Fantasia in Oprah's The Color Purple and Non-Negotiable Relationships

[chasingpavements04]

SN: I think this is now my favorite video.

[chasingpavements04]

To me having or wanting an open relationship speaks to how high of a standard you hold the act of sex. Personally, I hold sex to a high standard and feel that it is an intimate moment that need only be shared between two people in a serious relationship. To allow another person to "fulfill" a need opens nothing but doors of trouble by the name of "attachment", "envy", and namely "STDs". Its kinda hard to build anything with someone if there's a third party present that can alter how things go.

[whyldmunki]

I really enjoy these convos. I feel lyk a fly on the wall.

[Kenovan07]

I agree with Charlie...you have to be able to handle it and there has to be an understanding on both sides...I have seen it work out well with two buddies of mines...one being a top and the other being vers top...somethings are non-negotiable, but can be worked out

[FrozenBoyfriend]

I love when you guys do a video together. Great topic about the open relationship. I wouldn't be able to handle that personally. Oh, and why did you keep fidgeting with your shoe lol???????

[TheworldofKevin]

@FrozenBoyfriend thank you! my shoe was dirty lol

[lilactor03]

And lastly lol, I think if open relationships work for you then by all means. Love and sex aren't always the same things and don't always go hand in hand. If you and your partner love each other, but can't seem to manage having good sex, then hey, why not satisfy that elsewhere, as long as it's safe.

[TheworldofKevin]

@lilactor03 thank You for your comment. Good Stuff!!

[lilactor03]

I think coming up with a hypothetical list of non-negotioables will only be HYPOTHETICAL at best. I can come up with 10000 things, but given the situation, I may find a way to work through, or negotiate, it so I don't really case people away quickly based on things like that.

[lilactor03]

hmm I thought the color purple was amazing. I suppose I will agree that "all my life I had to fight" wasn't as powerful as the movie, but "Hell No!" is a great song to go in that moment. I also appreciated the musical much more for highlighting that Shug and Celie are lesbians, where the movie tried to play it down a lot.

[AmareNeo]

all I have to say about OPEN relationships is... BLAH! IT AINT A REAL RELATIONSHIP! I give it a title called: best friends with interest received!

[TheworldofKevin]

@AmareNeo I love your passion on this subject!!! STAND YOUR GROUND :-)

[3WestProductions]

Great Stuff

[TheworldofKevin]

@3WestProductions I can't tell you how much I love doing videos with him...haha