Times were very different then and people were less excepting but our friends eventually did come around. Not as much as I had by joining him at his hang outs or helping him decorate for the annual party he would throw for gay pride day etc.. I got to know all his friends and I thoroughly enjoyed their company. My friend died of aids, I miss him dearly. I cherish the fun times we had and I feel sorry for the ignorance in others which we still have today but thank God it's not quite as bad.
Ignorance sure sucks. I don't think it's that bad anymore, more and more people are accepting, and the younger generation seems to be coming out... I am so proud that a lot more kids can be true to themselves... If I knew being an FTM was even possible, it would have saved many unhappy years!
Your friend was lucky to have you in his life. You are a good person, truly!
You said you had excepting friends when you came out, did you have any friends that shunned you as well? My very first b/f, my first love mind you came out 2 yrs. or so after we started going steady (this was the 80's) and I was devastated to say the least but not nearly as sad as I was to see him being shunned by our friends. I had to distance myself from the way things used to be between us and I began supporting his lifestyle and choices.. and yes, I got called some choice names and shunned.
I had 4 other close girl friends in 9th grade. We always hung out and were pretty much inseperable. After I came out to them, they slowly, over a course of a month weaned themselves out of my life... They said they were accepting, but they weren't, obviously.
You know hon, it's really their loss but you have to be patient and understanding as well to the ways they were raised or taught... or whatever. Even though I say this, I still can't fathom why one human being would condemn another for keeping it real and being true to themselves. You know that friend I spoke of? He came from a very large family with 12 siblings, if their was ever an argument that it's not a "choice" to be gay, his family was proof in my mind. ALL were gay except for 2 of them.
AWESOME video!! It's not a matter of courage that you haven't come out to your folks as trans, you have oodles of that. You'll know when the time is right for you, and your folks.
How did your parents react to the news of you being lesbian? There is still a HUGE difference between trans and lesbian because of the personal need to look more the part of that gender.
I am glad your just not like thinking, "well they are okay with me being lesbian, so surely they will be okay with trans"
I really feel for MTF's because of the appearence of the gender... It's more accepted for girls to wear jeans, t-shirt have short hair... I couldn't put myself into a MTF's shoes, because even though I have always dressed this way, nobody gave me slack cause of it.
OMG I almost lost it at the part about only liking the bun!!! You are so funny! Love it!!!!!!!!! :)
CrooningCardinal 1 year ago
You're handsome!!!!!! love this video!
schneideat30 1 year ago
@schneideat30
Thank-you, for the compliments and the comment!
NotYourAverageOne 1 year ago
Oh shit. I thought you were a boy wit a girls voice haha..
ThaRealestRican 2 years ago
Suppose I am doing a good job, being me, then :)
Thanks for the comment :)
NotYourAverageOne 2 years ago
LMFAOLMFAOLMFAOLMFAOLFA i love you!!! you used the hot dog and bun!!! hahaa.
Aw. yur amazing.
kittykatty09 2 years ago
Any excuse to use it, the better!!
NotYourAverageOne 2 years ago
Hahhahaha yay :)
kittykatty09 2 years ago
Times were very different then and people were less excepting but our friends eventually did come around. Not as much as I had by joining him at his hang outs or helping him decorate for the annual party he would throw for gay pride day etc.. I got to know all his friends and I thoroughly enjoyed their company. My friend died of aids, I miss him dearly. I cherish the fun times we had and I feel sorry for the ignorance in others which we still have today but thank God it's not quite as bad.
shine4362 2 years ago
Ignorance sure sucks. I don't think it's that bad anymore, more and more people are accepting, and the younger generation seems to be coming out... I am so proud that a lot more kids can be true to themselves... If I knew being an FTM was even possible, it would have saved many unhappy years!
Your friend was lucky to have you in his life. You are a good person, truly!
NotYourAverageOne 2 years ago
You said you had excepting friends when you came out, did you have any friends that shunned you as well? My very first b/f, my first love mind you came out 2 yrs. or so after we started going steady (this was the 80's) and I was devastated to say the least but not nearly as sad as I was to see him being shunned by our friends. I had to distance myself from the way things used to be between us and I began supporting his lifestyle and choices.. and yes, I got called some choice names and shunned.
shine4362 2 years ago
I had 4 other close girl friends in 9th grade. We always hung out and were pretty much inseperable. After I came out to them, they slowly, over a course of a month weaned themselves out of my life... They said they were accepting, but they weren't, obviously.
NotYourAverageOne 2 years ago
You know hon, it's really their loss but you have to be patient and understanding as well to the ways they were raised or taught... or whatever. Even though I say this, I still can't fathom why one human being would condemn another for keeping it real and being true to themselves. You know that friend I spoke of? He came from a very large family with 12 siblings, if their was ever an argument that it's not a "choice" to be gay, his family was proof in my mind. ALL were gay except for 2 of them.
shine4362 2 years ago
AWESOME video!! It's not a matter of courage that you haven't come out to your folks as trans, you have oodles of that. You'll know when the time is right for you, and your folks.
Lorinwv 2 years ago
Have to admit, I laugh at the thought of having oodles of courage :)
Thanks Lori.
NotYourAverageOne 2 years ago
Coming out as trans is never easy. I came out to my parents back in 2005 at the age of 36 and it still was not easy.
Good Luck and have some patience with your family. Be VERY prepared for the worst and hope for the best.
Jensagirl 2 years ago
Thanks Jen, for the encouraging words.
It's just so frustrating, because I'm like "OK, now's the perfect time", then something comes up and I lose my balls
NotYourAverageOne 2 years ago
How did your parents react to the news of you being lesbian? There is still a HUGE difference between trans and lesbian because of the personal need to look more the part of that gender.
I am glad your just not like thinking, "well they are okay with me being lesbian, so surely they will be okay with trans"
Jensagirl 2 years ago
I really feel for MTF's because of the appearence of the gender... It's more accepted for girls to wear jeans, t-shirt have short hair... I couldn't put myself into a MTF's shoes, because even though I have always dressed this way, nobody gave me slack cause of it.
I truly respect you!
NotYourAverageOne 2 years ago
yea, I hear ya, I am tall but atleast I don't look or feel like a linebacker in a dress, hehe.
Keep in touch and good luck
Jensagirl 2 years ago