I didn't lose my virginity until 28, which was also the age of my first kiss. Incidentally this led to a ton of imaginary girlfriends but no fake sex stories, and led--I found out later--to missing several opportunities with guys who were also gay in my circle of friends and doing the same thing I was. I guess my gaydar wasn't up and running at that point.
My ex told me he had sex with someone before he got with me, which he later told me that he lied because he felt insecure that I had sex and he hadn't yet... I was like "Why would you lie about that?!".
Oddly I never had to make up any fake sex stories. I always feared getting asked about sex when friends would be talking about it but never had to come up with one luckily. But then again I usually hung out with friends while doing something active so sex rarely came up.
I'm not out at work so one day my boss asked me if I have a girlfriend. I told the truth and said "no". But then he wanted to know more "didn't you ever go out with any girls in collage?" So that's when I decided to lie. "Sure I had a girlfriend in collage her name was Rose ...." Rose is a friend of mine but we never did anything more than study together. Which my boss took to mean that we "studied" together. Now that I'm thinking more about coming out at work I feel bad that I lied.
You really shouldn't have done that with the bottle. My mind was in the gutter for the rest of the video :)
I came from a conservative Christian family so I'd always play the virgin card (I wasn't one, but it was with a guy), but would point out any girl with a shred of sex appeal I could find and all the naughty things I'd do with her if I had the chance. Looking back on it, if I would've had any close friends in high school they would've seen right through it lol
Very good video. I came out in 1982 at 18. I have cerebral palsy so in a way I was like..fuck it ..I'm already different and an outsider..but here is the deal: I come from a very angry, alcoholic family. Both brothers and to out of three step siblings have substance abuse issues. Had I not been gay AND had CP, I would have been forced to play football and probably would have fathered some children out of wedlock. So..being gay and the cp has saved me from a kind of mad entitled kind of life.
I don't think I ever made up a straight sex story for my friends. Actually, I don't think I ever talked about girls or pretended to like one. Come to think of it now.. it's surprising my friends at the time didn't realise I was gay.
Oh no, I wasn't a sexual maverick, I was just a damn good Christian who was strong enough in my walk with Jesus to keep it in my pants until marriage! The plan was to just trap some poor girl I got along with really well into marriage and THEN tell her I couldn't fuck her, and just hope for the best. The girl would have a horrible, unfulfilling sex life/marriage and no one would question MY sexuality, win-win situation baby! Now, that's the humane, Christian way to "handle" being gay!
i never really made up sex stories with my friends, but i always had to make up a story about some girl that i kissed or dated when i was closeted to my friends. i still have to dothat with my family sometimes, and my uncles saw how many girls i always attract so they gave me a pack of condoms and told me not to hurt those girls when i give them their treats O.o
Oh yeah it's weird how girls will flirt with gay guys and they feel so comfortable around us. Good vid, I don't think I have any fake ones that took place with me. I was a drunk frat boy most of my college life, and alcohol allowed a lot of sexual stuff to happen between me and some girls. I would exaggerate and leave out the alcohol aspect when I told others though.
o.o I have never been a socially awkward person. ever. Apparently, I make girls feel as if they don't need to hide anything, and they can be themselves. Also, they tell me I'm extremely hilarious and stuff. (Sorry if this sound conceited and stuck up but it's true) Plus, people still think I'm straight... so, yeah.
when I was living in San Francisco i actually made up sex stories among my gay friends because they were so much more forward and liberated than me. of course i was a sexual neophyte so i would totally make up stuff I did with guys. Like sexual position names like "you see that guy over by the bar? We totally did the clepto-monkey cock-smack". My friends would always call me out. Explaining what a clepto-monkey cock smack is can be really effing awkward, especially in a Denny's at 4 am!!
I actually had sex with women...very awkwardly, but I did. I have question for you. If I'm a gay man, and my first sexual experience was with a woman, was I theoretically still a virgin until I had sex with a man, or did I lose my virginity twice, OR am I just putting too much thought on my already lost virtue? LOL - but I'd really love to hear your opinion on it.
I actually pretended to be a prude and said yes, of course I had sex with girls, but I can't talk about it as it's private and I'm too embarrassed to talk about it.
In that way I avoided making up names.
However one girl believed me an dragged me into bed with her at new years party.
I didn't have a clue what to do and could not even get hard.
I was 17, drunk and just blamed it on too much vodka.
i did it once, but what i did was just change some details of another sex story i heard from another friend lol but mostly when my straight friends and i talk about it we just talk about how good is to have regular sex and that's it. i just say that i dont like to do it with someone i dont know, at least here in CR we're not use to say with whom we were lol im 19 and still waiting for that guy who i can fall for :s
In all honesty I never had to make up a fake sex story thank god.... My unintentional cover in school was that I was "too into my studies" or whatever, to actually get a girl so I never had that group of friends that talked about girls. I had the group of friends that talked about the latest videogame thing at the time =D, phew!
I grew up in very small towns - moved a couple of times. I was deep in the closet and by no means hyper-masculine. Looking back, I'm amazed that nobody figured I was gay. The girls seemed to like me. I would date one until things started to got serious, then stage a break-up and 'upgrade' to another. Had significant sexual activity with a number of them. So the stories were true - the pretense was that I enjoyed it. The totally thoughtless asshole part was in how I treated my 'girlfriends.'
