BOO HOO HOO, HE HIT ME, FEEL SORRY FOR ME, ITS NOT MY FAULT, IF YOU SHUT YOUR MOUTH AND DO WHAT YOUR TOLD TO ONCE IN A WHILE MAYBE YOU WONT GET HIT, ITS THAT EASY. SOME WOMEN ARE JUST ASKING FOR IT....SHUT YOUR PIE HOLE AND OBEY.
What kind of effect do you think will take place when you advertise the benefits of claiming abuse and then seek to have women "come forward and tell us how he hurts you" or "break the silence" while keeping the man silent in the court room and when she silently tells a shelter or the authorities that she is being abuse yet the man may have no idea she is making those false claims ?? think about that
If you answered True to any of those it might interest you to know that several scientific research studies conducted by universities and funded by the National Institute of Mental Health show that the correct answer is False.
consider the possibility that humans including men and women and children are all capable of domestic violence......'domestic violence advertising statistics reports and propoganda assist in helping influence millions of people to create more support funding and VAWA Laws... I vote that we change the it to VAHA.. Violence Against Humans Act.. and stop handing out domestic violence benifits to lying women.
Just lost a friend to domestic violence. He shot her in the head during an arguement. Unbelievable. We didn't know she was in an abusive relationship.
I've been a victim of abuse the difference being that only living with him for 2 months the last month it steadily getting worse I left before it really got bad. However I have supportive friends and family and I had somewhere to go. Not everyone is as lucky as I was
Offcourse, abuse is usually a two way street. Noone ever asks the man in this video what happened. Even *if* he was the sole perpetrator, his side is important too.
I have seen too many men take verbal abuse from their spouses over many years, and when they finally yell back, everyone told them that they were the abusive ones - Even if there was no physical violence. And yet there was no blame laid at the feet of the women who so richly deserved it.
@Jesus45U The only comments positive 4 men r from u & Twinslawncareservice. From 1958 to 88 there was only .3% difference in murdered wives & murdered husbs. Just recently the FBI & DOJ came out stating stats for DV about the same & in some cases women are worse but those are never mentioned in PSA's. For 9 yrs in a row Human & Health Services stated that women 2X more likely to murder, abuse or neglect kids but that doesn't get mentioned in PSA's. Fems only mention STATS THEY PAY FOR.
Yeah, I've noticed that everyone tend to take women's side because they cannot imagine that maybe, just maybe, the woman might have been the instigator of the whole altercation.
And lets be honest here, women are just as bad as men are, if not worse, at verbal assault. And verbal assault is just as scarring as physical assault, the scars are just much harder to see and cure.
@Jesus45U Yes, thanks for speaking out. Take a look below at comment by verycoolchicka. It tells how most women feel. If a woman hurts a man the typical response is, Well, he did something to deserve it." If a man hurts a woman the response is, I hope he gets ass raped in prison. So much 4 women being the kinder gentler gender, Fems want to be equal. Take women off the pedestal & put them in prison & on the front lines the same as men if they commit DV or join the ARMY. THINK ABOUT IT?
#2 I am totally convinced based on PSA's that it SHOULD BE ILLEGAL 2 marry or procreate (the proof is just to overwhelming) but the g'ment allows kids to be born in an out of marriage. When you look into it deeply it seems politicians are buying votes from welfare moms and fems at the expense of men being pressed into involuntary servitude (child support, divorce, alimony) which pays for the country club dues & Jaguar payments for judges, lawyers, politicians. THINK ABOUT IT!
@SaveTheMen I had an ex wife who told me after the divorce that she PUSHED MY BUTTONS TO MAKE ME ANGRY because it showed I had love for her. YOU don't hear about that on one sided PSA's.
PSA's are like a commercial for a PB & JELLY sandwich but the peanut butter gets left off. But feminists do love their jelly sandwiches---I mean PSA's. LOOK TO YOUR RIGHT IN THE SUGGESTIONS COLUMN---PSA'S ARE BIG MONEY RAISERS 4 FEMS WHO RUN SHELTERS 4 WOMEN ONLY. 1 IN US FOR MEN, that says it all.
Hi, if anyone is reading this. I need help with a doemstic violence and custody issue. If you have any contacts or people that might help me afford to litigate, please write. My attorney is not so knowledgeable, and I am frightened about losing my child. Thank you. And this documentary is beautiful. Thank you very much to its creator. And it is about power and control, that is it. and its a learned trait.
Children are the most innocent Victims of this and it is an Outrage that it is allowed to happen!! It NEVER gets better!! if he hits you once he will do it again> Abusers are sick mentally and need Therapy or some serious jail Time or both! Women!! Please dont stay!! You will be OK I promise! Been there and ran! Best thing I ever did after 9 Years of brutal beatings and spousal Rape!
and sorry to tell you ladies, you can only play the sympathy card for so long b4 we say fuck it, your on your own.. only 1 that can help you is you..you dont do anything about it, then yall get what yall deserve, let the fuckers beat your asses to death.i dont know what else to tell yall
@thecolaratlady its not always that easy. Read about the cases of Domonique Dunne, Trish Norman, Amy Leigh Burke, Dorothy Stratten, Samantha Stobbard, Ruth Bennell, Ellen Barkin and Deanna Ashby when they tried to leave their abusive partners.
Some people are terrified what will happen to them if they leave or they try to find a safe place to go but can't (Women Against Abuse had to turn down 6000 requests for help from domestic violence victims in less than a year).
Did you read about happened to these women who tried to leave? There was a case recently about a man who punished his wife for leaving him due to his violence by killing their kids. If a person is terrified that their abusive spouse will kill them or their family, the police aren't protecting them and they can't find a shelter to go in what are they supposed to do?
Just because you stood up to your husband and it worked doesn't mean it will for everybody. Each case is different.
@xValetinax See sweetheart, it's the same as school yard bully tactics.As SOON as the mofo started the mental abuse. you look that mofo in the eye and say " MOTHER FUCKER, WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK YOUR TALKING TOO?" GET RIGHT IN THEIR FACE BABY.Tell em STEP OFF! Tell em they DO NOT DESERVE YOU. See, they lose respect b/c they KNOW they CAN do that to you.And thats truth sweetheart.I want you to watch this man on YouTube. his sn is DANIGGAWITDATATTOOS, look up his vid on dm
@xValetinax See,heres the thing tho.men ARE human,men DO feel pain,men DO say ouch, men DO bleed.you go up side that mofo's head with a baseball bat,tire iron,w/e you can get your hands on.They do it b/c they know they can.the first time you dont do anything.they see hm.hey took this.lets go further, again, was tolerated..hmm.lets go even further,yet again.nothing is done.lets do more. NEVER COWER TO A MOTHER FUCKIN MAN!
@thecolaratlady that might work on some abusers but not everyone is the same. Some will come at you with a knife or gun if you go for them with a bat or they'll target you're kids. You'll probably say well kill them if they hurt you're kids but just don't want their kids to get hurt in the first place.
@xValetinax Do something quick about the mofos or let the sobs kill them, the kids..everyone. i have no sympathy. they go as far as the "victim" allows them to go.
@thecolaratlady do what exactly? Stand up to them and they kill you, kill them and you go to prison, leave and they attack you or try to find a shelter and there isn't one available.
It starts in stages, he does a lil bit, he sees he can get away with it, does more the next time, sees he can get away with it,then it escalates MORE AND MORE . its not like domestic abuse is a new thing, its been talked about, warned for DECADES.when they start, ask em who the fuck do they think they are talking too and they need to step off.its the school yard bully thing.they have no respect when they cower.
@TheLilbigBlack exactly, its the bully mentality, they will zero in on the weaker ones. The key is to have self esteem, self confidence and not ALLOW a man to start in the first place. AS SOON as they start the verbal flogging, trying to tear you down, ask that mofo who he thinks he's talking too, tell that mofo to step off, say i have PRIDE IN MYSELF, YOU DO NOT DESERVE ME. dont ever see them again.NEVER allow it to escalate.
@TheLilbigBlack They tear them down b/c THEY KNOW THEY CAN.MY HUBBY STARTED THAT SHIT WHEN WE FIRST GOT TOGETHER, WHEN HE SAW I WAS GOING TO STAND UP TO HIM, NOT COWER. , GUESS WHAT..HE STOPPED..HE TOLD ME THAT HES GLAD I STOOD UP TO HIS ASS, HE WAS PROUD OF ME, HE HAD RESPECT B/C I STOOD UP TO HIM. FYI, HE'S 6'5 275 LBS...I AM 4'10, 110 LBS :)
@TheLilbigBlack A man loses all respect when they see she will just stand there like an idiot and take it. that vid said it all , it explained how it started, how it escalated.
