Amber I love you with all my heart and I look up to you, on everything youve been able to do. i've known you since the time I moved here in elementary school. and I regret not talking to you until the 5th grade and then jr high came we stopped talking. then the summer of 8th -9th grade we became closer. Freshman year was amazing ! marching band and band and helen have gotten us closer! I am so excited for the years to come. I am looking foward to see what the future brings our friendship <3 me<3
My friend has SM, she doesnt talk in school unless asked a question and then she will whisper or not reply. I went to a sleepover with her and she talked normally and she has invited people from our school to birthday parties where she has spoken. Ever since ive heard her talk i understand she isnt being rude, like i used to think, shes a really nice genuine person and ill invite her out to town with me someday :)
Everything you said in your video relates to me, being in highschool this year its hard having sm, people always think I'm rude, and when people try talking to me someone always blurts out, "she doesn't talk" I hope I can get over it some day.
yo guys i had this bullshit in freshmen sophmore, when i transferred to a new high school. I went from not saying a word in class to calling out jokes in class. I believe that all of you can do it so have some faith
i got sm myself since i was a little kid but now one helped me the teachers thought i was really shy and every time i hear that a wan't to look at them and say i'm not but i just can't .. i'm 14 now and still nobody helped me i don't have freinds at school and i want help soo much but i just can't ask i hear all the time if you don't talk whe can't help you ... every day the same !! all i want is a freind who feels the same is that to much to ask ?
I'm still to this day known as weird, eccentric, strange and even make people think I'm up to know good just because of my quieteness. People fail to realize I have a severe fear of rejection and deep seeded anxiety issues that have plagued me my entire life. It is my goal to one day find happiness and a sense of belonging in this world.
I think I had this at the top of my social anxiety in school. I never talked to anyone or in general. I think it stopped once I started using Effexor. I remember being 18 and working and the managers making fun of me because I so rarely talked.
I think I have this though my dr has me down as having social phobia. 24 now and talk more but still is hard. As a kid I only talked to my parents. In school I was punished all the time for not reading out loud or answering questions. I'm on disability now because it's impossible for me to work where I have to speak to strangers...
Thank you for your video. My 6 year old daughter is struggling with SM in school. It breaks my heart to see her this way. We have just started getting her help. Thank you for putting this out there to educate people. Best of luck to you as well.
Amber, wonderful video. My 6 yr old son has SM. At home he's a blast...loud, funny, silly. Outside,he feels like you described yourself as a child. We're getting him professional help finally, it's taken 2 years to find the right people! I make videos of him reading, talking & playing for his grandparents. I hope you get help - There's a whole world out there waiting to hear your wonderful voice. You will do it. Get help Now! Good Luck!
I've always thought i was on my own in this... and maybe i was just a weird person, i know and im not saying im glad someone else suffers through this...but it feels good to know im not the only one out there..... One more thing, do you try to be social every once in a while? How does that go for you?
@lizzymiguel I'm a lot more talkative now. I just have social anxiety. So yeah, being social has helped me a lot! I kind of had a phase where I tried to forget I had SM. And that helped me a lot. Hopefully it works for you too, if you wanna try it out!
@iiTzAmberMarie Hey i wrote this post a long time ago, now i found my self. I tried everything. I even thought i was depressed or bi polar and tried medicine. But now, i am a gym addict and that was my medicine. I feel good, in many ways. Its like i know who i am and i accepted who i am. Honestly working out is the best thing. Because when you feel good its like ur shining and not to say i think im some wonderfull person. But ive never been this happy in my life. Because i use to hate who i was
my friend has selective mutism. she told me through this video, and i feel bad for every time i told her to just speak up and talk. she doesnt go to my school anymore, and i wish i couldve understood selective mutism and helped her through it before she left....
You watched my video, didn't you? ("Even when it's behind my back") I'm flattered!
This is a very good video. I liked your use of the music. One problem is being able to see the words over a picture. Maybe you can have the words highlighted, so they stand out more.
@Elemarth Yes, I did. I just couldn't think of anything to put there, if you know what I mean. Haha, & yeah, I am kinda new to the whole YouTube thing and I'm using Windows Movie Maker which is pretty confusing & the quality is pretty terrible... So, hopefully I'll get a better video up soon.