I'm 20, a vigrin, and still in the closet. I never made up a story about having sex, but I've told all my friends I'm still a virgin and they give me crap about it. I think to many people jump into it to fast for the first time. I could have done it with girls in highschool who liked me, but I couldnt deal with the guilt of knowing that I was doing it just to say I'm not a virgin anymore. I want my first time to mean something and to be with someone I really care about.
@funghoul182 I know what you mean. I'm 29 and still haven't been with a guy. I'm not rushing out there to have sex. It will happen when its supposed to happen i guess.
I'm 20 years old and still a virgin. I don't think anyone should rush to have sex just because other people are doing it. You should have sex only if YOU want to and not worry about what other people are doing.
There wasn't really sex stories I had to make up, but in school like around 13-16 age. The biggest thing would be how many girls you've been with and which girl did you 'get off with' which just means snog basically. I would make up girls who I had 'got off with' when ever guys asked me. Would be like 'I got off with this girl at this party once'. something like that. Just so I didn't seem as pathetic as some of the guys who never touched a girl in their lives, and got bullied for it.
@zachariahgriffin LOL I WAS the Christian and my classmates thought I was a wacko. Now I add LIBERAL to my Christian, but people still think something's wrong. :)
LMAO I loved this video, I could relate to it.. I had to make up stuff like this too, I actually had to lie about being with two people once, and that is how I kinda got people to understand I was bi, by telling them I had been with a guy and a girl, I even described their looks, gave them fake names and made up the entire scenario which was LAME now that I remember it... oh yea, I was bi for a while too then I just said ok nvm I like penis bye!
I never said a think about sex back in high school years. I guess I was just the loner. I guess by then everybody knew I was gay and they never said anything... Talking to girls has always been easy to me, it's not something really comfortable (for me) especially when the sex talk begins. I never say I've fucked a girl, though, I come up with some ambiguous reason or just change the topic... Great vid, Sam.
Looking back now, I was pretty hot in HS, but wasnt too sexual. I knew i was gay, but didnt know what to "do" about it. girls would chase me, but only dated a few. really it was more like friends hanging out, had mostly guy friends. My guy friends kinda assumed i was getting (str8) sex, but i was never the kinda guy who would kiss & tell anyways. Guess i was secure (at least in one way) at a young age. It was assumed masculine guys who were into guy stuff (like me) were str8 & not challenged
Thank goodness I never had to make up any story ! People around me knew pretty much everything I did and everyone that I knew, so adding someone out of the blue : not possible. I just said nothing, or "meh, nothing to report, carry on". Glad I don't have to avoid these situations anymore, or even think about what I could come up with =P
I don't have to make up stories since everyone's pretty certain I'm the nerdy freak no one likes - if I claimed anything people would just laugh at me :')
Me too! I actually never cared about making fake stories. I always felt bad to make up a lie so when I'd be in a situation where I was expected to share a heterosexual story, I'd just prefer to stay silent or even say I'm a virgin.
I usually just kept quiet for the most part. I don't remember making any up. I'm sure by my silence people knew I was gay but it was never discussed. P.S. You should do more videos without a shirt on ;)
I actually seem to make up more gay sex stories than straight sex stories. I like to put on this impression than I'm a total slut, but people know that I mate for life, sadly. It's still fun to make up shit like that. Recently, I told my friends that I would do Tim Tebow even if he is a religious douche-hole, I just wouldn't return any of his calls.
I never invented any sex story with a girl, when some of my friends ask me about a girl i reply with "oh no, we are just friends." or "I'm not interested"
Anyone seems to think that I'm 100% straight. And they also see me as an example because I'm quite rough, foul-mouthed, I eat too much (yes, this one impresses a lot of straight guys), and sometimes it seems that I've been raised by wolves...
I came out 2 times to the same person and he thought that it was a joke... both times.
Well.. fortunately I lived in a HUGE city. that helped. and for the longest time only a very very select few people in my life knew I was gay. any others (IE: Family) I would just change the name of the guy to a girl. Michael became Michelle. James became Jenny. you get the idea. beyond that, since Im so quiet anyway, I never had to brag.
@scxander Small towns are tough. If you're quiet, you're gay. If you don't play sports, you're gay. If you're not dating, you're gay. At least in the eyes of your classmates. It's a pretty toxic environment to grow up in, but fortunately I found the best 4 people and made them my life-long friends!
@KindaGayBlog Totally had the same experience! LOL I totally relate to what you're saying here as I had the same perception of myself. I unfortunately had a fem voice so I really got made fun of. Put some passion into it when you suck that bottle - LMAO. Ok, you are an "otter" I guess you had to show us. I will join in and say "stop being so masculinely sexy! LOL JK You're the best Sam - you're bringing us all together here and on FB! Love ya!
I came out in my early twenties (I'm 42 now). I never made up anything. I tried to come across as bookish and asexual. Your story reminded me of the Modern Family episode where Mitchell is talking about his old "girlfriends" Eliza Doolittle and Betty Rizzo."Those are characters from musicals!" was, of course, the reply. :)
@matthew8623 I'm actually not coming back to this job! I resigned and I'll have to find a job wherever Pier and I decide to move. We're traveling for several months, and I'm so scared and excited!
