I guess that the third one is akin to assuming that that person had plastic surgery or the like. My friend got her boobs done and when she tells people their response is, "they came out very well," lmao. Of course this is usually in bar settings though. That's a normal response to any type of cosmetic surgery or alteration. Hell I am guilty of that one, but only if someone tells me they've specifically had surgery (I don't go around assuming things like that, which would be incredibly rude and
Oh my god! I really like this :D I had few cis-people insulting me saying I don't look like "real man" or I look like "a little 9 years boy" and calling me a "dyke" which they believe gender and sexuality are the "same thing". It gets me so angry when it happens... But I try not to let it get to me. I'll sometimes look for the humor what transphobic bigots would say and move on.
Actually dude that's really not surprising. People point out differences in each other all the time whether it's meant to be hateful or not. I know if someone said something like that to me, I could just brush it off because it happens to everyone. If you breath then chances are someone is making a comment about a group you're in. I can say something like, "French people are totally sexy. Why can't Irish people look more like them? Also Mexicans smell." Or some heinous fucking shit like that.
I hate the myth that male-to-female transsexuals are exedingly good at doing make-up and hair, or that that they're somehow more tuned in to fashion trends and style. It seems people equate them to drag queens, and that just isn't the case. Marvelous video. By the by, you're quite dashing ;)
hahaha this is amazing and its so wiear that people actually think this shit is compliments!!! hehe i get the first one all the time and just thinking to my self and how yhe fuck do u think a trans person look like:P:P LOVE ur accent!!!!!!!
This kinda ties in to this topic I guess, but seriously: If I hadn't checked your profile, I'd never guessed that you're dutch. Your english is simply fucking perfect!
BTW, I've grown up about 15km from the dutch border (on the german side - please don't hold that against me! :D ) and so I've pretty much always known a little bit of dutch. I still don't really *speak* it, but understand most of it - and I fucking LOVE the Dutch language. It's just so adorable! :-D
@Killersepp Thanks! With Dutch, people seem to either come down on one side or the other. Either they think it sounds like a string of GhhghgggGGGHhGGhggh's or they think it sounds adorable. XD
p.s. if you're ever in the states and want to supplement all the parkour/wushu awesomeness with circus tricks, let me know- I can totally teach you how to fly. =D
Personal favorite: "I can't believe that [name] used to be a [gender]! They make such a good [other gender]!" I heard this from my freakin' roommate, about a mutual friend of ours, and literally had a few minutes of complete standstill going "but... they didn't.... she's not.... think about how that.... that's not how gender....agggghhhh my brain!" *sound of brain breaking* and by the time the gears in my head had stopped grinding, my roommate had left the room.
Oh my goodness you are an attractive human being. *wide-eyed stare and drool at accent*. How about this one? "Wow, You're transgender? That's awesome. I'd love to hear about your feelings surrounding your experiences over coffee sometime."
@Arwench Hahaha, I suppose you could try, but don't be surprised if people take you for a trans-chaser. ;-)
I know plenty of people, trans or otherwise, who would make a brisk U-turn at "let's talk about your feelings." But I get what you mean and the sentiment is very much appreciated. :)
'Transsexual' is an adjective. I'm not 'a transsexual' but a transsexual woman. Or, do you call someone, say, 'a black'?
Also, just to make it clear, 'tr*nny' is not for trans men to reclaim. If a trans woman chooses to do so, go the fuck ahead! However, I will physically harm anyone who calls me a tr*nny.
@tuuLi You make a valid point. I also identify as a trans(gender) man, not as "a transsexual". I understand the difference and should have made that clearer in this video.
You are also right to criticize any instance of potential transmysogyny when you see it. It was not intended that way, but it's true that most of the time, when it comes to the t-word, men do the reclaiming while women are the ones getting hurt. In future I will try to be more sensitive to this issue.
I know right I mean is that suppose to make me happy that you don't look at ppl and guess whats in their pants...like we all go around doing that. I find some of them Ive heard over the past 6yrs in transition very funny and some insulting. Like I've gotten one that made me laugh "wow, but your more attractive then my son!" that one was a good one i have to say. From a lady that gave me a job.
how about this one I never would of guessed you were a girl cause you look hot I was about to hit on you. O_o wtf. Who blurts that out to your face when they hear that your trans.
I hate to admit this. But I've probably watched this vid about 20 times now. I LOVE this video, the points made are very true and the amount of humor is perfect. And as said before, the tranny-machine part and the fishnet stockings is soo funny. Awesome. And I think the part of "je bent goed gelukt" sounds a lot worse in Dutch than the English translation sounds, and even THAT's horridly horrible.
I've done the "you know for a straight white twenty something dude.... you're less ugly. it was as a joke of course. I would never insult some one like that the way that I get insulted by people who think they're being kind.
