She May Not Be Having Sex With You But She Is Getting Hers!

[Tonyyyyy37]

Because 98% of all you say apply for black ladies only.

[Tonyyyyy37]

You should consider doing some advice for different races. White Ladies vs Black ladies. The rules are far different for each of these 2 races.

[embellinaa]

so true! not about the getting it somewhere else, but if you are rude and disrespectful and its gotten to the point where resentment has built up, you CANT get turned on by that person even if you love them, no matter how hard you try. just because she's not giving you sex though doesn't mean she's getting it from somewhere else.

[ukendcx2000]

men have to meet the emotional needs first, the rest will follow ...

[ukendcx2000]

there are a lot of clowns out there ...

[4shys2]

i've not had sex in 9yrs.Not masturbating,not gay! just tired of the games,chance of diseases out there. But yeah I hear men all day complain how much they gotta spend on Valentines' Day. But if they know,you like them to cook a meal and truly w/o expecting sex .Make a romantic cd ,dance with me. They can go "downtown" ,but ask them to dance with you. They ain't hearing it! Just one exsample! They gotta brag how much they had to spend!

[guitar1050]

That's why men should learn seduction and be able to get your women without having to do the relationship thing

It only benefits the women anyway.

[marlene3005]

So true love you

[Xarcifen]

If there are issues going on between a married couple like that and the woman decides to cheat or having man on the side she can kiss the signature on those divorce papers. If a relationship that is unfulfilled like that to the point either of them are having a sex buddy on the side and aint givin their partner none seriously need to talk about those issues or like i said before, get a divorce. I dont play those games and the emotional shit involved by not being honest with your partner

[rogerclark1976]

All guys pay attention to 6:48 - 7:15 that's the truth. I don't care much for Horse mouth but she is on point.

[rogerclark1976]

This is real, I'll give her that.

[jjtiojohn12]

WOW so your making excuses for women to cheat on good men?

[lovein30days]

@jjtiojohn12 NO I am not! Please see my video about women who cheat on good men! I do NOT play that!

[rogerclark1976]

@jjtiojohn12 You emotional, you been cheated on?

[Candiphil]

I have said this to so many men! (Most of my friends are guys.) They strut around like a peacock & gloat about their cheating "skills" and say "my wife just doesn't like sex". That's why it's so easy for women to cheat- because men are so wrapped up in self that they don't stop to think that the women they take for granted everyday is being adored by someone else.

[memberson]

I SOMETIMES TOUCH ON THOSE SUBJECTS IN THE SONGS I DO.

[UNCRatDog]

You make some good points and I know you're trying to do something good here. But, I have to respectfully disagree with your points about oral sex. I HATE giving oral sex. Period. It has nothing to do with how much I love my husband or how much my emotional needs are met.

[raelafaye]

I did not even realize I was doing this, or rather NOT. I just realized in my last relationship I was not performing oral sex for a reason! Its not that I was cheating, or even thinking about cheating, but because I was not getting my emotional needs met. Thank you for bringing this to my attention!

[SmallTownCrownENT]

lol

[prncssharlem]

OMG you just spoke sooo much truth in my life just now

[metalhaze1982]

if a women is not having her EMOTIONALY needs met then why does she have to do it doggy style with her male friend? women cheat for sexual needs as much as men.

though I agree that if a man hurts a women emotionally then yeh, why would she sleep with him? men are emotional too sometimes.

great show btw

[punkkimiko]

wat if ur not married? ive been with a guy for 3 yrs and im still a virgin. is that ok?

[amysuzor]

HA HA HA HA HA???

[tonylee1973]

are you blowing him?

[IMthere4you1]

@punkkimiko lol never heard that one before. wow he really does like you den

[uza81]

damn!

[brnize1969]

Shay, I think this is the best video that I have viewed from you.  Teach and Preach girl!

[fee20luv]

soooo true. that's how it is with my boo. i cant get turn on by him cuz i'm holding on to resentment and bitterness.wow!!hit it on the nail!

[ecassandra1]

that is sooo true..I didn't cheat on my fiancee but he was no longer stimulating my mind. He was so spiritual and quoted every verse in the bible that there was no passion there. He did not know how to deal with anything on a natural level. Daily i began to think about being in other relationships and how life would be with this person. So, instead of setting myself up to have an affair after being married; we ended it before hand. good topic

[PrinceDimeXI]

lol thats a damn shame YOU WOMEN ARE PUTTING AND ORGANISM as your TOP PRIORITY!!!

[merco80]

That's why black women who say they are looking for a God fearing man need to STFU. They aren't looking for a God fearing man. They can't handle him when he shows up and what do they do? mess all over him but don't worry, they'll be up in church on Sunday sanging and clapping hands and doing everything the world says to do.

