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  • this is going to be my drama monologue :D without the cursing xD

  • take notes? hang on, let me get a pad of paper and a pen so I can write all this shit down, memorize it, and repeat it to this girl I'm trying to date when the time is right. hopefully one day, she'll be my wife

  • always hated that "was it something i said?" line cheesy.

  • ben breaks it down the is one of the realest thing i ever heard

  • Guys, some advice? If the girl you're in love with is gay? Don't use this speech. Disregarding a girl's sexuality and expecting that she's going to feel something special just for you? I don't blame him for falling love with her but saying it like that was not fair to her. She's right.

  • @miceruletheworld42 How do YOU know? You cannot see what's in the heart of others. Who knows when you run into someone who is a great person, but something is missing in their life?

    Like Alyssa in Chasing Amy said in so many words,"penetration into the heart matters MORE than physical penetration!"

  • @intelligentlman I guess so but as a gay girl, I know I would find that offensive. 

  • At first I was like SHE JUST GETS OUT THE CAR?! what a BITCH

    I didn't realize she was gay XD haha

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  • I guess the raw honesty of what he said to her touched me enough to be honest with myself!

    "If this is a crush, I don't think I could take it if the real thing ever happened!'

    Simply amazing!

  • I didn't plan this shit, it JUST HAPPENED! Her inner beauty EXCEEDS her outer beauty! Whenever she needed ANYTHING while growing up, I never hesitated in helping and I never expected anything in return!

    She could tell me to leave Saint Louis and never return and I would! She could tell me to die and I would! All I want in my life is for her to be happy, with or without me. Whatever she needs me to be, I will be that!

    I could die with NO regrets if I knew she would be happy the rest of her life!

  • You all have heard the line about "wait until she is of age, don't be a perv!" I did JUST THAT! Holden's is "she's a lesbian," mine is "she's much younger than I am."

    I swear EVERYTHING, that with each day seeing her, getting to know her all the MORE, only makes her even MORE incredible to me! I do NOT care that she ran around with a bunch of dudes during her teen years, having a baby as a teen, I do NOT care!

    In all of the years of my life, I NEVER met a MORE amazing person than her! continued

  • LuLz be had. For the schmucks who think this scene is heart felt and endearing. Be a realist here people...In real life, this guy would need a superior shrink. The type of relationship he see's going for himself is a matter of delusion. Especially when he assumes she's had ten mins/sec.s Of thought of acting out on his confession. Holden should have listened to the crossroad explanation. lulz xD much fail..no win.

  • @ohmygothitsdollz  I'm guessing you aren't a romantic somehow.

  • @dirkbogarde44 Well. Not in the since of delusions. Romanticism should be taken with a strong dose of reality. The grass is not always greener, on the other side... Ya know?

  • was it something i said?

  • I want to tell the girl I love this, but I know I'm going to get nervous, stumble over my words and end up in a bad situation...

  • this is proof that men should never express their feelings

  • AWWWWW you cut it off right at the best part!!!

    

  • Believe me when I say this. It takes more guts to tell your raw feelings to somebody you love for the first time than it is to get angry at and fight somebody. It's sad that so many people go the easy way through life and choose the later.

  • I don't even care that you can see the camera men in the window reflections, this is still just amazing everytime I see it. "There isn't another soul...on this fucking planet who has ever made me half the person I am when I'm with you."

  • Best confession of love right here

  • man this is honest and from the heart. Ill bet our young friend really did have some eelings for miss lauren adams.Aint been this in love since I saw james remar kicking ass in the warriors.

  • Wow... this anchors me back to some painful memories. Cant get the true fullfillment out of love if you dont put yourself out there 100%... Ed Hardy was right perhaps... Love is a Gamble.

  • wtf is wrong with her voice

  • lol at everyone thinking this is some sure fire golden line(s). Its a brilliant scene and works in the context of the movie, but the movies aren't real life people...do yourself a favor and never try this on anyone.

  • worthy of an Oscar.

  • Any of you heard Kevin Smith's commentary on this scene? Even HE knows it doesn't work like this, chuckling to himself at the idea of all these guys memorizing this monologue in the false hope of nailing the girl they're pining over...

  • Good lord, why the hell did you cut it off before the big payoff?

  • @EyeLean5280 No shit huh, That's the best part!!

  • I had a boyfriend once who talks just like this all the time.

