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  • r u a boy or a girl?

  • Im a femme and i think flower(S) are over the top but i love one long stemed rose. very sweet! :) and not to sound weird but i have no idea how to meet other lesbians without doing it online. :/ i know that sounds horrible. any ideas? maybe you could make a video about it? and for the people asking if shes a boy, GROW UP!!! shes a stud and a very attractive one at that! but anyways. THANKS!!! have a date on saturday and was super nervous. this helped alot. :)

  • I love your videos. They make me laugh, and they're very insightful. I am a femme and an old fashioned one at that. I love flowers. They're very sweet. But I think everyone is different and different people like different things. Bringing flowers might just be their way of saying, "I really like you and I care about you." :)

  • wait is that a dude??

  • cool

  • oh jeez i just signed up O.o

  • Flowers on a FIRST date.. Yes it seems too forward. It also depends on the KIND of flowers and how big the arrangement is.

    I think flowers should wait til at least the third or fourth date. Just my opinion. :)

  • @aprilittleone I love flowers anytime!

  • Are you a lesbian or just a man with a cunt?

  • @Coribec Wow... really?

    AJ you are AWESOME!

  • I know this is way late but....I'm a fem (not speaking for all fems) but I agree, I'm over flowers. I guess it's a nice gesture, but they receiving them just makes me feel so awkward.

  • actually i think it doesnt just apply to lesbian dating. it dating for everyone

  • oh my god my past relationships did ALL of these things to me...

  • first of all hamishpetty1...she's clearly a freaking hot girl! second of all, flowers freaking suck cause not only do they die in like a week, but my cats find any excuse to eat them, so they get put in a closet for a week before i throw them out...and I really don't want my flowers to be closeted!

  • @awadswo7 Heheh my Kitteh eats flowers too xD

  • r u a boy or a girl

    

  • Epic (Y) Love You AJ :D

  • FUCK...!! I thought u were a guy D:

  • Not to sound rude but..how can you people not tell shes a girl!? "lesbian" is in her videos! >>; Tuna Talk is for girls bis lesbians bi-curious w/e by a lesbian! >>; thank you very much :) LOVE YOU AJ!!!!!!!

  • @punky0goth love ya too ;)

  • @AskAJanything YAY! LOL *win*

  • everybody fucking hates your job! -dude...... SOOOOO fucking spot on!

  • FLOWERS??? ITS KINDA TACKY THEY SHOULD JUS PAY 4 DINNER

  • I like getting flowers on a first date.

  • did you have a sex change and go get a gay boyfreind and go live you gay life and not spend your time and how would you get a "she" if your gay you fag

  • are you a guy or a girl, by your voice id guess girl??

  • is he or she...?? gay or girl??

  • @Riikyj SHE. :)

  • I met my current girlfriend of 4 months on the internet. I understand that we are more the exception and not the rule. That reality is you can spend years on the internet before actually finding someone worthy of meeting much less dating.

    However, she is the one who introduced me to your videos and got me to subscribe. So internet dating can't be all that bad right? :P

  • @nightrabbit4u no internet dating aint that bad,, ive been doing that with my gurlfriend for 3 yrs this month, && i still luv her to this day <3

  • flowers are dumb. you get them and then you don't know what to do with them

  • I Took My Wife To Chilli's & I Gave Her Flowers On Our First Date.

    (We Are Now Getting Devorced.)

    I Know Better Now.

  • I think ~a~ flower on the first date is sweet...like maybe just one rose, but not a bunch of them, that is tacky, and then i get distracted because while we're eating a dozen flowers are laying next to me, wilting. Horrible.

  • No internet dating...so true lol

  • Agreed on all accounts, except flowers. While they're sorta forward and awkward on a first date, I wouldn't put them on the "never" list, just the "much later on" list.

  • I'm not so sure if I agree with the whole Internet dateing thing I mean most the time bad idea! But there love out there! Everywhere! I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend for 4 months now and I met her off myspace! I sure love your videos tho there an insperation! O and about the hole flower thing I'm a fem and no Id say don't go for the flowers AJ stick it permanately on the don't list!

  • lmao i can't imagine taking a girl to a fast food restaurant for the first date.

    "so where are we going?"

    "Burger King."

    great video. i'll keep it in mind. 5/5

  • Flowers aren't really necessary on a first date to me. They seem to forward I'll agree, love ur vids :)

  • Ughh. I hate getting flowers... espshley if their FAKE and their AROUND FOR EVER...and ergh.. awful when your not with the person anymore too

  • I meet people at the park a lot... the walk is like 5 miles.... it was SO AWKWARD n_n;

    We went to a farmers market. haha.

