if you think borderline is a bad stigma try Schizophrenia. I was wrongly diagnosed even though I never heard voices are saw things that were not there. It turns out I have borderline something that is usually asscoiated with women. The bottom line is the human brain is unique between every person. You cant label anyone anything and be sure with today's medicine. But , for 10 years they said I was schizo gave me high does of harmful medication and shock treatment.
This guy is typecasting. He's as bad as the professionals he's criticizing. Not all of this stuff fits for me and I get really cheesed off with doctors who think they know, but they don't, and they don't listen.
i've been through a lot of therapy, yet i can not handle any criticism or 'objective' opinion. i've had some really condescending and belittling psychiatrsits/counsellors. i just want a good one. how can i find one thats a good match?
@gbien Dr. Thomas W. Gable, Atlanta, Georgia. I do not suffer from this disorder. My mother does and she makes me physically ill. I wish you the best. All of you actually.
Truth is that Bi-polars ,Bpd,Npd people REALLY hurt people. In their wake they leave broken hearts..Men,Women or children..thats the bottom line. I was 4,5 years with a bi-pilar/narcist woman. Its hrtfull..and Ican say that those people are not and cant be really human..They seek and destroy..they are sufferesrs but the things they do is inhuman..
@artistforrealart I pretty much agree. We could become friends. I might even cherish our relationship, but in the end I'll do my best to rip your heart out.
this guy is pretty good, but he talks about 'fixing' people in a month? a couple of years? I was diagnosed 9 years ago and have had great therapists and I'm still working stuff out!
"we all have a little bit of this stuff in us" this is a good statement. If more people saw mental health as a graphic equiliser of frequencys we all have and different 'dissorders' as curves that we all have, with differing percentages of each aspect, rather than the 'us and them-ism of 'we are sane' and 'they are mental'. or 'ill' then maby those that do not suffer a strong emotional trate will be able to empathise more clearly why bpd people are 'such a problem' for "sane" folks.
Pretty true for my famliy situation. Everything says is spot on for my relative with BPD. Esp they extreme fears of abandonment, always putting themselves in thier victim role. The need to always know what others are doing giving unasked for advice. It's hard for me to accept the idea that all the chaos this person causes needs kindness instead of tough love. I feel like I am rewarding the behavior.
@97karenlacey I lived with a borderline for 8 months. I relate to everything you said. Espically the victim role! She lied about everything. Her life was nothing but EXTREME chaos and there was NO reasoning with her. It started taking a HUGE toll on me. Take my advice get rid of her ASAP. Life is just to dam short! She will try to manipulate you back. Possibly with suicide threats. Don't buy into it. You did'nt cause her disorder and you sure as hell won't fix it!
@TheMightykaz I live quite a distance from my morther,but recent events revealed the depths of her lies in my life.
We had a scare, the doctor said she was a walking heart attack. I went to her and brought my daughter just in case. Well it was the visit from hell she made my sisters cry one one daily my other sister weekly.
She woke people up stomping and yelling, claimed her father was grouchy she was like him ect. No respect for others meanwhile expecting constant attention. uugh.:)
@TheMightykaz Well the funny part is my mom doesn't pull half the tricks on me or my brother. We don't rise to the bait. I offered to let her live withme a while(to get her off my sisters back) no she says she hates Tucson.
No the real reason I don't smoke or drink and won't put up with her when she goes off. I found confronting her makes her cry but she stops for a while anyway. So all this advice I found is the opposite of what should be done.
@melly6947 People have this idea that you can be loving or tough. Love is not weak or fragile it is strong flexable bond between people. It can endure all things, BUT that does Not mean people with BPD are not accountable of thier actions. I was told by someone I love, that I had no right to judge her, yet she had endless opinons She wouldn't Shut Up!! Then some Shrink advocates no confrontation. This is needed to solve issues. If you never lay down the law it hurts the relationship more.
@97karenlacey yes i agree, but im pretty sure this shrink does advocate confrontation,not right away though he says... and of course i think if u lay down the law with some bpd people,they will know next time whats appropriate to say and when to keep theyre mouth shut..your right..
@missdarkangelxxx same here, and actually i have a girlfriend, since seven months, i had such a fear of her leaving me, and she actually ended up leaving after five months. those days following were hell, but she came back to me a month later. now, since i have this hellish disorder, little things she does i over analyze and start to fear her leaving me again. i hate this
@bqureshi21 ah i totally get this, i always fear people leaving me so i try to sabatage the relationship, its like i leave before they can leave. I totally feel your abandonment issues its hell , all the best for your relationship im currently starting cognitive behavior therapy i cant see how anything will change my massive abandonment fears
@missdarkangelxxx this doc is so right, an example is when she tells me she will call me at a certain time but doesn't end up calling, i start to think she doesn't care about me at all or is using me or she is pulling away and wants to break up, when really, even when i know logically it's other reasons, i still have the inclination to feel like she wants to leave me, and i can't escape it. and i did therapy for a while, my therapist said i see everything as black or white, no colors in between
@bqureshi21 My disorder comes from i was abused as a child and my dad abandined me also , yeah i understand when my ex who i've just finished from didnt used to reply to my messages straight away or pick up i thought he was gonna leave me for someone else or he was cheating on me. Its really awaful this illness no one around really understands either
@missdarkangelxxx and while this disorder is more common in women, im 21 year old male who has it and it makes it difficult because i'm supposed to be the strong one, and i hide these problems much better now from her, so she sees me that way but inside i'm weakened by these fears. i want to figure out how to just cope with the thoughts, i think the cure is simply understanding when my thoughts become irrational.. we just have to balance thoughts and separate from habitual tendencies/feelings
@bqureshi21 I dont think theres a cure they reckon it fades with age well i'm 28 and i dont think it has , relationships are very hard to keep with this disorder though so good luck with your girlfriend hope she understands
Some BPD pts. would find this direct approach offensive. If he was right, I would think he was fantastic. Each patient is an n=1. So it is tricky to assume that you know the full Borderline Spectrum. I'd be cautious, if I were a clinician. I've seen some gentle creatures, and some truly volatile consumers. I wish I had a specialist in Borderline Personality; It would be difficult, but interesting.
I've been reading about BPD, I have external traits, constantly I'm angry and I rage often. The thing is, I feel alive when I do so, I feel energetic. I love it. Is that bad?
@davidmorrison1955 I don't think it's fair to suggest these BPD individuals aren't able to judge the character or quality of their council. You might be underestimating how acutely aware of social cues they are.
Brilliant...Concise, thorough & accurate descriptions of symptoms...Excellent delivery of information, nothwithstanding technological issues. Appears genuine and trustworhty as a physician...I agree that there are far too many idoits with Phd's/MD's who are "diagnosing" seriously damaged people and who do far more harm than good...(Publisher of this video excluded in my layman's opinion.)
whats messed up is that there are so many doctors who just dont care to understand this problem there arent many doctors who can be as honest and down to earth as this guy and weed does wonders
Faulty thinking about yourself comes from men. I finally got married again after 11 years, and only two months into it he's already trying to make me question myself.