    He's my husband now.

  • God I love this movie.

  • people who that this was creepy can go fuck them selfs

  • I love how the tension adds to the laughs.

  • Well timed thunderclap.

  • I need to find where this is written down

  • ben does a real cowboy speech here. hes being honourable by speaking from his heart.

  • @swastikausa what's the black and white without the red?

  • Damn, that dude sure is a creeper. We should castrate men like this so they don't ruin the gene pool with their creepiness.

  • @LatestUFOSightings let me tell you quickly that i understand him . theres no need to be angry because things like this happen, im a lesbian which should not matter but this is a beautiful piece well said. nothing about what he said was remotely creepy, have you ever been in love?

  • @tastemydanger Yeah, but it sucks, because nobody will love me back, because I'm not hot enough.

  • I think the 12 dislikes came from Ben Affleck's creepy pedophile goatee.

  • fuck!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i wish i could say this but im such a god damn pussy friend zone girls why the fuck do you have to make this sooooo god damn hard ??????????

  • always makes me cry.. :') Gosh im so sappy.

  • this movie is so true to life. love it.

  • I uploaded the same vid, lulz.

  • this is embarrassing to hear. sorry nerd losers, this doesnt happen in life, especially urs.

  • I'm thinking about doing this as a one of my 2 college audition video monologues. I'm a girl, but it still works. Good idea?

  • i hate to admit it, but this was actually pretty good acting by Affleck.

  • Used it several times, and hasn't failed me yet. I hope they never see the movie.

  • Best scene ever.

  • I watched this movie, thinking it was funny. Halfway through I found out it was way more than that. This is a great movie. Good movies make you think, and this one really made me thinking.

  • Ah, Ben Affleck before he was considered a bad actor. I can't believe how hard he fell after this and Good Will Hunting. That's what you get for working with Michael Bay.

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  • one of my alltime favourite movies.

  • dude...,this is the most intense scene of getting out of the friend zone there shall ever be,but it's not like that in person,especially with a lesbian!Your in the friend zone,and you usually can't get out

  • Way to get out of the friend zone.

    If only it were so easy.

  • This is my nightmare come true. Tell a girl I love her, pour my heart out, and then she responds with "Fuck you!"

  • I can't believe her career never took off. She's now 42, so it probably never will. That's a shame.

  • @2taggs2 Her career did take off but not into the big picture way that ,most people wanted it to. She's still a working actress but it mostly B-movie and Straight to DVD stuff. However, I kinda agree with you that she didn't achieve much fame but at she's comfortable point in her career.

  • When I first watched Chasing Amy I didnt think I would like it that much when compared to other smith flicks. This scene made me reconsider my pre-conceived notion. and now I must say it's now my Faverite Kevin Smith Movie...it beat out Dogma for that title

  • P.S. I dont mean to nit pick but there are a few seconds missing off of this clip

  • NeuroticDummy. If you haven't seen it, her circle of friends is a group of lesbians. When she tells them that she's fallen in love with a guy, they deeply resent that one of their friends could betray them like this and turn their backs on her. This is why she's a 'closet' bisexual.

  • As unlikely a creation as such a character may be, lots of stories use 'unlikely' devices for their narratives, and this one is actually based upon a real life relationship between the lead actress and the writer/director, though how closely I do not know.

  • Wow. I have so been there. Wish I could have said it this well.

  • A friend recommended this to me now I know why,I was in a similar situation only it didn't end like the movie,only me and her are still friends

  • This scene, and his performance as Keith Olbermann on SNL, will always make me forgive Ben Affleck for Gili.

  • One of the best things about this scene is its rawness. No stupid lilting music audio track to tug your emotions. Kevin Smith did a fine job here showing a true naked emotional interaction. Very real- though from my experience it is a rare woman indeed who can react to such a verbal outporing of candor. I gather 80% of time in this situation male friend telling f how much he's grown to actually love her gets cut off with curt reply, a resounding silence, and a look of disdain

  • I agree, why is the kiss cut out????????????

  • Why is the kiss afterward chopped out? WTF

  • I love the caption in the description box for this video... "Guys who see a girl they'd like to date, please take notes."

    how fuckin' true. this movie is the best

  • "is it something I said?"

    LMFAO

  • Uff, for a minute there I thought that he could actually get pussy after saying all that bullshit.