This was an amazing video - a lot of people who I know don't actually have a problem with trans people but are still guilty have saying stupid things, and it's great to have something that I can show to them so that they know it's not me being over-sensitive (as I can be sometimes). You put your point across in a very entertaining way - I don't think I've smiled so much in a long while.
Thank you
(And I'll echo the comment about your voice - if you die before me, can I have it?)
Okay, it's been said before... but here goes... I was way too busy getting off on your dishy accent to pay attention, so I've had to go back and watch the video a second... third... *coughs*... Oh, fuck it. I'll pay attention eventually.
See, I would never have guessed you were transsexual because 1) I didn't know you before your gender reassignment, and 2) I haven't seen you genitals. OH WAIT, THAT'S TRUE FOR MOST TRANS PEOPLE I KNOW! *eyeroll*. And I don't think I care; I am just in love with your brain.
this was an amazing video - thank you for making it! i was just writing out some similar thoughts to make a video about this myself, and then i happened upon your video.
You're adorable, and it's sad that people can be so ignorant. Hopefully we all spread this and similar messages to it around enough so people can be more thoughtful towards what comes out of their mouths.
While I appreciate his humour, I don't appreciate him using transsexual and transgender interchangeably. Sex and gender are different. And not all trans persons are transsexual or even undergo some or all forms of transition.
@curlyviper Thanks for pointing that out. I used them interchangeably here because the people making nonpliments often do. I know there's a difference. I should have probably made that clearer in this video, especially since I have had huge arguments with psychologists unwilling to treat me simply because I identify as transgender rather than transsexual.
@curlyviper It's crazy how much BS you get for identifying as transgender instead of as transsexual sometimes, isn't it. The clinic I went to even put it on the front of my file in giant black letters as a warning sign.
@JJFanshawe May I ask why you identify as transgender instead of as transsexual? I thought (please correct me if I'm wrong) that being a transsexual person meant they were transgender but had surgery or intended to get surgery.
I personally have almost given up on labels (I'm genderqueer and want a partial transition, and nobody really knows what that makes me). it's sad I'll have to face all these labels in the future when talking to doctors...
@trialdownloader I feel more comfortable with transgender or trans because the label is broader and because I have no interest in SRS. I have the feeling the definitions of transsexual and transgender also differ over here. I get the idea the medical institutions here don't use the term transgender to refer to the umbrella term but to people who are genderqueer and/or interested in social transition but not in surgery. The term genderqueer isn't really used much here yet.
@TheWoodsOfWonderland Hahaha, yes, and it also made me look over a decade younger than I've been around for. Teenage sparkle magic time!
Seriously though, I read an article about Andrej Pejic in the arts section of this big national newspaper, and the things the writer and quoted fashion critics said about androgyny ( = sexy & fashionable (in the young only, obviously)) vs trans ( = disgusting and ugly) were shallow and sickening. Since then I've been thinking a lot about that prejudice.
This is so awesome, and something that people don't talk about enough! especially when talking about trans and desirability. Trans is considered so "out there" by society we'e either fascinating or repulsive. and sexual desire and the concepts of our bodies is tied up in what's expected or not expected or what should or shouldn't be. There is no space for variance or difference.
I think when people say, 'you don't look like a transsexual', they don't mean, 'you don't look like some preconceived idea I have about what all transsexuals look like' (well, maybe some of them do; I don't know), but rather, 'you don't look like [your birth sex]', in other words, 'you pass really well.' Is that still a nonpliment?
@Cernoise Telling me I pass really well wouldn't be a nonpliment to me cause I don't find it insulting.
Though I have to say, if I had a huge beard and was really muscular and hairy like some men, and someone told me I passed really well I might fall over laughing.
Sometimes people do assume though. I know a girl who met up with someone who knew she was trans and was told on meeting: "I'm so glad you're not wearing fishnet stockings and a pleather miniskirt! I was a little scared."
@Cernoise But that was someone who was very honest about having harboured a misconception and they let it go immediately. They hung out for a couple of days and had lots of fun together. :)
@CTrace When a person doesn't pass they are fighting the hardest battle for this community, and the whole community should be damn thankful to you for that. I send you a message, by the way.
Thank you for making this video! You presented an upsetting subject in an appropriately entertaining way so as to laugh through the tears (or laugh so as not to throw things). This video made my night. Thank you! (Also, you are extremely good-looking.)
@feiplum First of all, JJFanShawe and I had a polite and constructive discussion, if you cannot do likewise, then please refrain from commenting. You don't deserve an answer, but I'll give you one anyways. It's not our fault that people are idiots, but the most effective response is to not be an idiot back to them. When we reply with the same level of ignorance as we perceive, we reduce ourselves to caricatures and increase our position as targets.
