I'm a lesbian and I'm right in a middle of a love relationship with a bisexual woman that has TRAPPED ME, LIED TO ME and BETRAYED ME, she said that she was a bisexual 8 months after the beginning of our story and Ive caught her on straight porn videos and now she says that she thinks of sex with male and being turned on by men EVEN WHEN I'M WITH HER....BISEXUALS CAN'T BE TRUSTED AND THEY LL ALWAYS CHEAT ON LESBIANS....I'll NEVER date ANY BISEXUALS EVER again...I'm not biphobic, but I HATE YOU
Oops my previous comment didn't get fully posted... -.- I was just saying how I wish that everyone with doubts on bisexuals could watch this, so they could at least try to understand :)
Thank you for posting this video! I'm a thirteen year old bi girl, and one of the reasons I haven't come out yet is people saying, "It's just a phase," On websites like childline, loads of people have said that they asked their parents about it, and they said, "Oh don't worry. It's just a phase, you're just confused. It's all a part of growing up." It gets me SO annoyed. Also when my parents automatically assume I'm straight. -.-
Anyway, thanks for posting this, I wish everyone with doubts on b
This is probably random, but this video reminds me of the "Vital Information" part of the 90's show "All That."
For me it kind of is. It's funny to me because everything is like "duh" you know. I'm not slutty, gay, or strait, nor am I being trendy. I don't know about the rest of the world but being bisexual was a trend at my school. All the girls were just slutty and trying to attract guys. If you told anyone you were bisexual, that's what they would think of you.
What complicates things is the way people use the term. Online some guys call themselves "bi" to signify they are married to women and fuck around with guys. And then there are women who call themselves "bi" though they only do that to please and attract straight men. That is very different from someone who is bisexual and out because they identify as the B in the LGBT community. People need to keep in mind that Behavior, Orientation and Identity are not always the same things.
This is such a fantastic video. It is seriously so inspiring to me when people bravely stand up for people like this. Faith in humanity restoration of the day competed.
Subscribed. Thank you for having something intelligent to say. I saw you liked Lizzieradio's version of my song. Hope you might check out the rest of my music. x
@shessomickey I'm working on doing a heavier cover of her song 'Whe Your Around' I'm really excited about. Looking forward to looking through your videos! x
I both agree and disagree. I agree bisexual people are just people, but just like any other person who strays from what is considered normal they will be subject to ridicule. It sucks and I wish it wasn't that way, but it is and there's not much to be done about it because people will think whatever they want to.
I disagree with it not being their choice. It is their choice and saying it's not is just another way for them to blame something or someone else for their choices. My opinion.
Hi, I am both Bigender and Bisexual. Something I have to constantly explain is that I am NOT bisexual because I am bigender. When I male and when I am female, I like both males and females. I am also so sick of people saying that people (girls in particular) are only bi to attract male attention. We aren't and the girls giving us that name need to stop. Seriously. This is a wonderful video and you are a very intelligent lady. I am glad my friend Catherine recommended you on facebook. :)
(cont.d. sorry for length >w<) help that person, and in fact hurts them. You don't know what they think about at night in bed. It's arrogant to think that just by interacting with someone you can understand something as complex as their sexuality. The best thing anyone can do as an ally is listen, non-judgmentally.
(cont. d) it didn't apply any longer so I now identify as pansexual, or just queer. Other people (and later in my life, I) might change how they identify because they actually feel like a change has come over them. Other people might have thought they were one thing, and through a process of self-discovery realize they were something else. The only things these have in common is how little that should matter to anyone else. Telling someone else you think they're gay does absolutely NOTHING to..
Great video! Found you through vlogbrothers, and I'm so glad I did. You can express things in my head that, with my shitty communication skills, I can only splutter about. Thank you!
The way I see it, it doesn't MATTER whether or not someone changes the sexuality they identify as, or stays the same their entire life. No one else should feel like they have the right to tell you what your sexuality is. It is internal. I identified as bisexual for a while. When I realized I was genderqueer...
I'm seriously getting sick and tired of being called slutty all the time, so thank you for this video. I may sometimes be slightly confused as to what my gender is, but my sexuality always remains the same and it is NOT a phase nor am I confused about it. Also, another pet-peeve: as a somewhat attractive woman, I often get asked (mostly by men) if they could watch. NO. You may not. I will punchu you if you ask me this one more time. Argh.
I wish teachers in highschool could teach this because kids can get so mean.
I have a friend that's bi and he has always been labeled HORRIBLE stuff. I am always in awe at how well he handles it, though. Amazingly after years of teasing he has the toughest skin I have ever seen.
I am completely pro-queer, but really, even i have trouble with this.
I was in the process of starting a Gay-Straight Alliance at my school, and still found myself poking fun at my gay (EXCUSE ME- bisexual) friend, for not "admitting" he was gay. You can see right that that I even typed it out as gay, because that's how convinced i was that he was "confused"
honestly, I'm upset with myself about this, but everyone has a little bigotry in them, and i'm trying to rid myself of it
@CrowwnThief I'm glad you are trying to understand your friend's sexuality better. I'm sure you can imagine it's very frustrating for bi people to constantly be questioned and marginalized, especially from friends. Good luck.
I totally agree with most of what you said. But my mind does come back to the time in many people's lives where they question what their personal taboos are and experiment. In my experiment "straight" is the position that most people experiment from, and "bisexual" is the second. Most people I know end up settling on straight as their discovered, realized, and understood sexual preference, but whatever position they end up at, bisexual included, it deserves respect, especially if they tested it.
