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  • About the distance thing... Lady have you ever realized that it may not be ignorance but confidence... I assure you, you have to be a retard not to understand that when someone backs he/she is trying to avoid the intimacy zone. Getting again in the intimacy zone may make the other uncomfortable, negative feelings equals better memory and with the right words, you can turn this into your advantage, especially when flirting.Provoke and keep confident, that's a power combination...

  • wow this is interesting, the girl looking a guy in the eyes 3 times is important.

  • regarding putting hands in the pockets being a sexual signal...nonsense...perhaps for some men...at certain times...but not for all men...at all times...seems we should avoid stereotyping the behavior of any gender with all-encompassing expressions like "men" and "women"...there is much diversity among us...

  • Tonya Reiman - my body language right now says you're full of .....

  • I hope she gets speech therapy to lower that annoying high pitched Brooklyn voice.

  • Not every position we unconsciously put our bodies into reveals something about us. Instead, the positions that we put a lot of effort into exhibiting show exactly how we are feeling in a given situation. The police officer in the UC Davis pepper spraying incident is a clear example of how purposefully acting cool and collected in a tumultuous situation reveals his position of power. Body language is important, but only in specific situations does it show how we're truly feeling.

  • lol... This lady misses the most important point of reading body language... ONE THING IS NOT A DEFINITIVE ANSWER BECAUSE HUMANS ARE SO DIFFERENT.... for instance.... a woman takes a step back she may have just lost her balance temporarily. However if said woman takes a step back and her body is leaning back wards, as well as arms crossed... then yeah your making her uncomfortable. .... That being said.. I really want to know this lady is so hostel towards men...

  • @Faerun1 I have to back up when people get too close because otherwise I can't focus my eyes on their face. And every culture is different. In some countries, people get right in your face, it's impolite not to, or to back away from them.

  • @signalfire6 Right but i wrote that article under the assumtion that we were talking about the american culture. Body language isn't an exact science... It's just a general guesstimation about what's going through the other persons head. But still, you would show at least one of the signs I stated if the person was making you uncomfortable. you may back up if people get close to you, but do you fold your arms. do you break eye contact and look everywhere else but there? S' all i was saying.

  • IMO she's mostly talking out of her ass, making it up as she goes, trying to deeply read into something that really isn't a concrete form of language at all. Anyone can write a book about body language, but if you think you're gifted enough to write the dictionary you're full of shit.

  • she has a blanket across her chest ....what does that say???

  • @justsayit2me dont be an idiot

  • @draikentz Dont be a comment jerk

  • @justsayit2me that she has some modesty???

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  • Her get-up is an awful synthesis of average-looking Manhattan girl trying to excude female Arabic-cool.

  • so i have to lie in body language

  • this is BS. I want to punch this lady.

  • @DaisyDelirium

    Not really bullshit at all. Sure. Not everybody follows these rules, but this is towards the general lamen. Just because you do not reflect these behaviour traits doesnt mean they dont occur. Because they do.

  • @Domzdream Exactly, "not everyone follows these rules", therefore her message isn't true. And I think you mean laymen, not lamen. If so, that means you're calling her a professional in her subject matter. False again. Physics and magicians are professional in their subject matter but that doesn't mean they aren't full of BS. I want some scientific reasoning, not some author's opinion.

  • @DaisyDelirium

    Er....

    There is lots of scientific reasoning behind this. Ever read The Selfish Gene? It's really quite a brilliant read.

  • does black stocking mean your easy 

  • she is annoying. the voice,the gimmicks, her hand, everything. if u see her, RUN!!!

    also , the women @0:54 is a real bossy bitch, i know her type - super annoying

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  • It's now widely accepted that one body "signal" in isolation is rarely congruent with the feelings of the person.

  • It's now widely accepted that one body "signal" in isolation is rarely congruent with the feelings of the person.

  • This power position shows she's in control!

  • loads of information/second

  • I'm pitchin a pup tent right now

  • Let's see... Man w/ cold hands, or man pointing out his package?

    You've got to be kidding if you don't know the answer to that - hehhe

  • "I do not have a weapon. My genitals are available." hahahaha. Mitchla brought me here.

  • damn is she sexy, kinda wifeysworldcom hot

    A+

  • the sad part is that there are people dumber than these "experts".....and those are the ones blowing smoke up their ass about how much they know. There are no body indicators that are 100% to all and these people guessing at shit and the tretards calling them experts need a foot in the ass.

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  • Oh my fucking god this womans voice is annoying.

  • i want to request for ur book plz .. then what should i do ?!!

  • Trying to interpret body language like this is like trying to understand Hungarian with a dictionary. Also, "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar", Sigmund Freud. Actually, most of the time it is.

  • I hate people who really love this stuff... Why do people always want to know what the other person is really thinking?

    It can hurt them, for example:

    Man: Honey are you cheating on me?

