I here you about people pointing out that I don't say anything. Brings me back to group activities in school where my SA would kick in and my brain would go dead. I really could not think well and could not say anything cause I didn't know what to say. People would say "Why are you so quiet, or how come you just sit there." They make you feel useless which lowers my self esteem. That stuff really ticked me off. SA people get a lot of comments like that.
dude, I have had the social anxiety thing too... like pretty bad, started shaking, got scared everywhere with people, even my own family... That was really hard, hardest thing in my life, so.. I have used my own psyche as a patient, and I have sort of been studying it like a psychologist.. I tried all kinds of things..
And it's pretty much gone now.. So, I just wanted to tell u, I dont know if u're still suffering from it.. but these things are not permanent, only if u think so. All things pass.
That jury duty thing sounds like a wried experience. Just picking random people. It sounds like a choir for people to come in and I don't think that most of those people care about the case. They just want to get the whole thing over with. I don't like the idea of jury duty either.
@IcyBlue487 That's what I thought too, but I think the reason they pick random people instead of hiring full-time jurors is to somehow prevent corruption. I suppose people are more impartial if they're randomly selected and know nothing about the case or similar cases beforehand. I still think there's a better way than forcing everybody to agree though.
@ConsciousCloud Hey i found something that helps a little bit with the anxiety, it is called Kava Kava, get back at me if u wanna know more, i'll add u to friends and sub u.
@IcyBlue487 But jury trials generally are better than a bench trial where only one person, the judge, decide whether you are guilty or not AND sentence you. Judges do tend to be biased and prejudiced.
For me, it's better to be quiet than to be forced to talk and have nothing meaningful to say. Contribute only when you've got something worth saying, never be pressured.
...title of the trial, they don't "waste" time thinking about the actual little "crime". In my country it's some hidden secret that little offenders get punished, while really serious things like murder result in the offender just walking out as a free man, because there were some "faults" in the trial. That's the "schizo" way of how these trials happen.
Anyway, I know it's a struggle each day again, but try to enjoy the (few) "easy" moments and DON'T feel guilty for having them.
Don't let them drop the ball on you for being kinda quite, they never heard about SA, in these times it seems like being a crime of not having a big mouth all the time, I would say don't waste your energy on these kind of stupid "accusations" but I do the same all the time myself lol
About that jury thing, it has to suck if you're a feeling character willing to see the good things in people, but there probably are a bunch of people there which already have their conclusion just by hearing the...
@XxsostylishxX It's not as bad as you think at all. The lawyers don't ask more than 2 or 3 questions and they present scenarios like since the case had to deal with breaking into a car, a lawyer asked if I went to buy a new car that I've always wanted, but upon trying to start it in the lot it only starts on the third try, if I would buy it or not. So most of the questions will be common sense type stuff to see if you might be somehow biased. It's mostly just alot of waiting and listening.
@ConsciousCloud It's really kinda neat. But you gotta get the pure root powder, and make sure you get the good stuff and not get ripped off, i know who has good stuff. But it's good for a few hours, it really relaxes your mind and body but it doesnt make you stupid like drugs do. The worst side effect is if you drink too much it relaxes your muscles to the point you cant walk lol. Other than that you just gotta get over the taste which i really dont think is that bad.
I always end up talking longer than I wanted to in my videos. I'm glad I didn't actually have to serve on a jury but I was called into the juror's box for the voir dire. That was last year and I made a video about it. Someone changing their vote pretty much IS like going with the majority but yeah, some people just don't want to cave in.
@StealthyBob I had been hoping the whole time that I wouldn't get selected and when I was, I was sure that they would dismiss me, but they didn't. Well, at least it's overwith now and they can't call me again for a whole year. And the whole unanimous vote thing in jury duty seems a little ridiculous to me and the cases just end up drawing out for days on end until the minority gets fed up and stops caring. That's why I say it might be better if it was just majority vote.
It's so annoying when ppl say you are quiet or even shy. It just validates that ppl are judging you, and programs your self-image as the quiet guy even further. My big issue with communication is that I usually can't relate or don't care about the subject, but when I really have something to say, I just start doubting my opinions. I guess I just look at verbal communication too seriously.
Have you seen the movie "12 Angry Men"? It's pretty old, but very good, and it related well to your story.
@pite9 Yeah, I tend to doubt myself too even when I know alot about a certain subject. I have the prevalent thought that people will think what I say is stupid or something. I've never seen 12 Angry Men, but oddly enough that same woman who kept pointing out how quiet I was did mention that movie.
thank you chris! i agree with you on the jury duty thing. it's like peer pressure. there's got to be a better way. i look forward to hearing more from you.
You ever tried meditating? That helps me deal with stuff sometimes, calm down. If you're interested, a really good book on it--"The Joy of Living" by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche. He's a Tibetan monk. Anything's worth a shot, right? (Exercise too, but I'm sure you've already heard of and/or already do that.)
I here you about people pointing out that I don't say anything. Brings me back to group activities in school where my SA would kick in and my brain would go dead. I really could not think well and could not say anything cause I didn't know what to say. People would say "Why are you so quiet, or how come you just sit there." They make you feel useless which lowers my self esteem. That stuff really ticked me off. SA people get a lot of comments like that.
yoyo2ma 5 months ago
dude, I have had the social anxiety thing too... like pretty bad, started shaking, got scared everywhere with people, even my own family... That was really hard, hardest thing in my life, so.. I have used my own psyche as a patient, and I have sort of been studying it like a psychologist.. I tried all kinds of things..