I think I tried to post this comment before, but it didn't work. Do you watch UK Skins? In the last season, the characters start grilling this girl as to her orientation. They ask her if she's bi, or if shes "into guys or girls". She pauses for a second and just says "I'm into people." IMO, it was pretty much the best answer ever.
@littlecookie369 As far as I understand, pansexual people are attracted to *personalities* -- gender is just another trait, like hair color or height. I recommend the wikipedia page, as it is more eloquent than I am (=
(ending to my other comment) -------- bisexuality. Bisexuality is as you stated, but not a lot of people perceive it that way. I agree with you wholeheartedly. But even I have a fear (from an insecurity of sexual organs lol) of being in a relationship with a bisexual person.
The reason you had to post this video is the reason people don't put their 'trust' in bisexuality. This is what is called a 'self fufilling prophecy stereotype'. Not all bisexual people are completely open to their sexuality. Therefore, a lot of 'gay' (as a whole) people have been 'hurt' by a bisexual who leaves them for the opposite sex, because the individual is open enough for a physical and somewhat mental/emotional relationship, but not a full-on commitment. Therefore it creates a fear of
*applauds* It's awesome because I have ended up with a man but had a very happy relationship with a woman for a few years. The comments of "Oh I'm glad you're over that phase.." are a killer. =\
@InnocenceExperience Why would it? I know it's not a perfect metaphor, but if a person likes both blondes and brunettes, it's not like being with one would be too hard because they also liked the other.
@shessomickey I don't think its an adequate analogy because they're both woman and the lust for woman could be satisfied by one. If you lust after both sexes but are with one partner, won't you miss sex with the other and feel like that part of you isn't fulfilled? At some point will you be able to get married to say a man and accept you'll never have sex with a woman again?
I believe you if you say yes. I was just wondering.
@InnocenceExperience I think that whomever a bisexual person ends up marrying or staying with, the love and devotion she feels to that partner will outweigh everything else. Sex is just one part of life, one part of relationships.
this is cool. I kinda think that my sexuality is a "phase" tho, in the sense that it has changed and it will change, as has absolutely everything in my life, and there's nothing wrong with that, life is change. I think that we pick the wrong argument when deny that it's a phase, and it actually helps perpetuate the idea of coming out as something bad. so what if it's a phase? it's what I'm going through right now.
@pete275 People absolutely re-define their sexualities over their lives, but I was pushing against the idea that *all* bisexual people are going to end up some other way. Some folks who consider themselves bi might refine or change that label, but some people just are bi!
@shessomickey right, but unless you have a crystal ball, how can you tell? my point is that by responding so defensively about the issue, it implies that it's "bad" to be on a phase and to change, and we get offended when we're told that that's what we're doing. but there's nothing wrong with change, and we can't see into the future, so who cares?
@pete275 I think a lot of that stigma translates into coming out, because coming out is basically changing, but we're supposed to be always the same, and the mantra is "this is what I am, and this is what I've always been and this is what I'll always be". that adds a lot of anxiety to the coming out process, and the process of figuring yourself out
@pete275 I think that she said things that way to make it clear that there are people who won't change about there bisexuality. It's to afirm bisexuality as a sexual orientation and not always a phase as some people might think. If we can change anytime (and we do), then we wouldn't ever say we are something (for example, gay or straight).
@itsveryniceparaxuxu but that's based on the idea that being on a phase is "bad" and having a solid unchanging sexuality label is "good". that doesn't make sense. I agree with your conclusion tho, I think labels are useless and harmful.
@pete275 I think we agree with each other, we only said it in different ways and saw different sides of the subject. I agree with you about being on a phase not meaning something necessarily bad.
Great job describing and great video. =) This is fantastic and I'm glad you made it. I'm tired of people thinking bisexual people are just slutty and want to hook up. Or confused. It's ridiculous.
There is no black and white or even black, white and grey. But rather a whole spectrum. The way I view sexuality is you have a type of person you fancy. It might be tall, blonde women or short, black men (or more likely on here cute British boys with emo haircuts!) lots of people like both blondes and brunettes just as some people like both men and women. Also many people find preferences change as we get older. As a teen I never dreamed that at 25 I would be most attracted to Geeks...but I am!
What's the difference between bisexual or pansexual? I mean, thinking of it from the latin words, it's not like there's a third category, unless they're just being thoughtful enough to include the hermaphrodites out there... I.... I dunno, I seriously just don't get it. I'd appreciate your explanation.
@superfox1080 Sure thing! A friend described it to me as being attracted to personalities, not bodies. The person's gender is kind of a secondary feature. The Wikipedia page has a great explanation, too!
as a bisexual, one of the most irritating things is being called a lesbian or "half lesbian" so thank you for explaining that it is a branch of sexual orientation completely independent of all other
Great video. It was nice to see your face again :) ... you should do more "is not" videos. This topic is one that I agree with totally. It amazes me how uneducated people can be about bisexuality. Even gay's and lesbian's seem to have the wrong impression of bisexuals as well. the alphabet soup of sexualities is more than just gay & straight and people should keep up to date. so thanks for helping.
