldie 4 months ago
The problem with this video is that you can give it only one tumb up. I try hiting it couple of hundred times to no avail. No mater. The video is great and the lady in it even greater!
slonamu 7 months ago
i am a Ki user i have enough energy so i am safe
gears265 7 months ago
thanx for your words shared on video this really helped me. Hope you keep on this growing inside bussiness advice it's aswesome. Take Care.
beastbubblegum 9 months ago
wow ty so much for this video. I lived with my older sister (im 22 shes 31) for a year and a half..and it was the worst year of my life..she was an extremem emotional vampire. and i didnt kno it at the time cause i didnt kno that term, but what ur saying describes her..an its taken me a while to heal myself but living there really messed me up..i was thinking about seeing a therapist but i dont kno wat to do..i dont want to do all this because of her u kno? its been really hard to deal with...
xBecka88x 9 months ago
=.= u may live in greece but it doesn't mean u can go blah blah blah that may not be true of certain people.
KamilaDewhurst 1 year ago
Can i just say there is a psychological technique called CRM the Conscious Retraining Method that you can use on emotional vampires and it's as simple as ignoring the person don't look at them just get on with your own business.
jelopysloppy 1 year ago
non ho capito niente :D
HdemiaMessin4 2 years ago
Wonderful video. I'm enjoying all your videos, thank you for providing them. You are such a lovely person and speak from the heart.
I have a co worker who is mentally draining me and another coworker with her negativity. We usually escape the office together on our lunch hour. I was once told if someone is negative towards you or screaming at you to mentally imagine yourself in a bubble of light that they can't penetrate.
Veggigal 2 years ago
i MYSELF AM EXPERIENCING the same problem that you are,
Good idea. I ´ll try that my own.
EMMANUELLELIMA 2 years ago
Agree morphmen.
CarolKuch 2 years ago
blue-eyed? i think not
Jarvek 2 years ago
You yourself sound like a difficult person.
063067 2 years ago
thx. this is a very important point. vampires show up, if they feel disturbed. they can't cope with true love and light, as it reminds them of their own pain, they can't let go. telling them clearly, that their games are not working anymore, without changing your opinion, when they start changing their tactic of manipulating you, is the first necessary step. never mind their reaction, as it is not your problem or responsibility. no matter how hard the try to put the blame on you
MMJxxxMORPHMEN 2 years ago
thanks for the info on this vid i think my nan is an emotional vampire cus she always moans about life leaves me drained idk what to do shall i ignor her when she in that state
powerhouse811 2 years ago
No, don't ignore her, show her the understanding that you hope to receive when you are an old person...
alkistisTV 2 years ago
Every time I have "got rid" of a partner in an abusive relationship, the next mate I had was even worse. Now I know that next time, I will have to "make peace" with the person and situation and be responsible for my actions and their consequences.
VeyaMusic 2 years ago
how should we deal with difficult people? shoot them in the face lol
cefnbryn 2 years ago
I strongly dissapprove of this ! May I suggest you get my deep relaxation mp3
alkistisTV 2 years ago
THANK U FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO!! some of the best advice right on point about dealing with the emotional vampires !!! i know a person like this and i am taking this advice!!
truetalk0588 2 years ago
thank you
denzey85 3 years ago
I digg this. Its very insightful.
Probez67 3 years ago
My boss was an emotional vampire. After working there for only 5 months I stopped eating, stopped sleeping, and cried nearly every day. I saw this video, and it really resonated with me. I quit today. I stood up for myself, and I'm glad. I feel better already.
Thanks alkistis!
excellentgerwa 3 years ago
I had a relative who was an emotional vampire. The way I dealt with it was to become gradually unavailable over time. Usually these people will take a hint and find a new target. People like that are not good for my mental health.
wvd1979 3 years ago 2
yes exactly.i have a friend who is emotionally draining.i am always there for them every and any given time to answer my phone because i never let them down and i truely care and i give this person advice and i tell them the best way to handle their situations always being understanding and giving them sincere advice but no matter what they continue to live in misery and it has gotten to a point where i feel that there is nothing else i can do
truetalk0588 2 years ago
i am here for them every single day and i do all i can as their friend but when there is nothing else a friend can do to help, professional help is what is needed and i have suggested that my friend get professional help but they dont want it.i feel that this person is sucking the life out of me and i do love them to death but to keep my own sanity i have no choice but to lessen my availability. i just really wish they would get the mental help that they need because they truely do need it
truetalk0588 2 years ago
were you born a man? i'm jealous of your powerful jaw
cajean1 3 years ago
what is the point of you saying that.. it only shows youre an insecure, asshole.
hotmami6 2 years ago
Please do not use vulgar language on my channel. Remeber too that what we call others, we are ourself.
alkistisTV 2 years ago
I agree!
gothdolly84 2 years ago
It is so hard when the difficult person/emotional vampire is your mother . . . ohhh the guilt that your mother can bring on! There is such a fine line between accepting her as negative and manipulate, while loving her as my mother. Thank you for posting this - it helps me with something I have long struggled with!