[queenuly91]

THISZ IS TRUE..GOOD POINTS!

[JeffrenceDT]

2:05 - 2:10 It doesn't take a lot for women to get fed up and leave, especially in marriage, just look at our no-fault divorce statistics... 80% of no-faults are filed by women... Shay you have to be aware of this statistic...?

[lovein30days]

Sweetie,

Just because a no-fault divorce is filed, it does NOT mean that there was no one at fault for the dissolution of the marriage. To gain a "fault" divorce by law requires either the following:The traditional fault grounds are: * cruelty (inflicting unnecessary emotional or physical pain) -- this is the most frequently used ground for divorce * adultery * desertion for a specified length of time * confinement in prison for a set number of years, and

[lovein30days]

* physical inability to engage in sexual intercourse, if it was not disclosed before marriage.

These ground are not the main reasons why most couples separate. 80% report that finances are the #1 reason that break couples up. Most women can not take instability (it is built into their DNA), so it does not surprise me that women are the majority of the filers of "no-fault divorces." However, most women surveyed stated that they endured A LOT before leaving so your "stats" are incorrect.

SYDD

[JeffrenceDT]

Ok you addressed that finances are the #1 reason why divorces occur.. Who stands to gain the most in divorces? Definitely not men because they are the ones who are most likely to get their lives DESTROYED by divorce. I once heard of a teacher who decided to quit his job and live with his mother because all the money he made was leeched to his ex-wife in some crappy divorce settlement.

[JeffrenceDT]

But most people REFUSE to look at it as women behaving badly and using the legal binding effects of marriage unjustly. I'm not by any stretch of the imagination saying that men are perfect but I grow wary of them being blamed as the cause of EVERY social pathology seen in our society even the adulterous affairs of women. No offense to you Shay, but men need to realize when they are getting spit in their faces.

[lovein30days]

I think that you are so set on defending "Men" that you fail to see that it is not about women vs. men. There are women who make more than the man they are married to and if this is the case, SHE is the one who has to pay him even if he was the one who cheated. I have been married and divorced before and have plenty of friends who have went through the divorce experience and I can tell you that divorce destroys both parties and is extremely painful to anyone going through it.

SYDD

[ace200599]

you just summed up my ex gf

[syntonicstorm]

Then, screen for Respect. Respect means to value your time and your life. If she wastes your time on purpose, dump her. If you married, sux, divorce and never marry again. She must know your schedule for important activities for you and making herself available when you got time for her.

[syntonicstorm]

She must be willing to experience new things, simple things, like trying riding with you on a motorcycle, fishing, new food and etc. If she is open for that, then she is open for anal/oral and more you got in your mind. If you invite her to do something out of norm, like if she is city girl, but you want her to go camping with you, and she refuses, then some sex things she haven't done before may not work with her as well.

[syntonicstorm]

Many women will lie about how much they like oral/anal or whatever, but as soon as she got to do it, she will give you lame excuse usually something related to religion, her upbringing and etc. Women know what men want and will fake it. Didn't you see women who you know are grossed out by many sexual things, but they demonstrate it when attracting a man? Its a bait, screen for integrity then.

[syntonicstorm]

That's true and obvious, everyone knows it subconsciously. However, guys, don't listen to DIVAs advice, think for yourself. Any advice from woman about getting sex is false. Women need sex and there are many women out there. Men just like sex, but don't need it. I advise to screen women for Honesty, Integrity and Respect before doing anything else.

[tyr03]

so true

[LadyFlameSniper]

AGREED.

[PJoyRandMinistries]

Girl you are a 4.0 student in my university. You will graduate Magna Cum Laude from DIVA Academy! You go girl.

[zarbon700]

why is the man's fault that a woman's cheat?

[blackcherry8907]

U are so right!!!!

[RunRoseRun]

Agree 100%

[SeanD44]

This is good information right here.

Now we know who the people are passin' around these diseases and not knowing where they got it from. Do to him messin' around and her "gettin' hers"...

...when all these idiots need to do in the first damn place is end the relationship. But nah, these mofos ain't man enough, OR woman enough.

And yes, a playet = a hoe...and 9/10, she gettin' played both ways. If you play the game, the game will always pLay you back.

[Bizcuitx167]

I dont agree with you. if you find someone else, break up with the person your currently with. There is NO REASON WHAT SO EVER for cheating. Coz if u got da bacbone to cheat u shud ave da backbone to break up wid ur current partner in order to do so, unless ur sum little pussy who's on dem coward vibes. male or female.

