you dont have to be adorable. Just make a video thats easy to follow. More to the core and to the facts.not so much details. or make two seperate's one's.
A really good video I have recently been diagnosed with aspergers and dyspraxia and it was a total shock because I thought the way I felt and thought was normal. I had no idea that I had aspergers. Thank you for uploading I enjoy your videos and its very brave of you to do so.
This was SUPPOSED to be a compliment. I didn't say you looked retarded, I said you DIDN'T. Read more carefully! I asked why on earth you feel like you look retarded? You don't. So fuck you to and go back to your fantasy, because you are right. Outside of this pixie cutsie act you are a witch to tell me to get fucked. I suffer with ugliness of the face you don't and you say fuck me in the face??? FRY IN HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@Hopihe37 Let me explain. When you compliment someone and in the same breath insult a group of people they care about and consider friends/fellowtravelers, they're not going to take it as a compliment. Not to mention I could introduce you to many "retarded" people who are skinny and have 2 eyebrows (though I have no idea what that has to do with disability)
anyway if you were wondering why I had the response I did, that's why, sorry to cause so much consternation.
i believe that my partner and i are aspie and missed being diagnosed....... keep your head up........i camouflaged alot............... how do you manage your executive sskills.....i suck at that.......it makes me soooo anxious.......... the way that you speak and the things you think about totally makes sense to me.....
:) i used to do the blonde in high school. sarcastic blonde, though, so either my aspie comment was taken as a blonde moment, or as a super funny sarcastic joke. worked for me !
Hey check out the best most genius surfer of his age group in the world. look up on you tube Clay Marzo. He has aspergers and is the most outrageously amazing surfer I have ever seen. All he does is surf. Awesome video.
this sounds exactly like me. im 17 now and i used to do the manic pixie dream girl thing but i felt so fake i hated myself. i tried to stop cuz i wanted to figure out who i am but i just took on another persona. and this one was harder to hide my slowness? i guess you could call it. didnt hide my aspergers as well either. now i'm just kinda lost and don't know what to do with myself. i'm trying to just be me and not focus on what other people think about me. easier said than done.
I recognize so much in my self hearing you talk. It's not easy living in a world when every body else is weird and you are the one who is normal.
I also have this feeling of being a girl, although I am a boy. The good part is I'm also lesbian so nobody can tell i'm gay! Which probably makes it much easier for me, than it is for you.
I don' think i will ever fully accept what's between my legs though. =p
hi ^.^ I just wanted to tell you that I enjoyed your video and that I can relate to a lot of what you said... in a lot of ways, I've always kind of used people when it comes to my various disabilities...like for example, I always make my friends and family check things out for me at the register... I do feel kind of self-conscious when I'm standing next to them though... I typically just twist my fingers and zone out. anyway, good luck with everything ^.^ I hope all goes well for you.
Well based off of my own experience. You don't have any problems if you are a girl with aspergers---especially in dating. Just a thought I wanted to share. Oh and this vid needs more lighting. I cant see you.
@gorramdoll I score pretty high for AS and ADHD (people say you can't have both, idk, I score high for both), and I'm also trans and a lesbian. I seem to only get along with people of my own neurotypical spectrum. Dating isn't easy, it's like I'm from another planet most of the time.
do you have an ASD, or just relate for other reasons? do you write/make videos about this kind of thing? I'm always curious to read other people's viewpoints especially girls' because there's so little stuff about women with ASDs in the mainstream media.
Yes I have ASD. I just recently identified with it. And I agree that I have noticed differences already with girls and guys who have ASD. I have been thinking about making videos to help me talk about what is going on. I feel that I have the urge to explain every little thing in detail. Writing things down gets frustrating. I am feeling elated that I found your videos. I have this weird theory that the reason I understand you so well is either the way you talk or the words you use. Maybe both.
Also do you find that you feel not pretty enough? I sometimes feel that, who would want to date me. Do you find also that when it comes to a subject you enjoy that you go on about it for a long period of time? For example im spending quite a bit of time making videos saying to people to vote on who they would want as what character in the next batman film, who they would have as other dc characters. Im sure that most people might not even bother making any videos, seeing it as a waste of time.
standards so I don't know if they would find me attractive and I assume they don't because lesbians always claim to like "confidence" and I'm very careful and apologetic which they don't like.