I never told fake stories. I came out in Grade 10 and had my first "sexual" experience with a guy not too long after. Any sex stories I have are gay ones and am not afraid to talk about them :)
If you're going to falsely characterise heterosexual men as only being interested in drinking and sex...well then don't complain when you are equally characterised as sex-obsessed...and for much more reason, given the comments from all the 'gay' men on this thread...and from those who seem to be strangely, compulsively addicted to the simple sight of a man who's chest is showing. Hilarious.
@RobNorthampton No need to beg. What brought me here is this guy's excellent other video on monogamy between homosexual men...something that my 19 yr old student is looking for...and cannot find...so I was expecting better advice.
@reliableandrew Well, because you didn't find what you were looking for, is that a reason to belittle and make fun of Sam who made this video? He is not being "shallow and sex-obsessed" by asking how other people dealt with their sexuality, growing up in a heterosexual and largely homophobic society.
If you didn't get the gist of what he was saying, he grew up in small town America, and so 'pretending' to be straight is an effort to 'fit in' with his peers, as millions of others try to do, and is all about survival! Often a teenager isn't psychologically or emotionally prepared or ready to face an onslaught of abuse or worse just because he is in a minority.
If you want to give advice to a young gay man about relationships, refer him to another gay man who can help him on his journey. It seems you already have pre-conceived ideas about what it is to be gay, but are falling way short of the mark. Admit to him that just because you are his teacher, you are not the font of all knowledge.
My first monogamous relationship lasted 21 years, and my current one is 10 years and counting. Gay relationships are not so different to straight ones. Finding the right partner may be difficult, because we don't have as many people to choose from as you do, but ultimately, once you do find a decent partner, it's all about a healthy dose of give and take.
With a little compromise on both sides, your student can live a long and happy life in the company of one 'significant other'. As with embarking on any relationship, it can happen sooner, or it can happen later. We sometimes have to kiss a lot of frogs before we find our prince.
@RobNorthampton I can see you took time out there 'formulating' a reply 'Rob', but save it...and save your presumptions of what you 'think', I know and let Sam speak for himself. I don't have a sanitised view of the LGBT community...ONE gay man I referred him to was the author of 'Androphilia: Rejecting the Gay Identity, Reclaiming Masculinity' by Jack Malebranche...one of many GAY men who doesn't necessarily think like you.
Don't bore me further by attempting to 'school' me on these issues.Ta.
@reliableandrew Well, as you are a teacher and obviously have buk-lernin', we must all obviously bow to your greater wisdom - even if it is delivered with an obnoxious attitude.
@RobNorthampton There ya go speaking for others again...you can 'bow' if you want to but really I'm just an average guy, who you are projecting your angst onto right now...
What was that you were sayin' about 'making fun of' and 'belittling' again?
Listen you don't 'like' me, I couldn't care less, so that really should be the end of our discussion right?
Why do you keep talking to someone with a supposedly obnoxious attitude?
Ok, have a good evening, cold spell approaching in the UK they reckon.
@reliableandrew Hi Drew, sorry you didn't like the video. That was definitely NOT the message I intended to send out. This video discusses the irrational thoughts I had when I was closeted. For most closeted people, the topic of sex and dating sends them into a state of panic. In my warped little brain, I thought, "The more girls I claim to sleep with, and the douchier I sound, the straighter I'll sound!" In reality, I just sounded like a lying douche. Thank you for the book rec!
@KindaGayBlog See, now that's what I call a mannerly reply, you do more to endear in one message than...other commenters do in 5.
Yes, you make perfect sense, and that is your experience coming from a 'small' town...it's just that heterosexuals of course, aren't as one-dimensional as perhaps you made them seem in the video.
Anyway, I like what you said in another video, how you find it difficult to understand how folk can separate their emotions from sexual intimacy...me too.
Ugh. How shallow and sex-obsessed must someone be...to actually request to hear FAKE sex stories from YouTubers?...and then later in the video lamenting,"...there's so much emphasis on sex it's crazy"...(yawn)...playing into the 'gay' male stereotype much?
Rather than feeling a 'loser' because of a losing one's virginity at 23...it could be explained to young gay men...that to wait until one's emotionally ready is actually a 'winning' thing, given the rise in HIV among homosexual men...
I hade friends reminding me I "had sex" with someone when I was in the closet because I would forget about who I said I supposedly had sex with, for example " friend-yestarday I saw "X" , is she good in bed? ,me- how would I know? , friend- you told me you had sex with her" it was so awkward! haha, hugs
part 1 - I think a huge amount of gays had their "imaginary” boy- and girlfriends (think this concerns lesbians as well) – to hide their “true identity” from family, friends, etc.; That’s a problem familiar with the fact, lots of gays come out as bisexual first because they think it seems less weird to their friends and family. There is still a connection – sure I love men, but also females, we still have something in common^^
part 2 - I totally agree that it’s easier to understand and talk to females as a gay guy – just hat a talk with a group of gay guys few days ago if they had more male or female friends in their entire life… starting at… kindergarten. Most of us had more or only female friends, because we felt much more connected, are free to be who we are, know what they think, they talk, they do…
My sex stories were real as far as the sex went. The fake part was that I felt nothing for the women I slept with. In fact, I used to close my eyes and pretend it was my best friend under me (who I was totally besotted with and he never knew).
On two occasions, he and I both had sex with girls in the same room at the same time. One look at his sexy bum heaving up and down, and I was finished! Ironic that I then had to live down an episode of supposed premature ejaculation with the girl!