Another great video hun! Brought tears to my eyes like the others. You help me more and more to see what my daughter is going thru. Thank you! You have touched me so very much!
great video hun, I can totally relate to everything. I go through this everyday too, so remember that I'm ALWAYS there for you even though I can't truly be there, since we live so far away. I may physically live far from you, but my thoughts and my love are never far from you. Don't you just hate that other people don't understand us? I hate how, everybody always asks me why I "don't talk", you know? It really hurts, and I know you already know that, but I just wanted to talk. <3 Heidi.
amber, i'm so sorry. i know people say crap about you and i feel so bad. i know you have selective muteism. and its hard for you. you aren't the rude one, the other people are. they don't give you a chance. i know i don't talk to you a lot. but i have. many times. and i KNOW you can talk. i'm really sorry for all the crap people have said. i really hope people will understand. love you amber <3
Amber, im sorry you feel like this. Even though i don't know you a whole lot, i sat with you at your lunch table sometimes, and i would talk with you a little. i see you talk to people, but i know you have to know them first. I believe you can get through your SM. I don't know what its like, but i see you fight with it. You still have friends who care about you Amber. -Sadie
Amber I love you with all my heart and I look up to you, on everything youve been able to do. i've known you since the time I moved here in elementary school. and I regret not talking to you until the 5th grade and then jr high came we stopped talking. then the summer of 8th -9th grade we became closer. Freshman year was amazing ! marching band and band and helen have gotten us closer! I am so excited for the years to come. I am looking foward to see what the future brings our friendship <3 me<3
iammeandallthaticanb 2 months ago
I'm happy to hear you're over it,Amber!
TheEureka41 2 months ago
My friend has SM, she doesnt talk in school unless asked a question and then she will whisper or not reply. I went to a sleepover with her and she talked normally and she has invited people from our school to birthday parties where she has spoken. Ever since ive heard her talk i understand she isnt being rude, like i used to think, shes a really nice genuine person and ill invite her out to town with me someday :)
Jeez0Louise 2 months ago
Everything you said in your video relates to me, being in highschool this year its hard having sm, people always think I'm rude, and when people try talking to me someone always blurts out, "she doesn't talk" I hope I can get over it some day.
poppx3 2 months ago
You can do it without help in the end you just have to be strong and the choice is in your hands.
yyGrifHD 5 months ago
@yyGrifHD that is NOT true, my brother has had it for 7 years. Don't say untruthfull things!
hilltopper2017 1 month ago
@hilltopper2017 In a way it can be true, if you have faith in something, anything is possible! But I see what you mean as well.
iiTzAmberMarie 1 month ago
yo guys i had this bullshit in freshmen sophmore, when i transferred to a new high school. I went from not saying a word in class to calling out jokes in class. I believe that all of you can do it so have some faith
yyGrifHD 5 months ago
i got sm myself since i was a little kid but now one helped me the teachers thought i was really shy and every time i hear that a wan't to look at them and say i'm not but i just can't .. i'm 14 now and still nobody helped me i don't have freinds at school and i want help soo much but i just can't ask i hear all the time if you don't talk whe can't help you ... every day the same !! all i want is a freind who feels the same is that to much to ask ?
katjuhh12 6 months ago
Respect to all you guys who've had/have it. It's a real challenge :/
NimrodYellow013 7 months ago 4
I'm still to this day known as weird, eccentric, strange and even make people think I'm up to know good just because of my quieteness. People fail to realize I have a severe fear of rejection and deep seeded anxiety issues that have plagued me my entire life. It is my goal to one day find happiness and a sense of belonging in this world.
RB902050 9 months ago
I think I had this at the top of my social anxiety in school. I never talked to anyone or in general. I think it stopped once I started using Effexor. I remember being 18 and working and the managers making fun of me because I so rarely talked.
MsAgnosticatheist 10 months ago
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Karrougla 11 months ago
I think I have this though my dr has me down as having social phobia. 24 now and talk more but still is hard. As a kid I only talked to my parents. In school I was punished all the time for not reading out loud or answering questions. I'm on disability now because it's impossible for me to work where I have to speak to strangers...
wingedsweetheart 11 months ago
Thank you for your video. My 6 year old daughter is struggling with SM in school. It breaks my heart to see her this way. We have just started getting her help. Thank you for putting this out there to educate people. Best of luck to you as well.
leah3915 1 year ago
I would recommend talking to a psychiatrist about medication. Medication works, talk to a professional and they will explain it to you.