Towel drag for the win and a great video. Next time I hear someone deliver one of these I'll definitely pull out the, "Well... you look pretty okay for a heterosexual cisgender person..."
I see your point. I would only offer that maybe if we didn't wear our transgenderism on our sleeves and demand that the world recognize us for what we are, then people might not be put off by us or confused about how to treat us. We say that we want to be treated like "ordinary people", but sometimes we don't act like "ordinary people." Case in point, this video. Valid emotions, but a rant isn't really the best solution, education is. Just my opinion.
@GodMedia Sometimes a rant is what gets the message across that education is needed. Because I agree with you that it is very much needed. Unfortunately, as a minority, you often need to prove loud and clear that there is a problem with the status quo in the first place for something to happen.
However, I don't necessarily want to be treated as "ordinary". If I did, I wouldn't be so out. As long as people don't treat trans as less, which is what this is ultimately about.
@JJFanshawe Again, I get it, the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Most times, however, a squeaky wheel is just annoying and the grease isn't so much a solution to the squeak as it is just a way to make it shut up. Treating people who don't know how to treat us like insensitive imbeciles doesn't endear us to them, however, and is not any better than the way they treat us. It's like treating babies as idiots simply because they haven't learned to walk.
@GodMedia Okay, I'm not @JJFanshawe, but I admire the restraint he's showing here. I mean, seriously? You're trying to say that us trans people are responsible for people being jerks? And then telling him that he (and by extension, any of us who tries to stand up for themselves) are mostly just annoying and not a solution?
@TheSophera JJFanshawe and I had a nice polite and constructive discussion. That's how you make progress, through intelligent discourse and patient education. I now understand his position and he understands mine and we agree that we don't agree on every point. Telling a person "Screw you" only serves to demean yourself. And that is exactly my point, WE look like a bunch of angry fools and are ripe for the mistreatment of the world.
@GodMedia I apologise; reading through your other replies more closely, I didn't realise that you were also trans. My response was based on the false assumption that you had cis privilege.
That said, I don't think it's unreasonable for something like my response to occur towards someone who *did* have cis privilege, if only because these things happen so darn often and a lot of us are sick and tired of hearing about it.
@TheSophera That's cool. I am trans as an MTF transvestite. I have lived as a "female" for extended periods and have experienced my share of hate, ridicule, and violence and it makes me angry, too. I just want to see us present ourselves as we want to be seen, intelligent and respectable and "normal" in the society. I understand the anger that leads to rants, but I don't believe rants make us look how we want to be seen. Just my opinion, though.
@GodMedia I care about education. Education is what I do in my spare time. I'm volunteering at a local gay organization to include the BT in their LG anti-bullying educational program which does the rounds at many local high schools, and I'm working at getting the local university to include solid transgender studies texts in their gender studies curriculum, among other things. Occasionally an angry rant is very necessary to get that stuff off the ground -- as well as to sustain my own drive.
@JJFanshawe I applaud your efforts, but I've learned some things in my years, and one of them is that rants come across as tantrums and make us look childish. Be bold, speak loudly, but don't whine because people don't "get it" yet. It wasn't that long ago that we couldn't even dream of being able to be out as TG, let along take a political stance for our rights. The world is still learning and we must help it embrace us. Acceptance is as much our responsibility and duty as it is the world's.
@GodMedia I think we'll have to agree to disagree as far as this video in concerned.
In the meanwhile I'd prefer to work on something productive rather than wasting our energy talking cross purposes. We can do better than that. We both agree that education is key. I'm involved with various volunteer organizations so I have access to the people and platforms that make education happen. We can always use good solid ideas, so if you have any great ideas for educational projects let me know.
@JJFanshawe That's fair enough. I can't tell you how wonderful it has been to converse with you. I will definitely give some thought to ideas for education. If I may say so, I think a discourse like this one that we have shared goes much farther to disarming prejudice and promoting unity than the video did. You are a neat person and I thank you for sharing some time with me.
Hilarious vid, and so true. Sometimes I think people just dont think about what about to come out of their mouths. And because its an unplanned statement is shows how they're actually thinking
@MrImportrans Inderdaad! Het kan echt niet! Maar ik ken echt zoveel mensen die wel eens zijn verteld dat ze "goed gelukt" zijn. Daar wordt echt niemand blij van.
Your so hot can we date?