BOTH SEXES HAVE BECOME ABUSERS!!!!! THEY ARE MAINLY ABUSERS OF THEIR INNOCENT CHILDREN AND EACH OTHER! I HAVE NO COMPASSION FOR PEOPLE WHO DECIDE TO STAY WITH AN ABUSER! RUN FOR YOUR LIFE AND TAKE NOTHING WITH YOU!!! SAVE YOUR CHILDREN AND YOURSELF!
One of the most important things that we can learn in our lives is that leaving is NOT always the answer. Too many women die when they leave and too many women get murdered as they are about to leave. Leaving should never be the cookie-cutter answer. Staying alive, staying safe, improving our lives, while keeping us and our families safe ---THIS is the answer first, before anyone considers leaving. Almost 80 percent of women murdered in domestic violence were murdered AFTER they left.
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@MadeByEduNotLaziness not sure if you are male or not, but men perceive equality as a loss. Invariably. The desire to protect women from abusive men is not "male-bashing." Speaking out against domestic violence is not "denying that men are abused by women." And if there is a 50/50 violence ratio, then you ought to start a mens' domestic violence shelter, and see who comes.
@hahaha4556 you are right...I'm sorry I said that. There are a lot of men who support it. That statement was a quote from a teacher in a book about giving girls equal access in the classroom...the teacher said that when she gives equal attention to the girls, the boys perceive it as a loss.
@MeghanJillG Which is understandable. Unlike me, there are a lot of guys who are very prideful, and like it when the teacher gives them attention. Even more so if the boys in the book where about elementary school age, when there are even more boys that don't consider the feelings of a girl. In any case, it's alright. Sometimes when I find new information I would say it as soon as the opportunity presented itself. I don't know how recent you read the book.
@hahaha4556 You stated, "I'm a guy, and I don't see equality as a loss. I'm a strong supporter of it." A STRONG SUPPORTER OF WHAT--EQUALITY R EQUALITY BEING LOST to women because of false dom abuse statistics? There's a video on YouTube by Canadian Senator Ann Cools (1 of the top 20 feminists in Amer) who states fems , "need to stop twisting the stats regarding DV so BOTH SEXES CAN REC HELP. What part of that don't you understand? When YOU GET FALSELY ACCUSED u won't b so sensitive.
Women....give nice guys a chance. They will never, ever abuse you. But the reality is, time and time again women show extremely stupidity to be attracted so abusive men while rejecting nice men. As a result, it's hard to sympathize with women who are vicitms of domestic violence.
@bluemountain555 Abusive relationships generally don't start with someone acting like an abuser- at the beginning the abuser treats their partner like gold - very attentive, caring about every detail of their life, putting them on a pedestal... That's part of what makes it so dangerous – it can be several years down the line before the abuse even surfaces and even then it goes in cycles... complete with 'honeymoon period'. Please don't blame the victim for anothers deception.
@xyz702 hahahaha come on its as simple as grabbing a cell phone taking pictures of injuries and dialing 911 and you want us to have sympathy? with someone under 18 its different because i don't expect them to make adult decisions but if your husband beats you and you don't have him arrested........ pause for effect....... your just as much to blame as he is, its paternalistic to say they don't know better or make excuses we have police for a reason
@comradebashu Yeah... Really, really not. Google 'traumatic bonding', think about the number of people who are killed as a result of leaving and then come talk. Besides, the amount of financial pressure the police are under means that protecting victims of DV is actually really hard, even when they have the best will in the world. It's also not uncommon for people will get bail and attack their victims whilst awaiting trail. It's really not as simple as you make it sound.
@xyz702 read the CDC report stating domestic violence that is one sided violence is perpetrated mostly by women but don't take my word for it, also i am a misogynist so arguing with me semantic nonsense will be hard
@comradebashu Oh, you're one of the people who responds to sexism in the treatment of DV victims by simply reversing the prejudice? No wonder you think I'm using 'semantic nonsense'... OK, I'm finished with this conversation. Anyone who tries to involve gender politics in abuse is a fool. It's about understanding and helping people who have been abused, regardless of who they are, not wasting time arguing about their gender - or, indeed, any other feature they possess. Have fun trolling.
@comradebashu thats right, they are enabling the abuser , we can only listen to it for so long, watch them play the sympathy card for so long and just say fuck it, only you can help you, you wont do it, you deserve what you get. sorry to say ladies, but its true
@bluemountain555 you clearly aren't one of those nice guys because anyone who would have no sympathy for someone who is a victim of something as horrific as domestic violence due to them having bad taste in partners isn't a nice person.
And what xyz702 says is right. Many abusers - male and female - seem like gentle, respectable, pillar of the community types.
yes i understand that ponit,but there are people who do change and my case is against people who think betteres never change,thats absurd..ppl do change and dont judge or rule over judgement on others or statistics unless they were conducted by you..my ;last final word would be god bless all and send out the positive,not the negative because thats what fox news is for..negative thoughts bring negative actions.god bless your soul..\
About 1.5 billion women are abused, mistreated and killed worlwide every year! 1 in 3 women. Men should never abuse their physical dominance over women. We came from women. We exist because of them. Men who abuse their women do not deserve to be born.
i just came to this video to prove that american domestic violence and oppression of women is far far worst then what they say about muslims. and im right. so next time i hear an american point a finger, ill direct them here. and most of these victims are christians and so are the terrible abusers
@imreadyyo26 r u serious?wow u have women hitting guys with hot frying pans here..do have any idea what would happen to a woman in the muslim world??educate yourself..we r all humans with problems now and then..tighten up
@velcro6996 im muslim,so my wife lives in a muslim world.(with me) i never struck her nor did i threaten her. i love her. i have learned that the men in western countries,particularly america have identity problems. they dont know there place in a relationship. i live in new york and almost had to beat the crap out of my neighbor for abusing his partner. they both drink and drug,and beat on each other. the scary thing is..none of them are victims. but i have no tolerance for men abusing women
I am a survivor of domestic violence. I've endured it for many years. I was an easy target for the abuse to happen because of things I went through during my childhood. To this day I blame myself for the things that happened to me. Nobody seems to understand what happens to you when you endure somehthing like this. You lose any sense of who you are, you lose your feeling of security and safety, you literally lose yourself. I''m trying to come back, it's hard.
men are the most likely to commit violence and have more rage, women actually have little to do with anger and are more soft. Im not saying its just the men but its more likely that the men will do it.
I began journaling my abuse 4 years ago with hopes that someday I'd be free and could turn it into a book to help others.
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Abusers need to be removed no doubt about it. But what happened to me a yera ago is unfathomable. I was the victim and when the DV case approached the plea phase(proving guilt phase) I got sued as the victim for NO REASON & without any
investigation for custodyof my child by the state as a VICTIM !!! The state tried to take my son away from me LONG after I lived alone with my son. After the DV I was legally traumatized.I won custody but ended up with PTSD. Horrible trauma I can not forget !
For all the assholes making jokes or smart remarks about this video.
Shut. the. fuck. up.
the fact that one would even JOKE about these horrendous actions makes me weep for humanity. There is no reason that one should EVER strike another human being. It's only a way of empowerment and insecurity. to both MALES AN FEMALES.
To all of you who are confused and uninformed, the vast majority of domestic violence, 90%, is perpetrated by men. This is why the focus is mostly on men. If women abused at that rate, the focus would primarily be on them. Domestic violence perpetrated by men is the leading cause of death for women. As far as being called feminists, thank you. Feminism is a good word. It means equality. Women who advocate for equal rights and equal respect. Please educate yourselves!
“Domestic violence, 90%, is perpetrated by men”? “Domestic violence... is the leading cause of death for women”? Did you bother researching DV or just a quick Google search? You know both of those statistics have been proven lies. I don’t false, I mean lies. No study has ever had either of those finds. Both of those statistics came from other studies that people later twisted around. You should check your sources before quoting them.
Read a few of the studies I posted below or do your own research. You’ll find your sources are why off and you’ll have a much more educated understanding of the whole DV issue. Don’t hate on a group of people just to make yourself feel better or hate them due to a lack of education. That is the type of crap the KKK and Nazis did and you should try not to make the same mistake. Ask questions seek answers and always check your sources or you’ll end up looking like a retard.
@GoldPitt54 You're a liar. A flat out liar! it's 50/50 domestic violence men and women abuse as much. The leading cause of death among women isn't domestic violence! Feminism isn't a good word when you find otu who funded it and the deception it leads women into. Feminists don't want equal rights, they want more rights.
