A big first date turn-off for both guys and women

[asmukkar]

It's a serious turn-off. One time I changed my mind about her 30 seconds into it, and wanted to walk out. It was a very long date.

[Blankname101]

I agree!!!!

[antwakefield]

I've dated a few girls that yabbered on... it's kinda cute when they're nervous, but for the love of god, shut the hell up and let the other party talk. One girl interrupted me constantly, i couldn't get away quick enough and i'm sure she would be still single just due to this totally annoying habit.

[TheRulezzzzzz]

I agree, but it is hard not to make this mistake.

[nibargerswife51482]

thats why guys seem to have "selective hearing"....lol its cuz some girls talk to much.

[squrilleyboy]

I feel that I'm better at listening then I am at talking, so I would rather listen to my date more than I would talk about my self. Is that good or bad?

[tonytiger80206]

all bitches are homosexuals thats the only tip men need

[dreamlandlover]

I like really talkative people as long as they listen as well

[QuoGirl]

Not a problem for me. The only time I ever talk too much is online... which requires zero movement of the muscles on my mouth. Except for when I watch videos like this and I LOL

[realhiphop087]

@agolosha  same here lol, i cant seems to put a real conversation with females...usually lasts around 1 or 2 minutes.

[bluejetty01]

But I gotta talk about myself. I'm the best thing since sliced bread!

[AccessTrance93]

Youre tips came directly from womens heaven, right?

[QuoGirl]

@AccessTrance93 yes, he HAS to be the messenger alright :D

[mewtwoboy5]

can you help me?

[ohdoshutit]

lol - too little conversation can be absurd - but i guess the silence substantiates the electricity in the air.

[planB091]

Were the fuck were you dude?

[boudica2009]

So true! People undervalue silence!...........hmmm

[realhiphop087]

damn son u should making a buisness out of this.

[Infiniteuphorix]

Just get them drunk and you will talk for hours. And eventuallyt fuk for hours too..lol

[ammodomini]

this is true.I pick up on that really well considering im the type of person that wont allow awkward silence.What i like to do is almost force the other person to talk by simple ending what ever im saying with a relevant question.

[Sephitron]

too much talking can be annoying as shiiiit but if you are both talking an equal amount back to back, its fun...hmm well I have a date tonight, hopefully she doesn't talk too much haha

[Rtv03]

I agree. I also believe people shouldn't consider silences as awkward but rather enjoy the tension.

Like you said in an earlier vid, it even helps mentioning the silence. Worked great for me, hahahaha.

[DLK0383]

what if the silence is kind of long?

[insaneguitarfreak]

@DLK0383 you kiss ^^

[Seraku15]

who cares if the girl talks too much. Be the interviewer and ask her the questions.

[AVIATIO]

I believe that I understand the general theme here: basically, try to go with the flow, not less conversation & not more. There is balance which must be maintained.... And that means that one must practice in order to nail down that delicate balance. I BELIEVE that's what you imply.

[archy1426]

you should make videos on your aproaches..

That would help us alot

[TABULOUS1]

Yes. And actually, my friends (both genders) have expressed that NOT talking enough can also be just as much of a problem as talking too much.

Either way, both characteristic are red flags.

Unlike most people, I see flags in neon (lol) and I appreciate them because they prevent me from wasting energy with people I need not entertain.

But as always, great advice.

[CiudadVictoria]

good one!

[bumblyjack]

I agree that talking too much is a huge turn-off. On the other hand, being a good active listener that shows genuine interest in what the other person has to say is a huge turn-on.

[ragtimest]

nice!

[CBAtheBboy]

thank you again arkady :)

[LiveReligiously]

good advice this is.

[Justinian43]

thank you for the advice really apreciate it

[therealsoulproduct]

I really should show my friend this video. He's got a real bad habit of doing this.

[bqureshi390]

this dude can probably get any girl to go out with him lolz

[senore01]

Could not agree with you more.

[BipolarPics]

amen to that!

[detriplea]

I remember i had a crush on this girl and one day I saw her talking and boy, How instant i changed my mind.

[sambrown18]

@detriplea Yea this happened to me, pretty but no brain.

[Migvill]

@detriplea LOL! i know what you mean

[JoeCaliforniah]

@detriplea i feel u bro. i feel u.

[Mr96tears]

There's a fine line. You don't want to be not talkative enough either. Makes you look uninteresting, boring, and again, not confident.

I've dated a handful of women lately. At least from my experience, I think that women are more picky than guys. It seems that us guys have to have a great job, nice car, be confident, be thoughtful, have this, have that, blah blah blah. A lot of us guys just want a woman that we're interested in who isn't psycho. We don't ask for much. Dating is fun.

[UnknownXV]

@Mr96tears Women are definitely more picky. Something about the limited egg but abundant sperm. Damn evolution is too slow to keep up with our social and technological achievements.

[legendnemesis]

@Mr96tears couldnt agree more 

[meow0meow7]

That certainly won't be a problem for me.

[maxpane007again]

same here...

[jusblaze99]

okay i really like this guy, and his advice, but this vid is funny bc of where he is standing... its like he's in an office cubicle after hours, he's got like a huge project he's workin on and he's like, "ya know what, im gonna make another vid," and his boss walks by and is like GET BACK TO WORK!

[jamesattard]

lol

[goldragon988]

Or maybe he's the boss.

[rodgerswan]

good video as always, and cool background. Looks like a really sophisticated place.

[CountDOODOO]

that's great advice! Thank you.

[Vineezay]

yourr the best arkady

[lostdenizen]

I'd rather date a girl who talks than a girl who doesn't talk. It's not because I don't know how to carry on a conversation. It's just that some girls I've met don't have interests, no hobbies, no vision, and nothing to say at all.

[scancool]

everyone is interested in something you just have to find out how to get the best of them.

[strongyang]

Yup, totally agree

[MrUltimateTKO]

Good advice.. I need advice on how to approach some girl at the grocery store that keeps staring at me...she flirted with me once. The 2nd time I saw her, I didn't get to talk to her because I was in another line and wasn't in the line that she was attending the customers.

[avenger1000]

Well I'm not the master arkady is, but I would ask her "how's work today" while smiling and maintaining eye contact. Have a flirty manner without being too damn strong. Have a conversation. If it's really quite obvious she digs you, you might ask her out on a later visit. Review arkady's videos to make sure I'm not giving you bad advice btw.

[5my9other93half]

Avenger1000 has some good advice, and at the same time you could watch his other vids cus I remember he talks about grocery stores quite a few times.

[Cerebrum505]

Heheh one of the FIRSTS

[SkyBlue4bluesky]

hmmm sounds sense as right to me ..thanks man but hey what if both of us don't talk much because we're nervosa ? I mean who looks right to start the talking the girl or the boy?

btw have a nice holiday =]

[LionInfluence]

nice video. is that your work area?

[danielwcas]

what if there's not enough talking by both because their shy?

[benjambreeg]

please give me the answer to that one : |

[jrion2]

nice! man nice. ^^V