Cottonmouth235 1 day ago in playlist Transgender Favorites
Towel drag! This is amazing. I <3 you. You are amazing :)
sillyyetsuccinct 1 day ago
I guess that the third one is akin to assuming that that person had plastic surgery or the like. My friend got her boobs done and when she tells people their response is, "they came out very well," lmao. Of course this is usually in bar settings though. That's a normal response to any type of cosmetic surgery or alteration. Hell I am guilty of that one, but only if someone tells me they've specifically had surgery (I don't go around assuming things like that, which would be incredibly rude and
zoedil 1 day ago
love this video, love the "towel drag" tag. Also, you're hot!
purplefrog42 1 week ago
Ah love your accent! Ik hou van u!
sahinica 1 week ago
Oh my god! I really like this :D I had few cis-people insulting me saying I don't look like "real man" or I look like "a little 9 years boy" and calling me a "dyke" which they believe gender and sexuality are the "same thing". It gets me so angry when it happens... But I try not to let it get to me. I'll sometimes look for the humor what transphobic bigots would say and move on.
Isaacthekid 1 week ago
OMG YOUR ACCENT <3 <3 it is like music to my ears
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Actually dude that's really not surprising. People point out differences in each other all the time whether it's meant to be hateful or not. I know if someone said something like that to me, I could just brush it off because it happens to everyone. If you breath then chances are someone is making a comment about a group you're in. I can say something like, "French people are totally sexy. Why can't Irish people look more like them? Also Mexicans smell." Or some heinous fucking shit like that.
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ihazkittens 2 weeks ago
I hate the myth that male-to-female transsexuals are exedingly good at doing make-up and hair, or that that they're somehow more tuned in to fashion trends and style. It seems people equate them to drag queens, and that just isn't the case. Marvelous video. By the by, you're quite dashing ;)
DradijkaVonPontinov 2 weeks ago
"You're a douche. Do I need to explain WHY you're a douche?" <3
PandaPurgatory 3 weeks ago
2:49 LMAO
VioletDrow 1 month ago
Thank you for making this video,this is so...... true!You definetly made me laugh,but you are so right!
IAMTHEKYNG 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
boo ya
RitchandNaked 1 month ago
grow a pair u whiner
burgerkingsucks1 2 months ago
What's with the moustache and the 'french' accent at the end? Think about it for a minute....
spis2is 2 months ago
hahaha this is amazing and its so wiear that people actually think this shit is compliments!!! hehe i get the first one all the time and just thinking to my self and how yhe fuck do u think a trans person look like:P:P LOVE ur accent!!!!!!!
SELKILKT 3 months ago
@SELKILKT Thanks! Haha, so true. People say weird shit.
JJFanshawe 3 months ago
I've lived in England for ten years...and you speak better English than me :P Also, you're awesome
FTMDaniel 4 months ago
DUDE ! GREAT VIDEO ! PEOPLE NEED TO STOP, WITH THOSE HALF ASS NON COMPLIMENTS..
TH3ILLSTRICAN 4 months ago
This kinda ties in to this topic I guess, but seriously: If I hadn't checked your profile, I'd never guessed that you're dutch. Your english is simply fucking perfect!
BTW, I've grown up about 15km from the dutch border (on the german side - please don't hold that against me! :D ) and so I've pretty much always known a little bit of dutch. I still don't really *speak* it, but understand most of it - and I fucking LOVE the Dutch language. It's just so adorable! :-D
Killersepp 5 months ago 2
@Killersepp Thanks! With Dutch, people seem to either come down on one side or the other. Either they think it sounds like a string of GhhghgggGGGHhGGhggh's or they think it sounds adorable. XD
JJFanshawe 5 months ago
just fell in love a little
damntheycaughtus 6 months ago 3
p.s. if you're ever in the states and want to supplement all the parkour/wushu awesomeness with circus tricks, let me know- I can totally teach you how to fly. =D
ElizaBlaze 6 months ago
Personal favorite: "I can't believe that [name] used to be a [gender]! They make such a good [other gender]!" I heard this from my freakin' roommate, about a mutual friend of ours, and literally had a few minutes of complete standstill going "but... they didn't.... she's not.... think about how that.... that's not how gender....agggghhhh my brain!" *sound of brain breaking* and by the time the gears in my head had stopped grinding, my roommate had left the room.
ElizaBlaze 6 months ago
The second one is like telling a black person they don't act like a nigger.
Conchobhar 6 months ago
What a load of baggage your carry round mate..... lighten up and smile...
andrewhurdle 6 months ago
I'm a trans girl, and I'd almost go straight for you. I love your accent so much. I'd let you speak dirty dirty dutch to me! :3
OrcaBot 6 months ago
Cool Video
cutefashion81 6 months ago
Oh my goodness you are an attractive human being. *wide-eyed stare and drool at accent*. How about this one? "Wow, You're transgender? That's awesome. I'd love to hear about your feelings surrounding your experiences over coffee sometime."
Arwench 6 months ago
@Arwench Hahaha, I suppose you could try, but don't be surprised if people take you for a trans-chaser. ;-)
I know plenty of people, trans or otherwise, who would make a brisk U-turn at "let's talk about your feelings." But I get what you mean and the sentiment is very much appreciated. :)
JJFanshawe 6 months ago 2
JEEBUS I LOVE THIS.
