How To Start A Conversation With A Girl Who's Giving You Signs

[ToSiCktokes]

keep it up you inspire....

[Pap3rMoon]

cant i just be straight forward and tell the truth that i like her or is that too much?

[philosopher1010110]

I need your help @stephanerdman I am in an orchestra for some years and this new girl just joined a few months ago and we practice (the whole orchestra) every week. Every time we meet this girl and I have a few eye to eye moments and smiles and I feel like my head is calling my stupid and crazy. However we recently have small small conversations but every time I talk I just do not know what to say. Please help because I really want to know and possibly be with her.

[abacabbfgfgf]

ALL GIRLS ARE WHORES, JUST OFFER THE 50 BUCKS AND THATS IT!!!!

[pinnegubbe]

@abacabbfgfgf either u are a 10-yearold having fun at your dads computer, or you live in the worst shit-hole were girls actually are sluts.

[Tlk0071]

That's exactly my situation.... I dont know what to ask her and I don't know how to aproach her too....

[TheyCallMeRamen]

@Tlk0071 Its weird. Because something like this happened to me just the other day. But somehow I managed to talk to her. I never knew her But what I do is I pick out something in the environment whether its something about her, etc.. What she does, If she is at school, ask her about classes. Don't think too much about it though. If she's wearing a cool necklace or something unique you can say something like, "thats a cool necklace, whats the story behind that?

[Tlk0071]

@TheyCallMeRamen Ok im gonna try that...i can talk to her on the phone but it's hard in person...she wants me to talk to her.I need some help with the approach.

[MejJalTok]

BUT WHAT DO I SAY AFTER SAYING WHATS YOUR NAME??

[Tlk0071]

@MejJalTok I wanna know what too..i Freeze up while saying the second sentence.I need help too!

[1BlackCotton]

@MejJalTok =)) say this -> You: [Error Data Not Found] - ups.

[91Tribual]

"crucial to the survival of the human race" wow

[91Tribual]

one of the million other things you can say is "you should come over and say hi instead of just standing there"

[FallClassics]

this isnt the worst thing. the problem is the next thing.. how to keep the talk and some backup questions that requries a long answer :L

[MrSk8tastic1]

I've talked to her before, but it was awkward, I don't know what to do

[MrSk8tastic1]

This girl I like I think likes me but I mean my friends are like go talk to her or I'll hurt you, they never do, and I just can't do it I always get nervous

[IFightPriests]

i never had a girlfriend before and I really like this girl but I have no classes with her and i only see her in the morning. I've decided that i'm going to talk to her but i am super nervous and don't know what to do. I always end up being all awkward.

[PutridDeathCow]

@IFightPriests I am in the same position you are :(

[pibadar]

this guy probably gets mad pussy. he's got the look, the accent, and most importantly the attitude

[TheRangerslife]

went from watching lakers to learning how to talk to bitches!!! wooot

[TC07TC]

You'er the best

[TheAscending12]

Great videos, you have a unique and effective mindset.

[ericdisney1]

thats actually really good. i see you all the time whats your name? thats amazing oh my god. im gonna use it!!

[FhmPhantomzz]

There is this girl i have a lot in common with (same school program but not same class). I did a group activity with her and 4 other ppl a couple months ago so we ''kinda'' know each other (for my part i remember her name). Since that I only smiled to her a couple of times and she smiled back. Would it be awkward to just go hey how are you? I think it wouldnt but...

[Ignepotens]

@FhmPhantomzz do it bro, you can only become better off for it, and if not then you have gained experience, obviously this is easier said than done but good luck

[TGODnickOFWG]

he's probably fucked so many women.

[gextreme8]

From a fellow YouTuber, Stephan is legit and is genuinely here to help us. I am from the US and I actually won a chat with him over Skype. Be very appreciative everyone. Good luck!

[cidoXL]

u r realy smart :)

tank u !

[FhmPhantomzz]

I think I like it! :)

[elnino559]

i would kill to have ur accent, hearing you talk i like sitting back and enjoying a good episode of masterpiece theater. chicks dig masterpiece theater...