There is a gay magazine over here called Gay Times and around that time they had a fake photo of a young woman for you to put in your wallet for when you needed evidence of a girlfriend...and on the back were details to flesh out the story, her name, her job, where ye met, etc. Very funny!
I had a summer job when I was 15/16 and worked with guys who were "on the pull" every weekend and when I returned to school I told all my friends about them but also intimated that I was also doing that...even went as far as tell tem that I got a blow job in the back of a car while my frien was getting one while driving the car! All my mates came to me for advice on girls...and kept coming because I just gave them common sense but they assumed I was good at it because I was a casanova !!
@tomyy0842 Haha, I was about to go to bed when I made this video. I thought, "Should I put a shirt on?" Then I thought, "Wait, I'm talking about sex. Shirtless is perfect!"
Sigh, I was 24 when I lost my virginity, today's kids have it easy, things for gays used to be worse back in the day
inneedofakiss 2 days ago
I didn't lose my virginity until 28, which was also the age of my first kiss. Incidentally this led to a ton of imaginary girlfriends but no fake sex stories, and led--I found out later--to missing several opportunities with guys who were also gay in my circle of friends and doing the same thing I was. I guess my gaydar wasn't up and running at that point.
skuzinsk 4 days ago
i only did this once or twice and i really dont recall them, i felt so bad for lying i just stopped talking about it.
steeldrago73 6 days ago
0:05 OMG LIIIIIIIIIIIKKKKEEEEEE!!!!! x)
LambentFlare 1 week ago
My ex told me he had sex with someone before he got with me, which he later told me that he lied because he felt insecure that I had sex and he hadn't yet... I was like "Why would you lie about that?!".
OneDollarMercenary 1 week ago
I would not say all gay guys do this who are discreet about their sex life. (The lying part of making up stories with girls)
timm9 3 weeks ago
Oddly I never had to make up any fake sex stories. I always feared getting asked about sex when friends would be talking about it but never had to come up with one luckily. But then again I usually hung out with friends while doing something active so sex rarely came up.
shadetree84 3 weeks ago
I'm not out at work so one day my boss asked me if I have a girlfriend. I told the truth and said "no". But then he wanted to know more "didn't you ever go out with any girls in collage?" So that's when I decided to lie. "Sure I had a girlfriend in collage her name was Rose ...." Rose is a friend of mine but we never did anything more than study together. Which my boss took to mean that we "studied" together. Now that I'm thinking more about coming out at work I feel bad that I lied.
osuboyeng 1 month ago
You really shouldn't have done that with the bottle. My mind was in the gutter for the rest of the video :)
I came from a conservative Christian family so I'd always play the virgin card (I wasn't one, but it was with a guy), but would point out any girl with a shred of sex appeal I could find and all the naughty things I'd do with her if I had the chance. Looking back on it, if I would've had any close friends in high school they would've seen right through it lol
asdf90091 1 month ago
I meant two out of three
massagejoedallas 1 month ago
Very good video. I came out in 1982 at 18. I have cerebral palsy so in a way I was like..fuck it ..I'm already different and an outsider..but here is the deal: I come from a very angry, alcoholic family. Both brothers and to out of three step siblings have substance abuse issues. Had I not been gay AND had CP, I would have been forced to play football and probably would have fathered some children out of wedlock. So..being gay and the cp has saved me from a kind of mad entitled kind of life.
massagejoedallas 1 month ago
I don't think I ever made up a straight sex story for my friends. Actually, I don't think I ever talked about girls or pretended to like one. Come to think of it now.. it's surprising my friends at the time didn't realise I was gay.
g4giorgio 1 month ago 2
I love your hairy chest Woof Woof. I never had made up stories I am a quiet guy. I always kept to meyself
Chris2580Ivy 1 month ago
I keep staring at your awesome arms and chest. Is that OK?
c0t0d0s7 1 month ago
OKay. I think you have such a sexy chest.... I didn't ever make it up. I just said I could never find it.
mattsmail6 1 month ago
Luckily I've never really had to make anything up! I guess that's the one good thing I get for being the fat kid at school haha!
Fr4yTheStrings 1 month ago
I made up crushes but never sex stories since I didn't think I could convince anyone :-/
lizamem 1 month ago
i find it ironic how everyone i know can make a "gay" voice but me :/
Mrcaliberz 1 month ago
@Mrcaliberz Lol! I am the same way. one of my girl friends always asks me why her boyfriend and his friends can do a better gay voice than me.
stooie1234 1 month ago
No you didnt!! (the disturbing bottle scene :P)
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Oh no, I wasn't a sexual maverick, I was just a damn good Christian who was strong enough in my walk with Jesus to keep it in my pants until marriage! The plan was to just trap some poor girl I got along with really well into marriage and THEN tell her I couldn't fuck her, and just hope for the best. The girl would have a horrible, unfulfilling sex life/marriage and no one would question MY sexuality, win-win situation baby! Now, that's the humane, Christian way to "handle" being gay!