PLEASE HELP - after researching BPD, I'm convinced that my new girlfriend has it. One day I'm the greatest in her eyes, and then she will verbally abuse me like she is Demonic. She does NOT think she has a problem, but had told me that her previous two boyfriends told her she has a split personality. She also said "I've been with a lot of men." I care about her and want to get her help. HOW do I tell her she most likely has BPD? HOW do I get her to see a BPD support group? HOW do I get her into
The whole concept of psychiatry was developed well before 1900 in Germany to get rid of people complaining. The first use of directed energy weapons can be recognized in psychiatric literature from 1908. You find it in chapter Psychiatrie-->Klinik der Narkolepsie on my homepage. During the NAZI time this concept was given up as Germany just murdered oponents. It was relaunched directly after the war to persecute and silence concentration camp survivors.
Disable automatic updates * Hello! Can somebody please help me! I have a very strong feeling that someone close to me has BPD. Would the inability or strong fear of communicating thoughts or feeling, and getting into confrontation or arguments also be symptoms of BPD?
Good points, thanks for sharing this interview. One more thing I'd like to add is a person wouldn't get upset out of the blue unless they feel threatened. It's the natural 'fight or flight' response that all are equiped with when born, for protection from danger/perceived danger. Research suggests unresolved exposure to trauma can lead to impairment to brain structures. Required duration of treatment depends on the extent of the damage and environment factors. Recovery is possible.
Yeeeah... This video taught me nothing I haven't already learned from my psych classes and personal studies of personality disorders. You'd think a practicing therapist would have more original insight, but I guess there's only so much you can learn about a single disorder.
@tearpixy If you're doing your research on youtube then I wouldn't expect to find any new groundbreaking information. I would try psychinfo. There's a whole lot of new research added each day.
i looked at the website of this videos original publishing. I still can't find info on this specific dr who seems to know what hes doing in regarrds to bpd. I need to find a dr like him even if i have to go out of state for help. im not going to last much longer. Whwere can i find him?
can sum1 help me please, i really need help, i have bipolardisorder, i just been extremely depressed lately, im trying to stabilize myself, the love of mylife seems to have borderline personality disorder, sumtimes she hates me, other times she loves me, when shes very depressed she gets angry, ritenow she said she cant be wit me tat she doesnt noe if she still loves me, idk wat to do,this isnt the 1st time this had happen, can 2 people wit mental illnesses stay together? i love her, plz help
yes they can. funny thing is i have borderline and my boyfriend is bipolar and we have been together for five years. :) we had a rocky start too and then we found a solution we try not to talk while we are angry we wait till things cooled down and then talk things out. like if im starting to escalate the fight he will go outside smoke and by the time he comes back in i have cooled off enough that we can reason with each other.
@chickypoo1500 U GUYS have worked on it, she never does.. she goes through phases where shes open minded , tats when we can talk.. when shes closed minded she believes w,e the fuck she wants to, i miss her.. i knew her for 10 yrs, idk if she culd throw away all of it just cuz shes havin a tough time, when she was on meds she was an angel, she refuses to get help and shes always drinkn n smoking, i see the error of my ways cuz im gettn help, shes oblivious.. shes all i got =/
@chickypoo1500 aww how sweet. i have borderline and my bf is a sociopath. and our relationship is exiciting. even thought he is that and i am this..we are able to bring eachother into each others worlds sometimes.
Borderlines are miserable! they are no different than a narcissist or sociopath... they are gullible, that is all he means. They are just clingy and childish. I have severe manic episodes and I do NOT feel sorry for the legit cases of this problem at all...
Borderlines are myopic like a narcissist or sociopath, they just rely on people like this to make their identity and it works for some of them but they stay the same...
@9436oelable For someone who claims a mental illness, you sure don't have a lot of empathy for anyone else. This doctor just said that BPD starts at youth due to identity struggles and you want to blame us for our illness. Really? Well, you're free to say whatever you want, but I thought it might be helpful to other BPDs that they saw your comment for what it was. BPD is a struggle against the constant pain of feeling, not unloved, as much as unlovable. If you think thats easy, be my guest.
you wouldn't know the first thing about borderlines. i have lived with it since i was 13. and i am not gullible at all nor am i childish i have set many goals for myself that is how i have coped with it for so long without any help! i don't feel sorry for myself i am proud that i have lived with it for as long as i have be cause ur little manic episodes you have every now and again don't even come close to how hard it is to feel the way we do everyday!
that benign interpretation technique is essential, he is completely right, it has helped me deal with some stuff when my mind automatically jumps to ....REJECTION .. it instead now takes things in perspective
This guy is on point when he says it's a feeling that is like, I can't stand you, but I can't imagine being without. SO true, it's very hard to let go and that was key for me, and it's very difficult to figure out.
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THIS IS AS ONE PART 4 - In short my summery of findings is: We are all gods of our experience and infinite in our thoughts. what we think we feel, to change our thoughts takes great commitment and determination and sometimes we will fail. But we can and will always rise from the ashes like the phenix reborn will fly again to great heights. Love your life and all the things in it, practice this its a gift that we can achieve. Be great-full for every experience :) My FB = ian.norbury
THIS IS AS ONE PART 3 - A sensitive awakened being. This is no illness its a reality! For those of you who are suffering, start reading:
Its hard at first but practice makes perfect and every day can get easier.
MY BOOK LIST: (Emergency book - The little book of confidence), Celestine prophecy, The power of Kabala, Conversations with god, what is lightbody, men are from mars - women are from venus, In search of the miraculous, Seeking the spirit through druidry.
THIS IS AS ONE PART 2 - I realize that i have been in crisis due to my heightened awareness, this is not an illness, its a gift to understand. I have done this by following my intuition on reading material and developed great knowledge about my spirit, mind, body, meditation, the elements of life, the universe, history, science. I distract when i feel its needed with warm baths, movies, reading, forest walks, loving nature, drawing and sharing knowledge with others. I am love as is the creator !
THIS IS AS ONE - I was diagnosed with BPD a few years ago, I was a constant smoker of cannabis. I had DBT & CBT therapy and was signed off. Although uncured I was fit for work. I was told its incurable, but hey I was also told lots of things by doctors that has been rubbish. NHS doctors ! Hmm. Ok, Short version: I don't smoke cannabis any longer, I am very deep person who is sad that our world is being abused by greedy corporations, people are unkind to each other.. etc etc, I AM HUMAN not BPD X
Lol, you misunderstood me. I dont just sit around and smoke pot. Once i started smoking pot, i realized, its so much better to do everything high. Ive played b ball stoned, ive jogged with a homie, stoned. Haha, its crazy.
Nice video. If you would like someone to relate to, check out my videos or visit my website. I would really like to relate and assist in any way I can.