  • Omg you're a lezbian!! gurrl i luv lezbians. btw im gay.. lolz and im about to meet a guy who i met on the net. lolz.

  • o_O

  • okay so I believe flowers on a first date are way too much but a second date okay

  • is this a guy or girl i seriously cannnot tell

  • @OMGitsLaurynxo i kno right? lolz

  • bringing flowers can be sweet but not in a first date. if u still wanted to give her something then jus give her a simple cute gift 4 the date.

  • flowers ar gay

  • dozon roses are for specil ocasionas

    carnations are tacky

    one to three roses are okay

    but like a lily or somthiing similer would be awesome

  • Is that a women dressed up in drag?

  • i don't think that bringing flowers on a first date is a disastrous idea;been there, done that->bringing flowers on a first date is really nice;i know lesbians who thought/felt awkward when receiving flowers, but i guess I'm just not one of them; ;) :D I'm femme btw.

  • internet dating is NOT a disaster! ;) i met my girlfriend on internet;and we're together for quite a while; although it is true that many persons you meet on the internet are not as you expected them to be(in short-horrible :))) ) , you can also find normal women, just like i did; so, don't generalize ;)

    peace :D

    nice video

  • are you a girl? or a dude? huh???

  • AJ is a girl

  • Get a Life its just a girl just be yourself and it will help more

  • fucking homophobic assforbrains

  • She's a girl.

  • i'm always right ;)

  • Of course. ahaha

  • see if she is alerck before u bring her flowers and do not bring me flowers on the first date

  • LMFAO! I totally met my girlfriend on Craig's List. No joke. We've been together for 5 months so far and she's not crazy. Lol. The ones I met the regular way were psycho.

  • really good advice.

    thank you

  • I was going on a date at our school.

    nice advice

  • is that a chick?

  • yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesssssssssss­sssssssssssssssssssssssssssss lol

  • YESH!

  • hahahahaha "one of you will get a parking ticket or get towed" ROFLMFAO!!!

  • I like flowers but not on a first date. :)

  • tip: tell ur parents about ur boyfriend they wud wont to no

  • Hahah "if your date consists of eating- dinner ;)" I loved that.

  • You are just so witty!!

  • Flowers on a first date, while Marsha Brady may have loved it, is awkward. What if the date sucks? Then you're stuck with these flowers (probably not even a kind you like, or your cat will eat them and die) that remind you of a bad first date. Who wants a scented reminder that girls are out of their minds? Oh, and the single rose is cheesy unless you've been together for at least a lesbian minute.

    PS - If you get me purple tulips though, I won't mind the scented reminder that you suck.

  • you can plan a date with the most simple things and you dont have to spend so much money.......

  • ur so ignorant to say that. wake up to the world around you.

  • Internet dating is NOT a disaster waiting to happen in all cases. My fiancee and I met online. Thats all I had to say.

    Actually, I met her in a chat room, not on some personals site. I've never been a fan of those.

  • nah i LOVE flowers, i'd love a guy to bring me that, maybe on the second date though. And i'm actually meeting with someone from an internet dating site tonight. .haha but it's a christian site so i trust it more that i normally would. :-) good tips

  • I normally don't bring flowers but this one time, because i was dating her but we never actually went on a date. I know her from school, so i brought her flowers since she loves flowers and the rest of the night was perfect.

  • well if ur a girl u do sound sexy but ur a guy forget wat i just told u haha

  • omg your so cool!!! XD luv this vid and luv you!!!!!!

  • When it comes to flowers my friend is the most cute femme I've ever met. xD With her, her innocence + flowers = automatic blush fever.

    And I fucking love that xD "In fact, I'm done with flowers all together. *hand motion* "

    Question to you and I'm sorry if you answered this before: I just started watching, but when it comes to femmes do the innocent, obviously-not-dominate kind make you flutter?

    The femmes I know are pretty "fairy tale"-like? The polite, very cute, the cute little voice.

  • What if your with a really shy person?

  • I put an ad on Craigslist: "I Like 'em Nerdy" and got the best hit: my current girlfriend! Girls in isolated places like a tropical island where lesbians live in caves HAVE to do this! Ask for what you want. How else are you going to get it?

  • My gf lives in nsw (I live in WA), we have been dating for 6 months and we meet on the internet (not on a dating site)

  • flowers are for girlfriends. or serious partners.

  • a piece of like... tomato.! i love it! and u!

  • love you too!