MrLukePaul 6 months ago
This guy speaks English and Dutch? How does this work?!
YukiNekoPrincess 6 months ago
Actually trans people do have a certain look. Sorry, they do...they look hella awkward.
Glyvxx 6 months ago
'Transsexual' is an adjective. I'm not 'a transsexual' but a transsexual woman. Or, do you call someone, say, 'a black'?
Also, just to make it clear, 'tr*nny' is not for trans men to reclaim. If a trans woman chooses to do so, go the fuck ahead! However, I will physically harm anyone who calls me a tr*nny.
tuuLi 6 months ago 8
@tuuLi You make a valid point. I also identify as a trans(gender) man, not as "a transsexual". I understand the difference and should have made that clearer in this video.
You are also right to criticize any instance of potential transmysogyny when you see it. It was not intended that way, but it's true that most of the time, when it comes to the t-word, men do the reclaiming while women are the ones getting hurt. In future I will try to be more sensitive to this issue.
JJFanshawe 6 months ago
@tuuLi - by most definitions it is a noun.
theresa317bell 6 months ago
okay, I absolutely LOVE your voice! you've just got one of those voices that I could listen to all day! :D
puppetmaster124 7 months ago 2
I know right I mean is that suppose to make me happy that you don't look at ppl and guess whats in their pants...like we all go around doing that. I find some of them Ive heard over the past 6yrs in transition very funny and some insulting. Like I've gotten one that made me laugh "wow, but your more attractive then my son!" that one was a good one i have to say. From a lady that gave me a job.
FTMyc 7 months ago
how about this one I never would of guessed you were a girl cause you look hot I was about to hit on you. O_o wtf. Who blurts that out to your face when they hear that your trans.
FTMyc 7 months ago 3
@FTMyc Oh man, that happened to you? That's the worst!
JJFanshawe 7 months ago
I hate to admit this. But I've probably watched this vid about 20 times now. I LOVE this video, the points made are very true and the amount of humor is perfect. And as said before, the tranny-machine part and the fishnet stockings is soo funny. Awesome. And I think the part of "je bent goed gelukt" sounds a lot worse in Dutch than the English translation sounds, and even THAT's horridly horrible.
20Xris 7 months ago
Here's a compliment for you: You're fucking dreamy.
EmBotBeepBeep 8 months ago 3
I've done the "you know for a straight white twenty something dude.... you're less ugly. it was as a joke of course. I would never insult some one like that the way that I get insulted by people who think they're being kind.
picnicfacefan 8 months ago
AHAHAHAHA, this was hilarious "..you just discovered that I don't have fishnet stockings tattooed to my hairy legs!!!"
Seriously, great video, rock on.
And yes, you look good.
Period.
tufftandle 8 months ago
came here via justin hubbell!
TheLachias 8 months ago
This was an amazing video - a lot of people who I know don't actually have a problem with trans people but are still guilty have saying stupid things, and it's great to have something that I can show to them so that they know it's not me being over-sensitive (as I can be sometimes). You put your point across in a very entertaining way - I don't think I've smiled so much in a long while.
Thank you
(And I'll echo the comment about your voice - if you die before me, can I have it?)
kathydacat 8 months ago
you're adorable and brilliant. this video is so good.
polyesterwindow 8 months ago
Okay, it's been said before... but here goes... I was way too busy getting off on your dishy accent to pay attention, so I've had to go back and watch the video a second... third... *coughs*... Oh, fuck it. I'll pay attention eventually.
TwystedDreams 8 months ago
I pretty much love you. You're adorable.
aokifumiko 8 months ago
Oh, and also...damn, your accent is so nice 8D
HexReinette 9 months ago 2
Dude, this made me laugh so much. Also, it's all true.
HexReinette 9 months ago
amazing. love the "brace yourselff" part.
gorramdoll 9 months ago
you are so sexy
velocityeleven 9 months ago
See, I would never have guessed you were transsexual because 1) I didn't know you before your gender reassignment, and 2) I haven't seen you genitals. OH WAIT, THAT'S TRUE FOR MOST TRANS PEOPLE I KNOW! *eyeroll*. And I don't think I care; I am just in love with your brain.
strega42 9 months ago
LOL that was a bloody Amazing Rant, i will totes say that to some ignorant fuck. also.. Dam boy, you fine.
FutileObsession 9 months ago
Great video! Thank you for making this!
jacobincest 9 months ago
this was an amazing video - thank you for making it! i was just writing out some similar thoughts to make a video about this myself, and then i happened upon your video.
mind if i feature this video on my blog?
charlesasher 9 months ago
@charlesasher Sure, no problem.
JJFanshawe 9 months ago
This has to be one of the most hilarious videos I've seen in awhile. I'm laughing so hard right now!