I try not to go on in real conversations, which is why I write and make youtube videos a lot. making videos is definitely a good way to deal with the desire to go on about things.
Yeah i see your point. Most people dont understand aspergers properly. They sometimes treat you differently even though they say they do not. The good thing about us is that we are really intelligent, especially on our favourite subjects. Did you know that Albert Einstein had aspergers??
lol its funny, your so much like me. Most of my friends are male, the few friends i do have that are female i find it more easier to talk to them. Im quite good at giving advice about relationships but funnily enough i cant seem to find one at the moment. My previous relationships ended because they dont want a serious relationship. Also they didnt like it when i was angry/intense. I found it easier to be left alone for a while. I can see why it might be easier to date someone of the same sex.
yes. i find it hard when im travelling to a new place that i havent been to before. often i need to have very clear directions of how to get there otherwise if im doing it all myself i can get lost. i have never before even had the chance to speak to someone of the opposite sex who has AS. it is normally more common in men than in women. do you find relationships hard?
I don't really have relationships since I'm a lesbian. Like most AS people I don't relate well to women, so most of my friends are male so it's hard to find someone I'd want to have a relationship with (if I was straight I'd have it made). When I have dated people briefly, I feel like the girl has expected me to be super gentle & innocent and has felt sort of betrayed when I have been surprisingly angry/intense. If I get in a serious relationship I'll tell you how it goes, what about you?
what things do you find hard to do? i have a mild form of AS and for quite a while it was hard for me to tell people about it. i feel that they will treat me much differently.
believe me ive tried pretending i was normal and it is so much easier to be myself. AS isnt a look, you dont look different having it. sorry not having a go at you but saying (Do I not look AS enough for you to believe that I have it, or something?) is the type of thing someone would say if they are pretending they have it.
your mileage may vary, I find pretending to be normal or a version of normal is sometimes helpful with people I'm not extremely close with. The reason I asked if I don't look AS to you is because you just asked me if I was faking! Why would you ask me if I was faking?
I find talking and remembering things and writing and filling out forms and finding my way around and a lot of other things to be hard to do. What about you?
why do you feel it is bad to have AS and why does that make a person bad?
to gorramdoll
i dont understand. if you have AS thats fine and you shouldnt be ashamed of it. if you dont have AS and your faking it then why? all your doing is then making things harder for people who really have AS like me. why would you want to fake having AS? i hope you do feel bad everytime you be stupid and fake having AS. i hope that you are not faking AS.
I don't really know where you're getting the idea that I fake having AS. Is that what you thought my video was about? I feel my life is easier if I can fake being normal somewhat and that's my own choice, just like it would be my choice to fake being heterosexual to protect myself from homophobia. I talked about some of my faking normal methods. Do I not look AS enough for you to believe that I have it, or something?
I don't understand why you said this. Either you have AS and I feel bad for you, or you don't and I feel bad for you. Either way, I feel bad for you. I'm sorry that you're such a terrible person on the inside.
this opened my eyes a lot, i've definitely pegged people with the manic-pixie-dream-girl personality as being immature or babyish. now i see that people like that aren't always doing it to be entertaining, they're doing it out of the need to fit in.
well, I don't know how common it is for people to fake it like I do. but at the same time, I feel like the way people talk or their mannerisms doesn't necessarily mean as much about them as one would think, so it probably is good to consider.
oh, sorry. no, i meant injured bird syndrome. this isn't actually a term i don't think but! i say it because i think it is apt in regards to how many men view the mpdg. you see them and they are weird and endearing on some level and the inclination is to think "let me fix you..." like they're an old house or some shit. i think it's the ego boost they get from feeling like some white knight riding in and saving the emotionally ruined girl from her dreadful life.
oh, that makes sense. I think it might be a real term now that you explain what it stands for. I was just like "..no, my gastrointestinal tract is fine.."
yo this was... kind of shockingly fantastic. i was expecting it to be some silly video and instead it was really funny/entertaining/interesting/thought-provoking/whatever other bullshit and probably one of the most worthwhile things i've seen on youtube pretty much ever. so i wouldn't apologize for your lack of conversational skills if i were you!
also, the whole MPDG and resulting IBS thing is pretty amusing to me; i'm glad i'm not the only one who notices it!
