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  • The problem is that most women know that asking men out voids them of the "whoever asks, pays" privilege.

  • Um over 75% of the boyfriends I've had I asked out!

  • In general, absolutely. However, there are no guarantees. The fact you are a woman does not mean I`m a 100% slam dunk to go on a date with you. But it does up your chances by 50% automatically, since it doesn`t depend entirely on me to approach you.

  • What about the part where you tell uis whether or not she pays when she asks him out on the date?? You left us hangin, Vanae!!

  • Of course, I'd like for a woman to ask me out. Unfortunately, the women that do approach me are overweight. Sorry, not for me. I'm fit and would like a woman who is in shape as well. Most attractive looking women have their bitch shields up. They need to make themselves approachable. Smiling would help. It's BS for guys to always have to put themselves out there for rejection. Ladies, if you don't make a move on the guys, you could be missing out on a good thing as well. It works both ways.

  • Heck yeah yea

  • Heck yeah

  • i would love for a women to ask me out it would be much easier

  • Damn fucking right they should! 

  • i love independent women who do it first text the guy first or ask for dates its a turn on for me i mean how r guy suppose to know if u like em if we got to do all the work?

  • i say why the fuk not? When girls ask me out, it makes me feel good about myself as a guy, and it could be life changing for the girl if she finds the right one.

  • I have had a girl in high school ask me to the prom, and even when I wasn't attracted to her, I gladly accepted it.

  • Lmao I'd say hell mother fucking no..Haveing a woman ask for a date is some bitchassness on the guys part and girls like that are not good enuf for me..

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  • If you see a guy that you like go up, and ask him out. Just don't over do it, and be casual about it. You will definitely be successful.

  • If you see a guy that you like go up, and ask him out. Just don't over do it, and be casual about it. You will definitely be successful.

  • hey vanae ...can my girfriend ask you for a date with me?

  • @sallylongpants Honestly you sound sarcastic, but the way I grew up, that is exactly the way of it. I would never sit around and allow my dad (or mom for that matter) to be in the kitchen or be sweeping the house. That work often times goes to the youngest female in the house. The mom just supervises in the kitchen. My dad cooks sometimes cuz he likes to, but no one asks him to go to the kitchen. That would be a little disrespectful.

  • @sallylongpants Honestly, you sound sarcastic, but the way I grew up, that is the way of it. I would never sit around while my dad (or mom for that matter) was in the kitchen.

  • Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!­!!!!

  • you have a nice voice

  • i would like it if a girl asked me out

  • yeah, they should take part in our damn shoes when asking someone out then they will know how we really feel lol

  • Asking a guy out on a date is not my job. Just as I won't ask my husband to breast feed my child, don't expect me to ask a guy out on a date. That's just being desperate and unclassy. There is no "casual" way to do this. If a man wants you he will muster up the balls to ask you out. If not, his loss, move on. When a woman chases a man it makes her masculine and him feminine.

  • @Nashara23 this isnt caveman times ok. what kind of guy are you looking for its 2011, trying to find a warrior to protect you is ridiculous, and primitive. and by the way its just as "casual" for men, if you see i guy you like but he's too shy to ask you out your going to let him walk away, thats just giving into cowardice, nut up or shut up goes both ways. please dont read this in an aggressive tone just a peaceful suggestion

  • @constantlychangin it's been that way even after the caveman times. If he's too shy to ask me out, he's probably not my type. I want a man, not a weak boy. I'm not a coward, I just wont chase after a guy that hasn't demonstrated that he's can take the lead and ask me out. All these guys may "like it when a girl ask" them out, but who said I have to do everything a guy likes for me to do. If they are looking for that girl, they won't find it in me.

  • Yes

    Ask me out.

  • yes, yes they should.

  • Alpha is good on a girl cus its a rare character and its different.as long as she doesnt over do it.Which girl over 21 does ask out? i think it will create more dept in the modern dating world.cus i have walked away on many girls who expected me to pamper them like there daddy.We guys believe in equality or at worst doing 75 % of the job.We dont like taking the full responsibility if girls cant even by 25%.We want to be your lovers , not your fathers.Alpha is absolutely attractive and appealing

  • If you ask me out ? Yeah!.....Funny thing is I was always wondering why girls don't ask guys out. If you like a guy ask him out. I guarantee you 99 percent will say Yes as suppose to if you are a guy asking a girl out there is a wayyy higher chance of rejection. So girls you got nothing to lose!

  • wait... so if i answer "yes" to your question, does that mean you'll find me a girl? lmao

  • If you ask him out, you're paying

  • Yes

  • Yes I want a female to ask me out!!!  D:

  • @1621148Revenge

    >:0 I asked a guy on a date once

    ^.^ it turned out well

  • Yesssssssssssssssssssssss

  • Yeah, it really would be awesome. If I put myself out there making the first move here and there, it's nice to be able to sit back, relax and have the pressure on the other shoulder for a change.

