Is asking if your date has gay tendencies wrong?

[starfaery]

You're probebly, not gonna get a honest ansver....'cause it's rather taboo, for a guy to be gay, in todays society.

[Sibbot]

stop at 0:30. What the hell is with the subliminal flashing? Am I going to go the grocery store right after I'm done with the video and buy a bunch of coke products?

[socialdemoncat]

You don't really say why you feel you need to ask so soon after meeting someone... do you think having gay tendencies is sexy? Disgusting? Threatening perhaps? It seems you have an issue here. Did a former guy dump you for another guy? Are you afraid you will be found less attractive than a man?

You seem pretty together, a nice looking girl and everything. What isn't attractive is your hesitancy and seeming judgmental attitude. Be more open minded and cool guys will dig you more. Be not afraid.

[nyncblue]

Theres nothing wrong with asking a guy if he has any gay tendencies or gay past. Infact every single woman should ask that question on a first date instead of asuming that he doesnt.

[sisubilly]

Ask! You have a right to know.

[IAPOD]

if we gonna fuck u can ask what ever you want.if not dont ask

[sillyboy2326]

if you are going out with them on a date anyway, and trust them enough to do so (assuming it isn't a blind date) why would it matter if they did do anything like that? if they wanted to pick up on guys wouldn't they be doing that? or going to a gay bar instead? not to mention if they ever did, they probably wouldn't tell you anyway and its not ur business on a first date IMO. maybe instead of rushing into a date you should get to know them better before hand if possible if this worries you.

[KigurumiAlice]

He will be bi sexual

[skribblah]

a better question is:

what is your reason for asking that question?...

would you NOT date someone if they did have gay tendencies?...if you're asking that question in a non judgmental way for curiosity sake then its appropriate for a second or third date. not the first. if you are asking because you have that big of a problem with it, I would make that clear before you go on any dates. like "P.S i dont date bisexuals so if you are don't bother"...otherwise id say 3rd date...

[sphinxrising58]

If a female ever asked me that type of question, without a second's hesitation I would ask if she ever had any lesbian tendencies, as fair is fair, lol

[IAPOD]

i ask that anyway cause it s hot as hell

[turnipburg]

but you never go on dates?

[mnthriller]

Hey girl,

You can ask me if I have gay tendencies. But don't get pissed off when I ask you if you spit or swallow, as I obviously have a need to know.

[tim7337]

"Only if its fair if i ask you if you have a penis afterwords."

-Dan HendrixSON (my gay roomate)

But if you asked me that, i would ask back if you asking me that because: 1) You want a threesome with another guy; 2) You wanna do me in the butt with something; or 3) Let me fuck you hardcore and show how not gay I am.

[poolerboy0077]

I guess you'd have to ask yourself if it would be appropriate for a guy to ask you if you spit or swallow. If your going to be that imprudent on the first or second date then it has to be fair game across the board.

[DukeAlba]

Even if he was gay... Why would you ask? Because if he is he won't say it, for fear that you'd dump him. And if he isn't gay then he'd get pissed off and dump your candy ass...

Standardbearer sums it up below...

[nicknacka]

"Im a Dj, and a performer" (add "aswell as a slut")

[gayproundatheist]

she is such a dumb straight breeder! I have had 260 married men. Straight men go to gay males because we dont b9tch and give better blow jobs. Straight woman ONLY care about shopping and money.

[DavidRectum]

you are a strange muscular woman.

[jkrageazzhole]

There's nothing wrong with asking questions.

[jml11220]

If you're asking because you either find it attractive or not, I'd wait until you make a clear impression about other elements of his personality. If you ask because you want to know if he's at increased risk for HIV and STD's, then ask plainly before you have sex for the first time.

[fatgrlshrinking]

I wouldn't ask on the first few dates, but I have asked it of many guys that I've dated. Of course, I tend to be attracted to guys with gay tendencies, so I'm kind of hoping that they say yes...lol.

[Simba117]

Don't know about the PC dictate here, but ask me that on a date and you can rest assured that you will be stood there for quite a while wondering why I never came back from the Gents.

[cdma77]

Only if it's OK is he asks you if you like a big old Cleveland Steamer on you face!

[RealityChekr]

Only if you are ok with him dumping you because you have lesbo tendencies or if you have ever dyked out with a bull diesel dyke or a close fish licker.

[standardbearer]

Ask him only, If you want to bump the guy for good. I mean, The poor bastard takes his time to go out with you to movies, or dinner, or etc, hoping to pull your panties, then you ask "excuse me, but are you gay?"

A bit strange, isn't it?

[rextrek]

Thats fine I guess....as long as you wouldn't mind be asked yourself? Depends what kind of relationship you're looking for...some women have had "experiences" but doesn't mean they are Gay...hmm good question tho.

[ClemClemens1111]

As a gay man I am a firefigher, my partner is a Pilot,,trust me ,,we never pass as gay, but we are not bi either, but when I was single all I met was bi men, and Learned to ask if, they were bi,,,,,that is the correct question ,,and yes,,you should ALWAYS ask!

[Bigjohnnywad]

Your a DJ..I was thinking your worked in the entertainment industry in the capacity of a porn star...Why would you ask a guy this crap on a date? What in the world does it matter to you?

[mrfatboy559]

well thats one way to find out if you get anal or not?? lmfao !!!

BTW got any rock records for sale ?

[Trans4ormers]

I don't think it is. Never hurts to ask. But would it offend you if he asked you the same question?