  • Yeah im 12. i used to internet date but it didnt work out. LOL. your good at this stuff :O

  • XD thanks im going on my first date tonight... i am 10 lolthanks i will try not to fall on my face tonite roller skating

  • are you a man or lady?

  • lady

  • Hey i like only just came out last year and i think i learnt alot more from watching you than everything i've leanrt in a year LOL.

    How do you know if a girl likes you and what do butch girls look for? Cos i'm a Femme but i have short hair and sometimes i wear guys clothes but i till have my make up and my hand bag. Oh and they call me a baby dyke.

    Anyway i think your Vids Are awesome!!!

  • im a femme..a rose is too forward but what about a daisy?

  • I dunno, the flower thing can be a good thing if the date go sour.

    i ended up eating the flower out of lack of anything to say.

  • im going on my first date and im kinda young(12) so thx fir the tip of job interview

    it helps if it was like a parent teacher interview

  • internet dating isn't always a disaster.. not at all.

  • flowers are cute but yeah, not on a first date kinda creepy. And internet dating, yeah i've had my disasters but there aren't always so many options when you live in a small town and are totally femme (straight looking)

  • OMG dont call him gay ....btw i think u did a gr8 job :D thnx :D

  • yeah flowers the 1st day = no good.. to weird.

  • lol flowers! haha

  • Gotta love the wink at 1:07

  • ya i'm dorky

  • How is internet dating any worse than trashy gay bars?

  • "How is internet dating any worse than trashy gay bars?"

    Surely there must be a very funny joke in there somewhere.

  • Flowers on a first date = desperate.

    Don't do it.

  • about the flowers... what kind of "first date" is it? say you are already acquaintences, or even friends, and THEN you go out on a date - if so, a flower, or even flowers, is really nice and sweet. But if you don't know each other very well, or at all, then flowers should be totally out.

    And I completely agree about the two cars thing. Unfortunately, most of my dates didn't actually like me pushing that. Oh well. Don't want to be with someone who squashes what independence you do have.

  • i'm old enough to know that HEY LADIES is awesome.

  • dude im making you a fan videoooo.

  • I agree on everything..except I'm totally politically incorrect (back when I used to date) ..but if someone, be it man or woman, I'm bi, would bring flowers to a date with me, I would melt onto my chair I think. That's just so cute.^^

  • orthey use corel paint

  • maybe one flower, just one

  • Sometimes internet does work-my girlfriend and I are celebrating 2 years of being together tommorow,even the fact that she is from UK and I am from Serbia didn't stop us:))).

  • Ditto. U can make it work. If it's worth it, you will. It can work.

  • i hate flowers

  • yeah, flower are OVER!

    doesn't turn me on.

  • Lol if a floer turned you on it would be worrying. It's not meant to, it's meant to be a loving, sweet gesture that's all. And yeah some people don't like flowers I suppose.

  • I agree with the one single flower... but not a rose (still too forward). But, I wouldn't be disappointed if I didn't receive anything of the sort on a 1st date.

  • Personally, I think flowers on a first or even second date might be awkward, unless your date is coming to your house for dinner, cuz then it's kinda like they are for the house too :)

    As far as gifts go, I think to take someone you like to a place that is special, or to a place where there is an nice view, and give them some sweet kisses to remember, that is far better than any flowers! To me anyway..

  • flowers.. way too forward

  • About the not having money thing...when you're both equally poor it's not necessarily bad, you make due. I remember when my girlfriend and I went on our first date we went to a sushi place and shared one roll...seriously. But they gave us free wine after, which was hilarious because we both DEFINITELY looked our ages (18).

  • you are so right about the flowers. lol

  • Bringing "flowers" on a first date, in my opinion just lacks subtlety. However, a single, solitary flower is a lovely gesture, is less oppressive, and still leaves the impression you took the time to go out and choose a particular flower, which to a femme translates to thoughtful, and romantic. Two big pluses.

  • um hum. yea, that sounds like a nice gesture and i'm sure someone nice would do that - but it's not me :)

    *does hair flip*

  • I'm a flower-loving femme, my current gf gets me flowers almost every week and each and every time I get really happy and shower her with kisses. Actually, one of the reasons I broke up with my ex was her lack of romantic details like these... I could never be a girl who refused to get me flowers.

  • One other thing for L word lovers should be. DO NOT ask your date "Are you a Shane kind of girl?" I cannot stand that shit!

  • Gifts are really sweet but I wouldnt suggest giving flowers or any gift on the first date. There may not be a second date and the person giving the gift just waisted some money. Neways after a while if my girl wanted to give me a gift I would say forget the flowers, lets go to the local sex shop and help me pick out a gift we would both enjoy.