Reality: When WE ignore the majority of abuse victims (victims OF WOMEN) we'd might as well lend a hand to the abusers. Women commit the most dating, partner and spouse abuse, not men. Likewise, mothers commit the majority of child abuse & murders, not fathers. Stop blaming the most protective and stabilizing family member as an excuse for the real abuse - feminist lies ripping apart families through false abuse allegations and parental alienation child abuse, invisible, pandemic twin crimes.
so what if father called his son stupid?So what if he slaped him?Thats how you become tough,i have friends that were not ever punished or slapped and now they are real pussies.
Wow you couldnt be more retarded, first of all you can become "tough" without getting hit or verbally abused by your father, it's as simple as taking karate or boxing or other physical sports to increase your strength and physical fitness.
you ever notice how its always good looking shallow women who get abused well its because shallow women choose shallow abusive men go figure maby if women noticed nice guys that wouldent happen you know its true you cant deny it
The cycle of violence dont know gender nor age. Weak inside are those that act on the desire to have control and power over others,in the end it is always the fear of losing something you believed to hold value and pain and violence against yourself/others that traps you in enduring the circumstances. Is it no wonder most of us are living a lie..............
If these women are actually telling the truth, I feel bad for them. I know people personally that have had false charges by women for domestic violence or rape... just had to add that point.
Truth = CURE for Domestic violence. FACT: STUDIES show men are not the main abusers in the home or dating, WOMEN ARE. Studies also show that the main cause of domestic violence injuries & deaths to women are likewise because "women can do no wrong," and thus WOMEN attack their male partners over and over until the majority are injured or murdered. Yet we don't dare address the best protection = equality. Try true equality next time for best results. Propaganda & Hysteria = the real problem.
Can you post the music to this documentary. The singer is amazing. Very fitting for the movie. Watching these stories is opening my heart wider in the area of compassion. Its something we have to maintain, compassion for one another.
Once you're physically battered, you're mentally and emotional battered as well. No girl, woman, no matter age they are should EVER have to go through d.v.'s.
It is quite possible to be physically battered and not be emotionally battered just as it's possible to be mentally battered and not physically.
Also I notice where you said:
"No girl, woman, no matter age they are should EVER have to go through d.v.'s"
seems to imply that dv only matters when it's against a female. Men are abused just as much as women except men have no shelters, and no police and no therapists to turn to
@Gendo3s2k - you are obviously here with the only motive to convince people that men get abused, too. while that is true, statistics show that women are far more likely to both be abused and killed. Those are stats from the Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data. I noticed you didn't name yours.
@Gendo3s2k - You are as bad as the men these women talk about in this video. Just because women want to make other women aware of domestic violence and the help that is out there doesn't mean they are feminists. This isn't a biased video, it focuses on women who are abused. Go make a male abuse video if you are really that passionate about it and quit harassing people here. You are a coward hiding behind a keyboard.
@gjvmnd and you're a pussy bitch. (hey, you don't get to be the only one hurling insults) I have the right to comment just as you do. And I don't HAVE to make a video if I don't want to. This is the way Feminists think: Believe as I do and if you disagree then you're an evil abusive rapist asshole and should STFU. And...I'm not following your logic? please elaborate on why you think I'm a cowardly keyboard jockey? you don't know anything about me or what I do when I'm not on the computer.
@Gendo3s2k - that was such a grown up retort and not at all childish. nowhere in this video does it say abuse doesn't happen to men. just because they don't mention male abuse doesn't mean they don't think it happens. thats like saying a barry bonds special on ESPN means there aren't any other baseball players around. This video is about a specific portion of abused people, who just so happens to be the most likely to be abused. Your defensiveness says a lot about you, and none of it is good.
1-1 Actually check the studies again. Abuse is equally likely to happen to men. It’s the same with male and female children. There are some differences in abuse rates between races but the difference stops there. Women are not the “most likely to be abused” as you claim. They are only the majority to receive the spotlight and help.
1-2 If you really care about all victims you’d try not to spread misinformation. Maybe you didn’t know and just bought into the hype without checking the facts. But the belief that women are more likely to be victims IS misinformation. DV has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with a lack of control on the part of the abuser.
2-1 Also… I’ll agree this video don’t come right out and say men are not abused. But if the creators are really concerned with helping victims they wouldn’t turn it into something it’s not by focusing on one sex. And as I said, if you research, sex has nothing to do with it.
2-2 If you where a victim of DV you’d be very upset over anything less than the true and the whole truth being presented on this issue. And people making videos with misinformation and ignoring some victims of a trauma you had endured would out right piss you off.
@NoMorThanMost -Show me your stats saying men are equally likely to be abused. Because everything the Bureau of Justice Statistics says disagrees with you completely. Perhaps you need to do more research yourself and not let your emotions create statistics. Where does this video state it is the be all end all of everything domestic violence? Its not trying to ignore anything, it is focusing on the most prevalent demographic whether you and your pretend stats agree or not.
I said for you to spend your own time researching DV and gender but I see you would rather attack my statements and tell me “[my] pretend stats” are just that… pretend. So I’ll do some of your homework for you:
Relationships Between Intimate Partner Violence and Well-Being (Journal of Marriage and Family and the National Survey of Families and Households 2002) 7,395 married and cohabiting heterosexual couples surveyed. Victim rates [were] higher among men (9%) than women (7%). In cases where only one partner was the abuser, more women (2%) than men (1%) were identified as perpetrators.
Violent Intimacy, The Family as a Model for Love Relationships (Bernard, M. L. & Bernard, J. L.) Surveyed 461 college students; 15% of the men admitted to physically abusing their partners, while 21% of women admitted to physically abusing their partners.
Domestic Violence in an Inner-City [Emergency Department] (Annals of Emergency Medicine Volume 30, Issue 2) Reviewed 516 New Orleans patients treated for spousal abuse. Of those 516, 28% men and 33% women were victims of past abuse. 20% men and 19% women reported being current victims of abuse. There was a significant difference in the number of women vs. men who reported past abuse to the police, 6% of men and 19% of women.
1-1Also the USDJ is a poor place to get DV statistics. Why? It only reflects arrests, court filings or prosecutions. It does not control many other factors like false claims, acts not reported to police or acts that are reported and law enforcement disregards it.
As a side note, the USDJ also quoted the CDC in saying “Each year, women experience about 4.8 million intimate partner related physical assaults and rapes. Men are the victims of about 2.9 million intimate partner related physical assaults.” That is roughly 5 women victims to 3 male victims. A much smaller number when compared side by side.
For even more info try googling “battered husband syndrome”, “domestic violence gender differences” or “domestic violence against men”. You will find DV rates just as high.
My statement was never “pretend”. Looks like to the only one playing pretend is you. I’d also like to know where your unbiased studies are supporting your beliefs. I understand your way of thinking. I thought the same thing once until I grew up, started thinking for myself and did my own research into this. You should stop being so close-minded and do the same.
@NoMorThanMost- From a director's standpoint, they wanted to tell a story about women who were abused by men. That doesn't mean the director doesn't think men get abused. It is a specific story keying on a specific demographic. Its not intended to be the one stop shop for everything domestic violence, like you think it is/should be. I don't understand why you are so adamantly against telling a specific story. It seems like you are making more of this than is actually there.
@gjvmnd Hey don't be stupid, you have to know that men are the ones who foster Domestic violence,its whole caused by men who are extremists, they don't know how to handle a family instead they resort to abuse. 60% of their brains create the attitudes that women are meant to be their subordinates, they are always jealous of even little things, their incompetent because they can't handle relationship. I am man but I want you to reason,
and that's how feminists think "He was trained from an early age to never hit a woman, so I can hit him as much as I want and he won't do anything about it" and they hit him and hit him and hit him until he snaps and hits her back. At which point, she calls the cops and he's arrested for DV. If you were in a relationship with a REAL abuser, he wouldn't hold back and simply kick your ass
The only time I've ever been Domestically abused is being pepper sprayed by my abusive mom for defending my dad from my her. It was totally stupid. He was cooking dinner, and my mom wanted him to take her somewhere. he refused because he was busy, it escalated, next thing I know she goes to her room, grabs pepper spray and sprays him in the eye with it. I tried to take it from her, and she sprayed me. when the police got there, she had this smug look on her face like she was totally justified
@taffwob Nope. Nothing happened. I moved out of there several years ago and as far as I know, they're fine and the old lady isn't going apeshit anymore so I guess that's good for them (If that is, indeed how things are going). But as far as "The Statistics" are concerned. Nothing ever happened that night or any other time she's gone off the handle.
you can bring in all the class speakers you want. and nobody will understand until they see they're friend walk into the classroom with a black eye and a bitten arm.
well Gendo maybe you should get your ass beat everyday and see what they are going through and stop being the supporter of those selfish bastards that puts those women through hell.think about how it makes them feel.if a man touches me and i mean EVER i swear to god he will wake up in hell where he belongs.