[cont. - 2 of 2] There's plenty of gray area - though some people can be fixed/settled in their given sexual preference, it is also not unheard of for a person to switch gender preference over a lifetime. I suppose it's this kind of ambiguity that inadvertently perpetuates stereotyping. The real problem is that some of those who are prone to making assumptions (false or otherwise) aren't open-minded enough to see past their preconceived notions.
For instance, I think I read somewhere that Elton John formerly thought he was 100% gay, then later found he liked women too. To what degree, I don't know. He might personally identify as being mostly gay, but that is irrelevant. The point is that this can be better accounted for through the Kinsean view of human sexuality: that people fall somewhere within a broader spectrum of sexual orientation. [cont. - 1 of 2]
I sympathize with your annoyance. And yeah, I'm inclined to agree that there are bi people who are openly bi in the way that you describe, but... there are also those who fit into some of the other stereotypes you pointed out too. However, I think this sort of "inconsistency" can be found among those who profess any given sexual preference, whether gay, straight, bi, etc. Stories of gays turning straight or vice versa, to the genuine surprise of all parties involved, sometimes actually happen.
As nice as it is to see a new video by you, I find it sad that some folks need to be reminded, at least until you consider the ignorance that propels laws like the Defense of Marriage Act, then it starts to make more sense in a sad sort of way - not to get all political.
What's your whole stance on asexuality? A lot of the time I'm told that it's just because I'm a late bloomer or I'll find someone eventually, and no one really seems to understand the concept.
@kazekun123 I think it's one of the most difficult things to understand for non-asexual people, but I do my best to imagine you complexly! So I guess I have no stance per se, just love and acceptance and a willingness to learn more about what is unfamiliar to me. I'm under the impression that there are some really swell resources online for asexual people, too!
People who genuinely are bisexual are that. However there are also those who use bisexuality as a way to just get off, and gays and lesbians also do use bisexual as a step out of the door, to make it easier for their families and friends when they do fully come out. I have talked to people who have done that.
If they have sexual attraction to both men and women, power to em.
@ChateauOfADoubt actually, a lot of people who are pansexual see bisexual people as not recognizing that gender is fluid, and therefore discriminatory.
When I saw this in my sub box I thought this is going to be great and it did not disappoint! Everything in this video so needed to be said. I'll be posting it everywhere.
I can relate to a lot of the things people think bisexuality is. For example, when my mother found out that I'm gay, she thought it was just a phase, and proceeded to tell me that all the gay people who have been going through this "phase" their whole lives are “sickos”. (She now believes that God has healed me of my 'affliction' and refuses to accept anything else.)
Anyway, it's nice to see one of the best YouTubers adding a video. Keep them coming, please, Amanda. <3
But you can't deny that many boys and girls do dawn on the title as bisexual to either set them apart, set them in the trend or to make them seem hotter. I'm not denying that people can be attracted and fall in love with someone of either gender. I do believe it is written in biological code as well as molded through environmental situations through out childhood.(Neither being more effective than the other) But I am denying the validity of many people's claims to bisexuality.
@Rustyizcool I think people abuse words all the time, but I'm focusing more on people who genuinely consider themselves to be bisexual, since they are who most often get marginalized. There will always be girls getting drunk at parties and making out with other girls for attention / cool points, sure, but I'm more concerned with the bisexual woman who is told that "Oh, it's just a phase" or "You'll find a nice man eventually." She needs defending.
It seems like you're overly passionate about this topic (not that I disagreed with anything you said), so I'm sorry, but it begs the question; are you bisexual?
I really wish there was no reason to make a video like this, but since there so obviously is, I'm very glad you were the one to do it, because this is excellent :)
@VloggerQueen17 You shouldn't be offended by a writer if one of their Characters says something like that. Kurt's opinion is his. Not his writer's. Also his comment was to further prove a point and show a point of view. But I'm really defending writers. Just because a writer writes a line of dialog for a character that doesn't mean he or she agrees with it. They just feel like the character would. If a man writes a book with the Character being a mean-spirited racist doesn't mean he's racist.
@Rustyizcool I mean, I'm a writer too and I see your point, but even though they're writing something that is meant to be formulated by a teenage mind, some of the things they say are a bit too critical and demeaning for cable TV.
That was wonderful. One thing that has always bothered me, though, is when girls claim to be bisexual and you can never be sure if they mean it, or if it's just for attention. I always assume the former, just to give people the benefit of the doubt, but it would bother me if people were using bisexuality as a way to steal the limelight.
I realise how similar this is going to sound to all other comments on this video, but: It is awful that in our apparently permissive society someone has to do this (and I admire the passionate conviction with which you spoke here, btw), but I applaud you for doing so.
I'm going to show this to my parents when I come out.
hayhay509 1 month ago
How do you even speak that fast.