DarknessWhispers 9 months ago
Oh my god your accent TAKE ME NOW.
JawnDeeMusic 9 months ago 41
@JawnDeeMusic agreed. hahah :D
nincure 9 months ago
dear god, this is brilliant (and dear god you are foxy).
shespeakssoftly 9 months ago
this is such a great video! love it.
juanitagangle 9 months ago
AHAH AHAHAH. oh goodness, you tagged these so well. Well done sir!
rantinan 9 months ago
you have a hot accent. also I find you much more attractive than most white heterosexual males I know! :D
eyeshadowlady 9 months ago
Great video! Thanks for sharing it!
moldingMe 9 months ago
erg goed tnx for this vid.
FTMedge 9 months ago
Well said.
krybski 9 months ago
Uh okay, your accent- LOVE.
xokeishajxo 9 months ago
Marry me... you sound like my male counterpart... loving every second of this! *kiss*
Julie
JulieBrownsGuitar 9 months ago
You, sir, are WIN! Definitely good additions!
Bourne2bwild1989 9 months ago
You're adorable, and it's sad that people can be so ignorant. Hopefully we all spread this and similar messages to it around enough so people can be more thoughtful towards what comes out of their mouths.
thefuckheadsgalore 9 months ago
Oh, BTW, you look just like Matthew Broderick. Like, whenever I watch this video I see matthew broderick. Just saying.
cambridgedomer4life 9 months ago
This was seriously awesome and witty. Thanks for making this.
cambridgedomer4life 9 months ago
Unexpectedly acceptable XD
antsunii 9 months ago
Your voice is almost unbearably handsome.
I agree, why is there so much emphasis on looking good these days?
'you looked hotter back then...'
'i look HAPPIER now'
crazymittenz 9 months ago
BTW, you're making the rounds on tumblr.
IntrepidStranger 9 months ago 2
LOLed so hard. I wish you were my boyfriend. I need somebody that feisty, for real!
IntrepidStranger 9 months ago
While I appreciate his humour, I don't appreciate him using transsexual and transgender interchangeably. Sex and gender are different. And not all trans persons are transsexual or even undergo some or all forms of transition.
curlyviper 9 months ago
@curlyviper Thanks for pointing that out. I used them interchangeably here because the people making nonpliments often do. I know there's a difference. I should have probably made that clearer in this video, especially since I have had huge arguments with psychologists unwilling to treat me simply because I identify as transgender rather than transsexual.
JJFanshawe 9 months ago 2
@JJFanshawe Thanks for clearing that up :) and I am sorry to hear about your difficulties with the medical establishment! I share your grievances!
curlyviper 9 months ago
@curlyviper It's crazy how much BS you get for identifying as transgender instead of as transsexual sometimes, isn't it. The clinic I went to even put it on the front of my file in giant black letters as a warning sign.
JJFanshawe 9 months ago
@JJFanshawe May I ask why you identify as transgender instead of as transsexual? I thought (please correct me if I'm wrong) that being a transsexual person meant they were transgender but had surgery or intended to get surgery.
I personally have almost given up on labels (I'm genderqueer and want a partial transition, and nobody really knows what that makes me). it's sad I'll have to face all these labels in the future when talking to doctors...
trialdownloader 9 months ago
@trialdownloader I feel more comfortable with transgender or trans because the label is broader and because I have no interest in SRS. I have the feeling the definitions of transsexual and transgender also differ over here. I get the idea the medical institutions here don't use the term transgender to refer to the umbrella term but to people who are genderqueer and/or interested in social transition but not in surgery. The term genderqueer isn't really used much here yet.
JJFanshawe 9 months ago
@JJFanshawe Thanks, that makes a bit more sense.
trialdownloader 9 months ago
"And the machine pooped me out covered in sparkles, it's amazing"
They made you a twilight character o.O Ewww, I don't wanna go into that tranny machine :P
And thank you for reconizing that androgyny is not just a fashion statement -_-
TheWoodsOfWonderland 9 months ago 2
@TheWoodsOfWonderland Hahaha, yes, and it also made me look over a decade younger than I've been around for. Teenage sparkle magic time!
Seriously though, I read an article about Andrej Pejic in the arts section of this big national newspaper, and the things the writer and quoted fashion critics said about androgyny ( = sexy & fashionable (in the young only, obviously)) vs trans ( = disgusting and ugly) were shallow and sickening. Since then I've been thinking a lot about that prejudice.
JJFanshawe 9 months ago 2
This is so awesome, and something that people don't talk about enough! especially when talking about trans and desirability. Trans is considered so "out there" by society we'e either fascinating or repulsive. and sexual desire and the concepts of our bodies is tied up in what's expected or not expected or what should or shouldn't be. There is no space for variance or difference.