    I don't know. Do girls think rejection doesn't bother us? It does. Yeah, we're big and strong, but we aren't robots. We do feel the sting of rejection as much as you do.

  • this is going on my favorites

  • ask me out pls!!!!!!!!!!!!1

  • please don't curse all the time

  • woman always ask me for date....lol

  • FAIL

  • Vane where is Your Album....?

  • yes

  • I'm a guy and HELL NO I don't want a chick to ask me on a date. My penis would fall off...

  • (p.2)

    So - why don't you ask a man out, in song, like I just suggested, and tell us how it went!

  • You know... you have an IDEA there...!

    Why not ask a man out in song? True, that's not for every woman; not everyone has your talent. But for you and similarly-talented women; wow! What a way to do it.

    I know, as a man impassioned by music and appreciative of talent and the unique, if a woman asked me out in song, singing to me on her guitar like that, my heart would melt... and I'd probably say "yes" to her even if I wouldn't have; because I would think she had something special about her.

  • You covered most of it - don't be desperate, don't pressure him, and keep it light. I think the same rules for guys apply to girls (except they get the advantage!)

    Most girls won't ask guys out. I tend to understand their reason is that there's too much at risk (versus reward). Hm..

  • yes ask me out 

  • i love yah vanae

  • I'm a guy, and women can ask guy out on a date, but I'd be cautious. I had a Korean girl ask me out for a date that I didn't know, and it kind of threw me for a loop as I didn't know how to react. Guys still like to be the masculine pursuer. I think as a woman, you have to casually ask the guy to go with you somewhere...don't make it seem 100% like a date...just like you are hanging out. Then flirt with him a little and away you go...

  • Yes I would. There is this girl I know her name is danielle and we both go to NFA and I'm trying to build the courage to ask her but if she asked me I would fly

  • yea it'd be awesome

  • Last week I called a guy I kinda like (talked to a few times but yeah) to ask him out on a date but he didn't pick up the phone, and I didn't want to leave a message >.< sucks it took me a few hours to get enough balls to do so.

  • @asholethewizzoh Here is the other thing. As a guy, what if a girl asks you out on a date that you don't want to go with? To me, as a guy, that was terrifying. I mean, I don't want to break the girl's heart by saying no...but some guys can be cruel with this. If I was a woman, I'd only ask a guy out on a date if I had some type of at least friendship with him, or thought he was intereted. I would not do it by surprise out of the blue.

  • @ace8842 You can make a woman feel appreciated for asking you out even if you don't want to go out with her.

    First of all, TELL HER how much you appreciate a woman asking you out! You can let her down lightly, just referring more to "compatibility" than a lack of interest or attraction. If you do it right, she'll feel happy and glad she did, afterward.

  • @asholethewizzoh rejectedddd

  • YES ask me out on a date!!!!!!!...... =)

  • I think I speak for most confident single guys when I say that if there's a girl I like and she makes herself approachable I'm going to ask her.  If you're making yourself approachable and I don't ask you out it's because I don't want to currently.

  • If a girl I like or never met but am attracted to asks me out in a casual way I'd of course see this as a good thing.

    HOWEVER, when it's a girl I want to be friends with and nothing more and it's not such a casual way I REALLY hate this. For one I hate having to reject them, I feel like I'm strangling a puppy and it makes me feel terrible. And two, it makes continuing the friendship much more awkward after that.

  • would i accept the proposal of thee date? yup! 

  • Where I am, most women would rather accept a guy of any grade that made the move on them rather than take the initiative on the guy they really want.

  • No, I think guys should continue to do the asking out. This way, normal, straight forward and honest men can continue to encounter such wonders as the bitch shield, fake numbers, pointless tiny little lies when honesty would be just as effective and other tactics women use to make sure that the only guys that have a chance are masters of seduction and other guys who know how to get around that kind of stuff.

  • @c00lwatter Were you being sarcastic?

  • Ehhhh I'm too much of a wuss to ask a girl out. :(

  • @predatorinstincts are you saying that girls will never ask a guy out? Because lots of girls do. I mean yes we are afarid of rejection but we still get up the courage to ask.

  • That's not why women don't approach men. That's why women don't look at guys that they are attracted to, opting to look away or down or something of that nature...or freezing up. At least that's what my female friends do.

  • yes i wud love for a girl to ask me out... actually i wud jus love to go out on any date period, but nice n sexy voice vanae ^____^

  • that was wonderfull, I really enjoyed that song =) sing more, more!!

  • yes

  • problem is, like 85% of people that watch these vids are men

    XD

  • @moiriv415 Hehe, well I guess I"m lucky, going to be able to get a male perspective now :)

  • yep

  • Yes that's cool, but as you say, keep it casual, just to hang out.