He is quite accurate. I have BPD. I lived with my grandparents for the first five years of my life because my parents were divorced. Then I lived with my parents when they remarried but my father was always away with his mistresses. I got rejected for the first time when i was 20 years old. It was so painful so I became a transvestite temporarily. Then I became a man again but as long as I don't have relationships with anyone, I don't have to be a transvestite again.
I'm french so don't look at by bad english, I do what I can...
I'm borderline... But don't think I'm ONLY that, I'm a person, not a simple diagnosois which is in constant evolution, as everything in life...
I have been anorexic and boulimic for 10 years~, but it's finish now, I fighted against it and finally won.
However I'm still depressive and feel always hypersensitive, sometimes empty, sometimes too angry or sad, without "real" reasons, just because I feel too much pain, too much emotions..
I'm french so don't look at by bad english, I do what I can...
I'm borderline... But don't think I'm ONLY that, I'm a person, not a simple diagnosois which is in constant evolution, as everything in life...
I have been anorexic and boulimic for 10 years~, but it's finish now, I fighted against it and finally won.
However I'm still depressive and feel always hypersensitive, sometimes empty, sometimes too angry or sad, without "real" reasons, just because I feel too much pain, too much emotions..
it releases emotions and blockages that have built up in yr aura.. if you go through trauma, or negative emotions whatever u create a density or blockage and this then leads to a sluggish energy body and eventually disease in that area. when ur aura is very dense with emotion u may be cause to have an accident to release that build up.. this technique pushes the emotion and stagnant energy up and out of ur system making way for new energy and experience.
I have so many questions please anyone help me my girlfriend blieves strongly she has bipolar disorder I am beginning to think it might be bpd all of these things sound so much like her. She was diagnosed with bipolar disorder but I don't believe this is correct not to mention all of the medicine she had to take had adverse effects making her throw up and become extremely depressed. we have gone out twice now she says she really likes me and that we really like eachother and we dated for four m
omg. every single second of that description seemed like it was about me. I just ruined the perfect relationship with an amazing guy because I couldn't stop obsessing over perceived slights. Tried to keep it to myself, but constantly attacked him, getting needier and needier. And saw it all happening before my eyes. I told him I would end up pushing him away. Now I can't stop going over it again and again how I totally did this to myself. I don't think I'll ever forgive myself.
My recent GF of 3 months, fits this to a T. I am not the only one to think so. If I WAS the only one, I would look at myself. I fell in love with her but according to her everything is my fault - in the "demise" of our relationship. I really wanted to have a future with her, I did not want to move on. She will or is moving on but I don't know to what or where.
This video makes a lot of sense to me, like you know me. Relationships are the biggest trial ever, some almost killing me. I have said the words, "I hate you don't leave me thru 3 marriages. I have tried intensely to do well, but the rage undoes it all. I' am isolating more because I don't trust myself, yet I crave so deeply intimate connections. I want to know more...
The brain is the least understood organ in the human body. Many psychiatric conditions such as autism and BPD have no explanation as to why they occur.
Punishers don't see themselves as punishing, but rather as maintaining order or keeping a firm hand on things or doing "what's right" or letting us know they can't be pushed around. They see themselves as strong and in charge. If their behavior hurts us, so be it. The end justifies the means.
~ Susan Forward PhD author of "Emotional Blackmail"
@Engima329 Show some respect for those of us who bother to research the disease rather than just "deal with it." Some of us (like myself) are spending hours each week in therapy, drug trials, and other hells, and TRYING to get better. Most of us KNOW that we hurt others and want to get better.
@arlequinskinship I didn't say just deal with it. I said people with BPD are stupid. There IS something wrong with your heads. I wouldn't want one near me even a person such as yourself who is trying to cope. But you play the victim, you be the punishment and see how it feels. Then you'll understand why I can't stand you guys because it wasn't just my mom that I met with BPD.
@Engima329 yo engima get over yourself no one cares about how you feel you pathetic piece of shit if you have a problem being near people like that then gtfo geez why are you so stupid to even comment on this page if you know that people are gonna comment back thinking your an idiot?
@Engima329 What's so ironic is that while criticizing borderlines for being abusive, your comments exhibit the same self-righteous, abusive behavior as the worst borderline. Highlights:
"That's what makes you a sad little person."
"I hate people with this problem"
"I don't have respect for people like you and never will"
"I didn't say just deal with it. I said people with BPD are stupid."
"Yeh, don't reply to me because iIll just point out how stupid people are with BPD."
@Engima329 YR REALLY AN IDIOT MY FRIEND COMMITED SUICIDE B/C OF BPD WTH GIVES Y THE RIGHT 2 JUDGE PPL SUFFERING PPL WITH BPD?U SHOULD WATCH YR MOUTH BEFORE YR WORDS CAN BECOME YR ACTIONS!WHAT A SAD WORLD WE LIVE IN PPL WITH BPD DONT CHOOSE TO THAT AND REALLY SUFFER UR LACK OF EDUCATION AND IGGNORANCE KEEP IT 2 YR SELF ITS NOT UR SPECIALIST AREA U LOOK DOWN AND PATRIONISED PPL WITH BPD?I FEEL SRY FOR U URE THE ONE WHOS STUPID AND YR A WEAK SAD PERSON!
The world is a shitty place. Do you know how much is spent in this world every year on defence and the military and weapons research and funding soldiers and wars?? The amount is 10,000,000,000,000 dollars.
@kisskisshoneyhoney Do you know how many peace organizations are out there in this world? Plenty to count. One of the most well known bands in this world promoted peace and changed entire cultures, they were called the Beatles.
@Engima329 Yeah, people like myself with BPD are horrible, HORRIBLE people. That's why I spent almost a decade in the military, spent a year in Chile teaching English, spent 2 weeks in Morocco teaching computers to women, volunteer at the American Red Cross and local animal shelter, and am part of the Wounded Warrior Project (for those of us wounded in the Iraq/Afghan war). Damn people like me who try to make the world a better place.
No one else should bother replying to Engima329. Don't let this person get you upset--we certainly don't need the emotional This teenager is either: (1) heartbroken over how he/she was treated as a child (mourning the loss of his/her childhood); (2) been diagnosed themselves and refuses to believe it; or (3) just a dumbass sociopath. (I'm assuming sociopath. Only a sociopath would troll a mental illness site). Have a great day.
@arlequinskinship Yeh, don't reply to me because iIll just point out how stupid people are with BPD. We certainly don't need people in this world that 1) de-valuating loved ones 2) make people feel all-good or all-bad 3) self harm 4) anxiety/anger that lasts for hours or more 5) distortion of cognition etc... all in one package.
I was heartbroken how my mother treated me as a child like I pointed out already Captain Obvious. I don't have respect for people like you and never will. Why would I?
@Engima329: Maybe you should actually be watching and PAYING ATTENTION to the video before you start badmouthing people.
Don't you think if we could just "fix" it, that we would have by now? Most of us are very intelligent. That's one of the worst parts of this illness... being smart enough to beat it, but your body & brain work another way.