@msButterflyFlowers lolol what a dumb fucking bitch! Hey did you pay attention in Reading Comprehension class? Or do feminists not care about things like that? I say that because no matter what anyone says, the manage to TOTALLY miss the point go straight to "YOU MISOGYNIST" or "YOU WOMAN BEATER" or they like to use ad hominem attacks like "Does no one love you and that's why you HATE women?" a bunch of dumb fucking bitches.
Where have I ever said that I support men beating women?
@msButterflyFlowers 70% of Domestic Violence is initiated by the woman (Meaning she hit him, and he hit her back) which is why I said "Maybe all these women shouldn't be attacking their man, and he won't hit her back" afterall, a man who's 5'5, 150lbs wouldn't attack another man who's 6'7, 250lbs. what I'm advocating is equality.
Not to mention that you seem to think it's totally acceptable to Kill a man in his sleep because he "touched" you? wow, I bet you feel real EMPOWERED.
it seems to me that you missed the point of my statement.i meant that if a man hits me i would beat the living shit out of him.i really think you need to stop calling me a "dumb fucking bitch" because i doesnt matter if you like it or not,i have my own opinion.too bad so sad.and if you told me in person that i was too weak to stand up for myself or not take shit from anybody i would have laughed in your face.WHAT A FUCKTARD!!!
@msButterflyFlowers lol If you want to convince anyone that you're not a dumb fucking bitch, then how about doing so without making dumb bitch comments. I never said that you were too weak to stand up for yourself, however, I will now. You *are* too weak. It seems that feminists have this delusion that they're somehow able to beat up a guy who is way bigger/stronger/faster than them. It's just NOT going to happen unless you're attacking him and he doesn't attack you back.
it does not matter if you said it or not.that is not a delusion.walk up to me in person and see if you have the guts to try and talk to me that why and you will be getting off the floor
no i would not assault you for calling me an idiot.and i am not deluded.also im not violent against men.i just dont take shit from people.now go find someone else to bother besides me.
I know this is only a short excerpt from the film, but I'm very disappointed in what I've seen. The developers, like society itself, only look at one side of domestic violence, that of the female victims. Apparently, to many people, violence against women and domestic abuse are one in the same, ignorant to the fact that statistics show women are more likely to engage in physical abuse than men, or to the fact that men are just as likely to be in abusive relationships. This is biased journalism.
Excellent point!!! I have never in my life hit a female, and I never would. But I have been hit many times by women and just walked away. This is absolute biased journalism!!
@wslydaniels I appreciate your praise, but I have to ask as to why you would never hit a woman, even in situation where one is attacking you? And please, make a reason, an actual reason, rather than just saying "it's wrong".
The reason is because I would be afraid of causing permanent damage. Dont get me wrong, I would if I had to. But that situation has never come up. Although, I have had to toss a couple of girlfriends when they were attacking me.
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Networcx 3 hours ago
Your film is sexist and one-sided. It only presents DV as a problem for women and not men.
macgyvertosh 1 day ago
SHit i take tae kwon do and I'll kick nigga ass pimp ass!!!!
5anisa 3 days ago
BOO HOO HOO, HE HIT ME, FEEL SORRY FOR ME, ITS NOT MY FAULT, IF YOU SHUT YOUR MOUTH AND DO WHAT YOUR TOLD TO ONCE IN A WHILE MAYBE YOU WONT GET HIT, ITS THAT EASY. SOME WOMEN ARE JUST ASKING FOR IT....SHUT YOUR PIE HOLE AND OBEY.
tammy3dicks 3 days ago
What about female abusers?
pismostroch 5 days ago
women abuse men too and actually abuse children more than men.
Sivels 2 weeks ago
I love how there are places for women but if a man calls the cops bc his girl is beating on him he gets put in jail
seaangel011911 2 weeks ago
What kind of effect do you think will take place when you advertise the benefits of claiming abuse and then seek to have women "come forward and tell us how he hurts you" or "break the silence" while keeping the man silent in the court room and when she silently tells a shelter or the authorities that she is being abuse yet the man may have no idea she is making those false claims ?? think about that
twinslawncareservice 3 weeks ago
Feminist propaganda video to induce scare mongering and alienate/demonise men..
geolocations 3 weeks ago
;( love does not hinder - love does not lie - RUN
ChantyDqueen 3 weeks ago
Women are three times more likely to use weapons in d/v.
Women initiate most incidents of d/v.
Women commit most child abuse and most elder abuse.
Women hit their male children more often and more severely than they hit their female children.
Women commit most child murders & 64% of their victims are male children.
When women murder adults the majority of their victims are men.
Women commit 50% of spousal murders.
82% of all people experience their first violence by their mother's hands.
jbuchanan8 4 weeks ago
If you answered True to any of those it might interest you to know that several scientific research studies conducted by universities and funded by the National Institute of Mental Health show that the correct answer is False.
jbuchanan8 4 weeks ago
1. True or False. Most instances of d/v are initiated by men.
2. T or F. Most child murders are committed by men.
3. T or F. Most instances of child abuse are committed by men.
4. T or F. Most instances of elderly abuse are committed by men.
5. T or F. Most cases of spousal homicide are committed by men,
6. T or F. Most people have their 1st experience of physical violence at the hands of their fathers.
7. T or F. Men are more likely to use a weapon during instances of domestic violence.
jbuchanan8 4 weeks ago
consider the possibility that humans including men and women and children are all capable of domestic violence......'domestic violence advertising statistics reports and propoganda assist in helping influence millions of people to create more support funding and VAWA Laws... I vote that we change the it to VAHA.. Violence Against Humans Act.. and stop handing out domestic violence benifits to lying women.
twinslawncareservice 1 month ago 2
@70sgirly Omg so sad :( I hope he's rots in jail and get raped bye everyman there!
verycoolchicka 1 month ago
Just lost a friend to domestic violence. He shot her in the head during an arguement. Unbelievable. We didn't know she was in an abusive relationship.
70sgirly 1 month ago
My wife's sister is going throw a this right now.
stoper4077 1 month ago
I've been a victim of abuse the difference being that only living with him for 2 months the last month it steadily getting worse I left before it really got bad. However I have supportive friends and family and I had somewhere to go. Not everyone is as lucky as I was
satinelilkitten 1 month ago
Offcourse, abuse is usually a two way street. Noone ever asks the man in this video what happened. Even *if* he was the sole perpetrator, his side is important too.
I have seen too many men take verbal abuse from their spouses over many years, and when they finally yell back, everyone told them that they were the abusive ones - Even if there was no physical violence. And yet there was no blame laid at the feet of the women who so richly deserved it.
Jesus45U 1 month ago 8
@Jesus45U The only comments positive 4 men r from u & Twinslawncareservice. From 1958 to 88 there was only .3% difference in murdered wives & murdered husbs. Just recently the FBI & DOJ came out stating stats for DV about the same & in some cases women are worse but those are never mentioned in PSA's. For 9 yrs in a row Human & Health Services stated that women 2X more likely to murder, abuse or neglect kids but that doesn't get mentioned in PSA's. Fems only mention STATS THEY PAY FOR.
MLJ1219 4 weeks ago
@MLJ1219
Yeah, I've noticed that everyone tend to take women's side because they cannot imagine that maybe, just maybe, the woman might have been the instigator of the whole altercation.
And lets be honest here, women are just as bad as men are, if not worse, at verbal assault. And verbal assault is just as scarring as physical assault, the scars are just much harder to see and cure.
Jesus45U 4 weeks ago
@Jesus45U Yes, thanks for speaking out. Take a look below at comment by verycoolchicka. It tells how most women feel. If a woman hurts a man the typical response is, Well, he did something to deserve it." If a man hurts a woman the response is, I hope he gets ass raped in prison. So much 4 women being the kinder gentler gender, Fems want to be equal. Take women off the pedestal & put them in prison & on the front lines the same as men if they commit DV or join the ARMY. THINK ABOUT IT?
MLJ1219 4 weeks ago
@MLJ1219
Well, it seems more people are coming out of the woodwork about their experiences with aggressive behavior in women.
Who knows, maybe people wil figure it out eventually, that it takes two to tango.
The more you know and all that. :)
Jesus45U 4 weeks ago
My wife and I helped a women move from her abusive boyfriend. Helped find a place for her even gave her money to help with the rent.
What does the stupid bitch do next?
She goes back him. I will never help another women being abused again!! EVER!!!
TheHappilyInsane 1 month ago
#2 I am totally convinced based on PSA's that it SHOULD BE ILLEGAL 2 marry or procreate (the proof is just to overwhelming) but the g'ment allows kids to be born in an out of marriage. When you look into it deeply it seems politicians are buying votes from welfare moms and fems at the expense of men being pressed into involuntary servitude (child support, divorce, alimony) which pays for the country club dues & Jaguar payments for judges, lawyers, politicians. THINK ABOUT IT!