[Hooddc]

What 2 do when a man that has been in a relationship for 11 yrs and has been basically ignoring her for 1yr. Because he was been ignored and could not communicate with her. He is also attached with her step son. And now she broke up with the man but still wants to use the man for money and using the step son for the reason? How do you end this pain inside? Please help!!

[lovein30days]

Sweetie, the relationship must end with the woman but does not have to end with your son (step, but you are all he knows). Stay active with him and give gift cards for what he needs but no money for her. Let her find a guy who will tolerate a woman who doesnt appreciate good men.

SYDD

[xxBeautiful1xx]

omg u r soooo right..!

[eddiejide]

can a woman leave a man if the life she is recently exposed to was fun for her? But the man she is with does not have the financial capacity to sustain the life style she has just found. I don't really think a woman not feeling a man anymore always has to do with what the man did did wrong.

[amostoe24]

i am out of words. every message in this video is extremly reality.

[amostoe24]

you are very intellegent. keep up the good work.

[JRock005]

I know for a fact that married women cheat on there husbands. I'm talking to 3 women now. And they are all married. It makes me think twice about getting married.

[hugandkissme33]

going to the bathroom on her haha! very good advice in fact excellent advice

[xxxxFootballxxxx]

pimpets??? playets????

I think the words you were looking for are hoes, tarts & scanks.

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That is why so many black men go after white women. They do everything.

[lovein30days]

You sound crazy! All women of all races feel the way I expressed in this video.  My videos are not race specific. If you are a good man, then you will attract a good woman.

Good men do not make ignorant generalizations such as yours!

SYDD

[xxxxFootballxxxx]

To lovein30days,

"If you are a good man, then you will attract a good woman"

No, that is not guaranteed. You claim to be a "good woman" but are you married with a happy family??.....no.

Also, don't play dumb. You know that the definition of a "good man" to a lot of black women is a wealthy brotha'.

Thats why BW cry "they take all the good ones"

What makes him good??? Ooh...that he is rich or successful. Not personality.

You mention this in your passed videos. Hypocrisy is you:/

[lovein30days]

Lol...ignorant is you...lol. Again, it is IGNORANT to generalize any race and behavior. Many women, black , white or any other race look for a man who is a man who can provide. This is a survival, instinct thing built into EVERY WOMAN!

Not all AA women look for men who are rich. I have had many opportunity to get with a man who had money...lots of it but I was not feeling him so I did not pursue the situation.

Lastly, I do not remember ever meeting you in my life!

[lovein30days]

How do you know if I do not have a happy family and / or a great man? ...More evidence of your ignorance. I usually do not respond to this level of ignorance but I am making a point for ppl to understand that ASSumptions and generalizations are ignorant and only serve to hurt not advance.

SYDD

[Ackles4life]

what?! a bit sexist aren't u. men can b players n pimps, but women can't, bcuz they're female. that's a bit of bullshit right there.

[WesleyPipe]

my girl give me head but she wont swallow how do i change that

[DpLogan]

son im never gettin married...these hoes aint shit...

[xxxxFootballxxxx]

...you got that one right:/

[WisdomBeautyStrength]

The main reason why you're constantly getting "hoes," is because you must be that in some way, shape or fashion. If you want quality, then you need to be quality!

[reignsupreme]

You not telling me nothing new. It's a proven fact that women cheat more than men.

[wallstreetyoung]

Im that guy she's getting it from..... :)

10+ Married women.

[JeffrenceDT]

I love how it's automatically the men not fulfilling needs. Well society is the way it is for a reason I guess =/

[DpLogan]

hahahahahahahaha......society is the book of women...its automatically the mans fault for not fulfilling the chicks needs which is attention, money or watever,....she go and fucks the next man

[xxxxFootballxxxx]

the funny thing, it's the man who has nothing:/

[Sosensual24]

Sista u r so on point, & have u have n emmaculate way of side lining all these haters, you know the truth hurts.Keep it up girl.Now for those who ask the question of y the women wont jus tell men this, well alot of mens responses on this page explain exactly y so many women r getting their needs met else where, & trust me these women dont jus consist of sistas.

[spankybighead]

wait a minute. she wasn't having sex with him so he decided to get it on the side. so how can her excuse be that she's "fed up" and decides to get it on the side. why is it always the man's fault?

[lovein30days]

Much Love to all of you who leave your positive comments and "thank you's." It is my honor to be able to serve you and I pray that my words are a blessing to many of you:) Stay sweet yall...lol

Shay Your Date Diva

[chocara1]

My thoughts exactly. You are so on point.

[Ayisha27]

If a man plays around, does it mean the woman should play around as well? Why is she building up resentment towards the man when she should be trying to sort out the problem in her relationship? If she can't sort out the problem, then why doesn't she end the relationship and move on? The man outside may be giving her the emotional support she is looking for but he definitely won't have any respect for her.