BizarreLilCreature 1 month ago
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I'm a lesbian and I'm right in a middle of a love relationship with a bisexual woman that has TRAPPED ME, LIED TO ME and BETRAYED ME, she said that she was a bisexual 8 months after the beginning of our story and Ive caught her on straight porn videos and now she says that she thinks of sex with male and being turned on by men EVEN WHEN I'M WITH HER....BISEXUALS CAN'T BE TRUSTED AND THEY LL ALWAYS CHEAT ON LESBIANS....I'll NEVER date ANY BISEXUALS EVER again...I'm not biphobic, but I HATE YOU
christellester 1 month ago
Oops my previous comment didn't get fully posted... -.- I was just saying how I wish that everyone with doubts on bisexuals could watch this, so they could at least try to understand :)
SpoonGirlToTheRescue 1 month ago
Thank you for posting this video! I'm a thirteen year old bi girl, and one of the reasons I haven't come out yet is people saying, "It's just a phase," On websites like childline, loads of people have said that they asked their parents about it, and they said, "Oh don't worry. It's just a phase, you're just confused. It's all a part of growing up." It gets me SO annoyed. Also when my parents automatically assume I'm straight. -.-
Anyway, thanks for posting this, I wish everyone with doubts on b
SpoonGirlToTheRescue 1 month ago
ALE SZYBKO POPIERDALA (thats f**king fast)
P2Trix 1 month ago
@NoNeedForBeat I love you too :)
shessomickey 2 months ago
GAH!! I can't hug you through my screen :( *subscribes like mad!*
ExperimentalREM 2 months ago
@ExperimentalREM *hug* Thank you for your kindness! Welcome!
shessomickey 2 months ago
This is probably random, but this video reminds me of the "Vital Information" part of the 90's show "All That."
For me it kind of is. It's funny to me because everything is like "duh" you know. I'm not slutty, gay, or strait, nor am I being trendy. I don't know about the rest of the world but being bisexual was a trend at my school. All the girls were just slutty and trying to attract guys. If you told anyone you were bisexual, that's what they would think of you.
philopnia 3 months ago
What complicates things is the way people use the term. Online some guys call themselves "bi" to signify they are married to women and fuck around with guys. And then there are women who call themselves "bi" though they only do that to please and attract straight men. That is very different from someone who is bisexual and out because they identify as the B in the LGBT community. People need to keep in mind that Behavior, Orientation and Identity are not always the same things.
strangestringsnyc 3 months ago
False! All humans deserve immediate disintegration!!
jaerauq77 3 months ago
Thanks.
KendrixTermina 4 months ago
hi Amanda..thanks for your video; i really liked it!! bi pride!!
shaunitad 5 months ago
just.... WOW
NeoDiego0402 5 months ago
This is such a fantastic video. It is seriously so inspiring to me when people bravely stand up for people like this. Faith in humanity restoration of the day competed.
raidonthestadiar 6 months ago
@raidonthestadiar *completed, obvz
raidonthestadiar 6 months ago
@raidonthestadiar Well, thank you very much!
shessomickey 6 months ago
@BeccaRothwellify Thank you so much, Becca! And yay, feminist conferences! :D
shessomickey 7 months ago 2
I love you.
cafewisconsin 7 months ago 10
@cafewisconsin :] *hug*
shessomickey 7 months ago
thiss video helped me alot... idk if im bi... but this video helped me to not be afraid to say it if i am...
musicjonas92 7 months ago
Damn u speak fast now I understand wat people r talking about when they tell me to slow dwn
isaac3rdcoin 7 months ago
Subscribed. Thank you for having something intelligent to say. I saw you liked Lizzieradio's version of my song. Hope you might check out the rest of my music. x
guyjonesmusic 7 months ago
@guyjonesmusic Thank you! I'm a friend of Lizzie's, and I was eager to subscribe after I quite enjoyed her cover (=
shessomickey 7 months ago
@shessomickey I'm working on doing a heavier cover of her song 'Whe Your Around' I'm really excited about. Looking forward to looking through your videos! x
guyjonesmusic 7 months ago
Gays in waiting lol what a great phrase! Great video!
Felicityhelix 8 months ago
This is awesome. Thanks :).
clumsyiscoool 9 months ago
I both agree and disagree. I agree bisexual people are just people, but just like any other person who strays from what is considered normal they will be subject to ridicule. It sucks and I wish it wasn't that way, but it is and there's not much to be done about it because people will think whatever they want to.
I disagree with it not being their choice. It is their choice and saying it's not is just another way for them to blame something or someone else for their choices. My opinion.
TheJediGinger 10 months ago
@TheJediGinger Do you think being gay or being straight is a choice?
Diamondelight92 10 months ago
@Diamondelight92 It is a choice. And it's our God given free will that lets us decide.
TheJediGinger 10 months ago
Hi, I am both Bigender and Bisexual. Something I have to constantly explain is that I am NOT bisexual because I am bigender. When I male and when I am female, I like both males and females. I am also so sick of people saying that people (girls in particular) are only bi to attract male attention. We aren't and the girls giving us that name need to stop. Seriously. This is a wonderful video and you are a very intelligent lady. I am glad my friend Catherine recommended you on facebook. :)
0xPhoenixCursedx0 10 months ago
(cont.d. sorry for length >w<) help that person, and in fact hurts them. You don't know what they think about at night in bed. It's arrogant to think that just by interacting with someone you can understand something as complex as their sexuality. The best thing anyone can do as an ally is listen, non-judgmentally.
MsHanners14 10 months ago
(cont. d) it didn't apply any longer so I now identify as pansexual, or just queer. Other people (and later in my life, I) might change how they identify because they actually feel like a change has come over them. Other people might have thought they were one thing, and through a process of self-discovery realize they were something else. The only things these have in common is how little that should matter to anyone else. Telling someone else you think they're gay does absolutely NOTHING to..
MsHanners14 10 months ago
Great video! Found you through vlogbrothers, and I'm so glad I did. You can express things in my head that, with my shitty communication skills, I can only splutter about. Thank you!