MLJ1219 4 weeks ago
@TheHappilyInsane I had a similar experience with a friend I helped. Some women enjoy the abuse, on some sick level.
SaveTheMen 4 weeks ago
@SaveTheMen I had an ex wife who told me after the divorce that she PUSHED MY BUTTONS TO MAKE ME ANGRY because it showed I had love for her. YOU don't hear about that on one sided PSA's.
PSA's are like a commercial for a PB & JELLY sandwich but the peanut butter gets left off. But feminists do love their jelly sandwiches---I mean PSA's. LOOK TO YOUR RIGHT IN THE SUGGESTIONS COLUMN---PSA'S ARE BIG MONEY RAISERS 4 FEMS WHO RUN SHELTERS 4 WOMEN ONLY. 1 IN US FOR MEN, that says it all.
MLJ1219 4 weeks ago
I feel so sorry for the one's who has gone through this. I myself has gone through this... You have my support.
483Lynn 2 months ago
Hi, if anyone is reading this. I need help with a doemstic violence and custody issue. If you have any contacts or people that might help me afford to litigate, please write. My attorney is not so knowledgeable, and I am frightened about losing my child. Thank you. And this documentary is beautiful. Thank you very much to its creator. And it is about power and control, that is it. and its a learned trait.
myuseraddress1 2 months ago
Children are the most innocent Victims of this and it is an Outrage that it is allowed to happen!! It NEVER gets better!! if he hits you once he will do it again> Abusers are sick mentally and need Therapy or some serious jail Time or both! Women!! Please dont stay!! You will be OK I promise! Been there and ran! Best thing I ever did after 9 Years of brutal beatings and spousal Rape!
BluesHarp60 2 months ago
We produced a similar type documentary as well. The 6 minutes version is on our Youtube Channel or our website endingabusemedia
Keep up the good work!
Together we can break the cycle of abuse!
EndingAbuse 2 months ago
and sorry to tell you ladies, you can only play the sympathy card for so long b4 we say fuck it, your on your own.. only 1 that can help you is you..you dont do anything about it, then yall get what yall deserve, let the fuckers beat your asses to death.i dont know what else to tell yall
thecolaratlady 3 months ago
@thecolaratlady its not always that easy. Read about the cases of Domonique Dunne, Trish Norman, Amy Leigh Burke, Dorothy Stratten, Samantha Stobbard, Ruth Bennell, Ellen Barkin and Deanna Ashby when they tried to leave their abusive partners.
Some people are terrified what will happen to them if they leave or they try to find a safe place to go but can't (Women Against Abuse had to turn down 6000 requests for help from domestic violence victims in less than a year).
xValetinax 2 months ago
@xValetinax sorry, it actually is that easy.
thecolaratlady 2 months ago
Did you read about happened to these women who tried to leave? There was a case recently about a man who punished his wife for leaving him due to his violence by killing their kids. If a person is terrified that their abusive spouse will kill them or their family, the police aren't protecting them and they can't find a shelter to go in what are they supposed to do?
Just because you stood up to your husband and it worked doesn't mean it will for everybody. Each case is different.
xValetinax 2 months ago
@xValetinax See sweetheart, it's the same as school yard bully tactics.As SOON as the mofo started the mental abuse. you look that mofo in the eye and say " MOTHER FUCKER, WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK YOUR TALKING TOO?" GET RIGHT IN THEIR FACE BABY.Tell em STEP OFF! Tell em they DO NOT DESERVE YOU. See, they lose respect b/c they KNOW they CAN do that to you.And thats truth sweetheart.I want you to watch this man on YouTube. his sn is DANIGGAWITDATATTOOS, look up his vid on dm
thecolaratlady 2 months ago
@xValetinax See,heres the thing tho.men ARE human,men DO feel pain,men DO say ouch, men DO bleed.you go up side that mofo's head with a baseball bat,tire iron,w/e you can get your hands on.They do it b/c they know they can.the first time you dont do anything.they see hm.hey took this.lets go further, again, was tolerated..hmm.lets go even further,yet again.nothing is done.lets do more. NEVER COWER TO A MOTHER FUCKIN MAN!
thecolaratlady 2 months ago
@thecolaratlady that might work on some abusers but not everyone is the same. Some will come at you with a knife or gun if you go for them with a bat or they'll target you're kids. You'll probably say well kill them if they hurt you're kids but just don't want their kids to get hurt in the first place.
xValetinax 2 months ago
@xValetinax Do something quick about the mofos or let the sobs kill them, the kids..everyone. i have no sympathy. they go as far as the "victim" allows them to go.
thecolaratlady 2 months ago
@thecolaratlady do what exactly? Stand up to them and they kill you, kill them and you go to prison, leave and they attack you or try to find a shelter and there isn't one available.
xValetinax 2 months ago
@xValetinax then stand there like a fucking idiot, keep getting beat until he kills you..yeah..good logic ..jesus christ these idiots
thecolaratlady 2 months ago
It starts in stages, he does a lil bit, he sees he can get away with it, does more the next time, sees he can get away with it,then it escalates MORE AND MORE . its not like domestic abuse is a new thing, its been talked about, warned for DECADES.when they start, ask em who the fuck do they think they are talking too and they need to step off.its the school yard bully thing.they have no respect when they cower.
thecolaratlady 3 months ago
My opinion on men who hit women:If you wont step to another man, then you have no reason to step to a women
TheLilbigBlack 3 months ago
@TheLilbigBlack exactly, its the bully mentality, they will zero in on the weaker ones. The key is to have self esteem, self confidence and not ALLOW a man to start in the first place. AS SOON as they start the verbal flogging, trying to tear you down, ask that mofo who he thinks he's talking too, tell that mofo to step off, say i have PRIDE IN MYSELF, YOU DO NOT DESERVE ME. dont ever see them again.NEVER allow it to escalate.
thecolaratlady 2 months ago
@TheLilbigBlack They tear them down b/c THEY KNOW THEY CAN.MY HUBBY STARTED THAT SHIT WHEN WE FIRST GOT TOGETHER, WHEN HE SAW I WAS GOING TO STAND UP TO HIM, NOT COWER. , GUESS WHAT..HE STOPPED..HE TOLD ME THAT HES GLAD I STOOD UP TO HIS ASS, HE WAS PROUD OF ME, HE HAD RESPECT B/C I STOOD UP TO HIM. FYI, HE'S 6'5 275 LBS...I AM 4'10, 110 LBS :)
thecolaratlady 2 months ago
@TheLilbigBlack A man loses all respect when they see she will just stand there like an idiot and take it. that vid said it all , it explained how it started, how it escalated.
thecolaratlady 2 months ago
STOP SMOKING WHILE YOUR DAUGHTERS ARE RIDING IN THE CAR WITH YOU!!!!
BluesHarp60 3 months ago
BOTH SEXES HAVE BECOME ABUSERS!!!!! THEY ARE MAINLY ABUSERS OF THEIR INNOCENT CHILDREN AND EACH OTHER! I HAVE NO COMPASSION FOR PEOPLE WHO DECIDE TO STAY WITH AN ABUSER! RUN FOR YOUR LIFE AND TAKE NOTHING WITH YOU!!! SAVE YOUR CHILDREN AND YOURSELF!
BluesHarp60 3 months ago
@BluesHarp60 read what i posted
thecolaratlady 3 months ago
@BluesHarp60 when ppl ( it does go both ways) stay, continue to put up with it, you are enabling them
thecolaratlady 3 months ago
One of the most important things that we can learn in our lives is that leaving is NOT always the answer. Too many women die when they leave and too many women get murdered as they are about to leave. Leaving should never be the cookie-cutter answer. Staying alive, staying safe, improving our lives, while keeping us and our families safe ---THIS is the answer first, before anyone considers leaving. Almost 80 percent of women murdered in domestic violence were murdered AFTER they left.
superbooks7 3 months ago
..and what about the falsely accused and the abuse they go through? These movies are biased.
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Sajunique 4 months ago
@MadeByEduNotLaziness not sure if you are male or not, but men perceive equality as a loss. Invariably. The desire to protect women from abusive men is not "male-bashing." Speaking out against domestic violence is not "denying that men are abused by women." And if there is a 50/50 violence ratio, then you ought to start a mens' domestic violence shelter, and see who comes.