  • I like flowers I guess I'm kinda old fashion in THAT way.. But I met my honey on myspace *blush* The 24th we will be together 2 years together. I've lived learned and found the greatest love of my life... I think love can happen anywhere. It's about being in the right place at the right time. And stop LOOKING FOR LOVE.. When the time is right she will fall in your lap lol take that as you want :)

  • I loveee flowers, but not on a first date. Although if I did get flowers on a first date, it would probably be cute in a somewhat awkward way. I never know what to say when people give me things. Cause I either underact or overact, and I get nervous about making other people feel uncomfortable. Haha. Anyway.. Yeah. I personally like flowers. They just make me happy.

  • let it happen organically - wait it out!!!

  • oh my fucking god AJ. The music is music from freeplaymusic that i have had to use for television production projects at school AHAHAHA i cant believe it.

  • it totally is from that website. i have to use that music because since i'm a partner I cant use copyrighted music - boo!

  • As a girlie girl lesbo who loves boi's, I'm all for the single flower on the first date. Don't try too hard w/ the rose ; but a nice simple flower makes a girl feel special.

  • Oh man! No flowers? My ex didn't believe in flowers so for the 6 and a half years we were together I got them maybe 4 times. Bummer. My current gf gets them for me a lot and I know it seems stupid and maybe it's me being a dumb girl, but they make me SO happy.

    I loved all these tips. If I find myself on another first date I will definitely heed this advice.

  • Dear AJ,

    I am not even a lesbian and I'm all gay for you.

    You are adorable and you make me smile.

    Keep it up :)

  • i love when i turn straight girls somewhat gay!

  • I am so so so happy you wore the black shoes!!

    BTW, a bunch of flowers on a first date is a no no.

    But one single flower and not a rose of any kind is ok. It's actually sweet but not too sweet. Or too much.

  • AJ dude, reel that hair in, it's slowly becoming a tribute to either Ed Grimley or unicorns!

  • Love to give flowers, but I understand they are not for everyone. More importantly, I love "Tuna Talk" - you are an amazing person - thanks for sharing YOU with US.

  • I don't like flowers.

    They die.

    And it makes me feel awkward when they do.

  • I can understand that. I once even wrote an aphorism about this:

    Will you

    Give her a bunch of flowers

    or

    Lead her to a place

    where living flowers bloom?

  • thats awesome! i'd like you to write one for each of my next videos...

  • Err, I didn't write it on the video, silly. ;) It is already some years old. Sorry to disapp. ;)

  • where is the hi to brazil?!?!

    i love yoouu! ;DDDD

  • oi,Como vai?

    ;P

  • thanks for the tips!!!

    i can't wait for my first date :)

    and yr mom...super kool!

  • why hasnt anyone said how cute you and your mom look?? I want a tshirt too!!!! WATCH THE FULL VIDEO PEOPLE! :)

  • Uh... So, I met my girlfriend on Myspace... yeah that's right, and not only did we talk about our exes on our first date... hers was there. I mean, not hanging out with us or anything, but she happened to go to the same bar as we did that night. So, since hers was there it just got us on the topic of exes. But it was a very successful date, and we are very happy together now. We look back at that first date, and we laugh.

  • LOL.. "If your date consists of eating.... dinner *wink*"

    You're awesome! :-D

  • Great advice but when it comes to the flowers i agree but instead of flowers i do a single long stem rose i think its classic and the ladies really like it, So i say intead of a big bush (no pun intended)of flowers try a long stem rose... No Yes Ladies Please we need to Stop internet Dating!!!!

  • nutss..so funny!!:P

  • Come on now, if you know you're talking to a bunch of dykes (plenty of whom do live in subway-equipped cities), you've gotta at least give an opinion about public transportation vs. getting your car towed. Granted, some of it depends on the culture of the city, e.g. NYC.

  • Hey I met my current, wonderful girlfriend on OurChart! We've been together for nine months and my friends ask us for relationship advice because our relationship is healthier than theirs.

  • I think I feel bad.

    I liked the bathroom. Really, I did.

  • I second that! If flowers are given in a very awkward way or with a huge grin, you'd feel uncomfortable cause the person expects you to be impressed when youre not!

  • Flowers just feel like prom or homecoming... or some other awful high school event. Getting flowers for someone is like saying "I wanted to get you something but I'm too lazy to pick out something you'd actually like." Just me maybe.

  • No flowers - save them for when the UHaul arrives on the third date!