The way I see it, it doesn't MATTER whether or not someone changes the sexuality they identify as, or stays the same their entire life. No one else should feel like they have the right to tell you what your sexuality is. It is internal. I identified as bisexual for a while. When I realized I was genderqueer...
MsHanners14 10 months ago
I'm seriously getting sick and tired of being called slutty all the time, so thank you for this video. I may sometimes be slightly confused as to what my gender is, but my sexuality always remains the same and it is NOT a phase nor am I confused about it. Also, another pet-peeve: as a somewhat attractive woman, I often get asked (mostly by men) if they could watch. NO. You may not. I will punchu you if you ask me this one more time. Argh.
parvanaturalia 10 months ago 20
@parvanaturalia *punch See, I get so angered over this that typos run me over.
parvanaturalia 10 months ago
@parvanaturalia *hug* You have a whole lifetime to think about who you are and how you want to define yourself. I'm glad you liked the video <3
shessomickey 10 months ago 3
@parvanaturalia *respect high-five from a non-douchy man*
GuyNamedHonzik 6 days ago
@GuyNamedHonzik Thanks, non-douchy man! :D
parvanaturalia 6 days ago
I love you :)
xSweetFancyMoses 10 months ago
If you can be gay, and you can be straight, I don't see why you can't be both.
genericRUSHfan 10 months ago
I wish teachers in highschool could teach this because kids can get so mean.
I have a friend that's bi and he has always been labeled HORRIBLE stuff. I am always in awe at how well he handles it, though. Amazingly after years of teasing he has the toughest skin I have ever seen.
UnParapluieBleu 10 months ago
I am completely pro-queer, but really, even i have trouble with this.
I was in the process of starting a Gay-Straight Alliance at my school, and still found myself poking fun at my gay (EXCUSE ME- bisexual) friend, for not "admitting" he was gay. You can see right that that I even typed it out as gay, because that's how convinced i was that he was "confused"
honestly, I'm upset with myself about this, but everyone has a little bigotry in them, and i'm trying to rid myself of it
good video
CrowwnThief 10 months ago 3
@CrowwnThief I'm glad you are trying to understand your friend's sexuality better. I'm sure you can imagine it's very frustrating for bi people to constantly be questioned and marginalized, especially from friends. Good luck.
shessomickey 10 months ago 9
A fantastic video. Thank you for making it.
ExquisiteDefect 10 months ago
This is such a great video. :)
KennaKatherine 11 months ago
Some people in my class believe otherwise. It's so annoying.
LethalLemonLime 11 months ago
I totally agree with most of what you said. But my mind does come back to the time in many people's lives where they question what their personal taboos are and experiment. In my experiment "straight" is the position that most people experiment from, and "bisexual" is the second. Most people I know end up settling on straight as their discovered, realized, and understood sexual preference, but whatever position they end up at, bisexual included, it deserves respect, especially if they tested it.
QuestionMarc 11 months ago
I think I tried to post this comment before, but it didn't work. Do you watch UK Skins? In the last season, the characters start grilling this girl as to her orientation. They ask her if she's bi, or if shes "into guys or girls". She pauses for a second and just says "I'm into people." IMO, it was pretty much the best answer ever.
TokedStokedMusic 11 months ago 2
@TokedStokedMusic I did watch Skins, and that sounds pretty rad!
shessomickey 11 months ago
hey... what's the difference between pansexual and bisexual??
littlecookie369 11 months ago
@littlecookie369 As far as I understand, pansexual people are attracted to *personalities* -- gender is just another trait, like hair color or height. I recommend the wikipedia page, as it is more eloquent than I am (=
shessomickey 11 months ago
(ending to my other comment) -------- bisexuality. Bisexuality is as you stated, but not a lot of people perceive it that way. I agree with you wholeheartedly. But even I have a fear (from an insecurity of sexual organs lol) of being in a relationship with a bisexual person.
paigemcneil 11 months ago
The reason you had to post this video is the reason people don't put their 'trust' in bisexuality. This is what is called a 'self fufilling prophecy stereotype'. Not all bisexual people are completely open to their sexuality. Therefore, a lot of 'gay' (as a whole) people have been 'hurt' by a bisexual who leaves them for the opposite sex, because the individual is open enough for a physical and somewhat mental/emotional relationship, but not a full-on commitment. Therefore it creates a fear of
paigemcneil 11 months ago
thank you. really.
blue872872 11 months ago
It's cool that you talked about bisexuality because really often bisexuals are depreciated over straight and gay people.
itsveryniceparaxuxu 11 months ago
*applauds* It's awesome because I have ended up with a man but had a very happy relationship with a woman for a few years. The comments of "Oh I'm glad you're over that phase.." are a killer. =\
srm86 11 months ago
@srm86 *hug* I'm sorry you have to go through that. People are just insensitive, sometimes.
shessomickey 11 months ago
right on.
mrfezman 11 months ago
You're too young to be so smart so you just cut it out.
iveena 11 months ago 4
@iveena Haha, aww, stop that! ;)
shessomickey 11 months ago 2
thank you really much for that video =)
XxLevynxX 11 months ago
doesn't it make it hard to be with one person though?