I hate people with this problem. Maybe it's an illness and they can't help themselves, but I can't stand you guys. I suffered 19 years of my life with a mother like this and she made me hate myself beyond imagining. She would invent things off the top of her head about me, she abused my own FATHER mentally and my brother ran away from home. Later I found out she has all the BPD symptoms, but I don't care. I hate her with a passion and this... 'disease' doesn't make me feel sorry for her at all.
They cause enormous amounts of damage in the world. I get sick of hearing about THEIR suffering. That gets old. These people will do anything to anybody, and often DO IT.
@jbearden the human mind is very complex, and we know very little, some people are depressed on a much darker scale than most people experience, it's not even on the same scale as regular drama, it even tops any traumatic moments, this is a feeling of living in a meaningless universe, and you forget how to be human, and in some cases people don't want to live the average human life, they feel like it's mundane, the whole ritual of human existence has no meaning!
@xxxslayerxxx666 They don't want to live the "average" human life? As if "average" is the only possiblity for those without this "special" mental process?
I say the human experience is RICH, and for those who don't feel this way, that is more a function of their FEELINGS then it has anything to do with reality.
You are not PAID to put up with the type of non-existence, non-loving atmosphere these people produce.
You stay somewhere long enough, you BECOME it. So, spend your time wisely
@jbearden "They cause enormous amounts of damage in the world." No, stfu. If you "get sick of hearing about THEIR suffering" then stop lurking in BPD forums and youtube channels. People like you, who are ignorant and lacking in empathy, are a truly destructive entity in the world today.
Easy? Is that French?
Dan85046 1 day ago
my husband is suffering from this BPD, pls can you suggest the Clinician in India, Hyderabad, who can help me with the treatment?
shobha
shobharanibantula 4 days ago
manipulative.... that isn't very nice
xxxXGuNzXxxx 1 week ago
You bpd-people should come and join us other sufferers at mapofmates. com !
illflywithyounow 1 month ago
@illflywithyounow Mapofmates is a great place to meet other sufferers!
miissmiaa 3 weeks ago
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if you think borderline is a bad stigma try Schizophrenia. I was wrongly diagnosed even though I never heard voices are saw things that were not there. It turns out I have borderline something that is usually asscoiated with women. The bottom line is the human brain is unique between every person. You cant label anyone anything and be sure with today's medicine. But , for 10 years they said I was schizo gave me high does of harmful medication and shock treatment.
borderlinemanful 1 month ago
artistforrealart , yer a fuckin judgemental prick
jonesgm3110 1 month ago
blah blah blah ......................help us !
missdarkangelxxx 1 month ago
This guy is typecasting. He's as bad as the professionals he's criticizing. Not all of this stuff fits for me and I get really cheesed off with doctors who think they know, but they don't, and they don't listen.
GhreysGirl 2 months ago
i've been through a lot of therapy, yet i can not handle any criticism or 'objective' opinion. i've had some really condescending and belittling psychiatrsits/counsellors. i just want a good one. how can i find one thats a good match?
gbien 2 months ago
@gbien Dr. Thomas W. Gable, Atlanta, Georgia. I do not suffer from this disorder. My mother does and she makes me physically ill. I wish you the best. All of you actually.
PerfectlyPaige 1 month ago
Truth is that Bi-polars ,Bpd,Npd people REALLY hurt people. In their wake they leave broken hearts..Men,Women or children..thats the bottom line. I was 4,5 years with a bi-pilar/narcist woman. Its hrtfull..and Ican say that those people are not and cant be really human..They seek and destroy..they are sufferesrs but the things they do is inhuman..
artistforrealart 3 months ago
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@artistforrealart You have no idea what you're talking about.
hello10577 2 months ago
@artistforrealart Lol, what they do is beyond your comprehension
gbernard23 2 months ago
@artistforrealart I pretty much agree. We could become friends. I might even cherish our relationship, but in the end I'll do my best to rip your heart out.
MonacoBlast 1 month ago
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@missdarkangelxxx bitch you will get yours
kingjamessolja 3 months ago
I was diagnosed with this at 15. I feel so sorry for my therapist at the time. I was such an asshole.
ciaobellakate 3 months ago
"Before they tell me their story, ill try to tell them their story"
To a new patient?
A psyc tells his patient what he/she is suffering from before getting to know them?
What?
Shargonath 3 months ago 2
@Shargonath Simple - they only get referred to him, when someone has claimed they are showing Borderline symptoms
gbernard23 2 months ago
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Shargonath 3 months ago
Lol gotta love the random face expressions when the video lags!! XD
cookiedipp 3 months ago
BPD is a SYMPTOM of the real problem: psychological wounds from early-childhood trauma. See sfhelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm (by a veteran family therapist)
gercacn 3 months ago
this guy is pretty good, but he talks about 'fixing' people in a month? a couple of years? I was diagnosed 9 years ago and have had great therapists and I'm still working stuff out!
katloader83 3 months ago
about bpd sufferers !
missdarkangelxxx 4 months ago
noone gives a fuck!
missdarkangelxxx 4 months ago
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This is such bullshit.
CtrlRm 4 months ago
am i the only one that see this as a weed commercialo.O?
snigr 4 months ago
i called 5 different doctors all said they wouldn't treat a bpd suffer. how f up!
danielclavalle 4 months ago
He tells his patients their stories before they tell him? What a narcissistic ass.
frankied00m 4 months ago 2
"we all have a little bit of this stuff in us" this is a good statement. If more people saw mental health as a graphic equiliser of frequencys we all have and different 'dissorders' as curves that we all have, with differing percentages of each aspect, rather than the 'us and them-ism of 'we are sane' and 'they are mental'. or 'ill' then maby those that do not suffer a strong emotional trate will be able to empathise more clearly why bpd people are 'such a problem' for "sane" folks.
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mollysangelique 4 months ago in playlist borderline,disease
where is this guy so i can get the help i need
bqureshi21 5 months ago
If I had to diagnose your behaviors i would put you in the sociopath basket doc
sherylans 5 months ago
I have bpd, ptsd, ocd, anxiety disorder,and suffer from depression. you people dont know what hell is!
liveangel11 5 months ago
@liveangel11 What is PTSD?
MissKayze 5 months ago
@MissKayze Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Raimi34 5 months ago
@liveangel11 I agree i suffer with depression too with bpd and anxiety and substance abuse it's a horrible illness
missdarkangelxxx 2 months ago
Pretty true for my famliy situation. Everything says is spot on for my relative with BPD. Esp they extreme fears of abandonment, always putting themselves in thier victim role. The need to always know what others are doing giving unasked for advice. It's hard for me to accept the idea that all the chaos this person causes needs kindness instead of tough love. I feel like I am rewarding the behavior.
97karenlacey 5 months ago
@97karenlacey I lived with a borderline for 8 months. I relate to everything you said. Espically the victim role! She lied about everything. Her life was nothing but EXTREME chaos and there was NO reasoning with her. It started taking a HUGE toll on me. Take my advice get rid of her ASAP. Life is just to dam short! She will try to manipulate you back. Possibly with suicide threats. Don't buy into it. You did'nt cause her disorder and you sure as hell won't fix it!