[emanko111]

...so whats the second sentence? :-/

[Koryo8]

Can't help but feeling that everyone is trying to imitate David Deangelo on youtube but really like your vids, contain valid information

[stevecheeze1]

your doing a good job! dont worry

[StjepanW124]

12 prostitutes watch this video XD

[j0shwj0shw]

It works I got laid

[mylouie11]

hey Stephan there is a girl i have never met and she has never met me and i would like to get to know her but i dont know how. the only way i can contact her is through face book and my friend told me to tell her she was cute and add her p.s we go to the same school

[johnsmith234543]

@mylouie11 Don't. I'm no pickup artist, but I've been on a few females' accounts on facebook. Half their friend list is trying to holler at them. They get thousands of messages and creepy posts and likes from horny guys. Facebook is a no go, you don't want her to think of you as "just another facebook creep". Try to catch her at school and open up a conversation, that's your best bet.

[JimmyTheWiseGuy]

I like this guy, he says he feels guilty, unlike the rest of the western pigs

[sp1d3rm4n15g4y101]

hey could you do a quick video on a first kiss? if so that would be incredibly helpful. ive know this girl for about 6 months, and we've gone on 2 dates recently. im planning a 3rd very shortly, and my friend has told me that i have to kiss her this time. i know this is a very circumstantial question, but when and how is best?

[thomasseetouch]

how to approach a strict cute girl....hope you get my point im France valiente of philippines.

strict in the sense that she hates boys to be surrounded, im not good in english hope you get my point....have a nice day

[validjam]

what if i am already friends with the girl, we arent exactly super close friends but we do occasionaly hang out with each other, how should i tell her i like her?

[Da1RiSiN1sMoKe]

Am I the only one that thinks "hey i see you all the time, what's your name" seems a little creepy, or is the fact that the circumstances are that the girl wants you to make the move (and the fact she remotely knows you from multiple indirect encounters), make it not creepy?

Just curious.

I'll go with your flat out "hey."

[stephanerdman]

@Da1RiSiN1sMoKe just noticed your comment. Obviously there's 5 billion ways of starting this. But just to explain....I think I said: Hey, i see you all the time, SO what's your name? which is slightly different. subtext first part: the "hey I see you all the time" is a shared experience between you and her, you both know it's true. It creates common ground. "so what's ur name?" says: Because we meet all the time, I should at least ask you who you are, right?" it sounds logical+has a reason.;-)

[Da1RiSiN1sMoKe]

@stephanerdman

Gotcha, thanks for the quick response

[ericdisney1]

@stephanerdman i usually stare at the girl for 5 seconds knowing she knows im looking. and it works!! i always used to look away or look down when she would look at me big mistake i used to be very shy!!

[Kovari3]

@stephanerdman hey how can i approach random girls i see on thhe bus or the street

[mmatip123]

@stephanerdman stephen iam in high school i think your advice is correct but not for my age group i have problems starting conversations iam not shy if i know what to say

[hotwhire]

@Da1RiSiN1sMoKe If you dont have regular contact with her then she will think its weird, too forward but if she is commonly around you like in class, the setting is easier for her to get used to seeing you just as often, then the name request will look more like a greeting rather then a pick out from a crowd, IMO.

[squizza28]

What I like about this guy is how he makes it all simple and natural. In the heat of the moment the last thing you need is all that complex advice from typical "seduction masters" swimming round in your head! Makes sense. Talks far more sense than anyone else I know.

[Tlk0071]

Good videos proceed

[7102186]

where r u from it doesn't even sound like english hhhhhhhhhhh

[TheJrOne1]

How to talk to a girl

[Jahkuz01]

I WANT YOUR VOICE

[Alavesinpoika]

Im in a great relationship but i still like to see what i could have done better. I really enjoy watching these. Thank you for these : )

[poogt22]

very good videos pls continue

[CURT1471]

Hi I have a question to ask well I have like a girl for about 2 years now and we are in our final year of school so we have prom coming up and I asked her and she said yes we are really close friends and in the following week I'm taking her out now I have watched your video on how not to be nervous but I k ow I will get nervous no matter what I was just wondering if you could help me by letting me know what to talk about and any little things that might make mine and her experience a little bit

[zuluteam01]

great advice!thanks alot dude :)

[TheSSAextr3me]

I bet he gets a lot of pussy .

[wavykid360]

I have a question.

I've liked this girl for a long time now.

She likes me too and she said she will be my girl.

After I made plans to spend time with her, she doesnt let me know when I can actually have day to spend with her.

A few days later I looked on Facebook and I see that shes in a relationship with her.

I was nice to her and aggressive all in one.

Why would she go after the guy that she was with a long time ago after being treated bad instead of going after a guy who entertains her?

[amouralizee]

its like expecting a guy whos never played basketball, to just all of a sudden shoot a half court shot without ever building the correct abilities to perform it.