InnocenceExperience 11 months ago
@InnocenceExperience Why would it? I know it's not a perfect metaphor, but if a person likes both blondes and brunettes, it's not like being with one would be too hard because they also liked the other.
shessomickey 11 months ago
@shessomickey I don't think its an adequate analogy because they're both woman and the lust for woman could be satisfied by one. If you lust after both sexes but are with one partner, won't you miss sex with the other and feel like that part of you isn't fulfilled? At some point will you be able to get married to say a man and accept you'll never have sex with a woman again?
I believe you if you say yes. I was just wondering.
InnocenceExperience 11 months ago
@InnocenceExperience I think that whomever a bisexual person ends up marrying or staying with, the love and devotion she feels to that partner will outweigh everything else. Sex is just one part of life, one part of relationships.
shessomickey 11 months ago 2
@shessomickey Cool.
InnocenceExperience 11 months ago
this is cool. I kinda think that my sexuality is a "phase" tho, in the sense that it has changed and it will change, as has absolutely everything in my life, and there's nothing wrong with that, life is change. I think that we pick the wrong argument when deny that it's a phase, and it actually helps perpetuate the idea of coming out as something bad. so what if it's a phase? it's what I'm going through right now.
pete275 11 months ago
@pete275 People absolutely re-define their sexualities over their lives, but I was pushing against the idea that *all* bisexual people are going to end up some other way. Some folks who consider themselves bi might refine or change that label, but some people just are bi!
shessomickey 11 months ago
@shessomickey right, but unless you have a crystal ball, how can you tell? my point is that by responding so defensively about the issue, it implies that it's "bad" to be on a phase and to change, and we get offended when we're told that that's what we're doing. but there's nothing wrong with change, and we can't see into the future, so who cares?
pete275 11 months ago
@pete275 I think a lot of that stigma translates into coming out, because coming out is basically changing, but we're supposed to be always the same, and the mantra is "this is what I am, and this is what I've always been and this is what I'll always be". that adds a lot of anxiety to the coming out process, and the process of figuring yourself out
pete275 11 months ago
@pete275 I think that she said things that way to make it clear that there are people who won't change about there bisexuality. It's to afirm bisexuality as a sexual orientation and not always a phase as some people might think. If we can change anytime (and we do), then we wouldn't ever say we are something (for example, gay or straight).
itsveryniceparaxuxu 11 months ago
@itsveryniceparaxuxu their*
itsveryniceparaxuxu 11 months ago
@itsveryniceparaxuxu but that's based on the idea that being on a phase is "bad" and having a solid unchanging sexuality label is "good". that doesn't make sense. I agree with your conclusion tho, I think labels are useless and harmful.
pete275 11 months ago
@pete275 I think we agree with each other, we only said it in different ways and saw different sides of the subject. I agree with you about being on a phase not meaning something necessarily bad.
itsveryniceparaxuxu 11 months ago
Girl, why have I not subscribed to you before now? Keep being awesome.
ceruleancelandine 11 months ago
@ceruleancelandine Hey, thanks so much! Welcome!
shessomickey 11 months ago
Amen, sister. I'm getting SO freaking tired of insecure people telling me who I am and where I belong.
Thank you.
ancientharp 11 months ago
Here here! I always get upset when even my gay friends speak ill about bisexual people. They're still people, people! :)
TheMissingSignal 11 months ago
Cool :-)
NatashaWong92 11 months ago
Girl, you totally said it. Big fat kudos to you :]
Oh, and hi! I do believe we were in a collab together recently?
MisterLooKass 1 year ago
@MisterLooKass :D I believe we did! Hallo, I'm Amanda!
shessomickey 1 year ago
@shessomickey Lucas, pleased to meet you. I'm sure we'll cross paths again in the future :]
MisterLooKass 1 year ago
Loud and proud.
emmfan09 1 year ago
Great job describing and great video. =) This is fantastic and I'm glad you made it. I'm tired of people thinking bisexual people are just slutty and want to hook up. Or confused. It's ridiculous.
desertislanddream 1 year ago
There is no black and white or even black, white and grey. But rather a whole spectrum. The way I view sexuality is you have a type of person you fancy. It might be tall, blonde women or short, black men (or more likely on here cute British boys with emo haircuts!) lots of people like both blondes and brunettes just as some people like both men and women. Also many people find preferences change as we get older. As a teen I never dreamed that at 25 I would be most attracted to Geeks...but I am!
DINGONERD 1 year ago
Hear, hear. Love the person no matter whom the person loves.
gotz4catz 1 year ago
thank you so much for this video! it definitely needed to be said :)
psushgirl 1 year ago
thank you for this
everydayandrew88 1 year ago
Found you through Peter's video. Very well thought out points. Interesting video. Good work!
davidleduc85 1 year ago
I bet that you can't resist visiting my channel ;-p
NatashaWong92 1 year ago
What's the difference between bisexual or pansexual? I mean, thinking of it from the latin words, it's not like there's a third category, unless they're just being thoughtful enough to include the hermaphrodites out there... I.... I dunno, I seriously just don't get it. I'd appreciate your explanation.
superfox1080 1 year ago
@superfox1080 Sure thing! A friend described it to me as being attracted to personalities, not bodies. The person's gender is kind of a secondary feature. The Wikipedia page has a great explanation, too!
shessomickey 1 year ago
as a bisexual, one of the most irritating things is being called a lesbian or "half lesbian" so thank you for explaining that it is a branch of sexual orientation completely independent of all other
fruit8basket 1 year ago
As someone who identifies as bi, I loved this. I'm very sick of these cliches. Thanks for clearing that up for all the non believers.