TheMightykaz 5 months ago
@TheMightykaz I live quite a distance from my morther,but recent events revealed the depths of her lies in my life.
We had a scare, the doctor said she was a walking heart attack. I went to her and brought my daughter just in case. Well it was the visit from hell she made my sisters cry one one daily my other sister weekly.
She woke people up stomping and yelling, claimed her father was grouchy she was like him ect. No respect for others meanwhile expecting constant attention. uugh.:)
97karenlacey 5 months ago
@TheMightykaz Well the funny part is my mom doesn't pull half the tricks on me or my brother. We don't rise to the bait. I offered to let her live withme a while(to get her off my sisters back) no she says she hates Tucson.
No the real reason I don't smoke or drink and won't put up with her when she goes off. I found confronting her makes her cry but she stops for a while anyway. So all this advice I found is the opposite of what should be done.
97karenlacey 5 months ago
@97karenlacey true..i understand where youre coming from.i think in my case i would prefer to have tough love,but love is the key word!
melly6947 4 months ago
@melly6947 People have this idea that you can be loving or tough. Love is not weak or fragile it is strong flexable bond between people. It can endure all things, BUT that does Not mean people with BPD are not accountable of thier actions. I was told by someone I love, that I had no right to judge her, yet she had endless opinons She wouldn't Shut Up!! Then some Shrink advocates no confrontation. This is needed to solve issues. If you never lay down the law it hurts the relationship more.
97karenlacey 4 months ago
@97karenlacey yes i agree, but im pretty sure this shrink does advocate confrontation,not right away though he says... and of course i think if u lay down the law with some bpd people,they will know next time whats appropriate to say and when to keep theyre mouth shut..your right..
melly6947 4 months ago
@melly6947 Thanks for the feedback
97karenlacey 4 months ago
wow all this time of feeling exactly what he said and i never knew there was a name for it...i almost felt as if he knew me..
melly6947 5 months ago
i definitely have relationship anxiety, every single thing he mentioned about it.
bqureshi21 5 months ago
Is that a Rothko?
uncleadolf 5 months ago
abandonment is my main fear , it controls my relationships with ppl
missdarkangelxxx 5 months ago
@missdarkangelxxx same here, and actually i have a girlfriend, since seven months, i had such a fear of her leaving me, and she actually ended up leaving after five months. those days following were hell, but she came back to me a month later. now, since i have this hellish disorder, little things she does i over analyze and start to fear her leaving me again. i hate this
bqureshi21 5 months ago
@bqureshi21 ah i totally get this, i always fear people leaving me so i try to sabatage the relationship, its like i leave before they can leave. I totally feel your abandonment issues its hell , all the best for your relationship im currently starting cognitive behavior therapy i cant see how anything will change my massive abandonment fears
good luck x
missdarkangelxxx 5 months ago
@missdarkangelxxx this doc is so right, an example is when she tells me she will call me at a certain time but doesn't end up calling, i start to think she doesn't care about me at all or is using me or she is pulling away and wants to break up, when really, even when i know logically it's other reasons, i still have the inclination to feel like she wants to leave me, and i can't escape it. and i did therapy for a while, my therapist said i see everything as black or white, no colors in between
bqureshi21 5 months ago
@bqureshi21 My disorder comes from i was abused as a child and my dad abandined me also , yeah i understand when my ex who i've just finished from didnt used to reply to my messages straight away or pick up i thought he was gonna leave me for someone else or he was cheating on me. Its really awaful this illness no one around really understands either
missdarkangelxxx 5 months ago
@missdarkangelxxx and while this disorder is more common in women, im 21 year old male who has it and it makes it difficult because i'm supposed to be the strong one, and i hide these problems much better now from her, so she sees me that way but inside i'm weakened by these fears. i want to figure out how to just cope with the thoughts, i think the cure is simply understanding when my thoughts become irrational.. we just have to balance thoughts and separate from habitual tendencies/feelings
bqureshi21 5 months ago
@bqureshi21 I dont think theres a cure they reckon it fades with age well i'm 28 and i dont think it has , relationships are very hard to keep with this disorder though so good luck with your girlfriend hope she understands
missdarkangelxxx 5 months ago
@bqureshi21 plus the separation anxiety , is so bad sometimes feel like your gonna die !
missdarkangelxxx 5 months ago
drink some vodka , ,, thats how i cope
missdarkangelxxx 5 months ago
arse hole
erniewe 5 months ago
This is pretty much 100% spot on.
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TheUssr5 5 months ago
it is certainly mostly women who are given this diagnosis
inlovewithpoland 6 months ago
feel like i am the worst person in the world this breaks my heart
inlovewithpoland 6 months ago
feel so abandoned and rejected right now
inlovewithpoland 6 months ago
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inlovewithpoland 6 months ago
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inlovewithpoland 6 months ago
He really know what he's talking about. What's his name?
Sofie225 6 months ago
This therapist has described the condition so accurately and coherently. Thank you so much for this video, very informative.
galinarou 6 months ago
Some BPD pts. would find this direct approach offensive. If he was right, I would think he was fantastic. Each patient is an n=1. So it is tricky to assume that you know the full Borderline Spectrum. I'd be cautious, if I were a clinician. I've seen some gentle creatures, and some truly volatile consumers. I wish I had a specialist in Borderline Personality; It would be difficult, but interesting.
13abbitt 6 months ago
this guy is good.
meeeeeeee8 6 months ago
I've been reading about BPD, I have external traits, constantly I'm angry and I rage often. The thing is, I feel alive when I do so, I feel energetic. I love it. Is that bad?
EyeMOweKay 6 months ago
As ChicagoFusion below stated his opinion as to the genesis of the condition is ,from all the evidence I've seen, absolutely correct.
I think the clustering that is seen is the obvious result of the stability of behavioural transmission over generations.
The problem for 'borderlines' is that if they seek assistance can't easily differentiate between a clown and a guy of this calibre.
Anybody reading this might like to check out 'attachment theory' as a route to understanding.
davidmorrison1955 6 months ago
@davidmorrison1955 I don't think it's fair to suggest these BPD individuals aren't able to judge the character or quality of their council. You might be underestimating how acutely aware of social cues they are.
collyera 6 months ago
Brilliant...Concise, thorough & accurate descriptions of symptoms...Excellent delivery of information, nothwithstanding technological issues. Appears genuine and trustworhty as a physician...I agree that there are far too many idoits with Phd's/MD's who are "diagnosing" seriously damaged people and who do far more harm than good...(Publisher of this video excluded in my layman's opinion.)
KME211112 7 months ago
whats messed up is that there are so many doctors who just dont care to understand this problem there arent many doctors who can be as honest and down to earth as this guy and weed does wonders
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suchafool990 8 months ago
Faulty thinking about yourself comes from men. I finally got married again after 11 years, and only two months into it he's already trying to make me question myself.
anastasia81472 8 months ago
Yes, smoking weed works for me also.