One way you can appear more intelligent: stop saying "like" so unnecessarily ubiquitously.
nector6535 2 weeks ago
you dont have to be adorable. Just make a video thats easy to follow. More to the core and to the facts.not so much details. or make two seperate's one's.
masterkey14 4 months ago
A really good video I have recently been diagnosed with aspergers and dyspraxia and it was a total shock because I thought the way I felt and thought was normal. I had no idea that I had aspergers. Thank you for uploading I enjoy your videos and its very brave of you to do so.
electricundergound 5 months ago
I think you express yourself very well for an aspie and I admire you for that:)
violinist881 6 months ago
and you admit that.
Hopihe37 8 months ago
Yes, you are very stupid.
Hopihe37 8 months ago
This was SUPPOSED to be a compliment. I didn't say you looked retarded, I said you DIDN'T. Read more carefully! I asked why on earth you feel like you look retarded? You don't. So fuck you to and go back to your fantasy, because you are right. Outside of this pixie cutsie act you are a witch to tell me to get fucked. I suffer with ugliness of the face you don't and you say fuck me in the face??? FRY IN HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hopihe37 8 months ago
@Hopihe37 Let me explain. When you compliment someone and in the same breath insult a group of people they care about and consider friends/fellowtravelers, they're not going to take it as a compliment. Not to mention I could introduce you to many "retarded" people who are skinny and have 2 eyebrows (though I have no idea what that has to do with disability)
anyway if you were wondering why I had the response I did, that's why, sorry to cause so much consternation.
gorramdoll 8 months ago
YOU, looking retarded???? Why? Look at me. You have no double chin, slack jaws, uni-brows, odd features, etc.
Hopihe37 8 months ago
@Hopihe37 go fuck yourself in the face
gorramdoll 8 months ago
i believe that my partner and i are aspie and missed being diagnosed....... keep your head up........i camouflaged alot............... how do you manage your executive sskills.....i suck at that.......it makes me soooo anxious.......... the way that you speak and the things you think about totally makes sense to me.....
demurebrownsugar 1 year ago
I look normal as a young man and i have AS, just like my mum said. And i like to have a girl with AS looking pretty and normal as well.
MrAngryTV1 1 year ago
:) i used to do the blonde in high school. sarcastic blonde, though, so either my aspie comment was taken as a blonde moment, or as a super funny sarcastic joke. worked for me !
ediself 1 year ago
Hey check out the best most genius surfer of his age group in the world. look up on you tube Clay Marzo. He has aspergers and is the most outrageously amazing surfer I have ever seen. All he does is surf. Awesome video.
TOTVSTVVSMARIA 1 year ago
youre such a thoughtful person!
and mike seems really sweet :)
ModderRhu87 1 year ago
this sounds exactly like me. im 17 now and i used to do the manic pixie dream girl thing but i felt so fake i hated myself. i tried to stop cuz i wanted to figure out who i am but i just took on another persona. and this one was harder to hide my slowness? i guess you could call it. didnt hide my aspergers as well either. now i'm just kinda lost and don't know what to do with myself. i'm trying to just be me and not focus on what other people think about me. easier said than done.
420kdougs 1 year ago 3
I recognize so much in my self hearing you talk. It's not easy living in a world when every body else is weird and you are the one who is normal.
I also have this feeling of being a girl, although I am a boy. The good part is I'm also lesbian so nobody can tell i'm gay! Which probably makes it much easier for me, than it is for you.
I don' think i will ever fully accept what's between my legs though. =p
Thanks for your video!
antjanlosen 1 year ago 4
I think people in the USA need to label everybody, instead of thinking people are individuals and all different and medication isn't the answer.