    DON'T be like "will you go out with me?"

    DO: "do you wanna go to such and such place with me on whatever date?"

  • Why do girls always show their boobs on their Facebook picrures? Are they selling something?

  • Honestly, girls should do it more, we men are such horndogs you don't have to worry about rejection one bit.

  • heeeelllll yyyeeeaaaahhhh  TTTTT^^TTTTTT

  • Yes.. absolutely! let's see.. it's Oct 3, 2010 and I may be 7 months late looking at at your original post date...but yes...they should, you also look very lovely Vanae and nice voice too!

  • Sure ask me out anytime, would be nice for ones.

  • hell yes

  • Hey how about "hey do you know where that new hotel is so we can have some sex" I would love for a woman to say that type of stuff

  • Break all the rules. Be wild. Be assertive.

  • lol yes! :D that would make things alot easier! like what bullvill said!

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  • Yes.

  • yes , oui , po , sì , да , ja , 是的 , はい , vâng , evet , da , ndiyo , हां , ναί ..... and another thing love your voice Vanae.

  • Hell mutha-fukin yes! You're abso-fukin-lutely psychic! :D

  • yes. Women want equality right? So ask guys out. People saying "but what if a girl asks a guy out and he turns her down, wont she feel upset?" Men are heartless thugs now are they? Amazing the level of sexism in that question. Guys have to deal with rejection all the time, you think it doesn't effect them? Time for equality.

  • hell yeah

  • you look pretty in blue it makes your prettiness prettier

  • Vanea, blue really looks good on you. :)

  • hell ya

  • teach em V! Have you ever asked a guy out?

  • Yes they should.

    why do men have to all the work.

  • Would I like it if she asked me out on a date?

    For the most part, no. If she did, I likely would lose romantic interest in her and consider it more as a friendship. The more aggressive she asked, the more likely I'd consider it as a friendship.

  • @LeeD300

    You're weird......

  • great singer and im a dude and would totally rather hav a girl ask me out than me ask them out

  • I didn't know you sing!? Your stock just went up a few points.

  • I don't want to be asked out on a date by a girl that is bigger than me.(6'2" 220lds)

  • I think the obvious reason on why that a guy will more likely say yes to a girl who ask him out than the other way around is because guys see it as an easy opportunity to get laid, that is true but in my opinion it can go both ways, a guy can just be looking for a fling or one-night stand even when he is doing the pursuing and initiating

  • not by an ugly girl....hahaha xD

  • @thienpham911 lol thats a bit out of your control, and its not bad being asked out by a girl you're not attracted to. It helps you feel the other side of the spectrum nami? how a girl feels when she has to reject a guy.

  • @Zarat818 dude, its not out of my control...if an ugly girl attracted to me...i would give her hint...dont give me wrong..i would be nice..but give her hint that i am not interest..hahaha and plus...i am not being mean...i am just being straightforward haha would u like to be asked out by a really ugly girl then had to reject her or would u rather no be ask by an ugly girl at all so u dont have to break her heart.. =)

  • @thienpham911 I see where you are coming from, but I agree with theinpham, it's not bad being asked by a girl you dont like. I think you are looking at it a bit wrong. If an unattractive girl asked me out I'd convey in my body language, that I liked her as friend and at least have a beer or whatever...at least you get a potential friend out of the deal.

    As soon as dating becomes more equal on terms on who leads, it will only make things better. Men shouldn't have to be the only initiators.

  • @Andrewz05 yeh, i dont have anything against ugly girls, they are the small fishes that lead to big fishes. and yes, some ugly girls actually have better personality than pretty girl. so yeh i agreed

  • Your awesome. And nice singing by the way.

  • YES! HELL YA!

    Vanae is so hot and she has such a sexy voice! :-)

  • yes i would like for a girl to ask me out, but i would have one thing on my mind. She is trying to pimp me.

  • My last g/f asked me out. The current girl who i'm talking to started talking to me first.

  • Hell yeah, but we have to be socially agile enough to realize what's going on and make a connection.

  • hell yessss......i wanna b asked by a gal!!!

  • yes Men do. probably the same reason women like it.

  • Most definitely, if most women out there think they can why not let them. About 99% men would enjoy this.No matter how a woman looks. A real opportunity for women to make a man see that beauty is within the person.

  • I would like a women to ask me on a date because I'am to shy!!!!

  • I would love for a girl to ask me out. MAKE MY DAY!!!

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  • hell yeah i want girls to ask me out

  • Duh! Of course we do. If women never ask anyone out then how can they control who they end up with?

  • Supermodel V, you can ask me out. (wishful thinking, lol)

  • oh and i dont mind if a girl asks me out if its someone i already know and she did it in a casual way. complete strangers asking me out, no thanks. hey u play guitar and sing? phwooooaaaaaaar again ;-)

  • phwoarrrrrrrrr vanae

  • yeah it would be awesome especially some guys, like me, are shy and its much easier and more comforting if the girl asks time to time.

