Frustration is often described as the emotion one experiences when they attempt to change or influence things outside their control. "The Enchiridion" by Epictetus is a fantastic & short book on the subject.
"Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one word, whatever are not our own actions."
Most adolescents go through a phase of authoritarian struggle with their parents and other authority figures. Usually it resolves itself when you gain enough maturity to realize you parents have a better understanding of action-consequence than you did and were just looking out for you. But how many Libertarians are still engaged in that adolescent struggle projected onto society in general?
Good video. I found from watching my thoughts for a long time that anger tends to be a cover-up for an underlying fear (I speak for myself at least, would be interesting to see what others think). For example: my friend's partner goes out clubbing a lot late at night he gets angry with her, possibly because he's afraid of the eventual possible outcome of being alone again and feeling pain, maybe humiliated. He could get angry to a heightened level to mask the fear and not make it apparent to her
I couldn't agree more with you man. But I think there is one ingredient missing: if you relate to people always knowing there is no need to change them you will never be aggressive nor sad. I think that is a very healthy approach when relating to others.
Since change only comes with a self need and self-realisation it would be arrogant in the first place to think we can change other people.
PS: This is the most interesting channel I've ever subscribed to. No doubt about that.
I agree with what you say about sadness being the key to getting out of something unhappy.
However, concerning mothers, what if they don't like their kids being sad because the kid is being bullied at school? What if it is just motherly instinct to not want to see their children sad?
I guess those rules are passed from person to person, and no one questions them, excluding a select few. I like to use common sense and reasoning when it comes to social-related situations. If I hate that person, I avoid them. If I enjoy to be around them, I will interact with them as much as possible and if not, then whenever possible.
That is why my own family is not that close to begin with, due to lack of effort and decided to use this reasoning/logic.
I think your brother was context dropping. The fact that people have some power does not mean that you "give it". She obviously has more control if she can make you see her than not. If there was a job you hated, you wouldn't take it because quitting would "give the employer control." His reasoning was sophistic.
Do you have nuerophysiological evidence for your claim about emotions. As far as I understand, there are two kinds of emotion---processing of facial features is done in the amygdala but otherwise the higher brain functions act on this brain region: Thus, in most contexts, thought procedes emotion.
You should always put or say the date of your videos like you did with this one.
Laoch111 1 month ago
Frustration is often described as the emotion one experiences when they attempt to change or influence things outside their control. "The Enchiridion" by Epictetus is a fantastic & short book on the subject.
"Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one word, whatever are not our own actions."
gryphonauto 8 months ago
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theleakedproject 1 year ago
Most adolescents go through a phase of authoritarian struggle with their parents and other authority figures. Usually it resolves itself when you gain enough maturity to realize you parents have a better understanding of action-consequence than you did and were just looking out for you. But how many Libertarians are still engaged in that adolescent struggle projected onto society in general?
MrDanielTynan 1 year ago
wow look at this the beginning of FDR. so raw
t2491tom 1 year ago
Good video. I found from watching my thoughts for a long time that anger tends to be a cover-up for an underlying fear (I speak for myself at least, would be interesting to see what others think). For example: my friend's partner goes out clubbing a lot late at night he gets angry with her, possibly because he's afraid of the eventual possible outcome of being alone again and feeling pain, maybe humiliated. He could get angry to a heightened level to mask the fear and not make it apparent to her
kolista 1 year ago
I couldn't agree more with you man. But I think there is one ingredient missing: if you relate to people always knowing there is no need to change them you will never be aggressive nor sad. I think that is a very healthy approach when relating to others.
Since change only comes with a self need and self-realisation it would be arrogant in the first place to think we can change other people.
PS: This is the most interesting channel I've ever subscribed to. No doubt about that.
S1L3nCe 2 years ago
I hope I really learn to listen to my children. I hope I can give them some of the things they need from me emotionally.
summergiles 2 years ago
I agree with what you say about sadness being the key to getting out of something unhappy.
However, concerning mothers, what if they don't like their kids being sad because the kid is being bullied at school? What if it is just motherly instinct to not want to see their children sad?
drew335533 2 years ago
I guess those rules are passed from person to person, and no one questions them, excluding a select few. I like to use common sense and reasoning when it comes to social-related situations. If I hate that person, I avoid them. If I enjoy to be around them, I will interact with them as much as possible and if not, then whenever possible.
That is why my own family is not that close to begin with, due to lack of effort and decided to use this reasoning/logic.
doctorofghetto 3 years ago
you are amazing.. please dont stop makin vids!!! love listening to u
ssips720 3 years ago
I think your brother was context dropping. The fact that people have some power does not mean that you "give it". She obviously has more control if she can make you see her than not. If there was a job you hated, you wouldn't take it because quitting would "give the employer control." His reasoning was sophistic.
MetaMorphy 5 years ago
Do you have nuerophysiological evidence for your claim about emotions. As far as I understand, there are two kinds of emotion---processing of facial features is done in the amygdala but otherwise the higher brain functions act on this brain region: Thus, in most contexts, thought procedes emotion.
MetaMorphy 5 years ago
they(mothers) will miss you(son) cause you're their life witness
thaiQ1985 5 years ago