    Thank God everything is normal, the world is still spinning.

  • he did have sex with her after that, have none of you commentors seen the movie?

  • Well... the movie is boring in spanish so... no, I haven´t seen it complete.

  • A long time ago. I blocked it out because it was incredibly insulting.

  • Insulting in what respect?

  • Dude, its a movie settle down. It means whatever the fuck you want it to mean.

  • I think it was selfish of him. He KNEW that she's a lesbian. He KNEW that it was NEVER going to happen and what remains is her having to take it on her conscience. He was able to ease the strain on his heart at the cost of her having to feel bad about it.

  • No. He didn't want her to feel bad about anything. He just wanted her to know.

  • Why? For what purpose? Nothing was going to change, except she would feel bad about herself. Judging by her reaction, she DID feel bad about herself. He took the burden off his chest for her to carry it instead. Selfish.

  • Oh my god, it's a movie. Apparently it's a movie you haven't seen. She's not a lesbian. She's a closet bisexual.

  • *facepalm* Closet bisexual, yes, that's realistic. Yes, you're right, it is a movie. Only a movie directed by a man would take such silly turns.

  • My friend turned a lesbian bi sexual. It can happen.

  • You don't *turn* lesbian or bisexual. You're born that way.

  • No you're pretty much conditioned that way or have some kind of brain function that promotes the behavior. There is no such thing as straight or gay or bi cause all sex is is busting your load. You can do that with a microwaved banana peel, don't mean you're banana sexual.

  • I am talking about sexual and emotional attraction, not the act itself of 'getting off'. Sexual preference is something you're born with, not something you develop over time.

  • She was a bisexual self-identifying as lesbian because it's easier to be taken seriously when you're gay or lesbian. While it might be true that you can't be "turned", it is entriely possible to lie about your orientation in fear of societal backlash. Which is basically what Alyssa does in this film.

  • I love this speech its so fuckin touching

  • In my head Im in holdens place and adrienne bailon is in alyssas.

  • oooh!! how cute!

  • nice scene.

    nice outcome.

  • i have memorized this speech and use it on every date

    i cant wait for death

  • ditto.

  • you get laid much? just curious.

  • @Stolpmeister For your sake, I hope there's no afterlife.

  • @Stolpmeister I tried it on one girl. Lol.  I thought that it was sure to work. The reactions from the girl were exactly the same up to the point when she gets out of the car. Complete FAIL after that. Haha

  • @Stolpmeister haha

  • i just caught a few minutes of this movie on T.V and i saw this scene. this might be the sweetest and most romantic speech ive ever seen in a movie. do any guys actually say stuff like this?

  • I have!

  • some of us try, but it doesnt come out that fluently at all, and sometimes doesnt make sense. i wish i had some one to write me a script a few times :(

  • that's so sad, she's gay -_-

  • this is so fucking sweet.

    i wish there was music playing in the

    background, or idk .

    its so cute.

  • The dialogue is the music :)

  • aha, aww that's kinna cute x]

  • Why doesn't it play the part where she runs back to him?

  • Say this to a friend and you will get that look that tells you she wished you hadn't and that you declared war on your friendship so she can't even stick around since that will mean you'll get the wrong idea. Noted.

  • I wish I had done this. All I said was 'I love you, bye' and ran. He didnt' chase me...and dumped me the next time I saw him.

  • what the fuck

  • whats wrong with two guys and a girl

  • No I'm saying Holden is a gay man and Alyssa is a straight man...

  • ... and then the kiss.

  • ha i have to do this peice for drama and im holden...which is weir cuz we're both girls...

  • so if i see a girl i'd liek to date, this is what i say?

  • if you want her to get out of the car and walk away on the spot

    you saw what happened to ben afleck, itd probably be 10 times worse for you

  • good line "Queer our friendship"

  • Why would you cut the video just before the conclusion?

  • This may queer our friendship, no pun intended.

  • This makes me so uncomfortable

  • this is sumthin ve always wanted to say to this girl that i have liked for so long, i just cant do it though

  • ive fallin in love with my closest friend too i just wish i had the courage to say all of that like he did...

  • you only live once my freng, I say go for it!

  • i did

    she said she'll consider dating me if her relationship with this other guy ends

  • dude just say it already... tell them... wouldn't you rather regret doing something than not doing anything about it???