MidwestGenderQueer 9 months ago
I think when people say, 'you don't look like a transsexual', they don't mean, 'you don't look like some preconceived idea I have about what all transsexuals look like' (well, maybe some of them do; I don't know), but rather, 'you don't look like [your birth sex]', in other words, 'you pass really well.' Is that still a nonpliment?
Cernoise 9 months ago 2
@Cernoise Telling me I pass really well wouldn't be a nonpliment to me cause I don't find it insulting.
Though I have to say, if I had a huge beard and was really muscular and hairy like some men, and someone told me I passed really well I might fall over laughing.
Sometimes people do assume though. I know a girl who met up with someone who knew she was trans and was told on meeting: "I'm so glad you're not wearing fishnet stockings and a pleather miniskirt! I was a little scared."
JJFanshawe 9 months ago
@Cernoise But that was someone who was very honest about having harboured a misconception and they let it go immediately. They hung out for a couple of days and had lots of fun together. :)
JJFanshawe 9 months ago
Hahahaha oh my god you are so cute and funny. Love your towel-hair.
Great video, it really shows how offensive and not okay these things are to say.
sukiyaki113 9 months ago
AWESOMELY useful video, well conveyed.
Erinwolfrus 9 months ago
I just want to say that your voice is awesome.
RaidenTheAlmighty 9 months ago
you're really good looking for a dutch guy, lol
but seriously though, those kind of people are clueless in general
aryanvaryan 9 months ago
@CTrace When a person doesn't pass they are fighting the hardest battle for this community, and the whole community should be damn thankful to you for that. I send you a message, by the way.
JJFanshawe 9 months ago 8
Thank you for making this video! You presented an upsetting subject in an appropriately entertaining way so as to laugh through the tears (or laugh so as not to throw things). This video made my night. Thank you! (Also, you are extremely good-looking.)
HezaaZee 9 months ago
Sarcasm is one of the best ways to clarify the absurd actions of others. Poignant yet funny. Loved it! Keep speaking the truth.
taralovesbelinda 9 months ago
Omigosh, I would have NEVER guessed you were Dutch: you have *such* a good English accent.
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Wait...!
Seriously, tho, great vids, both by you and Ftmark1.
ZanderSchubert 9 months ago
I would just like to say the fellow in the video looks a lot like David Bowie
Nocturnabell 9 months ago 2
I gave the 42nd "like" for this video. That means something.
AndreaTheNerd 9 months ago
I love him :)
Minimoo93 9 months ago
@godmedia
Wow way to victim blame I'm sure you also believe that women get raped because they look like sluts.
feiplum 9 months ago
@feiplum First of all, JJFanShawe and I had a polite and constructive discussion, if you cannot do likewise, then please refrain from commenting. You don't deserve an answer, but I'll give you one anyways. It's not our fault that people are idiots, but the most effective response is to not be an idiot back to them. When we reply with the same level of ignorance as we perceive, we reduce ourselves to caricatures and increase our position as targets.
GodMedia 9 months ago
Towel drag for the win and a great video. Next time I hear someone deliver one of these I'll definitely pull out the, "Well... you look pretty okay for a heterosexual cisgender person..."
TheLeakyPen 9 months ago
I see your point. I would only offer that maybe if we didn't wear our transgenderism on our sleeves and demand that the world recognize us for what we are, then people might not be put off by us or confused about how to treat us. We say that we want to be treated like "ordinary people", but sometimes we don't act like "ordinary people." Case in point, this video. Valid emotions, but a rant isn't really the best solution, education is. Just my opinion.
GodMedia 9 months ago
@GodMedia Sometimes a rant is what gets the message across that education is needed. Because I agree with you that it is very much needed. Unfortunately, as a minority, you often need to prove loud and clear that there is a problem with the status quo in the first place for something to happen.
However, I don't necessarily want to be treated as "ordinary". If I did, I wouldn't be so out. As long as people don't treat trans as less, which is what this is ultimately about.
JJFanshawe 9 months ago
@JJFanshawe Again, I get it, the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Most times, however, a squeaky wheel is just annoying and the grease isn't so much a solution to the squeak as it is just a way to make it shut up. Treating people who don't know how to treat us like insensitive imbeciles doesn't endear us to them, however, and is not any better than the way they treat us. It's like treating babies as idiots simply because they haven't learned to walk.
GodMedia 9 months ago
@GodMedia Okay, I'm not @JJFanshawe, but I admire the restraint he's showing here. I mean, seriously? You're trying to say that us trans people are responsible for people being jerks? And then telling him that he (and by extension, any of us who tries to stand up for themselves) are mostly just annoying and not a solution?
Screw you, honestly.
