Hi Derek - I am reading the book you recommended, Self Therapy, and it is quite helpful to me in determining how to best utilize my time with you in a therapy session. It sure has made a big difference in how much info I can absorb from this these wonderful videos of yours as well. Thank you for your generous-hearted help.
Thanks for the comment - let me to clarify something. Parts are like full-blown people. In the work we'll often talk about (e.g.) a "sad part" because that is what the part is initially presenting to us. Just like when we meet someone it is often our "friendly" part that takes the lead; and we are so much more than "friendly".
Therapeutically we are only seeking to help a part to relieve its burdens. But if we spend time with them they can share the richness of their full personalities.
It was helpful and great to see how the parts work in 'real life'. Its helped me name my guys and girls, though my system will never allow anything like this session to happen. I'm still skeptical; though i have DID so my 'parts' are more like full blown people not just 'bits' of a personality designed for 1 or 2 jobs. Great video's though, it was great to see how IFS works in real life. Thanks for making it!
This was very helpful for me, and very well presented as well. I've had intuitions about the mind containing a multitude of parts, (ever since reading "My stroke of insight") but I had never known that there was a therapeutic model that takes this in to account. I hope many more people can discover this video. Great job.
What a fantastic idea, to do an IFS role-play! Thank the part of you who suggested it for me. :)
I've just started with an IFS therapist, and while I've been familiar with the model through reading Internal Systems Therapy, the process of going through it with a trained therapist has been completely priceless. I feel a lot more relaxed, because I don't feel the need to do so much self-monitoring. I can just be present, and when something comes up, I'm not particularly aware of, he lets me know.
great video. I just had 8 sessions of this therapy to quit smoking and so far so good..I am also an MSW student and am bringing this model to my clinical class b/c it is really powerful and no one seems to know or teach about it. your videos were very helpful in understanding how to work w/ IFS therapy...which can seem very convusing at times. You seem like a great guy. keep up the good work! Love from Kate J. in Providence, RI
Sorry it was confusing - I know I packed a lot in. Maybe try watching it through ignoring the notes to get a better flow - or just on audio. For clarification, the engagement with the little boy part is from Self - the part (exile) is releasing its experience to the client's Self.
Interesting but a little confusing for me... I also kept having to pause to read the constant notes, which were kinda helpful, but pausing a lot kinda messed up the flow of the video. --- I was also kinda confused about the gender of the client and by the "languaging"(like stuff about when you were describing the inconsolable boy... I wasnt sure if that was a memory or some kind of representation of an interaction between the "Self" and the "part"). Thanks for the videos tho, IFS videos r rare
This was awesome. It was a lot of information, thrown at me really quickly- and information about a subject I particularly want to understand and process fully (my own healing), so that was difficult. But very understandable, because it's a demo, and not a therapy session with just me and a therapist.
So enjoyed watching a session unfold like this- and the notes you posted as adjunct material are extremely helpful. I really feel like I have a "feel" for the work, now- thanks to your videos! I am a therapist in private practice, and will continue to explore this modality for myself and my clients. Thanks so much for posting!
I thought it was a good idea that you recommend us to watch the video several times. It was quite difficult to focus on listening to the conversation while reading the notes you wrote. I got a bit frustrated trying to keep up, but I remember what you said and relaxed. Thank you again for posting another series on IFS.
Hi Derek - I am reading the book you recommended, Self Therapy, and it is quite helpful to me in determining how to best utilize my time with you in a therapy session. It sure has made a big difference in how much info I can absorb from this these wonderful videos of yours as well. Thank you for your generous-hearted help.
Persephone9ish 1 month ago
Thanks for the comment - let me to clarify something. Parts are like full-blown people. In the work we'll often talk about (e.g.) a "sad part" because that is what the part is initially presenting to us. Just like when we meet someone it is often our "friendly" part that takes the lead; and we are so much more than "friendly".