SuzLa1 1 year ago
hi ^.^ I just wanted to tell you that I enjoyed your video and that I can relate to a lot of what you said... in a lot of ways, I've always kind of used people when it comes to my various disabilities...like for example, I always make my friends and family check things out for me at the register... I do feel kind of self-conscious when I'm standing next to them though... I typically just twist my fingers and zone out. anyway, good luck with everything ^.^ I hope all goes well for you.
zag2 2 years ago
that's cool that you do that
gorramdoll 2 years ago
Thank you! Thank you thank you thank you. I've been wondering about just this topic, the MPDG vs. the honest Aspie girl.
ThePhantasist 2 years ago
seriously? that's really funny it's not just me.
I mean, I know it's not just me but I didn't know how many ASD people also loved the Onion AV Club.
gorramdoll 2 years ago
Well based off of my own experience. You don't have any problems if you are a girl with aspergers---especially in dating. Just a thought I wanted to share. Oh and this vid needs more lighting. I cant see you.
rollermaul22 2 years ago
not really, I'm a lesbian and my AS makes me not get along with girls at all
gorramdoll 2 years ago
@gorramdoll I score pretty high for AS and ADHD (people say you can't have both, idk, I score high for both), and I'm also trans and a lesbian. I seem to only get along with people of my own neurotypical spectrum. Dating isn't easy, it's like I'm from another planet most of the time.
blickblocks 8 months ago
are there like special effects in this video?
gorramdoll 2 years ago
I used to wonder if I was a lesbian but I hadn't heard of asexuality at the time.
Ilovecats112233 2 years ago
I understand you. I can't explain it, but I just wanted you to know that I understand every single thing you say! And I also know how rare that is.
sushipie29 2 years ago
do you have an ASD, or just relate for other reasons? do you write/make videos about this kind of thing? I'm always curious to read other people's viewpoints especially girls' because there's so little stuff about women with ASDs in the mainstream media.
gorramdoll 2 years ago
Yes I have ASD. I just recently identified with it. And I agree that I have noticed differences already with girls and guys who have ASD. I have been thinking about making videos to help me talk about what is going on. I feel that I have the urge to explain every little thing in detail. Writing things down gets frustrating. I am feeling elated that I found your videos. I have this weird theory that the reason I understand you so well is either the way you talk or the words you use. Maybe both.
sushipie29 2 years ago
Also do you find that you feel not pretty enough? I sometimes feel that, who would want to date me. Do you find also that when it comes to a subject you enjoy that you go on about it for a long period of time? For example im spending quite a bit of time making videos saying to people to vote on who they would want as what character in the next batman film, who they would have as other dc characters. Im sure that most people might not even bother making any videos, seeing it as a waste of time.
IncubusKevuk 2 years ago
standards so I don't know if they would find me attractive and I assume they don't because lesbians always claim to like "confidence" and I'm very careful and apologetic which they don't like.
I try not to go on in real conversations, which is why I write and make youtube videos a lot. making videos is definitely a good way to deal with the desire to go on about things.
gorramdoll 2 years ago
Yeah i see your point. Most people dont understand aspergers properly. They sometimes treat you differently even though they say they do not. The good thing about us is that we are really intelligent, especially on our favourite subjects. Did you know that Albert Einstein had aspergers??
IncubusKevuk 2 years ago
lol its funny, your so much like me. Most of my friends are male, the few friends i do have that are female i find it more easier to talk to them. Im quite good at giving advice about relationships but funnily enough i cant seem to find one at the moment. My previous relationships ended because they dont want a serious relationship. Also they didnt like it when i was angry/intense. I found it easier to be left alone for a while. I can see why it might be easier to date someone of the same sex.
IncubusKevuk 2 years ago
yes. i find it hard when im travelling to a new place that i havent been to before. often i need to have very clear directions of how to get there otherwise if im doing it all myself i can get lost. i have never before even had the chance to speak to someone of the opposite sex who has AS. it is normally more common in men than in women. do you find relationships hard?