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JazLyte 1 month ago
i never really made up sex stories with my friends, but i always had to make up a story about some girl that i kissed or dated when i was closeted to my friends. i still have to dothat with my family sometimes, and my uncles saw how many girls i always attract so they gave me a pack of condoms and told me not to hurt those girls when i give them their treats O.o
BeBreezyTV 1 month ago
Oh yeah it's weird how girls will flirt with gay guys and they feel so comfortable around us. Good vid, I don't think I have any fake ones that took place with me. I was a drunk frat boy most of my college life, and alcohol allowed a lot of sexual stuff to happen between me and some girls. I would exaggerate and leave out the alcohol aspect when I told others though.
GayGeekyVlogs 1 month ago
o.o I have never been a socially awkward person. ever. Apparently, I make girls feel as if they don't need to hide anything, and they can be themselves. Also, they tell me I'm extremely hilarious and stuff. (Sorry if this sound conceited and stuck up but it's true) Plus, people still think I'm straight... so, yeah.
FatGuySkinnyJeans 1 month ago
when I was living in San Francisco i actually made up sex stories among my gay friends because they were so much more forward and liberated than me. of course i was a sexual neophyte so i would totally make up stuff I did with guys. Like sexual position names like "you see that guy over by the bar? We totally did the clepto-monkey cock-smack". My friends would always call me out. Explaining what a clepto-monkey cock smack is can be really effing awkward, especially in a Denny's at 4 am!!
Remy365 1 month ago
I actually had sex with women...very awkwardly, but I did. I have question for you. If I'm a gay man, and my first sexual experience was with a woman, was I theoretically still a virgin until I had sex with a man, or did I lose my virginity twice, OR am I just putting too much thought on my already lost virtue? LOL - but I'd really love to hear your opinion on it.
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AM092 1 month ago
Oh dear you're so hairy LOL. I always have a thing for hairier guys. My friends always say I just wanted the extra exfoliation on my balls.
jkiang 1 month ago
Damn you look too good...please do videos with your shirt off from now on please
PlayaX01 1 month ago
Ha-ha-ha...
I actually pretended to be a prude and said yes, of course I had sex with girls, but I can't talk about it as it's private and I'm too embarrassed to talk about it.
In that way I avoided making up names.
However one girl believed me an dragged me into bed with her at new years party.
I didn't have a clue what to do and could not even get hard.
I was 17, drunk and just blamed it on too much vodka.
nottsguy33 1 month ago
@nottsguy33 Haha blame it on the alcohol...
jkiang 1 month ago
@nottsguy33 Alcohol was my go-to excuse for not remembering the girl's name!
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and I wish I could add you on fb but I if did it, my life might end :(
bleachcesar 1 month ago
@bleachcesar I understand - no worries! You can always email me at kindagayblog@gmail.com :-)
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
i did it once, but what i did was just change some details of another sex story i heard from another friend lol but mostly when my straight friends and i talk about it we just talk about how good is to have regular sex and that's it. i just say that i dont like to do it with someone i dont know, at least here in CR we're not use to say with whom we were lol im 19 and still waiting for that guy who i can fall for :s
bleachcesar 1 month ago
I bet a lot of straight guys can relate to this too.
1bol390 1 month ago
In all honesty I never had to make up a fake sex story thank god.... My unintentional cover in school was that I was "too into my studies" or whatever, to actually get a girl so I never had that group of friends that talked about girls. I had the group of friends that talked about the latest videogame thing at the time =D, phew!
LazyTallGuy 1 month ago
Also, I was not expecting that man on bottle action haha lol
LazyTallGuy 1 month ago
I met that Lauren as well =)
kotosqopos 1 month ago
@kotosqopos Yeah, she's well-traveled *cough*
JakeLikesJoking 1 month ago
I grew up in very small towns - moved a couple of times. I was deep in the closet and by no means hyper-masculine. Looking back, I'm amazed that nobody figured I was gay. The girls seemed to like me. I would date one until things started to got serious, then stage a break-up and 'upgrade' to another. Had significant sexual activity with a number of them. So the stories were true - the pretense was that I enjoyed it. The totally thoughtless asshole part was in how I treated my 'girlfriends.'
trisshandy 1 month ago
Hahahaha this is an amazing video! I'm glad I'm not the only one that felt like a fuckin' twat around my straight friends. hahah
TheTopixx 1 month ago
i'm a gay virgin
charm272 1 month ago 2
@charm272 we're both, but please don't tell anyone
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charm272 1 month ago
im a gay virgin
charm272 1 month ago
OMG!!! Been there done that!!!! I forgot all about it-I think I purposely shoved it out of my mind!!!
stoner829 1 month ago
@stoner829 Haha yeah, it's not exactly the most fond memory to look back on.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
I'm 20, a vigrin, and still in the closet. I never made up a story about having sex, but I've told all my friends I'm still a virgin and they give me crap about it. I think to many people jump into it to fast for the first time. I could have done it with girls in highschool who liked me, but I couldnt deal with the guilt of knowing that I was doing it just to say I'm not a virgin anymore. I want my first time to mean something and to be with someone I really care about.
funghoul182 1 month ago 12
@funghoul182 I agree that too many people jump into it without knowing the possible repercussions. A lot of hearts get broken because of it.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@funghoul182 same here! and i'm proud to be a Virgin
frankyg92g 1 month ago
@funghoul182 I know what you mean. I'm 29 and still haven't been with a guy. I'm not rushing out there to have sex. It will happen when its supposed to happen i guess.
matir82 1 month ago
@funghoul182 I'm at exactly the same place you're at bro :\
GayLoveKicksAss 2 weeks ago
I'm 20 years old and still a virgin. I don't think anyone should rush to have sex just because other people are doing it. You should have sex only if YOU want to and not worry about what other people are doing.