And it's pretty much gone now.. So, I just wanted to tell u, I dont know if u're still suffering from it.. but these things are not permanent, only if u think so. All things pass.
mickehill 1 year ago
That jury duty thing sounds like a wried experience. Just picking random people. It sounds like a choir for people to come in and I don't think that most of those people care about the case. They just want to get the whole thing over with. I don't like the idea of jury duty either.
IcyBlue487 1 year ago
@IcyBlue487 That's what I thought too, but I think the reason they pick random people instead of hiring full-time jurors is to somehow prevent corruption. I suppose people are more impartial if they're randomly selected and know nothing about the case or similar cases beforehand. I still think there's a better way than forcing everybody to agree though.
ConsciousCloud 1 year ago
@ConsciousCloud Hey i found something that helps a little bit with the anxiety, it is called Kava Kava, get back at me if u wanna know more, i'll add u to friends and sub u.
SupremeAmerican 11 months ago
@IcyBlue487 But jury trials generally are better than a bench trial where only one person, the judge, decide whether you are guilty or not AND sentence you. Judges do tend to be biased and prejudiced.
holyvampirealucard 1 year ago
I think you are pretty cute.
yazzyyaz77 1 year ago
I hate when people point out that im quiet too ..its like thanks for pointing out the obvious how bout u step off and mind ur business now.
pinkorangesoda 1 year ago
For me, it's better to be quiet than to be forced to talk and have nothing meaningful to say. Contribute only when you've got something worth saying, never be pressured.
MindlessMiles 1 year ago
...title of the trial, they don't "waste" time thinking about the actual little "crime". In my country it's some hidden secret that little offenders get punished, while really serious things like murder result in the offender just walking out as a free man, because there were some "faults" in the trial. That's the "schizo" way of how these trials happen.
Anyway, I know it's a struggle each day again, but try to enjoy the (few) "easy" moments and DON'T feel guilty for having them.
Take care :)
WimDeVolder 1 year ago
Don't let them drop the ball on you for being kinda quite, they never heard about SA, in these times it seems like being a crime of not having a big mouth all the time, I would say don't waste your energy on these kind of stupid "accusations" but I do the same all the time myself lol
About that jury thing, it has to suck if you're a feeling character willing to see the good things in people, but there probably are a bunch of people there which already have their conclusion just by hearing the...
WimDeVolder 1 year ago
I'm really glad that you're back man. I always looked forward to your videos.
daveh441 1 year ago
So nice to hear from you again.
mznxb9872 1 year ago
I have jury duty on Monday and I'm terrified. Did they ask you a lot of questions?
XxsostylishxX 1 year ago
@XxsostylishxX It's not as bad as you think at all. The lawyers don't ask more than 2 or 3 questions and they present scenarios like since the case had to deal with breaking into a car, a lawyer asked if I went to buy a new car that I've always wanted, but upon trying to start it in the lot it only starts on the third try, if I would buy it or not. So most of the questions will be common sense type stuff to see if you might be somehow biased. It's mostly just alot of waiting and listening.
ConsciousCloud 1 year ago
@ConsciousCloud That sounds like it's not too bad. Thanks.
XxsostylishxX 1 year ago
@ConsciousCloud It's really kinda neat. But you gotta get the pure root powder, and make sure you get the good stuff and not get ripped off, i know who has good stuff. But it's good for a few hours, it really relaxes your mind and body but it doesnt make you stupid like drugs do. The worst side effect is if you drink too much it relaxes your muscles to the point you cant walk lol. Other than that you just gotta get over the taste which i really dont think is that bad.
SupremeAmerican 11 months ago
I always end up talking longer than I wanted to in my videos. I'm glad I didn't actually have to serve on a jury but I was called into the juror's box for the voir dire. That was last year and I made a video about it. Someone changing their vote pretty much IS like going with the majority but yeah, some people just don't want to cave in.
StealthyBob 1 year ago
@StealthyBob I had been hoping the whole time that I wouldn't get selected and when I was, I was sure that they would dismiss me, but they didn't. Well, at least it's overwith now and they can't call me again for a whole year. And the whole unanimous vote thing in jury duty seems a little ridiculous to me and the cases just end up drawing out for days on end until the minority gets fed up and stops caring. That's why I say it might be better if it was just majority vote.
ConsciousCloud 1 year ago
It's so annoying when ppl say you are quiet or even shy. It just validates that ppl are judging you, and programs your self-image as the quiet guy even further. My big issue with communication is that I usually can't relate or don't care about the subject, but when I really have something to say, I just start doubting my opinions. I guess I just look at verbal communication too seriously.
Have you seen the movie "12 Angry Men"? It's pretty old, but very good, and it related well to your story.
pite9 1 year ago
@pite9 Yeah, I tend to doubt myself too even when I know alot about a certain subject. I have the prevalent thought that people will think what I say is stupid or something. I've never seen 12 Angry Men, but oddly enough that same woman who kept pointing out how quiet I was did mention that movie.
ConsciousCloud 1 year ago
thank you chris! i agree with you on the jury duty thing. it's like peer pressure. there's got to be a better way. i look forward to hearing more from you.
spiffyrich 1 year ago
Heyyyy! :) welcome back!
hatagata 1 year ago
I've always been interested in law! I got 98% in Law 12 class! Before I got mental illness I wanted to be a lawyer. Keep on keeping on!
ChrissyQlikesYOU 1 year ago
You ever tried meditating? That helps me deal with stuff sometimes, calm down. If you're interested, a really good book on it--"The Joy of Living" by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche. He's a Tibetan monk. Anything's worth a shot, right? (Exercise too, but I'm sure you've already heard of and/or already do that.)
Silverismine 1 year ago