LibbaBrayLover 1 year ago
True! *loves a person, not a gender*
darylsudden 1 year ago
Great video. It was nice to see your face again :) ... you should do more "is not" videos. This topic is one that I agree with totally. It amazes me how uneducated people can be about bisexuality. Even gay's and lesbian's seem to have the wrong impression of bisexuals as well. the alphabet soup of sexualities is more than just gay & straight and people should keep up to date. so thanks for helping.
eClickNick 1 year ago
:) <3
EmmyNeander 1 year ago
It's hard to be taken seriously as a bisexual person as both a man and a women.
If you are a bisexual women, it's either 'hot' or a phase.
If you are a bisexual male you're just in the closet or a pervert.
Double standards and stereotypes really piss me off.
TopHatKitty 1 year ago
<3
mrd4518 1 year ago
[cont. - 2 of 2] There's plenty of gray area - though some people can be fixed/settled in their given sexual preference, it is also not unheard of for a person to switch gender preference over a lifetime. I suppose it's this kind of ambiguity that inadvertently perpetuates stereotyping. The real problem is that some of those who are prone to making assumptions (false or otherwise) aren't open-minded enough to see past their preconceived notions.
TheAnonymousUs3r 1 year ago
@TheAnonymousUs3r Right you are. I only hope to clarify one small niche of the very, very wide landscape of human sexuality!
shessomickey 1 year ago
For instance, I think I read somewhere that Elton John formerly thought he was 100% gay, then later found he liked women too. To what degree, I don't know. He might personally identify as being mostly gay, but that is irrelevant. The point is that this can be better accounted for through the Kinsean view of human sexuality: that people fall somewhere within a broader spectrum of sexual orientation. [cont. - 1 of 2]
TheAnonymousUs3r 1 year ago
I sympathize with your annoyance. And yeah, I'm inclined to agree that there are bi people who are openly bi in the way that you describe, but... there are also those who fit into some of the other stereotypes you pointed out too. However, I think this sort of "inconsistency" can be found among those who profess any given sexual preference, whether gay, straight, bi, etc. Stories of gays turning straight or vice versa, to the genuine surprise of all parties involved, sometimes actually happen.
TheAnonymousUs3r 1 year ago
As nice as it is to see a new video by you, I find it sad that some folks need to be reminded, at least until you consider the ignorance that propels laws like the Defense of Marriage Act, then it starts to make more sense in a sad sort of way - not to get all political.
Don't let it get you down.
TheAnonymousUs3r 1 year ago
*hugs*
slavicpolymath 1 year ago
What's your whole stance on asexuality? A lot of the time I'm told that it's just because I'm a late bloomer or I'll find someone eventually, and no one really seems to understand the concept.
kazekun123 1 year ago 2
@kazekun123 I think it's one of the most difficult things to understand for non-asexual people, but I do my best to imagine you complexly! So I guess I have no stance per se, just love and acceptance and a willingness to learn more about what is unfamiliar to me. I'm under the impression that there are some really swell resources online for asexual people, too!
shessomickey 1 year ago
I'm pretty much in love with you. <3
eyekaykim 1 year ago
awesome, could NOT have said it better myself :)
jsutkissmyfrog 1 year ago
Thank you. I wish I like this more than once.
ehmkay 1 year ago
The more bi people overreact like this, the bigger the "misconceptions" are going to get.
Chill out.
CestLaBri 1 year ago
Would also says it's people attracted to two genders, not necessarily women and men.
larkaFirewind 1 year ago
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@larkaFirewind "Would also says it's people attracted to two genders, not necessarily women and men." -- not so much "two" as "more than one".
trjb33 1 year ago
your passion is admirable.
Justtubed 1 year ago
this video was awesome
well put
well thought out
intelligent and just something that needed to be said
Amanda I applaud you for doing this video
and just honored to be subbed to you
dsclubhouse1 1 year ago
This was wonderful Amanda. =)
Thank for putting this out there.
phampants 1 year ago
People who genuinely are bisexual are that. However there are also those who use bisexuality as a way to just get off, and gays and lesbians also do use bisexual as a step out of the door, to make it easier for their families and friends when they do fully come out. I have talked to people who have done that.
If they have sexual attraction to both men and women, power to em.
glafna 1 year ago
This is wonderful. So glad I could help you with it this afternoon, and so excited to see you next week!
elffia 1 year ago
Well said Amanda *high five*
Gamer026 1 year ago
Bravo =)
Gvf77x 1 year ago
I dunno, you might have added some "not necessarily"s in there. I know of a few greedy, slutty bis. Most particularly myself. ;-)
Maxdwolf 1 year ago
@vloggerqueen17 THANK YOU.
Seriously, really well spoken. Keep being so awesome and bringing pride to the name of Amanda. ;)
skywriter11 1 year ago
Preach it, sister!!! :D
Sarahendipity 1 year ago
The fact that this video currently has 0 dislikes is so lovely/surprising/reassuring.
julialovesupreme 1 year ago
Thank you, Amanda!(:
thathoopy 1 year ago
I kinda love you.
I was just about to do a video about this.
TheHeatherEra 1 year ago
I think if you are pansexual, you have to respect bisexuality by default.
Well spoken!