TheSurskit 1 month ago 2
I live in a culture where I having sex in general is a bad thing. so, i didnt have to make up anything :P
demonflame1993 1 month ago
i have to make fake stories about having gay sex to my gay friends.
wow how pathetic ...
tentaculariano 1 month ago
@tentaculariano Stop the lies! Or get new friends! You'll be much more comfortable. :-)
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago 5
YAY some skin!!
robbiedruko 1 month ago
oh ya been there done that, and kinda still have to deal with this.
alovebaby41 1 month ago
I've had many of my friends play as my gfs haha
FastMovinTrain 1 month ago
There wasn't really sex stories I had to make up, but in school like around 13-16 age. The biggest thing would be how many girls you've been with and which girl did you 'get off with' which just means snog basically. I would make up girls who I had 'got off with' when ever guys asked me. Would be like 'I got off with this girl at this party once'. something like that. Just so I didn't seem as pathetic as some of the guys who never touched a girl in their lives, and got bullied for it.
0o0dead0o0 1 month ago
@0o0dead0o0 Kids are so cruel to each other. It's amazing we made it through those years without going crazy.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
I didn't make mine up in my small town. I just played the rebellious christian card, and people thought I was a psycho. Which was kind of true... :-)
zachariahgriffin 1 month ago
@zachariahgriffin Haha, well-played sir!
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@zachariahgriffin LOL I WAS the Christian and my classmates thought I was a wacko. Now I add LIBERAL to my Christian, but people still think something's wrong. :)
Artjommm 1 month ago
LMAO I loved this video, I could relate to it.. I had to make up stuff like this too, I actually had to lie about being with two people once, and that is how I kinda got people to understand I was bi, by telling them I had been with a guy and a girl, I even described their looks, gave them fake names and made up the entire scenario which was LAME now that I remember it... oh yea, I was bi for a while too then I just said ok nvm I like penis bye!
Shmoonify 1 month ago
I never said a think about sex back in high school years. I guess I was just the loner. I guess by then everybody knew I was gay and they never said anything... Talking to girls has always been easy to me, it's not something really comfortable (for me) especially when the sex talk begins. I never say I've fucked a girl, though, I come up with some ambiguous reason or just change the topic... Great vid, Sam.
themonochromeman 1 month ago
I was a virgin until I was 25, I know exactly how you feel.
OneAndOnlyBillyJ 1 month ago
Wait.......I'm 22 and I'm a virgin
dolphin2666 1 month ago 4
@dolphin2666 Nothing wrong with that! Own it.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago 7
Sexy music - sexy chest -
dothedeed 1 month ago
Fake straight sex stories? I play to WIN.
Jessolor 1 month ago
You are so hot and cute! I am 16, gay and love your vids!
cookiebucks1 1 month ago
Loving the the chest hair
finderfinder100 1 month ago
Looking back now, I was pretty hot in HS, but wasnt too sexual. I knew i was gay, but didnt know what to "do" about it. girls would chase me, but only dated a few. really it was more like friends hanging out, had mostly guy friends. My guy friends kinda assumed i was getting (str8) sex, but i was never the kinda guy who would kiss & tell anyways. Guess i was secure (at least in one way) at a young age. It was assumed masculine guys who were into guy stuff (like me) were str8 & not challenged
sleekcartim 1 month ago
Thank goodness I never had to make up any story ! People around me knew pretty much everything I did and everyone that I knew, so adding someone out of the blue : not possible. I just said nothing, or "meh, nothing to report, carry on". Glad I don't have to avoid these situations anymore, or even think about what I could come up with =P
I like this video... and your shirtlessness. ^^
GayGHvain87 1 month ago
I don't have to make up stories since everyone's pretty certain I'm the nerdy freak no one likes - if I claimed anything people would just laugh at me :')
LeKayFace 1 month ago
@LeKayFace Embrace your nerdiness. Nerds are way more fun to be around than serial daters.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
My "Colin" became "Colleen." My boss wanted to know what kind of breast she had. I couldn't lie; I told him they were small & firm.
dafttool 1 month ago 3
@dafttool lmao That's kinda sad yet hilarious.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
Me too! I actually never cared about making fake stories. I always felt bad to make up a lie so when I'd be in a situation where I was expected to share a heterosexual story, I'd just prefer to stay silent or even say I'm a virgin.
exvonz 1 month ago
I usually just kept quiet for the most part. I don't remember making any up. I'm sure by my silence people knew I was gay but it was never discussed. P.S. You should do more videos without a shirt on ;)
Harpua927 1 month ago
First of all, good job on the shirtless, giggity.
I actually seem to make up more gay sex stories than straight sex stories. I like to put on this impression than I'm a total slut, but people know that I mate for life, sadly. It's still fun to make up shit like that. Recently, I told my friends that I would do Tim Tebow even if he is a religious douche-hole, I just wouldn't return any of his calls.
Trust me, he'd call back...a lot...
Lanedude08 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog
I never invented any sex story with a girl, when some of my friends ask me about a girl i reply with "oh no, we are just friends." or "I'm not interested"
Anyone seems to think that I'm 100% straight. And they also see me as an example because I'm quite rough, foul-mouthed, I eat too much (yes, this one impresses a lot of straight guys), and sometimes it seems that I've been raised by wolves...