Therapeutically we are only seeking to help a part to relieve its burdens. But if we spend time with them they can share the richness of their full personalities.
derektherapist 4 months ago
It was helpful and great to see how the parts work in 'real life'. Its helped me name my guys and girls, though my system will never allow anything like this session to happen. I'm still skeptical; though i have DID so my 'parts' are more like full blown people not just 'bits' of a personality designed for 1 or 2 jobs. Great video's though, it was great to see how IFS works in real life. Thanks for making it!
22hetha 4 months ago
This was very helpful for me, and very well presented as well. I've had intuitions about the mind containing a multitude of parts, (ever since reading "My stroke of insight") but I had never known that there was a therapeutic model that takes this in to account. I hope many more people can discover this video. Great job.
americaninkorea 4 months ago
Very insightful, thank you very much!
Lumbergh42 8 months ago
What a fantastic idea, to do an IFS role-play! Thank the part of you who suggested it for me. :)
I've just started with an IFS therapist, and while I've been familiar with the model through reading Internal Systems Therapy, the process of going through it with a trained therapist has been completely priceless. I feel a lot more relaxed, because I don't feel the need to do so much self-monitoring. I can just be present, and when something comes up, I'm not particularly aware of, he lets me know.
PhilosophyWatch 10 months ago
Thanks for the comment Kate - glad you're bringing the model to your class, feel ree to use my material if it is helpful,
Derek.
derektherapist 11 months ago
great video. I just had 8 sessions of this therapy to quit smoking and so far so good..I am also an MSW student and am bringing this model to my clinical class b/c it is really powerful and no one seems to know or teach about it. your videos were very helpful in understanding how to work w/ IFS therapy...which can seem very convusing at times. You seem like a great guy. keep up the good work! Love from Kate J. in Providence, RI
333katjohnson 11 months ago
Sorry it was confusing - I know I packed a lot in. Maybe try watching it through ignoring the notes to get a better flow - or just on audio. For clarification, the engagement with the little boy part is from Self - the part (exile) is releasing its experience to the client's Self.
derektherapist 11 months ago
Interesting but a little confusing for me... I also kept having to pause to read the constant notes, which were kinda helpful, but pausing a lot kinda messed up the flow of the video. --- I was also kinda confused about the gender of the client and by the "languaging"(like stuff about when you were describing the inconsolable boy... I wasnt sure if that was a memory or some kind of representation of an interaction between the "Self" and the "part"). Thanks for the videos tho, IFS videos r rare
minimerules1231 11 months ago
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minimerules1231 11 months ago
(I guess I'm just voicing that "impatient" part of myself which you mentioned. I see his feelings, and I see the bigger picture, too.)
All in all, very systematic presentation- very sensitive and in depth as well. Thank you so much.
YeredEtan 1 year ago
This was awesome. It was a lot of information, thrown at me really quickly- and information about a subject I particularly want to understand and process fully (my own healing), so that was difficult. But very understandable, because it's a demo, and not a therapy session with just me and a therapist.
YeredEtan 1 year ago
really interesting, thanks.
rjtoten 1 year ago
So enjoyed watching a session unfold like this- and the notes you posted as adjunct material are extremely helpful. I really feel like I have a "feel" for the work, now- thanks to your videos! I am a therapist in private practice, and will continue to explore this modality for myself and my clients. Thanks so much for posting!
doubledancer 1 year ago
A most fantastic series, sir. Seeing the work "live" as it were has deepened my understanding of it. Thank you very much!
rationalOgre 1 year ago
Brilliant! Thanks so much for sharing this methodology! :)
newjoiseyboy 1 year ago
Thank you for the videos, the idea about sending emails to my parts and in between the parts is quite exciting. I got to try that. :)
megous 1 year ago
excelent stuff :D
thank you so much for making this vid :)
vcvanderveen 1 year ago
I thought it was a good idea that you recommend us to watch the video several times. It was quite difficult to focus on listening to the conversation while reading the notes you wrote. I got a bit frustrated trying to keep up, but I remember what you said and relaxed. Thank you again for posting another series on IFS.
thehawaiianlion 1 year ago
Great series! I enjoyed watching the entire process and even had a little break through of my own. Thanx for doing this! keep it up :)
dittotl 1 year ago