ChateauOfADoubt 1 year ago
@ChateauOfADoubt actually, a lot of people who are pansexual see bisexual people as not recognizing that gender is fluid, and therefore discriminatory.
elffia 1 year ago
When I saw this in my sub box I thought this is going to be great and it did not disappoint! Everything in this video so needed to be said. I'll be posting it everywhere.
BeBopALula1 1 year ago
Simply perfect. Can't say anything more.
Nerdfighteratalie 1 year ago
I can relate to a lot of the things people think bisexuality is. For example, when my mother found out that I'm gay, she thought it was just a phase, and proceeded to tell me that all the gay people who have been going through this "phase" their whole lives are “sickos”. (She now believes that God has healed me of my 'affliction' and refuses to accept anything else.)
Anyway, it's nice to see one of the best YouTubers adding a video. Keep them coming, please, Amanda. <3
TheCoryKid 1 year ago
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
KadieAnneEvans 1 year ago
But you can't deny that many boys and girls do dawn on the title as bisexual to either set them apart, set them in the trend or to make them seem hotter. I'm not denying that people can be attracted and fall in love with someone of either gender. I do believe it is written in biological code as well as molded through environmental situations through out childhood.(Neither being more effective than the other) But I am denying the validity of many people's claims to bisexuality.
Rustyizcool 1 year ago
@Rustyizcool I think people abuse words all the time, but I'm focusing more on people who genuinely consider themselves to be bisexual, since they are who most often get marginalized. There will always be girls getting drunk at parties and making out with other girls for attention / cool points, sure, but I'm more concerned with the bisexual woman who is told that "Oh, it's just a phase" or "You'll find a nice man eventually." She needs defending.
shessomickey 1 year ago 18
THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU. this. all of this.
ihearthowardmoon 1 year ago
It seems like you're overly passionate about this topic (not that I disagreed with anything you said), so I'm sorry, but it begs the question; are you bisexual?
alwayzjello 1 year ago
I like the bit about choosing 'someone' rather than choosing a gender :)
thepappytube 1 year ago
Awesome video Amanda! Very well said!
AlwaysRanting 1 year ago
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! Lovely as always.
waynestock94 1 year ago
I really wish there was no reason to make a video like this, but since there so obviously is, I'm very glad you were the one to do it, because this is excellent :)
thefannylemon 1 year ago
SING IT, SISTER.
LizzieRadio 1 year ago
Good video.
unquestionablelogic 1 year ago
Well done and well said.
elorfinthendt 1 year ago
Great video and message.
Arthur40TwoDent 1 year ago
This couldn't have been said any better.
DeeLamps 1 year ago
Great Background Music!
piandcompany 1 year ago
As someone who has often struggled sorting out sexuality and my own feelings towards other people of either gender, I really appreciate this video.
And, you know, the fact that it's an honest representation of something that is so frequently misunderstood.
kassiehp0593 1 year ago
PREACH.
ohmyitskai 1 year ago
Heck yes!
hayleyghoover 1 year ago 2
"...and imagine people complexly." DFTBA! :D
pepsicola1295 1 year ago 2
=)
broadout 1 year ago
Yes! Thanks for this!
DukeofYar 1 year ago
Thanks for this video.
shaylaluna 1 year ago
I'm not bi, or gay, but preach it sister.
People are so ignorant sometimes...they need to be taught. Unless they're willfully ignorant, or hateful, then they need to be smacked.
TresChic16 1 year ago
AMEN!!! (get it?)
jujubeans360 1 year ago
Thank you. That's all I can say, is thank you.
koyisxoxo 1 year ago
Thank you so much for this. I completely agree with everything you said. I just hope more poeple can learn to understand this.
Angelshooah 1 year ago
I wish the writers of Glee could watch this video.
VloggerQueen17 1 year ago 55
@VloggerQueen17 I stopped watching Glee a while ago. what happened?
beautybudget88 1 year ago
@VloggerQueen17 You shouldn't be offended by a writer if one of their Characters says something like that. Kurt's opinion is his. Not his writer's. Also his comment was to further prove a point and show a point of view. But I'm really defending writers. Just because a writer writes a line of dialog for a character that doesn't mean he or she agrees with it. They just feel like the character would. If a man writes a book with the Character being a mean-spirited racist doesn't mean he's racist.
Rustyizcool 1 year ago
@Rustyizcool I mean, I'm a writer too and I see your point, but even though they're writing something that is meant to be formulated by a teenage mind, some of the things they say are a bit too critical and demeaning for cable TV.
VloggerQueen17 1 year ago
@VloggerQueen17 I'm with @beautybudget88 -- what was said??
ChateauOfADoubt 1 year ago
* Applause
ThatsKindaGraphic 1 year ago
Ugh. Thank you!
dinasaurish 1 year ago
this video made me happy as a bi teen, even though my ankle is in so much pain right now, so much so I can't even get up to get ice.
smashrobot3ZO 1 year ago
That was wonderful. One thing that has always bothered me, though, is when girls claim to be bisexual and you can never be sure if they mean it, or if it's just for attention. I always assume the former, just to give people the benefit of the doubt, but it would bother me if people were using bisexuality as a way to steal the limelight.
OMGTHERERNONAMESAAGH 1 year ago
I realise how similar this is going to sound to all other comments on this video, but: It is awful that in our apparently permissive society someone has to do this (and I admire the passionate conviction with which you spoke here, btw), but I applaud you for doing so.
*Stops making speech*
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wordsofjed 1 year ago