MeghanJillG 5 months ago
@MeghanJillG I'm a guy, and I don't see equality as a loss. I'm a strong supporter of it.
hahaha4556 5 months ago 3
@hahaha4556 you are right...I'm sorry I said that. There are a lot of men who support it. That statement was a quote from a teacher in a book about giving girls equal access in the classroom...the teacher said that when she gives equal attention to the girls, the boys perceive it as a loss.
MeghanJillG 5 months ago
@MeghanJillG Which is understandable. Unlike me, there are a lot of guys who are very prideful, and like it when the teacher gives them attention. Even more so if the boys in the book where about elementary school age, when there are even more boys that don't consider the feelings of a girl. In any case, it's alright. Sometimes when I find new information I would say it as soon as the opportunity presented itself. I don't know how recent you read the book.
hahaha4556 5 months ago
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@hahaha4556 You stated, "I'm a guy, and I don't see equality as a loss. I'm a strong supporter of it." A STRONG SUPPORTER OF WHAT--EQUALITY R EQUALITY BEING LOST to women because of false dom abuse statistics? There's a video on YouTube by Canadian Senator Ann Cools (1 of the top 20 feminists in Amer) who states fems , "need to stop twisting the stats regarding DV so BOTH SEXES CAN REC HELP. What part of that don't you understand? When YOU GET FALSELY ACCUSED u won't b so sensitive.
MLJ1219 4 weeks ago
Women....give nice guys a chance. They will never, ever abuse you. But the reality is, time and time again women show extremely stupidity to be attracted so abusive men while rejecting nice men. As a result, it's hard to sympathize with women who are vicitms of domestic violence.
bluemountain555 5 months ago
@bluemountain555 Abusive relationships generally don't start with someone acting like an abuser- at the beginning the abuser treats their partner like gold - very attentive, caring about every detail of their life, putting them on a pedestal... That's part of what makes it so dangerous – it can be several years down the line before the abuse even surfaces and even then it goes in cycles... complete with 'honeymoon period'. Please don't blame the victim for anothers deception.
xyz702 5 months ago 13
@xyz702 hahahaha come on its as simple as grabbing a cell phone taking pictures of injuries and dialing 911 and you want us to have sympathy? with someone under 18 its different because i don't expect them to make adult decisions but if your husband beats you and you don't have him arrested........ pause for effect....... your just as much to blame as he is, its paternalistic to say they don't know better or make excuses we have police for a reason
comradebashu 3 months ago
@comradebashu Yeah... Really, really not. Google 'traumatic bonding', think about the number of people who are killed as a result of leaving and then come talk. Besides, the amount of financial pressure the police are under means that protecting victims of DV is actually really hard, even when they have the best will in the world. It's also not uncommon for people will get bail and attack their victims whilst awaiting trail. It's really not as simple as you make it sound.
xyz702 3 months ago
@xyz702 read the CDC report stating domestic violence that is one sided violence is perpetrated mostly by women but don't take my word for it, also i am a misogynist so arguing with me semantic nonsense will be hard
comradebashu 3 months ago
@comradebashu Oh, you're one of the people who responds to sexism in the treatment of DV victims by simply reversing the prejudice? No wonder you think I'm using 'semantic nonsense'... OK, I'm finished with this conversation. Anyone who tries to involve gender politics in abuse is a fool. It's about understanding and helping people who have been abused, regardless of who they are, not wasting time arguing about their gender - or, indeed, any other feature they possess. Have fun trolling.
xyz702 3 months ago
@comradebashu right..alot of female abusers, but when the guy defends himself..guess who's going to jail
thecolaratlady 3 months ago
@comradebashu thats right, they are enabling the abuser , we can only listen to it for so long, watch them play the sympathy card for so long and just say fuck it, only you can help you, you wont do it, you deserve what you get. sorry to say ladies, but its true
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ChantyDqueen 4 months ago
@ChantyDqueen There are signs.
HairH2O 4 months ago
@bluemountain555 Very true.
HairH2O 4 months ago
@bluemountain555 you clearly aren't one of those nice guys because anyone who would have no sympathy for someone who is a victim of something as horrific as domestic violence due to them having bad taste in partners isn't a nice person.
And what xyz702 says is right. Many abusers - male and female - seem like gentle, respectable, pillar of the community types.
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TheServiceWeb 6 months ago
Just get out...that's an order!
tigerwoman 6 months ago
This is sad.
lockness1221 6 months ago
yes i understand that ponit,but there are people who do change and my case is against people who think betteres never change,thats absurd..ppl do change and dont judge or rule over judgement on others or statistics unless they were conducted by you..my ;last final word would be god bless all and send out the positive,not the negative because thats what fox news is for..negative thoughts bring negative actions.god bless your soul..\
velcro6996 6 months ago
@velcro6996 i dont beleive an abuser will always be an abuser..not everyone is the same.
velcro6996 6 months ago
@velcro6996 Most of them are not reformable. Not at all.
CAFREEB 3 months ago
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About 1.5 billion women are abused, mistreated and killed worlwide every year! 1 in 3 women. Men should never abuse their physical dominance over women. We came from women. We exist because of them. Men who abuse their women do not deserve to be born.
royalsteven 6 months ago
i wish we could have watched that bitch get beat. she sounds like a shitty wife/mom.
MrCoreyp08 7 months ago
i just came to this video to prove that american domestic violence and oppression of women is far far worst then what they say about muslims. and im right. so next time i hear an american point a finger, ill direct them here. and most of these victims are christians and so are the terrible abusers
imreadyyo26 7 months ago
@imreadyyo26 r u serious?wow u have women hitting guys with hot frying pans here..do have any idea what would happen to a woman in the muslim world??educate yourself..we r all humans with problems now and then..tighten up
velcro6996 6 months ago
@velcro6996 im muslim,so my wife lives in a muslim world.(with me) i never struck her nor did i threaten her. i love her. i have learned that the men in western countries,particularly america have identity problems. they dont know there place in a relationship. i live in new york and almost had to beat the crap out of my neighbor for abusing his partner. they both drink and drug,and beat on each other. the scary thing is..none of them are victims. but i have no tolerance for men abusing women
imreadyyo26 6 months ago
@imreadyyo26 It's not "far worse" unfortunately these conditions exist around the world. Sharia is no walk in the park either.
CAFREEB 3 months ago
how many men are in prison as opposed to women in world
kathberry8 7 months ago
I am a survivor of domestic violence. I've endured it for many years. I was an easy target for the abuse to happen because of things I went through during my childhood. To this day I blame myself for the things that happened to me. Nobody seems to understand what happens to you when you endure somehthing like this. You lose any sense of who you are, you lose your feeling of security and safety, you literally lose yourself. I''m trying to come back, it's hard.
drowningontheinside 7 months ago
men are the most likely to commit violence and have more rage, women actually have little to do with anger and are more soft. Im not saying its just the men but its more likely that the men will do it.
355000 7 months ago
@355000 Nope your comment was 100% bullshit, well done.
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Mark10Fischer 8 months ago
good that this is being talked about at least. Out in the open.
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taylorMFilms 8 months ago
I wonder what the kids have to go through... God bless them.
littleBIGplanet30 8 months ago
Abusers need to be removed no doubt about it. But what happened to me a yera ago is unfathomable. I was the victim and when the DV case approached the plea phase(proving guilt phase) I got sued as the victim for NO REASON & without any
investigation for custodyof my child by the state as a VICTIM !!! The state tried to take my son away from me LONG after I lived alone with my son. After the DV I was legally traumatized.I won custody but ended up with PTSD. Horrible trauma I can not forget !
TheBlissfulSpirit 9 months ago
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For all the assholes making jokes or smart remarks about this video.
Shut. the. fuck. up.
the fact that one would even JOKE about these horrendous actions makes me weep for humanity. There is no reason that one should EVER strike another human being. It's only a way of empowerment and insecurity. to both MALES AN FEMALES.
it's not funny. this is serious.
portinaribe 9 months ago
@portinaribe
Good point. Agreed!
NoMorThanMost 7 months ago
To all of you who are confused and uninformed, the vast majority of domestic violence, 90%, is perpetrated by men. This is why the focus is mostly on men. If women abused at that rate, the focus would primarily be on them. Domestic violence perpetrated by men is the leading cause of death for women. As far as being called feminists, thank you. Feminism is a good word. It means equality. Women who advocate for equal rights and equal respect. Please educate yourselves!
GoldPitt54 9 months ago
@GoldPitt54
“Domestic violence, 90%, is perpetrated by men”? “Domestic violence... is the leading cause of death for women”? Did you bother researching DV or just a quick Google search? You know both of those statistics have been proven lies. I don’t false, I mean lies. No study has ever had either of those finds. Both of those statistics came from other studies that people later twisted around. You should check your sources before quoting them.