SuperSpence1 8 months ago 19
@SuperSpence1 bingo
collyera 6 months ago
@SuperSpence1 ditto!
MissMia916 4 months ago
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It helps the black and white thinking, doesn't it? Makes everything more shades of grey. Frees the mind.
ciaobellakate 3 months ago
THANK YOU FOR FINALLY BUSTING OUT THE PARENTS!!!!!!
ChicagoFusion 8 months ago
PLEASE HELP - after researching BPD, I'm convinced that my new girlfriend has it. One day I'm the greatest in her eyes, and then she will verbally abuse me like she is Demonic. She does NOT think she has a problem, but had told me that her previous two boyfriends told her she has a split personality. She also said "I've been with a lot of men." I care about her and want to get her help. HOW do I tell her she most likely has BPD? HOW do I get her to see a BPD support group? HOW do I get her into
jarden69 9 months ago
@jarden69 run like the wind, or be prepared to loose your mind.
1adadada 6 months ago
actually he is amazing.
Sammylee87 9 months ago
this guy is great.
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Disable automatic updates * Hello! Can somebody please help me! I have a very strong feeling that someone close to me has BPD. Would the inability or strong fear of communicating thoughts or feeling, and getting into confrontation or arguments also be symptoms of BPD?
peacemaker181 9 months ago
Tis was very good and I downloaded and re synched it. It is available for download on my channel. I hope you do not mind
mydarlinggirlrachae 9 months ago
Good points, thanks for sharing this interview. One more thing I'd like to add is a person wouldn't get upset out of the blue unless they feel threatened. It's the natural 'fight or flight' response that all are equiped with when born, for protection from danger/perceived danger. Research suggests unresolved exposure to trauma can lead to impairment to brain structures. Required duration of treatment depends on the extent of the damage and environment factors. Recovery is possible.
tuesdayschild89 10 months ago
Yeeeah... This video taught me nothing I haven't already learned from my psych classes and personal studies of personality disorders. You'd think a practicing therapist would have more original insight, but I guess there's only so much you can learn about a single disorder.
tearpixy 10 months ago
@tearpixy If you're doing your research on youtube then I wouldn't expect to find any new groundbreaking information. I would try psychinfo. There's a whole lot of new research added each day.
utkyle12 9 months ago
i looked at the website of this videos original publishing. I still can't find info on this specific dr who seems to know what hes doing in regarrds to bpd. I need to find a dr like him even if i have to go out of state for help. im not going to last much longer. Whwere can i find him?
nunekkat 10 months ago
i like to fantasize about having sex w/ my male doctors during a session
trollina77 10 months ago
They should clone this guy. Everything he says makes sense. A gifted communicator that seems to be able to get through to patients. 10/10!
muzzster1970 11 months ago
For the first time, someone really makes sense.
NatalieVasilyev 11 months ago
can sum1 help me please, i really need help, i have bipolardisorder, i just been extremely depressed lately, im trying to stabilize myself, the love of mylife seems to have borderline personality disorder, sumtimes she hates me, other times she loves me, when shes very depressed she gets angry, ritenow she said she cant be wit me tat she doesnt noe if she still loves me, idk wat to do,this isnt the 1st time this had happen, can 2 people wit mental illnesses stay together? i love her, plz help
nippletease 11 months ago
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yes they can. funny thing is i have borderline and my boyfriend is bipolar and we have been together for five years. :) we had a rocky start too and then we found a solution we try not to talk while we are angry we wait till things cooled down and then talk things out. like if im starting to escalate the fight he will go outside smoke and by the time he comes back in i have cooled off enough that we can reason with each other.
chickypoo1500 10 months ago
@chickypoo1500 U GUYS have worked on it, she never does.. she goes through phases where shes open minded , tats when we can talk.. when shes closed minded she believes w,e the fuck she wants to, i miss her.. i knew her for 10 yrs, idk if she culd throw away all of it just cuz shes havin a tough time, when she was on meds she was an angel, she refuses to get help and shes always drinkn n smoking, i see the error of my ways cuz im gettn help, shes oblivious.. shes all i got =/
nippletease 10 months ago
@chickypoo1500 aww how sweet. i have borderline and my bf is a sociopath. and our relationship is exiciting. even thought he is that and i am this..we are able to bring eachother into each others worlds sometimes.
trollina77 10 months ago
Borderlines are miserable! they are no different than a narcissist or sociopath... they are gullible, that is all he means. They are just clingy and childish. I have severe manic episodes and I do NOT feel sorry for the legit cases of this problem at all...
Borderlines are myopic like a narcissist or sociopath, they just rely on people like this to make their identity and it works for some of them but they stay the same...
9436oelable 11 months ago
@9436oelable For someone who claims a mental illness, you sure don't have a lot of empathy for anyone else. This doctor just said that BPD starts at youth due to identity struggles and you want to blame us for our illness. Really? Well, you're free to say whatever you want, but I thought it might be helpful to other BPDs that they saw your comment for what it was. BPD is a struggle against the constant pain of feeling, not unloved, as much as unlovable. If you think thats easy, be my guest.
tomblack2112 11 months ago
@9436oelable
you wouldn't know the first thing about borderlines. i have lived with it since i was 13. and i am not gullible at all nor am i childish i have set many goals for myself that is how i have coped with it for so long without any help! i don't feel sorry for myself i am proud that i have lived with it for as long as i have be cause ur little manic episodes you have every now and again don't even come close to how hard it is to feel the way we do everyday!
chickypoo1500 10 months ago
@9436oelable who cares
trollina77 10 months ago
that benign interpretation technique is essential, he is completely right, it has helped me deal with some stuff when my mind automatically jumps to ....REJECTION .. it instead now takes things in perspective
Duder871 11 months ago
This video saved me Thank you!
peteracs 1 year ago
this doctor is so cute..I'd totally kill him if he tried to leave me.
NightinGal89 1 year ago 2
@NightinGal89 --- Thats freekin hilarious!!! only a borderline can really get it....
happymax1 11 months ago
@NightinGal89 omg lol
NikeshalovesCasey 11 months ago
@NightinGal89 LMFAO! That's hysterical! :)
Adraline 11 months ago
A deeply patronising rhetoric delivered in an unbearably patronising manner. Moneyman.
crissbiscit 1 year ago 9
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What was so patronizing about it? I didn't get that sense at all.
tleab29 1 year ago
@crissbiscit couldn't have said it better ... I pity the person who ends up in this pompous talking head's care.
northernjack64 6 months ago 4
This guy is on point when he says it's a feeling that is like, I can't stand you, but I can't imagine being without. SO true, it's very hard to let go and that was key for me, and it's very difficult to figure out.
RDpapichulo 1 year ago
If you think it would advance you mentally or spiritually, then by all means, go for it. Id vaporize it if you are able to since it is the healthiest on the lungs. Or, you could mix ground up bud in milk and boil it at 320FH for 20 minutes and pour it into some water and drink it which would be the healthiest choice out of everything.