NeskaBean 3 years ago 9
my brother is an emotional vampire ( to think that he earns P50 thou monthly) he always tell me he as 6 kids to feed and no home of his own and blah blah that he is so exhausted with working daily... and he would inject words like " if only someone could help him finance the house .. " he never clarify that he will pay the financer if ever.. that i think is the pity syndrome like what this you tube is saying... i hope madam alkistis can advise me on how to handle my brother ..
wolfens29 3 years ago
Wow! Contratulate yourself for coming forth. It is the first step towards learning to use your power WISELY. It is GREAT that you are channelling power, but you need to use it well, otherwise it will burn YOU in the end.
With power comes RESPONSIBILITY.Watch all my videos very carefully.
alkistisTV 3 years ago
I got that at the video," give me back my freedom" or something like that.. I made a list.. to be free from my sweet mom. 1st of all, to be totally responsable for myself.
ClaKala 3 years ago
Dear alkistis
could it be possible that my father could be such a "emotional vampire"?
i mean i really want to make computer games later, i even downloaded some softwarde for it.
but my father is keep telling me and getting angry that its a stupid computer and not real life.
that really makes me confused.
could you please help me or tell me what to do....
Stijn - comepost
comepost 3 years ago
Thank you very much.
I wish i saw this video a little bit earlier, before i realized it by myself. But it's still hard to stay calm. Guess it comes only with pracice.
Thanks again, at least now i know for sure that i am on the right way.
Cig187 3 years ago
you need to say goodbye and move on. that is the only solution if you want to keep your sanity
dreammuse 3 years ago 2
so emotional vampires are needy ppl, who can't give love (back). what are the key points one should be aware of to stop being an "emotional vampire"
alexdeltaceline 3 years ago
Does this person WANT to change?
or do you want it for him?
alkistisTV 3 years ago
Is it not better to try and help the emotional vampire?????
neptuneey 3 years ago
No, you can't help them directly. You help them by changing your own behavior & attitude.
Thank you for your ??
alkistisTV 3 years ago
I have made progress over the last 12 months but it is very draining. He is angry at everyone and everything. Im slowly takng away the triggers that set him off. What bothers me the most, even when surrounded by nature and beauty or new life, he will have to remind me of the delicacy or how it will be spolt and ruined, it's like even that has to get a negative spin to it. Very negative and dark, i have managed to help him escape his blackness by making him realise he is doing it to himself.
neptuneey 3 years ago
You can only help him, by helping yourself.
If you change your frequency, he will also change.
alkistisTV 3 years ago
Η κ. Άλκηστη είπε πως να κλείσουμε μια σχέση με ένα "emotional vampire". Δεν είπε πως θα διαχειριστούμε ένα τέτοιο πρόσωπο.
ΧΘ
Θεσσαλονίκη
Mithras5758 3 years ago
You close the relationship in a Loving Way. At the same time-you need to be very clear and firm, because, they will try all their 'tricks', to get you back into the relationship.
Never leave them in a 'bad'-'aggressive' way, as this only shows your fear of them, and you will attract them even more to you.
alkistisTV 3 years ago
The term emotional vampire is so right for some people. Why? Because when you are around them you can feel that you are somehow being diminished. There is a neediness for sure but doesn't necessarily look weak. It may indeed look strong and tough. It can be an attitude too and it can be taught as there are entire nations of people that are stereotypically emotional vampires, perenial victims that build entire histories celebrating victimhood and entitlement. Elitest and victim all in one.
JohnnyRock2000 3 years ago
What do you think about these "mysterious" people?
Dont really talk about personal or private things but have a very intense aura and always "emanate" their feelings rather than speak about it.
They radiate closeness and are at the same time not to reach.
Hot/Cold ...
Does anyone know what i mean?
dvisatya 3 years ago
Yes, many people are like that, but we should not judge them. Perhaps they did not receive love when they were babies from (especially their mothers).
We should however, be aware of the dangers of opening up to these people. ie we should not expect love in return. They usually need therapy.
alkistisTV 3 years ago
See my new video on the Kingdom Within for more info-Gracias!
alkistisTV 4 years ago
shes frigging hot...how much by the hour?
maxgraff 4 years ago
They talk about emotional vampires in the satanic bible. I'm not joking either, it's really in there.