NoMorThanMost 7 months ago
@GoldPitt54
Read a few of the studies I posted below or do your own research. You’ll find your sources are why off and you’ll have a much more educated understanding of the whole DV issue. Don’t hate on a group of people just to make yourself feel better or hate them due to a lack of education. That is the type of crap the KKK and Nazis did and you should try not to make the same mistake. Ask questions seek answers and always check your sources or you’ll end up looking like a retard.
NoMorThanMost 7 months ago
@GoldPitt54 You're a liar. A flat out liar! it's 50/50 domestic violence men and women abuse as much. The leading cause of death among women isn't domestic violence! Feminism isn't a good word when you find otu who funded it and the deception it leads women into. Feminists don't want equal rights, they want more rights.
MadeByEduNotLaziness 5 months ago
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Reality: When WE ignore the majority of abuse victims (victims OF WOMEN) we'd might as well lend a hand to the abusers. Women commit the most dating, partner and spouse abuse, not men. Likewise, mothers commit the majority of child abuse & murders, not fathers. Stop blaming the most protective and stabilizing family member as an excuse for the real abuse - feminist lies ripping apart families through false abuse allegations and parental alienation child abuse, invisible, pandemic twin crimes.
addvoc8 9 months ago
Everyone, man, woman and child, can and do abuse others, objects or animals.
CJ0267 9 months ago
so what if father called his son stupid?So what if he slaped him?Thats how you become tough,i have friends that were not ever punished or slapped and now they are real pussies.
lemmycro 9 months ago
@lemmycro
Wow you couldnt be more retarded, first of all you can become "tough" without getting hit or verbally abused by your father, it's as simple as taking karate or boxing or other physical sports to increase your strength and physical fitness.
gatheringleaves 7 months ago
you ever notice how its always good looking shallow women who get abused well its because shallow women choose shallow abusive men go figure maby if women noticed nice guys that wouldent happen you know its true you cant deny it
legend956 9 months ago
The cycle of violence dont know gender nor age. Weak inside are those that act on the desire to have control and power over others,in the end it is always the fear of losing something you believed to hold value and pain and violence against yourself/others that traps you in enduring the circumstances. Is it no wonder most of us are living a lie..............
VoiceInBlackness 9 months ago
It's not power and control, most men that are abusive have been abused themselves one way or the other and turn their bad self outwards...
Sivels 9 months ago
Shut up woman cant you see two men are talking?
Padoryn 9 months ago
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NoMorThanMost 9 months ago
Please watch my music video " J Collins Time 2 Talk " the official video abot a dear friend who was killed from domestic violence.
jcollinsvideos 10 months ago
If these women are actually telling the truth, I feel bad for them. I know people personally that have had false charges by women for domestic violence or rape... just had to add that point.
MrSpemat 10 months ago
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Truth = CURE for Domestic violence. FACT: STUDIES show men are not the main abusers in the home or dating, WOMEN ARE. Studies also show that the main cause of domestic violence injuries & deaths to women are likewise because "women can do no wrong," and thus WOMEN attack their male partners over and over until the majority are injured or murdered. Yet we don't dare address the best protection = equality. Try true equality next time for best results. Propaganda & Hysteria = the real problem.
addvoc8 10 months ago
Can you post the music to this documentary. The singer is amazing. Very fitting for the movie. Watching these stories is opening my heart wider in the area of compassion. Its something we have to maintain, compassion for one another.
Demollicous 10 months ago
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You don't deserve to be treat that way, I am proud you had the strength to leave. Many women don't or can't <3
ayoungin92 10 months ago
You don't deserve to be treat that way, I am proud you had the strength to leave. Many women don't or can't <3
ayoungin92 10 months ago
Women and children aren't the only ones abused. What about the men who are?
Muchi134 10 months ago
Stop smoking dumb ass
Monsterxjelly 11 months ago
Once you're physically battered, you're mentally and emotional battered as well. No girl, woman, no matter age they are should EVER have to go through d.v.'s.
soccrroxmysox 1 year ago
@soccrroxmysox
Not true.
It is quite possible to be physically battered and not be emotionally battered just as it's possible to be mentally battered and not physically.
Also I notice where you said:
"No girl, woman, no matter age they are should EVER have to go through d.v.'s"
seems to imply that dv only matters when it's against a female. Men are abused just as much as women except men have no shelters, and no police and no therapists to turn to
Gendo3s2k 1 year ago
@Gendo3s2k - you are obviously here with the only motive to convince people that men get abused, too. while that is true, statistics show that women are far more likely to both be abused and killed. Those are stats from the Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data. I noticed you didn't name yours.
gjvmnd 1 year ago
@Gendo3s2k - You are as bad as the men these women talk about in this video. Just because women want to make other women aware of domestic violence and the help that is out there doesn't mean they are feminists. This isn't a biased video, it focuses on women who are abused. Go make a male abuse video if you are really that passionate about it and quit harassing people here. You are a coward hiding behind a keyboard.
gjvmnd 1 year ago 17
@gjvmnd and you're a pussy bitch. (hey, you don't get to be the only one hurling insults) I have the right to comment just as you do. And I don't HAVE to make a video if I don't want to. This is the way Feminists think: Believe as I do and if you disagree then you're an evil abusive rapist asshole and should STFU. And...I'm not following your logic? please elaborate on why you think I'm a cowardly keyboard jockey? you don't know anything about me or what I do when I'm not on the computer.
Gendo3s2k 10 months ago
@Gendo3s2k - that was such a grown up retort and not at all childish. nowhere in this video does it say abuse doesn't happen to men. just because they don't mention male abuse doesn't mean they don't think it happens. thats like saying a barry bonds special on ESPN means there aren't any other baseball players around. This video is about a specific portion of abused people, who just so happens to be the most likely to be abused. Your defensiveness says a lot about you, and none of it is good.
gjvmnd 10 months ago
@gjvmnd
1-1 Actually check the studies again. Abuse is equally likely to happen to men. It’s the same with male and female children. There are some differences in abuse rates between races but the difference stops there. Women are not the “most likely to be abused” as you claim. They are only the majority to receive the spotlight and help.
NoMorThanMost 10 months ago
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@gjvmnd
1-2 If you really care about all victims you’d try not to spread misinformation. Maybe you didn’t know and just bought into the hype without checking the facts. But the belief that women are more likely to be victims IS misinformation. DV has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with a lack of control on the part of the abuser.
NoMorThanMost 10 months ago
@gjvmnd
2-1 Also… I’ll agree this video don’t come right out and say men are not abused. But if the creators are really concerned with helping victims they wouldn’t turn it into something it’s not by focusing on one sex. And as I said, if you research, sex has nothing to do with it.
NoMorThanMost 10 months ago
@gjvmnd
2-2 If you where a victim of DV you’d be very upset over anything less than the true and the whole truth being presented on this issue. And people making videos with misinformation and ignoring some victims of a trauma you had endured would out right piss you off.
NoMorThanMost 10 months ago
@NoMorThanMost -Show me your stats saying men are equally likely to be abused. Because everything the Bureau of Justice Statistics says disagrees with you completely. Perhaps you need to do more research yourself and not let your emotions create statistics. Where does this video state it is the be all end all of everything domestic violence? Its not trying to ignore anything, it is focusing on the most prevalent demographic whether you and your pretend stats agree or not.
gjvmnd 10 months ago
@gjvmnd
I said for you to spend your own time researching DV and gender but I see you would rather attack my statements and tell me “[my] pretend stats” are just that… pretend. So I’ll do some of your homework for you:
Note: This going to long but you brought it up.
NoMorThanMost 9 months ago
@gjvmnd
Relationships Between Intimate Partner Violence and Well-Being (Journal of Marriage and Family and the National Survey of Families and Households 2002) 7,395 married and cohabiting heterosexual couples surveyed. Victim rates [were] higher among men (9%) than women (7%). In cases where only one partner was the abuser, more women (2%) than men (1%) were identified as perpetrators.
NoMorThanMost 9 months ago
@gjvmnd
Violent Intimacy, The Family as a Model for Love Relationships (Bernard, M. L. & Bernard, J. L.) Surveyed 461 college students; 15% of the men admitted to physically abusing their partners, while 21% of women admitted to physically abusing their partners.
NoMorThanMost 9 months ago
@gjvmnd
Domestic Violence in an Inner-City [Emergency Department] (Annals of Emergency Medicine Volume 30, Issue 2) Reviewed 516 New Orleans patients treated for spousal abuse. Of those 516, 28% men and 33% women were victims of past abuse. 20% men and 19% women reported being current victims of abuse. There was a significant difference in the number of women vs. men who reported past abuse to the police, 6% of men and 19% of women.
