Devastating Letter From My Brother About My Transition.

[NekoBeau]

God, I'm so glad you said that he's come around since then... he says like you're killing his sister? I wonder how many people who say that sort of thing to their trans siblings acutally _have_ lost a sibling. I have, and from first-hand experience, it would _not_ be the same as having one of the remaining siblings transition. It just wouldn't be the same. The actual death of a sibling is a world away from one of them changing physically.

[blickblocks]

I know this video is old, but omg. That was the worst letter I've ever heard.

[gadsdensnake]

Your brother is hysterical and uninformed.

[chaosbootay99]

i dont agree with your bro serge. i believe your a very attractive male and this is comeing from a stright women.

dont worry he will eventually get over it ( if he truly loves you).

best of luck

[the1princefrank]

christ so he may be concerened, but, that was fucking harsh!!!!!!!!

[charlenemonique1]

You say that your brother has come around some since this letter?I hope that he has and you do not make a horrible looking man I think that he said that out of anger that he tried to some what cover up.I hope that he learns that you were NEVER a woman in the first place but that you will remain the same person.God bless you.

[charlenemonique1]

Oh.and gender dysphoria can be a hard thing to except for some families but the love for the one suffering from it should make them want to educate themselves so that they understand you.It does'nt happen always easily as you can obviously see.I dont have it but I get it and I hope that your brother will too, soon.

[mynamekeisha]

Oh your brother is mormon? that explains his reaction very well. Theyre stuck in the whole "women are women and must operate and dress as such".. and a whole lot of other bull shit. Instead of him seeing that youre NOT his sister, your a boy, hes being selfish thinking youre taking "his sister" away from him. He has that really sexist mindset that mormons have where women are on the very bottom of the ladder and need to stay there and submit to men.

[mynamekeisha]

Wow this letter pisses me off so bad. But mixed in is some sadness for your brothers.. All of the "points" he makes are from the mind of someone who just doesnt get it...at all. Like hes stuck in the 1700s or something. Its 2010, medical science is advanced, we all do not pop out into the world hole. Sometimes you come out with your brain having had more testosterone thus operating like a bio male would, in these cases, HRT is the only logical answer. Your brother needs to get over it.

[SteaIthie]

Isn't it IRONIC that he started the letter with he UNCONDITIONALLY loves you and that NOTHING would come between you or change that ever?

[SergeOnTheVerge]

@SteaIthie i suppose so.. he's come around sorta since then. he did apologize for how harsh he was. i forgave him. its part of life i guess. sometimes ppl need to hurt one another to be able to get closer in the end.

[TheChookdude]

hey man, this is really devistating. Don't let him and others throw you off. stay tru to yourself. I also disagree with him in that you most certainly do not make a horrible looking man, I think you look cool and from what I have seem, I would be proud to call you friend and even family.

[asiadunn]

bvbI think that it takes some longer to come around. Your brother is smart but he obviously does not understand gender dysphoria. It can be hard for some people to except at first. I believe that they love you so give them time. I don't have dysphoria but I know what it is and that letter was mean. Monique

[Luciatenelli]

HEy bud.... Stay strong... never let people stand in the way of your dreams.... I know lots of straights who would find you super sexy!!!!...

Keep working towards the handsome man that you are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

All my best from Canada!!!!!!!!

xoxox

[kotekotekitty]

your brother sounds extremely intelligent but he seems to not understand trans feelings or not accept it happening to him/ppl around him. And if you tell someone your trans before a relationship then it dont matter. Plus you dont look ugly as a guy to me, you look normal, what he probably sees as ugly is your femanine features being more masculine. Hopefully if he gets to see that your a nice person that he likes as a person he'll come round. Good Luck.

[jmcobos87]

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to hear how your family is responding to your transition. This response is hateful and unnecessary. Be true to yourself because you are correct, despite your physical appearance you are the same person.

Know that you are supported, even if only through an online community. I have personally found that the LGBT community is my real family and I hold the friends I have made close. *Hugs*

[eastsideboi420]

that is too crazy, but that just shows how much he cares for you, and to him you are dieing and you won't be you, even though mentally you will be you, 2 him u won't, i d/k, lol, once he understands that what your doing isn't a mistake he will come around and everything will be cool, just give it time, i've never had to come out for some reason everyone just already knew & didn't care, but i hope all goes well for you and your family and it looks like your transition is coming along nicely :)

[SergeOnTheVerge]

I understand where you are coming from with this, and I thought of that too. But I thought he knew me enough to know that hormones can't change who I am as a person. Thank you so much for the comment. =]

[eastsideboi420]

i totally understand what you mean, if my brother did that, man, i would beat the fuck out his ass cause ur family and should be there for support not for critism. shit is pretty crazy. hopefully he understand soon, thnx for the vids i enjoyed em

[StudwithSwag]

WOW. I am so sorry you had to receive something like this during the course of your transition. How insulting to refer to your physical features in such a way. Your brother is wrong. Your love for him is so evident in the video, and it is truly sad to see that he's the one missing out on a wonderful human being. Keep your head up Serge. Your peace is your own to find, conquer, and live with. We are all entitled. I wish you the best. I hope you are able to accomplish everything you set out to.

[SergeOnTheVerge]

Thank you so much for those really kind words. That honestly made me feel better.

[bjlinderman]

Ouch man that really sux... I am so sorry that your brother was like that to you.

[SergeOnTheVerge]

Thanx man.

[AshtonRenae]

That does suck dude, I'm sorry. My brother just completely stopped talking to me 100% and I don't know if he ever will again. Just try to understand that it's hard and a shock and no one but a trans person can truly understand why we are doing what we are. Keep your head up-things will play out and get better...they will.

[SergeOnTheVerge]

I know its hard, but I think he could of picked a better way to express his thoughts. I love my brother but if he can't except me for who I am then he's the one missing out on being related to a good and honest man. Thanks for your comment, I really appreciate it.

[giggidy87]

her sister is 100% right. couldnt have said it better myself. obviously this would shock and destroy parents in a way unacheived by anything else.

[SergeOnTheVerge]

Who's sister are you talking about?!? This is a letter from my Brother...

[giggidy87]

i stand corrected.

[aedn]

Ouch! That letter is horrible! Don't listen to a word of it.

[SergeOnTheVerge]

Thank you! I try not to dwell on it much.

[Popeslave]

What a rude & hypocritical letter. I'm so sorry dude. Sure, he has a right (& apparently a need) to speak his thoughts & apparently thinks he's speaking to yr best interest. But you know what? He doesn't know shit about what it's like to be stuck in the wrong body & seeking your own truth regardless of the cost. I do hope you have a therapist to help you through this trial. It helps! I hope you & yr family can find peace. Be the best you that you can be!!!!!!! Hang in there.

[SergeOnTheVerge]

Thabnk you for the kind words. That means alot.