  • @korn66666 Honestly I'm not really that shy and most men fear rejection, so I a happy-medium is to have women go after what they want, if they guy is hesitant or stalling. It might seem this already happens, but I don't think its quite that cut and dry. As for strange (IE as in not knowing previously) women to ask you out with be acceptable too, I don't understand why you would limit it to people you know, you don't even know them as well as you think...

  • As a musician I must say you should, really, do some Music Videos. =)

  • Sooo Vanae baby-gurl I am waitin baybaaay....

  • pretty good. . . don't stop singing

  • I'd love for a girl to ask me out,... Why not?

  • Of course they should ask. Men aren't going to waste time playing the signal game or talk to some woman if he doesn't know she exists. Women, get off your behinds and step to the men you like.

  • Love your videos!!! Yes, i even would even go as far to say I -prefer- women ask me out. Unfortunately it doesn't always end up that way then a week into the relationship I find her saying... "I wanted to ask you out but I didn't want to go come off desperate" or "I wanted to ask you out but women aren't suppose to...". All women should be forced to listen to you once to twice a week for life advice. Guys can learn some things too. I know I have. Thanks again Vanae

  • nice tits

  • "hell to the mutha f'in yes!"

  • Ofcourse I would love women ask me out , ohh what a wonderful voice and great song.

  • hell yeah

  • Having Vanae sing me a whole song... Priceless!

  • Yes & no. There's a kind of biological programming which requires men to be the leaders for deep attraction in either the man or heroine to emerge, although heroines asking men out will always be good.

  • I asked a guy out and I got him to date him. But he treated me the worse than guys who asked me out.

  • Dude fuck to the yeah. I mean, as long as they notice some chemistry, it'd be totally fine with a girl asking me out on a date.

  • i'm female, call me conservative, but i kinda dun feel good asking a guy out.

    i do ask guys out now and then, but i'm still gonna say guys are meant to be the man and do most of the asking.

    it'll just so much nicer when the guy knows what to do and woo the girl, making the girl feel desired.

    girls shouldn't ask the guy out just because they are exasperated from waiting.

    jussayin' (: peace.

  • @emptiedPMT

    Never liked that idea. It's more liberal times. Especially when women kept wanting equal rights....start using those rights, not just simply having them.

  • LOL do u need to ask

  • helll yeah it makes us feeel wanted,,it gives us more confidnt to make a move

  • HELL YEAHHHH!!!!!!!!!!! It makes the guy feel x10 more excited than the girl would feel when a guy ask them out! We might even shout you the whole day out just for asking us out ;D

  • of course ...duh, we guys get tired of being the ones to have to make the effort.

    good voice, Vanae honey...

  • HELL MOTHA FING YEAH!!!! nice vocals o.o AZNS REPRESENT!!! Good luck at the gunfight is awesome band!

  • HELL FUCKING YEAH!!!

  • hell yeah, i love a woman on top.

  • Once again you are right Vanae. G

  • If someone wants something, he or SHE should go right for it. That's what I think. Besides, I've been asked out before.

  • I wouldn't mind getting ask, but I know that in some cultures is kinda awkward for a woman to the approach.

  • yes, yes, yes-it is wonderful, especially if the girl looks good

  • Hell Yeah!

  • This is a bad idea, unless your hot.

  • yes if they do it in a casual way. if she licks her lips and gives me the stare... then probably not.

    nice vid and all guys owe you a favour now so is there anything new in your area you would love to check out? lol ps. love the song

  • ya, 4 sho... though I'm already in love, so... xD

    better luck next time~

  • of course

  • Fuck yes!!!

  • abso-fuckin-lutely

  • could not have said it better myself

    abso-fuckin-lutely

  • Women should defintely ask men out , and women should also propose to men.

    in 2010 it doesn't have to be a question at all.

    P.S. look at my channel , i have 2 videos , one is for how women can propose to men , and two is how women can ask men out.

  • Oh I'm definitely fine with women asking me out. In fact I encourage my female friends to do it. I can't tell you how many times I've seen a girl not go out with someone they like simply because they were waiting for the guy to ask. Then they end up with some scummy guy that asked them out.

  • yeah..i like girls who are outgoing, cause i'm a shy guy.

    btw, seems like you have just came out form the bathroom, and your hair must have smell nice.

  • Nah, I like the girls that play hard to get >:D. I lose interest in girls that are to easy.

  • boobies :)

  • yes, I will never deny a girl a date. girls with that much courage and confidence really gets me going.

  • this is a new age. things need to be equal!

  • sure why not its not like the old days that a man should pursue the girl. its good to know that girls can break that old rule.

  • sure, if that's the kind of man u want, but i want a real man who chases me, like my husband