IncubusKevuk 2 years ago
I don't really have relationships since I'm a lesbian. Like most AS people I don't relate well to women, so most of my friends are male so it's hard to find someone I'd want to have a relationship with (if I was straight I'd have it made). When I have dated people briefly, I feel like the girl has expected me to be super gentle & innocent and has felt sort of betrayed when I have been surprisingly angry/intense. If I get in a serious relationship I'll tell you how it goes, what about you?
gorramdoll 2 years ago
what things do you find hard to do? i have a mild form of AS and for quite a while it was hard for me to tell people about it. i feel that they will treat me much differently.
IncubusKevuk 2 years ago
believe me ive tried pretending i was normal and it is so much easier to be myself. AS isnt a look, you dont look different having it. sorry not having a go at you but saying (Do I not look AS enough for you to believe that I have it, or something?) is the type of thing someone would say if they are pretending they have it.
IncubusKevuk 2 years ago
your mileage may vary, I find pretending to be normal or a version of normal is sometimes helpful with people I'm not extremely close with. The reason I asked if I don't look AS to you is because you just asked me if I was faking! Why would you ask me if I was faking?
I find talking and remembering things and writing and filling out forms and finding my way around and a lot of other things to be hard to do. What about you?
gorramdoll 2 years ago
two points first to mephistophilesgirl.
why do you feel it is bad to have AS and why does that make a person bad?
to gorramdoll
i dont understand. if you have AS thats fine and you shouldnt be ashamed of it. if you dont have AS and your faking it then why? all your doing is then making things harder for people who really have AS like me. why would you want to fake having AS? i hope you do feel bad everytime you be stupid and fake having AS. i hope that you are not faking AS.
IncubusKevuk 2 years ago
I don't really know where you're getting the idea that I fake having AS. Is that what you thought my video was about? I feel my life is easier if I can fake being normal somewhat and that's my own choice, just like it would be my choice to fake being heterosexual to protect myself from homophobia. I talked about some of my faking normal methods. Do I not look AS enough for you to believe that I have it, or something?
gorramdoll 2 years ago
I don't understand why you said this. Either you have AS and I feel bad for you, or you don't and I feel bad for you. Either way, I feel bad for you. I'm sorry that you're such a terrible person on the inside.
mephistophilesgirl 2 years ago
Funny, I'd like to do the same to people like YOU.
Amilee84 2 years ago
u r a smart girl.
filemen2 2 years ago
Yeah, that's probably a good idea.
gorramdoll 2 years ago
this opened my eyes a lot, i've definitely pegged people with the manic-pixie-dream-girl personality as being immature or babyish. now i see that people like that aren't always doing it to be entertaining, they're doing it out of the need to fit in.
thank you so much for this video.
erinsaidwhat 2 years ago
well, I don't know how common it is for people to fake it like I do. but at the same time, I feel like the way people talk or their mannerisms doesn't necessarily mean as much about them as one would think, so it probably is good to consider.
thanks.
gorramdoll 2 years ago
All personality is affectation.
filemen2 2 years ago
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headphonicsok 2 years ago
oh, sorry. no, i meant injured bird syndrome. this isn't actually a term i don't think but! i say it because i think it is apt in regards to how many men view the mpdg. you see them and they are weird and endearing on some level and the inclination is to think "let me fix you..." like they're an old house or some shit. i think it's the ego boost they get from feeling like some white knight riding in and saving the emotionally ruined girl from her dreadful life.
i'm sorry people patronize you!
headphonicsok 2 years ago
oh, that makes sense. I think it might be a real term now that you explain what it stands for. I was just like "..no, my gastrointestinal tract is fine.."
gorramdoll 2 years ago
yo this was... kind of shockingly fantastic. i was expecting it to be some silly video and instead it was really funny/entertaining/interesting/thought-provoking/whatever other bullshit and probably one of the most worthwhile things i've seen on youtube pretty much ever. so i wouldn't apologize for your lack of conversational skills if i were you!
also, the whole MPDG and resulting IBS thing is pretty amusing to me; i'm glad i'm not the only one who notices it!
headphonicsok 2 years ago
irritable bowel syndrome?
thank you a lot! I'm glad it doesn't suck. I did cut out some of the really dumb space cadet parts though.
gorramdoll 2 years ago