I came out 2 times to the same person and he thought that it was a joke... both times.
Howl93 1 month ago
Well.. fortunately I lived in a HUGE city. that helped. and for the longest time only a very very select few people in my life knew I was gay. any others (IE: Family) I would just change the name of the guy to a girl. Michael became Michelle. James became Jenny. you get the idea. beyond that, since Im so quiet anyway, I never had to brag.
scxander 1 month ago
@scxander Small towns are tough. If you're quiet, you're gay. If you don't play sports, you're gay. If you're not dating, you're gay. At least in the eyes of your classmates. It's a pretty toxic environment to grow up in, but fortunately I found the best 4 people and made them my life-long friends!
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themonochromeman 1 month ago
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@KindaGayBlog So true... I wonder how long it takes to get rid of those toxic f***** memories...
themonochromeman 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog Totally had the same experience! LOL I totally relate to what you're saying here as I had the same perception of myself. I unfortunately had a fem voice so I really got made fun of. Put some passion into it when you suck that bottle - LMAO. Ok, you are an "otter" I guess you had to show us. I will join in and say "stop being so masculinely sexy! LOL JK You're the best Sam - you're bringing us all together here and on FB! Love ya!
sunflyer40 1 month ago
@sunflyer40 Ok I was typing thinking too fast sorry. Great vid - keep inspiring us. :-)
sunflyer40 1 month ago
@scxander I DID THAT TOO LOL
FastMovinTrain 1 month ago
I came out in my early twenties (I'm 42 now). I never made up anything. I tried to come across as bookish and asexual. Your story reminded me of the Modern Family episode where Mitchell is talking about his old "girlfriends" Eliza Doolittle and Betty Rizzo."Those are characters from musicals!" was, of course, the reply. :)
rockhopper10r 1 month ago
fortunately, asia society don't really talk about that so I don't have one. only keep asking if I have girlfriend or ask me to find one -_-
HTRex1204 1 month ago
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HTRex1204 1 month ago
Why is it sad ur going on a trip ur supost 2 go back 2 work when ur trip is done?
matthew8623 1 month ago
@matthew8623 I'm actually not coming back to this job! I resigned and I'll have to find a job wherever Pier and I decide to move. We're traveling for several months, and I'm so scared and excited!
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
story of my life !!! love your video!
Mr88xaxa 1 month ago
I never told fake stories. I came out in Grade 10 and had my first "sexual" experience with a guy not too long after. Any sex stories I have are gay ones and am not afraid to talk about them :)
DirBlair 1 month ago
@DirBlair Are you top,bottom,or vers.
iwant2cthatass 1 month ago
RESPECT! love your honesty!
yuyhyh 1 month ago
Missed you!....your chest is...mmmm!
MDkid1 1 month ago
Aw, Sam, you're so cute!!
EdGringo78 1 month ago
If you're going to falsely characterise heterosexual men as only being interested in drinking and sex...well then don't complain when you are equally characterised as sex-obsessed...and for much more reason, given the comments from all the 'gay' men on this thread...and from those who seem to be strangely, compulsively addicted to the simple sight of a man who's chest is showing. Hilarious.
reliableandrew 1 month ago
@reliableandrew It begs the question...So what brought YOU here then?
RobNorthampton 1 month ago
@RobNorthampton No need to beg. What brought me here is this guy's excellent other video on monogamy between homosexual men...something that my 19 yr old student is looking for...and cannot find...so I was expecting better advice.
So, it's not about me.
reliableandrew 1 month ago
@reliableandrew Well, because you didn't find what you were looking for, is that a reason to belittle and make fun of Sam who made this video? He is not being "shallow and sex-obsessed" by asking how other people dealt with their sexuality, growing up in a heterosexual and largely homophobic society.
RobNorthampton 1 month ago
If you didn't get the gist of what he was saying, he grew up in small town America, and so 'pretending' to be straight is an effort to 'fit in' with his peers, as millions of others try to do, and is all about survival! Often a teenager isn't psychologically or emotionally prepared or ready to face an onslaught of abuse or worse just because he is in a minority.
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RobNorthampton 1 month ago
If you want to give advice to a young gay man about relationships, refer him to another gay man who can help him on his journey. It seems you already have pre-conceived ideas about what it is to be gay, but are falling way short of the mark. Admit to him that just because you are his teacher, you are not the font of all knowledge.
RobNorthampton 1 month ago
My first monogamous relationship lasted 21 years, and my current one is 10 years and counting. Gay relationships are not so different to straight ones. Finding the right partner may be difficult, because we don't have as many people to choose from as you do, but ultimately, once you do find a decent partner, it's all about a healthy dose of give and take.
RobNorthampton 1 month ago
With a little compromise on both sides, your student can live a long and happy life in the company of one 'significant other'. As with embarking on any relationship, it can happen sooner, or it can happen later. We sometimes have to kiss a lot of frogs before we find our prince.
RobNorthampton 1 month ago
@RobNorthampton I can see you took time out there 'formulating' a reply 'Rob', but save it...and save your presumptions of what you 'think', I know and let Sam speak for himself. I don't have a sanitised view of the LGBT community...ONE gay man I referred him to was the author of 'Androphilia: Rejecting the Gay Identity, Reclaiming Masculinity' by Jack Malebranche...one of many GAY men who doesn't necessarily think like you.