    Woman: No.

    Man: LIAR! YOU FUCKING LIAR!

    Woman: GET THE FUCK OUT!

    That's what I mean... it's better to be lied to.

  • the girl's sitting posture @0:55 means that she's open for business

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  • this bitch is fake i can smell her a miel away fuck this

  • I study behavior and it sounds like she made some of this up, 'Pointing to his assets' LOL never heard of that before...

  • Tonya is full of shit

  • What a load of nonsense.

  • I'm sorry, but as a Phd. in Social Science, I know that these are merely generalizations, and that although true in some circumstances for some people, it would be my best advice not to take these interpretations too literally. The reason for this is that everyone is different, and it has been proven that everything from religious belief, to a particular time of day, or even season, and even more importantly, culture or family belief may influence body language in an infinite number of ways.... 

  • @ArchHighLordOmega (read below)...therefore, the best advice given by most sociologists as regards " body-language " , is to be as instinctive as possible, and NEVER simply assume that a person's gestures, or positions are a definitive measure of any particular thing. Although much CAN be determined, it is more often than not misdiagnosed, and therefore a door to social catastrophe. The best thing to do is TALK to that person to deign their true feelings, or intent, else you remain vunerable.

  • @ArchHighLordOmega I agree completely. All this is an example of social conditioning and what we think to be true because we feel society is doing it too. Like how people believe in palm readings for instance.

  • Excellent video! 

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  • @gopferdami23 so do I !! Wanna date?

  • you say women are better at picking up body language is not true. Men are just better in showing interest in a woman. Woman make things too complicated and therefore harder on a man. If you like someone you just have to say or show it immediately but dont play these stupid mind games, or shit test men. Its ridiculous and woman will lose many friendships or dates that might have been fun but they dont know it because they are playing mind games with a guy.

  • many people need to learn this language...it is part of our education.

    Thanks Tonya

  • LostManSays who wanna touch that little thing lol

    dont loose your time poor man lol

  • Im pointing to my dick? It happens to be a convenient place to put your hands.

  • You make alot of assumptions Tonya.

  • @TheEducatorIQ150plus Exactly. Although body language is important, it is better to use speech to deign a person's true feelings, and therefore avoid a possible terrible misinterpretation of another's intent. Also, you may notice her own hand movements at the beginning of the video. This is an obvious example of someone who is consciously attempting to manipulate her own movements, thus creating an overcompensation to the point of awkwardness.

  • it is  a very sueful video

    thanks tonya

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  • Sounds like too much work. It feels like a full time job just to say hello according to you.

  • If only she had more videos. They're so interesting.

  • lovers wanna love

    haters wanna hate

    me? I'm gonna piss on youuu

  • lol why would a girl have to keep looking at a guy to start a conversation.. you know girls can talk too??

  • i think she was just flirting with me but i notice my arms were crossed i guess she's shes not hot?

  • the hands in the pocket is way off usualy when men put both hands in their pockets it means they are insecure about themselves one hand in the pocket is sign of sexual confidence.

  • @doctorw2 or maybe when men put both hands in their pockets it means their hands are cold.

  • @termanology85 if you show your thumbs, no

  • @termanology85 Exactly or maybe they just want to be comfortable and relax and not be swinging their arms around. There could be several explanations. Some of the things she says make some sense but I don't swallow it all.

  • @termanology85 Or trying to adjust the boner

  • @termanology85 yes his hands are cold thats why his thumbs are hanging out.

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  • what a crock of shit this is, if your hands are in your pants it could be that your cold ,not that your trying to show off your cock,this is so stupid and body language means different thing, to different people

  • I just watched Tanya on Bill O tonight & think she's pretty good since she's studied body language so long.Speaking of 'chin-up/'chin-down/tilted head (Obama) or stomach holding (Susan Boyle)has Tanya done a Body Lang. case study of Bill O yet? I watch all pundits either side,both party & really don't care what Bill,Keith,Rush,Glenn, Whoopie have to say, but would be interested.Can she tell when pundits,politicans,millionaire­s,lawyer,judges,congress,house are lying to America for lobbyist money?

  • Sorry mem, but you're so wrong... sometimes when men put their hands inside their pockets, they want to show theire back hands XD

  • is she getting ready for bed?

  • Men have their hands in their pockets to point at their penis? Talk sense lady

  • Her voice is more annoying than Sarah Palins.

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  • At 1:16, if a woman does that does it mean she's showing off her vagina? It makes me wonder if some of these things are applicable to both genders.

  • "He's so ignorant", she says.

    This is a prime example of the arrogance of modern women. Can you IMAGINE if a man said that publically about a woman? Disgusting.

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  • i'll have you know that when I date a male MY hand goes on top.dominant males turn me off! tonya reiman:it's not a one size fits all world.