Gobbleop 4 years ago
You read my mail! I don't know who you are or what your beliefs are, but you hit the nail on the head!
yahssis 4 years ago
This is great. It confirms to me that I am growing in my life. There was an emotional vampire who tried to get me to help her with work projects because we needed to act like a "team". She really only wanted someone to tell her if her work looked good or not. And someone to listen to her life difficulties. I got out the first time I felt drained. And I did it in a nice way. Thanks for the great video.
pixiecherries 4 years ago
i would love to hear u speak more on this subject.
taracastillo 4 years ago 2
its unfair. its just so outrageously unfair. Is it ridiculous to think these ppl deserve to be punished? because they never get punished, because of course "they're a victim aswell" but look at what they do to ppl! look at the 'abuse'. People get locked up, fined and punished in all sorts of ways every day for different abuses... Why should this one be special. its so unfair. Took 2 years to simply realise my emotional vampire, another year to release from it... so unfair.
RationalerevolutioN 4 years ago
I see that you have gone through a big pain. If you like, see my new video on Reclaiming your power.
alkistisTV 4 years ago
I really like your point about how to divert negative energy from another person by proactively making decisions that will affect and change the dynamics without absolute termination of the relationship. It is also interesting how you believe that the decisions you make in one relationship will influence future relationships (much like karma).
MELV1NJONES 4 years ago
There are many "individualy -ingested- oppressors" in our world/lives, each with varying degrees of impact and residual effects and each done through various forms of communications.
Not to get too long on this
Some are social interactions (indirect/direct gestures, biases, treatments, manipulations, words) - relative to one or more persons, within parameters of either gender, race, education, religion, status, fame, age, culture, personality type, country, physical features/height
cool70200 4 years ago
vampires seem to have radar for people who are sympathetic, honest, generous and compassionate. I've had three in a row attach themselves to me, to the point where my life is at rock bottom. I've learned my lesson but it sure was an expensive one.
cybervigilante 4 years ago
Thats true...
freecounselingonline 4 years ago
I don't do well with what you've termed emotional vampires. I seem to have a very low tolerance for this sort of person. That's probable why I own five cats. Emotionally there much easier to deal with even though they need attention it's not all the time. The people your talking about here cause me to turn around and run for the hills! :-)
lambeausouth 4 years ago
You are not better because you can´t love.
In fact, having pets just because they don´t need attetion, as YOU said, '' all the time'' makes me think you are a freak of nature.
Cats give a shit for you, all they care is the place they are put in.
In fact, I feel sorry for you.
You are, definitely, one of the most cold, unloving and ungiving person that I hada the unpleasure to ''meet''.
Sorry.
EMMANUELLE LIMA.
Law attorney.
Awesome Tropical FRIENDLY Brasil.
So sweet Águas Claras -D.F.
EMMANUELLELIMA 4 years ago
dont think you personally have to worry about any one vampiring you or expecting much emotional giving or support from you.You are to caught up on your vain sense of your self to be able to give anything of emotional value
pdxmanwilsonville 4 years ago
Exelente!! Estas personas dificiles pueden recuperarse y dejar de ser Vampiros Emocionales?
vientocalido 4 years ago
Si.
alkistisTV 4 years ago
Thank you for sharing this... I have watched many of your videos and you always do them with style and grace... you're my inspiration... Mary
MorningsJoyCreations 4 years ago 3
I am an aspiring Art therapist! I think that your channel is very interesting.
ARTHEROPY 4 years ago
like my aunt for example, she such a fucking manipulative person. Takes some verbal intelligence to stand all of that!!
bramcorleone 4 years ago
Yassou! Ti Kanese! Pardon my awful spelling. I am Canadadian with Greek Heritage. Much of it is forgotton. I just wanted to say that you are absolutely wonderful at what you do. And you are a stunning beauty!
aggiefan1950 4 years ago
Kia ora (V.G ) from Auckland New Zealand
yellowpowwer 4 years ago
Wow that was some interesting talking you did.
I also liked the circle part.
But i once had the experience where "to end it all" with multiple times beeing louder/harsh was the only solution for a complete exit out of it. Seems some people just understand it finally (when nothing else did help), when u react the same way as they did to you, but what do i know...
A life coach? That's just cool. *pushes orange button*
Dakradha 4 years ago
Dear friend,
Thank you for your interest in my work. If you would like more details about life-coaching, view my website, or subscribe to my channel. Greetings from Greece, Alkistis
alkistisTV 4 years ago
I completely agree...I forave a batterer....and let him go
kwoolr 5 years ago
You are amazing if you managed to do that. Whoever you are, I bow down to you.
alkistisTV 5 years ago
Very interesting, beautiful, and elegant. I agree with your ideas, and your strong but sensitive approach.
SCODgreenhood 5 years ago
I completely agree with you. Sometimes you have to seperate yourself from people who are emotionally abusive
kwoolr 5 years ago
Thank you for your kind words dear friend.
alkistisTV 5 years ago