KMFDM42099 1 year ago
THIS IS AS ONE PART 4 - In short my summery of findings is: We are all gods of our experience and infinite in our thoughts. what we think we feel, to change our thoughts takes great commitment and determination and sometimes we will fail. But we can and will always rise from the ashes like the phenix reborn will fly again to great heights. Love your life and all the things in it, practice this its a gift that we can achieve. Be great-full for every experience :) My FB = ian.norbury
asonetry 1 year ago
THIS IS AS ONE PART 3 - A sensitive awakened being. This is no illness its a reality! For those of you who are suffering, start reading:
Its hard at first but practice makes perfect and every day can get easier.
MY BOOK LIST: (Emergency book - The little book of confidence), Celestine prophecy, The power of Kabala, Conversations with god, what is lightbody, men are from mars - women are from venus, In search of the miraculous, Seeking the spirit through druidry.
asonetry 1 year ago
THIS IS AS ONE PART 2 - I realize that i have been in crisis due to my heightened awareness, this is not an illness, its a gift to understand. I have done this by following my intuition on reading material and developed great knowledge about my spirit, mind, body, meditation, the elements of life, the universe, history, science. I distract when i feel its needed with warm baths, movies, reading, forest walks, loving nature, drawing and sharing knowledge with others. I am love as is the creator !
asonetry 1 year ago
THIS IS AS ONE - I was diagnosed with BPD a few years ago, I was a constant smoker of cannabis. I had DBT & CBT therapy and was signed off. Although uncured I was fit for work. I was told its incurable, but hey I was also told lots of things by doctors that has been rubbish. NHS doctors ! Hmm. Ok, Short version: I don't smoke cannabis any longer, I am very deep person who is sad that our world is being abused by greedy corporations, people are unkind to each other.. etc etc, I AM HUMAN not BPD X
asonetry 1 year ago
Lol, you misunderstood me. I dont just sit around and smoke pot. Once i started smoking pot, i realized, its so much better to do everything high. Ive played b ball stoned, ive jogged with a homie, stoned. Haha, its crazy.
KMFDM42099 1 year ago
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krstcmjns 1 year ago
broke my heart
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rbogdewic 1 year ago
He is quite accurate. I have BPD. I lived with my grandparents for the first five years of my life because my parents were divorced. Then I lived with my parents when they remarried but my father was always away with his mistresses. I got rejected for the first time when i was 20 years old. It was so painful so I became a transvestite temporarily. Then I became a man again but as long as I don't have relationships with anyone, I don't have to be a transvestite again.
kisskisshoneyhoney 1 year ago
I'm french so don't look at by bad english, I do what I can...
I'm borderline... But don't think I'm ONLY that, I'm a person, not a simple diagnosois which is in constant evolution, as everything in life...
I have been anorexic and boulimic for 10 years~, but it's finish now, I fighted against it and finally won.
However I'm still depressive and feel always hypersensitive, sometimes empty, sometimes too angry or sad, without "real" reasons, just because I feel too much pain, too much emotions..
VioletteToussaint 1 year ago
I'm french so don't look at by bad english, I do what I can...
I'm borderline... But don't think I'm ONLY that, I'm a person, not a simple diagnosois which is in constant evolution, as everything in life...
I have been anorexic and boulimic for 10 years~, but it's finish now, I fighted against it and finally won.
However I'm still depressive and feel always hypersensitive, sometimes empty, sometimes too angry or sad, without "real" reasons, just because I feel too much pain, too much emotions..
VioletteToussaint 1 year ago
it releases emotions and blockages that have built up in yr aura.. if you go through trauma, or negative emotions whatever u create a density or blockage and this then leads to a sluggish energy body and eventually disease in that area. when ur aura is very dense with emotion u may be cause to have an accident to release that build up.. this technique pushes the emotion and stagnant energy up and out of ur system making way for new energy and experience.
SovereignBeing 1 year ago
i'm on antidepressants and have NO appetite. i'd don't know if its in part cos i'm so inactive right now.
ohdoshutit 1 year ago
fuck, i'd proabably fall in love with him if he was my therapist. shucks
ohdoshutit 1 year ago
Does anyone know this guys name or where he is from?
ilovemusic5879 1 year ago
This guy is good!
Wow this is me to a key!
MatieuJ 1 year ago
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I have so many questions please anyone help me my girlfriend blieves strongly she has bipolar disorder I am beginning to think it might be bpd all of these things sound so much like her. She was diagnosed with bipolar disorder but I don't believe this is correct not to mention all of the medicine she had to take had adverse effects making her throw up and become extremely depressed. we have gone out twice now she says she really likes me and that we really like eachother and we dated for four m
hubbabubba935 1 year ago
dose anyone know his name
i need it for a research paper
TeamToeKnee 1 year ago
omg. every single second of that description seemed like it was about me. I just ruined the perfect relationship with an amazing guy because I couldn't stop obsessing over perceived slights. Tried to keep it to myself, but constantly attacked him, getting needier and needier. And saw it all happening before my eyes. I told him I would end up pushing him away. Now I can't stop going over it again and again how I totally did this to myself. I don't think I'll ever forgive myself.
terrykd87 1 year ago
My recent GF of 3 months, fits this to a T. I am not the only one to think so. If I WAS the only one, I would look at myself. I fell in love with her but according to her everything is my fault - in the "demise" of our relationship. I really wanted to have a future with her, I did not want to move on. She will or is moving on but I don't know to what or where.
SCnative64 1 year ago
@SCnative64 Let her go!
plalelal 1 year ago
I wish this guy was my doctor.
jakevschase 1 year ago 29
@jakevschase why so u can have sex with him? i always pick male doctors and hope he is married and handsome,
trollina77 10 months ago
I want this guy to be my doctor too!
AsSomedayItMayHappen 1 year ago 3
This video makes a lot of sense to me, like you know me. Relationships are the biggest trial ever, some almost killing me. I have said the words, "I hate you don't leave me thru 3 marriages. I have tried intensely to do well, but the rage undoes it all. I' am isolating more because I don't trust myself, yet I crave so deeply intimate connections. I want to know more...
Dina4now 1 year ago
His body language sucks. He so blaze and seems to think he is such a know it all.
Lizbethbike 1 year ago
@Lizbethbike I was thinking the exact same thing
herronfishoil 1 year ago
the whole damn world and everyone one in it is a borderline to one extent or another.....
TheTwistedGypsy 1 year ago
if you have borderline you should not have a relationship, some men have killed themselves trying to deal with it.
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idahoissweet 1 year ago
The brain is the least understood organ in the human body. Many psychiatric conditions such as autism and BPD have no explanation as to why they occur.
kisskisshoneyhoney 1 year ago
BPD is a medical illness just like cancer and lupus and diabetes.
kisskisshoneyhoney 1 year ago
Punishers don't see themselves as punishing, but rather as maintaining order or keeping a firm hand on things or doing "what's right" or letting us know they can't be pushed around. They see themselves as strong and in charge. If their behavior hurts us, so be it. The end justifies the means.