Don't bore me further by attempting to 'school' me on these issues.Ta.
reliableandrew 1 month ago
@reliableandrew Well, as you are a teacher and obviously have buk-lernin', we must all obviously bow to your greater wisdom - even if it is delivered with an obnoxious attitude.
RobNorthampton 1 month ago
@RobNorthampton There ya go speaking for others again...you can 'bow' if you want to but really I'm just an average guy, who you are projecting your angst onto right now...
What was that you were sayin' about 'making fun of' and 'belittling' again?
Listen you don't 'like' me, I couldn't care less, so that really should be the end of our discussion right?
Why do you keep talking to someone with a supposedly obnoxious attitude?
Ok, have a good evening, cold spell approaching in the UK they reckon.
reliableandrew 1 month ago
@reliableandrew Hi Drew, sorry you didn't like the video. That was definitely NOT the message I intended to send out. This video discusses the irrational thoughts I had when I was closeted. For most closeted people, the topic of sex and dating sends them into a state of panic. In my warped little brain, I thought, "The more girls I claim to sleep with, and the douchier I sound, the straighter I'll sound!" In reality, I just sounded like a lying douche. Thank you for the book rec!
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog See, now that's what I call a mannerly reply, you do more to endear in one message than...other commenters do in 5.
Yes, you make perfect sense, and that is your experience coming from a 'small' town...it's just that heterosexuals of course, aren't as one-dimensional as perhaps you made them seem in the video.
Anyway, I like what you said in another video, how you find it difficult to understand how folk can separate their emotions from sexual intimacy...me too.
Take care now :)
reliableandrew 1 month ago
Good god, from now on, make the videos without your shirt on !!! :PPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP
boricuas4669 1 month ago
Ugh. How shallow and sex-obsessed must someone be...to actually request to hear FAKE sex stories from YouTubers?...and then later in the video lamenting,"...there's so much emphasis on sex it's crazy"...(yawn)...playing into the 'gay' male stereotype much?
Rather than feeling a 'loser' because of a losing one's virginity at 23...it could be explained to young gay men...that to wait until one's emotionally ready is actually a 'winning' thing, given the rise in HIV among homosexual men...
reliableandrew 1 month ago
"head" was used in my 6th grade all the time
OneRandomVictory 1 month ago
Hot Chest :)
BobbyBrady2000 1 month ago
I hade friends reminding me I "had sex" with someone when I was in the closet because I would forget about who I said I supposedly had sex with, for example " friend-yestarday I saw "X" , is she good in bed? ,me- how would I know? , friend- you told me you had sex with her" it was so awkward! haha, hugs
giovanniimperiale 1 month ago
Can I add you on facebook and not feel like a stalker?
OldNewsThinker 1 month ago
nice chest!
YouveBeenRead 1 month ago
part 1 - I think a huge amount of gays had their "imaginary” boy- and girlfriends (think this concerns lesbians as well) – to hide their “true identity” from family, friends, etc.; That’s a problem familiar with the fact, lots of gays come out as bisexual first because they think it seems less weird to their friends and family. There is still a connection – sure I love men, but also females, we still have something in common^^
DemiSecco 1 month ago
part 2 - I totally agree that it’s easier to understand and talk to females as a gay guy – just hat a talk with a group of gay guys few days ago if they had more male or female friends in their entire life… starting at… kindergarten. Most of us had more or only female friends, because we felt much more connected, are free to be who we are, know what they think, they talk, they do…
GAY by BIRTH - FABULOUS by CHOICE
DemiSecco 1 month ago
My sex stories were real as far as the sex went. The fake part was that I felt nothing for the women I slept with. In fact, I used to close my eyes and pretend it was my best friend under me (who I was totally besotted with and he never knew).
On two occasions, he and I both had sex with girls in the same room at the same time. One look at his sexy bum heaving up and down, and I was finished! Ironic that I then had to live down an episode of supposed premature ejaculation with the girl!
RobNorthampton 1 month ago
There is a gay magazine over here called Gay Times and around that time they had a fake photo of a young woman for you to put in your wallet for when you needed evidence of a girlfriend...and on the back were details to flesh out the story, her name, her job, where ye met, etc. Very funny!
TWPF100 1 month ago
I had a summer job when I was 15/16 and worked with guys who were "on the pull" every weekend and when I returned to school I told all my friends about them but also intimated that I was also doing that...even went as far as tell tem that I got a blow job in the back of a car while my frien was getting one while driving the car! All my mates came to me for advice on girls...and kept coming because I just gave them common sense but they assumed I was good at it because I was a casanova !!
TWPF100 1 month ago
@TWPF100 lol It's amazing how creative we get to cover our own asses! Thanks for sharing.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
great video! btw you're totally seducing me with no shirts on... just kidding! ;)
tomyy0842 1 month ago 3
@tomyy0842 Haha, I was about to go to bed when I made this video. I thought, "Should I put a shirt on?" Then I thought, "Wait, I'm talking about sex. Shirtless is perfect!"
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago 14
@KindaGayBlog Brilliant idea! :P
IfYouNeedLove 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog I've been watching Davey Wavey too much lately..I didn't even notice :S
Jessolor 1 month ago