  • The flying nun talks too mcuh

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  • I am very interested in this sort of info I really love reading others´and myself body language.

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  • LMAO what women sits like that

  • She actually knows what she's talking about, I bought that book a few years ago as a starter on body language. From what I recall my only problems with it were sometimes it didn't go in depth enough and I wish it covered more areas. Still a great book to read if you don't know much about body language. Definitely opened my eyes.

  • ha ha she is in a figure 4 wtf is that i do a figure 4 when i am taking a shit on the bog lmfao shes a fake ass mother fucker right here

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  • This was a good help.

  • Now you're talking Tonya. Well, I checked your sites online. Very impressive with your video narration. Seems NBC News featured you on some interviews. So you're like a celebrity. Very good. I'm developing a habit using that a lot lately. In any event, check out my Playland video spoofs. Roger Daltrey and other celebrities would be impressed if seeing my poem videos with the plots involving them.

  • end of the day she's a psycho taping people on the streets !! you'd hate to get in her bad books !!

  • i love broads that think too much! it makes the tears sooo, enjoyable!

    PS; i'm a womanizer! an i love it!

  • 1:52 and forward... fucking hot

  • Fedorov567...i agree with that too!!! let's all give her a power position :)

  • look 3 times??? As a man, you can't possible think that we'll know that. I always keep eye contact with people I'm talking to so I wouldn't even notice and I think other men would either.

  • In most occasions, man holds women's hand, this means man are more dominant?

  • Very good critique Tonya. And since you're a knockout, you'll never have any problems meeting a guy.

  • @Jjonathanhart ..yeah but wut guy a wife beater or sump-n!

  • As for the guy who's a wife beater: the fourth installment of the Dirty Harry movie series tells it all, SUDDEN IMPACT. Sandra Lock takes revenge on the psycho guys who raped her and her sister 10 years ago, now returning for seconds. But she shoots each one of them where it hurts, below the belt. Anyone ever tell you you're gorgeous?

  • @Jjonathanhart ..stay away from movies..they really are entertainment!..oh how folks rely on movie's..oh my!

    PS..remember prison only gets 35%...

  • Sometimes good messages are conveyed in movie plots, even though they're make-believe. Like there's many messages outlined in my Playland poems being an author myself. Unfortunately I never got rich selling a screenplay due to the compitition in the movie business. I could never strike a woman. It's just not in my blood. You are a charming woman. Good looks and personality. Two thumbs up for you ma'am.

  • @Jjonathanhart ..relax dude....but, no ones above an azz whoop-n!

  • You say noone's above an ass whipping: as Captain Kirk would say to Mr. Spock, "Explain". Tonya, any guy whips a woman's ass, deserves nothing more than using his for target practice.

  • @Jjonathanhart ..ok. then wut..will that take off the azz whoop-n?...sides there 6-8 billon people in the world..i imagine we could stand too lose a few..hummmm?

    PS; hell, how many is enough!

  • I'll have to admit that some "body language" does have meaning. For example, if I am talking to someone and they roll their eyes and try to hide a smile, they obviously think that what I'm saying is nonsense. But it can be taken to extremes as this woman does and elevate body language almost to the point of some sort of cryptic, or even occutic religion. Every movement has a meaning (it doesn't), people are obsessed with "power positions" (might just be a comfortable position). Beware extremists

  • this girl is shit

  • id hit that

  • @wunademones ..hell yeah! she could make the team!

  • I kinda like her, good talk. 

  • omg i got it, she sounds like fran from the nanny!

    good info though

  • I respectfully disagree. Your method of Look at him, look down, look at him again, look down, look up again... is interesting within the context of the explanation. However, I disagree that it is optimal for a casual invitation to enter into the HMR/HCR (Human Mating/Courtship Ritual), I would suggest that, maintained eye contact is a better approach. If he doesn't pick up on it, 1) it's his loss; 2) he will be a bad person to enter into relationship with; 3) you can do better.

  • She's got me.

  • This lady is so full of shit.

    What the fuck is a "powerful" position, anyway? If I'm leaning back in a public place with my arms behind me... maybe I just think it's comfortable. Maybe I've been sitting there for too long and I just want to change my posture so my ass doesn't get too flat on one side.

    I'm beginning to think that this video is really meant to show the dangers of inductive reasoning and how using it will make you look like a naive piece of shit.

  • the power of my cock across this cunts face lol a figure 4 what the fuck is that she made that shit up just glare at women its flirting lol no fucking way it is some one shut this cunt up on the vid

  • this lady is warped.

  • This lady is hot.

  • If a women makes eye contact 3 times men will know she's into him. I doubt any men would know that because in almost every conversation people are in they make eye contact more than 3 times.

  • I would agree with half of her observations in this video. The other half, i will need some stats to back up her claims. But it is said that body language is 65% of actual communications so I would say this is helpful.