~ Susan Forward PhD author of "Emotional Blackmail"
That's exactly what people with BPD are.
Engima329 1 year ago
@Engima329 Show some respect for those of us who bother to research the disease rather than just "deal with it." Some of us (like myself) are spending hours each week in therapy, drug trials, and other hells, and TRYING to get better. Most of us KNOW that we hurt others and want to get better.
arlequinskinship 1 year ago
@arlequinskinship I didn't say just deal with it. I said people with BPD are stupid. There IS something wrong with your heads. I wouldn't want one near me even a person such as yourself who is trying to cope. But you play the victim, you be the punishment and see how it feels. Then you'll understand why I can't stand you guys because it wasn't just my mom that I met with BPD.
Engima329 1 year ago
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Fuck you , Dick face .
morocojin 1 year ago
@Engima329 yo engima get over yourself no one cares about how you feel you pathetic piece of shit if you have a problem being near people like that then gtfo geez why are you so stupid to even comment on this page if you know that people are gonna comment back thinking your an idiot?
beautifuledie 1 year ago
@Engima329 What's so ironic is that while criticizing borderlines for being abusive, your comments exhibit the same self-righteous, abusive behavior as the worst borderline. Highlights:
"That's what makes you a sad little person."
"I hate people with this problem"
"I don't have respect for people like you and never will"
"I didn't say just deal with it. I said people with BPD are stupid."
"Yeh, don't reply to me because iIll just point out how stupid people are with BPD."
Pot..meet kettle
rosarosen294 1 year ago
@Engima329 What's your address - so I can go and re-arrange your face
kisskisshoneyhoney 1 year ago
@kisskisshoneyhoney lol so what I said on YOUTUBE got you so pissed off? Deal with what I said and consider it for once in your life.
Engima329 1 year ago
@kisskisshoneyhoney No need for this on here.
HardeyLeone 1 year ago
@Engima329 YR REALLY AN IDIOT MY FRIEND COMMITED SUICIDE B/C OF BPD WTH GIVES Y THE RIGHT 2 JUDGE PPL SUFFERING PPL WITH BPD?U SHOULD WATCH YR MOUTH BEFORE YR WORDS CAN BECOME YR ACTIONS!WHAT A SAD WORLD WE LIVE IN PPL WITH BPD DONT CHOOSE TO THAT AND REALLY SUFFER UR LACK OF EDUCATION AND IGGNORANCE KEEP IT 2 YR SELF ITS NOT UR SPECIALIST AREA U LOOK DOWN AND PATRIONISED PPL WITH BPD?I FEEL SRY FOR U URE THE ONE WHOS STUPID AND YR A WEAK SAD PERSON!
Mollycoolable 1 year ago
The world is a shitty place. Do you know how much is spent in this world every year on defence and the military and weapons research and funding soldiers and wars?? The amount is 10,000,000,000,000 dollars.
kisskisshoneyhoney 1 year ago
@kisskisshoneyhoney Do you know how many peace organizations are out there in this world? Plenty to count. One of the most well known bands in this world promoted peace and changed entire cultures, they were called the Beatles.
Engima329 1 year ago
@Engima329 Yeah, people like myself with BPD are horrible, HORRIBLE people. That's why I spent almost a decade in the military, spent a year in Chile teaching English, spent 2 weeks in Morocco teaching computers to women, volunteer at the American Red Cross and local animal shelter, and am part of the Wounded Warrior Project (for those of us wounded in the Iraq/Afghan war). Damn people like me who try to make the world a better place.
arlequinskinship 1 year ago
No one else should bother replying to Engima329. Don't let this person get you upset--we certainly don't need the emotional This teenager is either: (1) heartbroken over how he/she was treated as a child (mourning the loss of his/her childhood); (2) been diagnosed themselves and refuses to believe it; or (3) just a dumbass sociopath. (I'm assuming sociopath. Only a sociopath would troll a mental illness site). Have a great day.
arlequinskinship 1 year ago
@arlequinskinship Yeh, don't reply to me because iIll just point out how stupid people are with BPD. We certainly don't need people in this world that 1) de-valuating loved ones 2) make people feel all-good or all-bad 3) self harm 4) anxiety/anger that lasts for hours or more 5) distortion of cognition etc... all in one package.
I was heartbroken how my mother treated me as a child like I pointed out already Captain Obvious. I don't have respect for people like you and never will. Why would I?
Engima329 1 year ago
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@Engima329: Maybe you should actually be watching and PAYING ATTENTION to the video before you start badmouthing people.
Don't you think if we could just "fix" it, that we would have by now? Most of us are very intelligent. That's one of the worst parts of this illness... being smart enough to beat it, but your body & brain work another way.
arlequinskinship 1 year ago
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arlequinskinship 1 year ago
I hate people with this problem. Maybe it's an illness and they can't help themselves, but I can't stand you guys. I suffered 19 years of my life with a mother like this and she made me hate myself beyond imagining. She would invent things off the top of her head about me, she abused my own FATHER mentally and my brother ran away from home. Later I found out she has all the BPD symptoms, but I don't care. I hate her with a passion and this... 'disease' doesn't make me feel sorry for her at all.
Engima329 1 year ago
@Engima329
the way yuou go back and reiterate things, repeating yourself.
sounds like bpd.
maybe it's genetic.
HxHenry 1 year ago
@Engima329 Maybe you should get some therapy.
ilovemusic5879 1 year ago
why is phycology so sexit? fuck you guys! you are not scientists, your just a bunch of uppity cunts!
CanadiaNecro1 1 year ago
@CanadiaNecro1 speak for your self, miss not scientist.
jbearden 1 year ago
They cause enormous amounts of damage in the world. I get sick of hearing about THEIR suffering. That gets old. These people will do anything to anybody, and often DO IT.
jbearden 1 year ago
@jbearden the human mind is very complex, and we know very little, some people are depressed on a much darker scale than most people experience, it's not even on the same scale as regular drama, it even tops any traumatic moments, this is a feeling of living in a meaningless universe, and you forget how to be human, and in some cases people don't want to live the average human life, they feel like it's mundane, the whole ritual of human existence has no meaning!
xxxslayerxxx666 1 year ago
@xxxslayerxxx666 They don't want to live the "average" human life? As if "average" is the only possiblity for those without this "special" mental process?
I say the human experience is RICH, and for those who don't feel this way, that is more a function of their FEELINGS then it has anything to do with reality.
You are not PAID to put up with the type of non-existence, non-loving atmosphere these people produce.
You stay somewhere long enough, you BECOME it. So, spend your time wisely
jbearden 1 year ago
@jbearden "They cause enormous amounts of damage in the world." No, stfu. If you "get sick of hearing about THEIR suffering" then stop lurking in BPD forums and youtube channels. People like you, who are ignorant and lacking in empathy, are a truly destructive entity in the world today.
PrincessaSophie 1 year ago 2