  • pretty remarkable that ben affleck is in two of the greatest scenes ever this one and the friend one in goodwill hunting even though hes made some real shit movies ty jlo

  • The video ends right before she runs into his arms in the scene.

  • I forgot how much I loved this movie..

  • This is one of the best scenes about love outside of casablanca.

    Damn Ben Afflect can act if he has the right director/writer. Please Ben. Get back to working with Kevin Smith or Gus van Sant.

  • <3.

  • oh.. so this is the scene.. i know this movie has one of the beautiful quotes and yay finally see this! a very long statement there.. love it :P

  • ha. this happened to me, I'm a lesbian, and my best friend did this exact thing. I was PISSED.

  • well from this movie remember all you need is one good deep dicking ;)

  • well you shouldn't have been leading him on!!! WHORE!!!!

  • well then, gfy

  • You sound hot.

  • No she wouldn't, unless she WAS a bitch, and then you know she was never worth your time.

    Guys- don't listen to "HappilyWithMonotony".

  • Guys - never EVER EVER take advice about women from women.^^ See above.

    Women say this is what they wanna hear but it's totally false. You CAN'T tell women what they wanna hear because they themselves have no fucking clue - even if they THINK its what they wanna hear.

    Hence you have them ask retarded questions like "Do you love me" and then getting pissed off cause you they can't take the truth when it's "no" and get freaked out when it's "yes."

  • Many *People* are confused/dont know what they want. But for any woman who would be worth having, who isnt just always playing mindgames because that's what self-help books told them to do to get a man, if something like this was said honestly, it would be appreciated.

    Youre probably bitter w/ women in your life and therefore generalize them to make yourself feel better. Take PEOPLE as individuals and stop acting like you've got everyone figured out. Thats probably what makes you undesirable.

  • Story of my life. Diana I hope you come to your senses.

  • Story of my life, right here.

  • you can see the camera man's reflection in the window at 5:29

  • Women are just as idiotic about love as men are. They delude themselves into thinking they have the market cornered on emotional drama in relationships and that someone entitles them to do stupid things or hurt someone. Women are confused on what they want. They get married to a nice guy, he has a good job and a house then later the guy finds out shes been cheating on him. Guys are different, we know what we want but dont know how to get it. Women dont know what they want but know how to get it.

  • @AmericanPoliceState not all women are vapid skanks.

  • @xAlixy They can be when they want to be.

  • I've been there batpawn, and it ended up fucking up eventually, it's better to take the plunge than to never to, trust me, she may kick you to the curb, hate you and never talk to you again, or keep you stuck in friend zone, or accept you as her man, love is always worth that shot, and if it goes sour, you pick up the pieces and eventually move on, it's gonna be daunting as hell, but the possible benefit is worth the risk, and don't be a chickenshit about it, just tell her

  • This movie and perhaps Dogma are the reasons why I respect Ben Affleck as an actor. Also Jersey Girl, not as bad as most said it was (OK, I will admit that Liv Tyler could've been for the most part omitted from the film).

  • i loved his permormance on hollywodland

  • 'It's unfair that I'm in love with you?'

    'No, it's unfortunate that you're in love with me. It's unfair that you felt the f*cking need to unburden your soul about it'

    ...merf...

  • Okay. I feel like a dumbass, but I've yet to watch the movie so, is she gay then?

    I didn't get the "queer our friendship" reference, but if she is then that makes sense.

  • yes ashlee shes a lesbian with an extreme past. watch the movie its really good :)

  • Ah, okay. Then yeah, that makes sense. I totes will now, thank youu :)

  • All i heard was : "I know this will probably queer our friendship - no pun intended." haha

  • i hate it... it happens 2 me alot being gay and haven male friends is hard cuz it happens alot.

  • Story Of My Life

  • this speech kills me everytime i hear it

  • why did you stop right before the culmination of that scene???!!!!!?????!!!!!

  • this is like how I feel about a girl friend of mine.

  • you are not alone, mate. I actually feel the same way and don't know how I should tell it to her. I'm scared to loose her... especially as a friend. but on the other hand, it hurts to have these feelings without her knowing it. what a dilemma. but on the other hand, I doubt that she feels even half the way for me as I do for her. pretty uncomfortable.

  • I love this monologue.

  • this scene still leaves me speechless

  • Me too...God bless Kevin Smith

  • :DSo so sweet.