Zach055 1 year ago
Amber, wonderful video. My 6 yr old son has SM. At home he's a blast...loud, funny, silly. Outside,he feels like you described yourself as a child. We're getting him professional help finally, it's taken 2 years to find the right people! I make videos of him reading, talking & playing for his grandparents. I hope you get help - There's a whole world out there waiting to hear your wonderful voice. You will do it. Get help Now! Good Luck!
gretamcgill 1 year ago
I've always thought i was on my own in this... and maybe i was just a weird person, i know and im not saying im glad someone else suffers through this...but it feels good to know im not the only one out there..... One more thing, do you try to be social every once in a while? How does that go for you?
lizzymiguel 1 year ago 6
@lizzymiguel I'm a lot more talkative now. I just have social anxiety. So yeah, being social has helped me a lot! I kind of had a phase where I tried to forget I had SM. And that helped me a lot. Hopefully it works for you too, if you wanna try it out!
iiTzAmberMarie 7 months ago
@iiTzAmberMarie Hey i wrote this post a long time ago, now i found my self. I tried everything. I even thought i was depressed or bi polar and tried medicine. But now, i am a gym addict and that was my medicine. I feel good, in many ways. Its like i know who i am and i accepted who i am. Honestly working out is the best thing. Because when you feel good its like ur shining and not to say i think im some wonderfull person. But ive never been this happy in my life. Because i use to hate who i was
lizzymiguel 7 months ago
@iiTzAmberMarie it is caused by brain chemistry... excessive reaction to fear
cxpm777 4 months ago
my friend has selective mutism. she told me through this video, and i feel bad for every time i told her to just speak up and talk. she doesnt go to my school anymore, and i wish i couldve understood selective mutism and helped her through it before she left....
thatgirl67581 1 year ago
this is not something you just grow out of. you need help.
LittleMonster092393 1 year ago
@LittleMonster092393 I know that it is not something you grow out of. I gotten help already, and now I am over my SM. Thank you very much.
iiTzAmberMarie 7 months ago
I like it ! I have SM too. It was hard. I know. I like your videos. :) Nice greets
MissStrawberryLady 1 year ago
You watched my video, didn't you? ("Even when it's behind my back") I'm flattered!
This is a very good video. I liked your use of the music. One problem is being able to see the words over a picture. Maybe you can have the words highlighted, so they stand out more.
Elemarth 1 year ago
@Elemarth Yes, I did. I just couldn't think of anything to put there, if you know what I mean. Haha, & yeah, I am kinda new to the whole YouTube thing and I'm using Windows Movie Maker which is pretty confusing & the quality is pretty terrible... So, hopefully I'll get a better video up soon.
iiTzAmberMarie 1 year ago
Another great video hun! Brought tears to my eyes like the others. You help me more and more to see what my daughter is going thru. Thank you! You have touched me so very much!
desire62777 1 year ago
great video hun, I can totally relate to everything. I go through this everyday too, so remember that I'm ALWAYS there for you even though I can't truly be there, since we live so far away. I may physically live far from you, but my thoughts and my love are never far from you. Don't you just hate that other people don't understand us? I hate how, everybody always asks me why I "don't talk", you know? It really hurts, and I know you already know that, but I just wanted to talk. <3 Heidi.
Hiedster321 1 year ago
amber, i'm so sorry. i know people say crap about you and i feel so bad. i know you have selective muteism. and its hard for you. you aren't the rude one, the other people are. they don't give you a chance. i know i don't talk to you a lot. but i have. many times. and i KNOW you can talk. i'm really sorry for all the crap people have said. i really hope people will understand. love you amber <3
~victoria.
Vicki1634 1 year ago
amber, i know what you go through, it's hard.
bigvarietyofvids 1 year ago
Is this Haley Williams? You should work with videos and things like this.
XmarpunkX 1 year ago
@XmarpunkX Blah :P I would if I could figure out how to do special effects and stuff. lol
iiTzAmberMarie 7 months ago
coco12354587 1 year ago
@coco12354587 Thanks Sadie!
iiTzAmberMarie 7 months ago
@coco12354587 did you fix this with brain medication?
cxpm777 4 months ago