  • more like the power of cock up this bitch lol

  • Hahahaha I thought this video is actually interesting....I wouldn't look at any guy 3 times to let him know im in to him that just seems desprete.

  • Watching this goofy woman is like reading a report that suggests crazy people with guns kill people. Thanks for the heads up McGruff.

    I am not "expert" as she claims, but I can discern some body language in that she has a nice head of hair, yet, dyes her roots.

  • man she kinda takes the fun out of the whole dating game.

  • damn she's hot. good info though. and remember, it's not black and white stuff.

  • this vid is bullshit

  • Hand positions equal power or submission? Disagree there. Seems like a simple-minded way of scoring things.

  • dont use eye contact if you dont know someone other wise thay will think yor staring at them equals a stalker lol

  • "Women are much better at picking up body language than men are." I really don't think so. Actually we men are more focused on the purpose for being where we are, and less on other people's business as opposed to women. Seriously, we just want to accomplish what we're there for and leave.

  • @Afrocanuk there is some truth to this statement however its always important to know what environment you're in.

  • I was actually hooked with the second look. What dope needs a thrid? :)

  • This really needs observation on the street. Thank you. Now I can start to observe others.

  • It's all VERY white and middle class isn't it !!

    Anyway sweetheart, you could dangle your bits right under my nose, but the first thing I'd do with my hands would be cover my ears from your hideous voice :o)

  • This is absolute bullshit. She is making this shit up. If you are really interested in nonverbal communication, read actual research on the subject. Does this lady also do astrology? What statement does this lady's nasal voice make?

  • haha, thats pretty funny babdad.  Although i think the nasal statement points to Brooklyn

  • badad4444,

    What are you talking about, clearly when a guy has his hands in his pockets he want women to look at his dick... or his hands or cold...

  • check25raise,

    exactly what i was thinking, i have my hands in my pockets all the time bc thats just what feels more comfortable.

  • A women who interprets that when a man has hands in his pockets indicates the man is directing attention to assets needs to reevaluate. It could mean his hands are cold, he maybe embarrassed / shy, something is on his mind but why does it involve something to do with his penis. She must really have it in for us .

  • @check25raise actually if some1 is cold or shy they wouldnt put their hands in pocket like The Way the man in the vid did. :)

  • Very informative, but god damn her voice is annoying.

  • @BoxxyFan I like her voice.

  • @BoxxyFan Yes, that's an American accent....just kidding, you're great.

  • interesting

  • this is silly. if you actually use this, you will misunderstand much about people. Understanding people is a very slow process that requires much work. there is no easy way to understand someone. everyone is different.

  • i don't now i can't really agree with you. If you look at it this way... you're not looking at a persons personality but the body language.

    And that's the same for all humans. Exaples: people smile when they are happy cry when they are sad(more or less) and they scratch there heads if they are confused.

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  • i should be taking notes

  • does anyone know what type of psychology teaches about body language?

  • Body language is the study of Kinesics, usually it branches of from Communication - Non verbal, Kinesics and then to Prowemics.

  • Proxemics.

  • Somatic Psychology

  • i disagree with half of what she is saying ,i wouldn't buy the book

  • I read her book, it's good. Now if you notice Tonya uses a lot of hand gestures when speaking which indicates great communicator...

  • I gotta buy this book, it seens to make sense now.

  • I'll show her a power position.

  • lmfao

  • @Fedorov567 Me to!!!!!!!!!!

  • I sometimes put my hands in my pants pockets because it's comfortable and I'm relaxed while standing or walking.

  • Why do you feel comfortable though?

    I used to find comfort in putting my hands in my pockets but the reason for this was self-confidence issues. I felt awkward with my hands out of my pockets. I felt as if people might judge me in the way I swing my arms when I walk or where I'd put my hands.

  • @papalolita exactly you feel comfortable in the position that represents how you feel

    ie if your feeling insecure you cross your hands because it feels comfortable

    if you where laughing and feeling confidence crossing your hands will feel uncomfortable. putting your hands in your pocket means you don't have any involvement and your keeping to yourself.

  • @papalolita Yeah right, you're probably playing pocket pool through the hole in your pocket you sicko!

  • @papalolita or you don't feel confortable, is not the matter that you put your hands in the poket when you walk, the point is that you do this in a conversation.... that means you don't feel confortable.

  • @papalolita you're comfortable in that position because your feeling that emotion....try being super happy and crossing your arms, your body won't feel comfortable....being cold is a different story though, if you're cold, I think thats a reason people put their hands in their pockets

  • the host in this video needs to get laid,

    people are so uptight, depressed and medicated that body language is skewed...because peoples minds are elsewhere.

  • er shes married with three kids

  • I like how she emphasizes with her hands. She must be a good cook.

  • I'm sure it does.  Awful jackass

  • this lady reads too much into body language.

  • Tonya is a nice looking young lady!