TheSophera 9 months ago
@TheSophera JJFanshawe and I had a nice polite and constructive discussion. That's how you make progress, through intelligent discourse and patient education. I now understand his position and he understands mine and we agree that we don't agree on every point. Telling a person "Screw you" only serves to demean yourself. And that is exactly my point, WE look like a bunch of angry fools and are ripe for the mistreatment of the world.
GodMedia 9 months ago
@GodMedia I apologise; reading through your other replies more closely, I didn't realise that you were also trans. My response was based on the false assumption that you had cis privilege.
That said, I don't think it's unreasonable for something like my response to occur towards someone who *did* have cis privilege, if only because these things happen so darn often and a lot of us are sick and tired of hearing about it.
TheSophera 9 months ago
@TheSophera That's cool. I am trans as an MTF transvestite. I have lived as a "female" for extended periods and have experienced my share of hate, ridicule, and violence and it makes me angry, too. I just want to see us present ourselves as we want to be seen, intelligent and respectable and "normal" in the society. I understand the anger that leads to rants, but I don't believe rants make us look how we want to be seen. Just my opinion, though.
GodMedia 9 months ago
Oh, and @JJFanshawe, I apologise if I ascribed feelings towards you that you didn't have.
TheSophera 9 months ago
@GodMedia I care about education. Education is what I do in my spare time. I'm volunteering at a local gay organization to include the BT in their LG anti-bullying educational program which does the rounds at many local high schools, and I'm working at getting the local university to include solid transgender studies texts in their gender studies curriculum, among other things. Occasionally an angry rant is very necessary to get that stuff off the ground -- as well as to sustain my own drive.
JJFanshawe 9 months ago
@JJFanshawe I applaud your efforts, but I've learned some things in my years, and one of them is that rants come across as tantrums and make us look childish. Be bold, speak loudly, but don't whine because people don't "get it" yet. It wasn't that long ago that we couldn't even dream of being able to be out as TG, let along take a political stance for our rights. The world is still learning and we must help it embrace us. Acceptance is as much our responsibility and duty as it is the world's.
GodMedia 9 months ago
@GodMedia I think we'll have to agree to disagree as far as this video in concerned.
In the meanwhile I'd prefer to work on something productive rather than wasting our energy talking cross purposes. We can do better than that. We both agree that education is key. I'm involved with various volunteer organizations so I have access to the people and platforms that make education happen. We can always use good solid ideas, so if you have any great ideas for educational projects let me know.
JJFanshawe 9 months ago
@JJFanshawe That's fair enough. I can't tell you how wonderful it has been to converse with you. I will definitely give some thought to ideas for education. If I may say so, I think a discourse like this one that we have shared goes much farther to disarming prejudice and promoting unity than the video did. You are a neat person and I thank you for sharing some time with me.
GodMedia 9 months ago
Hilarious vid, and so true. Sometimes I think people just dont think about what about to come out of their mouths. And because its an unplanned statement is shows how they're actually thinking
oneyoungman87 9 months ago
I love that you have a "towel drag" tag.
doctormorbuis 9 months ago
Big time funny! Thanks for making this. :)
kabardinka1 9 months ago
Ok, you've put the random image of a person with a boob on their face in Sophi's mind XD
Also *pokes just above your lip* oooo shadow :D
alteredegoX 9 months ago
Great Video, Thanks :)
Subbed :D
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billybxox 9 months ago
Um, you're hott. I mean like really cute and sexy. Yum. *Pervy Moment.* (sorry)
fuzzystickyrice 9 months ago
"Dü eet!!" love Love LOVE the moustache action! "Goed gelukt". Omg. *facepalm* ánd *headdesk*
SuzyS85 9 months ago
"Pooped me out covered in sparkles!"
I love you so much right now.
Transtastic101 9 months ago
Echt de eerste die tegen me gaat zeggen je bent goed gelukt daar weet ik nu al een antwoord op namelijk ja jij ook!
En dan maakt het me dus echt niks uit of het een cis of een trangender is.
Dropkogeltje 9 months ago
@Dropkogeltje Hahaha, ja, doen! En dan wil ik graag weten hoe ze reageren!
JJFanshawe 9 months ago
Freaking amazing video! EXCELLENT TOWEL DRAG!
Hilarious, hard hitting, true, sad-ish but so well done, I'm gonna share this everywhere.
Ftmark1 9 months ago 17
@Ftmark1 Thanks man! Thanks for sharing, also. :D
JJFanshawe 9 months ago
God, I hate the "je bent goed gelukt" of "je kunt het amper zien"... Alsof alleen "goed gelukte" transen bestaansrecht hebben. Gatver.
MrImportrans 9 months ago
@MrImportrans Inderdaad! Het kan echt niet! Maar ik ken echt zoveel mensen die wel eens zijn verteld dat ze "goed gelukt" zijn. Daar wordt echt niemand blij van.
JJFanshawe 9 months ago