NoMorThanMost 9 months ago
@gjvmnd
1-1Also the USDJ is a poor place to get DV statistics. Why? It only reflects arrests, court filings or prosecutions. It does not control many other factors like false claims, acts not reported to police or acts that are reported and law enforcement disregards it.
NoMorThanMost 9 months ago
@gjvmnd
As a side note, the USDJ also quoted the CDC in saying “Each year, women experience about 4.8 million intimate partner related physical assaults and rapes. Men are the victims of about 2.9 million intimate partner related physical assaults.” That is roughly 5 women victims to 3 male victims. A much smaller number when compared side by side.
NoMorThanMost 9 months ago
@gjvmnd
Or try these:
Behavioral Sciences and the Law 17, pages 285-304
Addiction Research and Theory 12, pages 385-401
Youth Violence Trajectories and Proximal Characteristics of Intimate Partner Violence (2007). (Herrenkohl , Kosterman, Mason and Hawkins)
Violence and Victims, Volume 20, pages 251-259 by Amy Holtzworth-Munroe
Domestic Violence Is A Human Problem (2000) by Charles E. Corry, Ph.D. (Just a good article no real Info)
NoMorThanMost 9 months ago
@gjvmnd
For even more info try googling “battered husband syndrome”, “domestic violence gender differences” or “domestic violence against men”. You will find DV rates just as high.
NoMorThanMost 9 months ago
@gjvmnd
My statement was never “pretend”. Looks like to the only one playing pretend is you. I’d also like to know where your unbiased studies are supporting your beliefs. I understand your way of thinking. I thought the same thing once until I grew up, started thinking for myself and did my own research into this. You should stop being so close-minded and do the same.
NoMorThanMost 9 months ago
@NoMorThanMost- From a director's standpoint, they wanted to tell a story about women who were abused by men. That doesn't mean the director doesn't think men get abused. It is a specific story keying on a specific demographic. Its not intended to be the one stop shop for everything domestic violence, like you think it is/should be. I don't understand why you are so adamantly against telling a specific story. It seems like you are making more of this than is actually there.
gjvmnd 10 months ago
@gjvmnd
Other good sources of info for any who wants to really understand DV are:
nfvlrc D O T - O R G back slash LatestResearch back slash GeneralOverviews D O T – H T M (many good articles for all victims, male or female)
OregonCounseling website
Google “Billingham R. E. Domestic Violence”
Journal of Family Issues 20, pages 87-113 Domestic Violence
Children and Youth Services Review 30, pages 639-646
Google “M. J. George, Domestic Violence”
NoMorThanMost 9 months ago
@gjvmnd Hey don't be stupid, you have to know that men are the ones who foster Domestic violence,its whole caused by men who are extremists, they don't know how to handle a family instead they resort to abuse. 60% of their brains create the attitudes that women are meant to be their subordinates, they are always jealous of even little things, their incompetent because they can't handle relationship. I am man but I want you to reason,
henrytimsonmak 6 months ago
and that's how feminists think "He was trained from an early age to never hit a woman, so I can hit him as much as I want and he won't do anything about it" and they hit him and hit him and hit him until he snaps and hits her back. At which point, she calls the cops and he's arrested for DV. If you were in a relationship with a REAL abuser, he wouldn't hold back and simply kick your ass
Gendo3s2k 1 year ago
@Gendo3s2k
well if she is hitting him all the time i will admit she needs help.but quit hating eveyones comments especially mine and try to be mature
msButterflyFlowers 1 year ago
The only time I've ever been Domestically abused is being pepper sprayed by my abusive mom for defending my dad from my her. It was totally stupid. He was cooking dinner, and my mom wanted him to take her somewhere. he refused because he was busy, it escalated, next thing I know she goes to her room, grabs pepper spray and sprays him in the eye with it. I tried to take it from her, and she sprayed me. when the police got there, she had this smug look on her face like she was totally justified
Gendo3s2k 1 year ago
@Gendo3s2k How did the police handle that one mate? Was she arrested?
taffwob 10 months ago
@taffwob Nope. Nothing happened. I moved out of there several years ago and as far as I know, they're fine and the old lady isn't going apeshit anymore so I guess that's good for them (If that is, indeed how things are going). But as far as "The Statistics" are concerned. Nothing ever happened that night or any other time she's gone off the handle.
Gendo3s2k 10 months ago
Abortion is the worst form of domestic violence.
excelmaster7 1 year ago
13 years...... im 15.
you can bring in all the class speakers you want. and nobody will understand until they see they're friend walk into the classroom with a black eye and a bitten arm.
then maybe it'll sink in.
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LEMOY121 1 year ago
Im a man,why am I watching this?
serioushamster 1 year ago
lol maybe these women shouldn't be beating on their man and maybe he wouldn't hit them back
Gendo3s2k 1 year ago
@Gendo3s2k You're a fucking idiot!
Licitari 1 year ago
@Licitari You're a fucking idiot!
see what I did there??
Gendo3s2k 1 year ago
well Gendo maybe you should get your ass beat everyday and see what they are going through and stop being the supporter of those selfish bastards that puts those women through hell.think about how it makes them feel.if a man touches me and i mean EVER i swear to god he will wake up in hell where he belongs.
msButterflyFlowers 1 year ago
@msButterflyFlowers lolol what a dumb fucking bitch! Hey did you pay attention in Reading Comprehension class? Or do feminists not care about things like that? I say that because no matter what anyone says, the manage to TOTALLY miss the point go straight to "YOU MISOGYNIST" or "YOU WOMAN BEATER" or they like to use ad hominem attacks like "Does no one love you and that's why you HATE women?" a bunch of dumb fucking bitches.
Where have I ever said that I support men beating women?
Gendo3s2k 1 year ago
@msButterflyFlowers 70% of Domestic Violence is initiated by the woman (Meaning she hit him, and he hit her back) which is why I said "Maybe all these women shouldn't be attacking their man, and he won't hit her back" afterall, a man who's 5'5, 150lbs wouldn't attack another man who's 6'7, 250lbs. what I'm advocating is equality.
Not to mention that you seem to think it's totally acceptable to Kill a man in his sleep because he "touched" you? wow, I bet you feel real EMPOWERED.
Gendo3s2k 1 year ago
@Gendo3s2k
i am not a "dumb fucking bitch"
it seems to me that you missed the point of my statement.i meant that if a man hits me i would beat the living shit out of him.i really think you need to stop calling me a "dumb fucking bitch" because i doesnt matter if you like it or not,i have my own opinion.too bad so sad.and if you told me in person that i was too weak to stand up for myself or not take shit from anybody i would have laughed in your face.WHAT A FUCKTARD!!!
msButterflyFlowers 1 year ago
@msButterflyFlowers lol If you want to convince anyone that you're not a dumb fucking bitch, then how about doing so without making dumb bitch comments. I never said that you were too weak to stand up for yourself, however, I will now. You *are* too weak. It seems that feminists have this delusion that they're somehow able to beat up a guy who is way bigger/stronger/faster than them. It's just NOT going to happen unless you're attacking him and he doesn't attack you back.
Gendo3s2k 1 year ago
@Gendo3s2k
it does not matter if you said it or not.that is not a delusion.walk up to me in person and see if you have the guts to try and talk to me that why and you will be getting off the floor
msButterflyFlowers 1 year ago
@msButterflyFlowers So you're going to Assault me because I'm calling you an idiot? Wow, you sure are violent Why are you so violent against men??
also. lol @ deluded girl who thinks she can beat up a man
Gendo3s2k 1 year ago
@Gendo3s2k
no i would not assault you for calling me an idiot.and i am not deluded.also im not violent against men.i just dont take shit from people.now go find someone else to bother besides me.
okay byee
msButterflyFlowers 1 year ago
I know this is only a short excerpt from the film, but I'm very disappointed in what I've seen. The developers, like society itself, only look at one side of domestic violence, that of the female victims. Apparently, to many people, violence against women and domestic abuse are one in the same, ignorant to the fact that statistics show women are more likely to engage in physical abuse than men, or to the fact that men are just as likely to be in abusive relationships. This is biased journalism.
TheOmegaParadigm 1 year ago 2
@TheOmegaParadigm
Excellent point!!! I have never in my life hit a female, and I never would. But I have been hit many times by women and just walked away. This is absolute biased journalism!!
wslydaniels 1 year ago
@wslydaniels I appreciate your praise, but I have to ask as to why you would never hit a woman, even in situation where one is attacking you? And please, make a reason, an actual reason, rather than just saying "it's wrong".
TheOmegaParadigm 1 year ago
@TheOmegaParadigm
The reason is because I would be afraid of causing permanent damage. Dont get me wrong, I would if I had to. But that situation has never come up. Although, I have had to toss a couple of girlfriends when they were attacking me.
wslydaniels 1 year ago