[XiIIusionzX]

@amouralizee unless he's black

[amouralizee]

@XiIIusionzX LOL true, your lucky all black guys are good at getting girls otherwise they would watch this video and flag your comment as racists =D

[amouralizee]

one of the things u want to understand about shy/unconfident guys is that they have the ability, they just dont have the mentality.

bad advice would be saying something like: dude just go up and talk to her, its not that hard, blah blah blah... thats not good advice BECAUSE if it were that easy dont u think we would have done it already

good advice would be saying something like: try to smile at 1 girl everyday, next week smile and say hi to atleast 1 girl everyday, next week.and so on

[miketysonthegreat]

awful m8 your way off the mark.

[Dazeezd]

@miketysonthegreat I disagree i think Stephan was right on with being informal, "Hey ive seen you around, whats your name?" might not always be the best opener for every situation, but you definitely wanna avoid being formal, your trying to make her feel comfortable not like shes at a job interview, then again imma teenager so my genre of ladies is different

[miketysonthegreat]

@Dazeezd your pretty well rounded in your thinking for a young man, i think i stand corrected on this, i think you will have success with the chicks good luck mate.

[KyleBarlow93]

Stephan; I have a question. What's the best way to ask a girl out?

If you have been speaking to a girl for a while, it's a bit cheesy to phone them up or meet them in person and say "will you go out with me?". If you can help me out by suggesting easy ways to go about this task without getting shot down, please make a video. Thank you.

[Dwangman]

I shall do it the next time I meet the girl in the corridor!!! Wish me luck, comrades.

[KerrDogga]

so there's a girl who lives in the next town from mine and she works in the shopping center at a place called "the reject shop" and i dont know how i can go in and meet her, i cant just go up and say "hi my name is....." while she's working, it would be weird if i just went in there to say that and not buy anything so if anybody has any tips on how i can meet her without distracting her from her work that would be awesome

[dondiemarte]

Here is a trick I've learned. Start the conversation by by pretending as if you are already in the middle of a conversation. Something like (if you work in the same office), "Can you believe the new memo from .(so and so)?" There. Awkwardness averted. Of course, end the first conversation by introducing yourself, "I am gary by the way... and you are?"

[iyllustrious]

" hi ,well , iv seen you around , i have a question for you , i need a birthday present , i need a female opion on this ...." ha ha ha ha ha

 lol

[xtamared]

"Well - I see you all the time, so what's your name" Beautiful. Simply genius. Took about 7 minutes and 30 seconds too long to say that... but still, amazing solution to a very common problem. Thank you for posting on this!

[matata1996]

English is my third langage and understand all what you are saying :D

[thestreetdogg]

Now since you learned how to start a conversation with a Woman, its very important that you know how to use a condom.

Know that you could regret that you learned how to start a conversation with a woman.

Dont get married!!!

[ADDYOUTLAW]

lol i thought u were waiting for the camera to give u an answer back like "hey i'm alice" lol but cool video though

[sparklite79]

Wow Stephen... you are so fine! :)

[Pharoah7400]

Usually I prefer men to give advice to men on women b/c women romantic counselors/advisors are liars, flatterers and self-deceivers. But this guy's advice is weak.

[Pharoah7400]

I never understood the modern man's obsession with being informal with women. If you just want to get laid that works--b/c a girl that responds to an informal approach from a man she doesn't know is a slag. Quality girls value the formal approach b/c any man who acts like he knows a woman right away is disrespecting her.

[iGrAcIoUs]

@Pharoah7400 Informal not rude , example:

Informal: sup Pharoah7400

Rude: Fuck off Pharoah7400

[Pharoah7400]

@iGrAcIoUs Informal implies you know someone. Plain and simple. You introduce yourself to a woman and smile and maybe have a conversation...and maybe there will be some attraction. Acting like you already know a girl is fake in my book. Some men can be very successful with this approach b/c a modern woman confuses informality with confidence. But if you want a quality woman you shouldn't be too friendly at first. She'll sniff you out as fake.

[xtamared]

@Pharoah7400 It's because it's incredibly exhaustingly painfully hard to go from formal to sexual. It's incredibly easy to go from sexual to a formal relationship. It depends on what you mean by 'quality girls'; if 'quality' implies intelligence or a good personality you will find that common tactics are much much more effective than formality. Why, you ask? Because intelligent nice girls don't get a lot of informal guys hitting on them, they get a lot of formal guys. Be the exception.