Now I see why so many BM and BW on YouTube are fighting each other.

[lovein30days]

Sweetie,

So many people are small minded when it comes to my videos. Just bc Im Black doesnt mean I am talking to only black. Many subscribers are other races. Many of the hundreds I interviewed were NOT Black. I will not participate in this BW vs BM battle. My videos are to help and enlighten people to have happier and healthy relationships.

And NO if a man plays around a woman should NOT play too. She should leave and get better and stop settling and creating baggage.

SYDD

[Ayisha27]

This isn't the first video of yours that I've watched so I'm aware that your videos are for all races and are only explanatory.

As a BW, I applied to the BM/BW scenario because it does shed some light on some videos I've come across here. It was not a personal attack on you.

[lovein30days]

DIVA,

Your comment allowed me to clarify things for those who dont understand what you already know. I thank you for your comment because this concern needed to be address. No worries:)

SYDD

[Ginavaclose]

I subscribed to your videos and I'm a brown caribbean gyal; it makes no difference.

[klept0brainac]

excellent response@ayisha27

[gijqnes]

I know its the same broads on here thats got the dating game all fucked up. Because they sitting up here bullshiting. Soon is a broad talking about she doesn't want to have sex her ass gets next period because she is full of shit. You remind me of these same chicks that play fucking games. Thats why the game is going to stay corrupt. This is why i feel like the hell with females. Because bottom line America these Broads is fucking someone Cased Closed.

[lovein30days]

You sound too ignorant for me to even shed some light for you. This is a WOMAN thing. So since your through with women, I guess its MEN for you. Hope that works out for you.Good Luck

SYDD

[gijqnes]

you may be a pretty veteran. but you still sound like the same young women i run into in the A, that has your messed up way of thinking, that will really make someone go upside your head playing them games. And for the record since you took me out of context. i was refering ti blk women that i will be done with. as far as going gay you are more likely to become gay then I.

[lovein30days]

Lol, it always amazes me when little insecure men like you show your cards. You are the perfect example of a "dont wanter," so thank you for helping me give the followers an example of this type of men. Only a punk would hit a woman and if one (such as yourself since you said it), tried to then the consequence will be from God. I am more than positive your arms (and probably height are too short to box with Him). Men or possibly boys like you dont phase me, but just add to my amusement.

SYDD

[Adrienne79]

You deserve 10 stars for this!

[strawberry1823]

you made some excellent points!!

[romchill35]

What you have said in this video is enough for me to never take a black woman seriously and to be an advocate against relationships with black women in America. And my name is not Boo Boo, that sounds to much like shit! :( The hell with relationships!

[lovein30days]

Booboo, sweetie, what ever you want to be called. This is not just the way a BLACK woman thinks or operates, its the way WOMEN in general are. Grow up, catch a clue and learn something. The Booboos I refer to are only the guys I am trying the help and do not include immature thinking boys who make ignorant generalizations. Let the hurt and fear go and allow love to come into your life. Life is worth nothing without it.

Shay Your Date Diva

[aethompson84]

I totally agree with you and you make a lot of great points!

[dreadee34474]

Right on point. A 5... Bam!!

[AMPINC]

truth

[racer1d]

Wow..... 5

[NoireBeaute]

This woman knows what she is talking about!!!

[drestack75]

Men must understand that since Eve it is in a woman's nature to be deceitful. Don't put nothing past them. There better at cheating than u!!

[reignsupreme]

True

[tay240]

if i had a wife like that i would drop her like a bad habit my wife not having sex with me like new york people its wrap she outta here

[dreadee34474]

are you still a teen?

[romchill35]

Good choice.

[kat24101]

this is sooo true. well done b/c i agree with like everything you said. why is it so hard for men to get this?

[tonyatunez]

That's true. Wifey was done! Most women don't usually cheat. If she does, she's usually gone. Dude it's a wrap. Let it go!

[tikuranbessa]

Yo Shay what can i do to make my wife feel extra special?

[KaptanSolo]

try old fashioned traditional romance...like the what you see in the movies.

Make sure you are on that level with her though...I don't mean be a fool.

She will be catching her breath for six months.

[lovein30days]

Ask HER what it takes to make her feel special, write it down and give her that!

SYDD

[ristobenjie]

You have to temper how you do that. I say it's even better to observe along with that because we are expected to "know".

[wowitsjashon]

shay is so fine

[tikuranbessa]

Yo Shay I am feeling a lot of your videos and learning alot about women. your Last two videos were insightful. Could you do more videos directed towards men in relationships and things we should do, know, and look out for?