Does The Pain of Rejection and Not Belonging Make You Stronger or Damage You?

[MultiMan120]

Your pain, curse, gift, and strength...

[TyrannySue]

It depends on about a million factors.

[TyrannySue]

It depends on about a million factors.

[auntafrica]

Breaks you. Completely and utterly shatters you. It makes you lose something that you will never get back. 

[autumnsoliloquy]

I think TCKIDS have very high self-awareness, sometimes to the point of it being too suffocating for us. We know ourselves too well. And a deep desire to connect with another person.

[LKamrath]

My experience was more that of just not really belonging...I think I lost my identity. I had become so good at adapting that I didn't know who I really was inside. I didn't have enough time to develop meaningful relationships, so I felt like an outsider and I didn't understand why I didn't connect with anyone. I'm 28 now, and I've become aware of myself in a way that I don't think a lot of my peers have. I know myself better - what I like, what I need. I think that makes me stronger.

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[thescowlingschnauzer]

What doesn't kill us makes us stranger.

[dicer0llin67]

Hey there nice video.. I am not lying if i say you get used to rejection, in a way its us taking on bigger resposibility to become more wise. After a while you will see that you are always have belonged just that journey made you realize something.

[badcoraphael]

it breaks you...every time. but after a while you get wiser...which is something very vital.

[meeko1004]

mostly i just think of it as a curse. my life right now is so agonizingly fragmented. I've lost my sense of self, feel like an anomaly/misfit in every group, and am struggling with depression. but at the same time, if given the choice, i don't think i would exchange my life for a less mobile one. it's made me who i am, adding deeper dimensions to the way i think and the way i perceive the world.

[blackincense]

Hello and God bless you Brice --- my answer is both:

The experience breaks us, in ways that make it possible for God to put us back together again in the right way. I am very grateful to you for your work with TCK;s. I am an adult TCK who has struggled with depression, and severe debilitating isolation. Until I found your site, I did not know there was a name for what plagued me. I believe that being a TCK has made me "rich" beyond imagining. It has also pained me more than I can describe.