[Pharoah7400]

@xtamared I disagree. Too much informality and touching on day one only works with certain girls--usually American and usually slutty. By "formal" I don't mean treat her like a man. I mean give her space, create a barrier, an obstacle for her to overcome. Doesn't mean you can't be charming and make her laugh. I think a man who is formal with a woman he just meets shows self-possession and pride. He's not a lap dog. By quality woman I mean, women who have self-respect and breeding.

[icechamber30]

he sounds like arnoldswartenigger

[xossamito]

man you're awsome

[23joshman1]

im not confident at all. please help

[lopatamd]

good video =)

[39jmare]

great advise



[KAIDE2009]

Hi I am in high school, This girl knows i like her so how do i speak to her ? Also i feel nervous and don t know what top say to her. I start feeling hot and embarrassed :/

[maskof1919]

hey dude, i am high school boy and there is a girl that i really like and she doesn't know i exist but i want to get her. help me please

[Unknnnnn]

I think "hello! how are you?" is fine.

[Zarathustra799]

blah blah blah, blah blah blah, two minutes of nonsense. I'm glad you noticed it. lol

good advice after that. I'll remember it.

[RefaelovDude]

ohhh dude you're awesome i just wanted to hear that just i the way i thought and i needed advice from pro

[crazybones2009]

You got some great insight bro!!....the only dating gurus that I can totally relate to is only you and David Wygant!!...Keep those videos coming ma man, you are helping guys score some!!

[MrKarmaDude]

thers alot of guys out there who make good videos with great advice, but i find that yours are the most helpful. please continue to post up more videos. ure channel has far too little videos and i just wish there were more of them. i know ure probably busy and videos on the regula that r unscripted r not gonna be perfect, but id still prefer ure videos over sum body elses nonetheless. And dont worry bout the lenght of ure vids, take as much time as u need to get ure point across...thanks again

[RobertCRO69metalhead]

can you do a topic about how to talk to or how to aprroach to shy girls

[stephanerdman]

@RobertCRO69metalhead done! ;-)

[lEpiCxNick]

@stephanerdman hey Stephan i sent you a pm a few days ago, can i have a reply please? if you have the time.

[TheIntunecatu]

" or whatever " part says everything .......

[SincereCreature]

Stephan you ROCK! :D The Alan Watts of Dating, to me :D

[TheThasvin]

Yo Stephan, hope you're doing well..Thx for the advise.. its always helped me in making conversation and not to be shy around girls, i will continue to listen to you. HUh by the way THE link approachatwillcom 's background make me laugh. XD

[jethro124]

thanks bro

[Allanfan123]

keep the videos coming plzzzz

[CubexDE]

Looking forward to the videos!

[VNPrince]

Stephan your voice is sexy, i'm a guy and no i'm not gay :)

[dpistons149]

@VNPrince u must be if u think a guys voice is sexy

[bombwow]

@strange0ne thing this is not just a girl i wanna score, ive been interested in this girl since november 2010 and until today i havent even said a word to her, she lives two doors away from me and we usually take the same buses but now its holiday so i wont be seeing her until september :x

[KiDFRANKKK]

yayyyyy

[marinesrock316]

cool buddy

[bombwow]

this was a gd advice but im kinda in the same situatin as the person who asked this question, im still not really sure about the hey i see u quite often its sounds slightly stalkish and the feeling of goin on up to her is just its just silly u know specially because shes shy and i am aswell :x oh and i think its a very good idea that you can answer questions in your vids :)

[Strange0ne]

@bombwow its not silly approach honestly and let her know you are interested have a laugh if it works great if not no biggie stop letting fear of negative outcomes controll your life it is too easy to allow the what if controll you become more afraid of not knowing what "could have" happened if you took a chance!

[minhmeo1209]

nice advice man. I always somehow end up at that level. I never actually start talkin with any girl but once i did something like that and the girl actually liked it. Too bad she wasn't my type and i seemto always become muted or very shy near girls i like. But now i know my problem. Gotta keep it informal sort n fun from now on.

[AlexRider001]

I had a pretty similar situation with a girl I saw on the tram every day. Giving me the signals and all that.

One day I just went over, introduced myself and asked her for her number. It's really hard to get yourself to move out of your comfort zone, but really easy when you're actually there.

We went out a couple of times, didn't turn into anything, but it was still worth it.

And if she's giving the signals, then she'll give her number, too - no problem ^^

[dzigimk]

I can't keep an eye contact when her tits are looking at me. :'(

[SincereCreature]

@dzigimk LOL!