QLP #33: Does anybody know anybody at a party?

[corle1]

What about a LAN parties? Seriously now, i do go to parties time to time, but depends of the party. I don't hate parties but I prefer house parties or any environment that is comfortable. It also depends on the people, but don't generalize about everybody expecting you to change or submit yourself to some sort of social stereotype. What if you and i meet at a party? How do you know if i wanna be there or not ? Or if i am drinking or not? Like the chick from "Superbad". Agree on the loud talking.

[ihavenokegson]

if you don't change the way you act the moment you get through the door, the beer usually does it for you.

and if it doesn't, you're not drinking enough.

[KateyFaith]

That was intense.

I know that in my case I am different depending on who I am with and its not that I'm not being myself I am just being another side of me. I think there are alot of people who are able to blend into many social groups with out betraying who they truely are.

Personaly the only "party" type setting I am ever in are concerts because I like to be lost in the music and not socialize.

[TriBulated]

what thoughts!!!

that was deep man

i have never been to an actual party

but when i do i will definitely be the designated driver

i am different at parties or with large groups

i dont talk as much

i like hanging with only a few people at a time

i have trouble remembering social things like names and things about people

it is impossible for me to remember these things when i am bombarded by so many people at once

therefore i tend to socialize less when there are more people around

[2ndbreakfast]

I tend to think that I give off the most horrible first impressions. I've no idea if this is true or not, and some people have told me the contrary, but I can't help but think so. What I do console myself with is the idea that if people do get to know me, and if they have character, they usually stick around.

As for you, if my opinion counts for anything, I would say that you seem like a really amazing person. Truly, you're probably one of the best sorts of people I've never met.

[serena751]

Like anyone knows who they are. I don't even know who I am. There is the sitting with my family me. The new people me. The BFF me. The alone me. I don't really know when I'm faking or being myself. I guess I'm the most myself alone, because there is no one else around for me to impress or talk to except maybe my dogs. I don't know. So when are we most ourselves? Or, better yet, what is normal for a person to be? Around others? Alone? How are we defined as odd? or creepy? or not normal? or nerd?

[technologyms]

love the video, nice to find someone with same thoughts i have.

[criz16]

I think we share some common worldviews :p your words sounded like deja vu to me. though you're way much cooler a person than I am ahhaha :p

[blahblahblahEMILY]

i agree with knivesy. i think that when you're young and in the formative years of your adulthood, it makes perfect sense to experiment with who you are, who you'd rather be, etc. in a party setting, i figure that everyone else is just as confused, scared and vulnerable as i am, and that everyone deals with those feelings differently. as long as you get the results you want out of an experience like that, i figure it's worth it in the end.

that was probably super incoherent, but it's 4:40 a.m.

[Deathicorn]

Wallet in front pocket, haha. Even my closest of friends and even family don't even know me. Sometimes people even surprise themselves with their thoughts and actions at times. Do we really know ourselves?party or not?

[TMParrish2011]

What I think is that this was a really good video. I don't really like parties either. Losing myself in alcohol and becoming someone I'm not just to fit in is not my idea of fun... I've never understood why other people love it so much.

I'd much rather have a conversation with someone about something important, interesting, or funny, or even about just pointless and random jazz that we find entertaining.

But then again, I am a nerd.... and glad of that fact.

[tali2llama]

I'm with you. I hate parties and huge crowds. People think I'm shy or reserved or something, but that's not it at all. It just seems like you could never make a real human connection at one of those things. I'd rather watch bad movies with my friends.

[munch04]

you know they need to give people more space to type lol!

but i think anyone can party and be themselves, but majority choose to be what they're peers want to see or what they see on tv/movies. So people who dont got to parties, should try and be yourself....if all else fails, people watch...and make fun of the stupid drunk people who think they're the coolest people on earth, but they look soo pathetic while drunk.

[munch04]

Growing up in a small ass town, its easy to see how fake people are at parties, cuz in high school, well hell even in jr. high...you're labled cool if you're at one of the parties and drinking. I never considered myself cool & wasnt about drinking and partying. 5 yrs out of h.s. i do drink and party, but not like my peers who party 24/7, i just do every so often. i dont drink to get drunk cuz i think that's stupid. but i'm still the goofy, off the wall, random person that i always am.

[knivesy]

No one would describe me as shy. Hell, I have green hair. But even so, I'm awful at meeting new people and talking to them. I'm not going to say alcohol is "the best thing ever", but with a little bit, I care less about "the right thing to say" and make up whatever small talk, and from there go on to a better conversation. There're numerous parties that aren't loud and annoying.. so I guess I AM me at parties, but some times it's fine to be someone else.

[nateonjesuslane]

Good point, Knivesy.

[ellusionistninja]

whoa. lol.  im guessing you scripted this. i think you are a very good writer.

[brickmastertube]

oh and 1 more thing. When I'm with company (friends or strangers or both) I rely on conversation most of the time. So I hate loud environments. It gets so fucking boring for me I've never got used to it.

[brickmastertube]

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I'm not myself in parties. I have to pretend to be someone else. As you said, I don't know if it's the same for everyone else or if they are just themselves there.

Only way I can be in a crowd not hating myself is rock concerts maybe. I am myself there. I don't feel I need to be something else. I'm at home.

[blahblahblahEMILY]

at least i think that was man man. i dunno.

[blahblahblahEMILY]

man man! i'm jealous.

[annapillsbury]

I think we gotta let people be whoever they want to be, even if it isn't who we think they should be, and do whatever causes us to have a rockin' time ourselves. :)

[clintjohnson]

your so right nate! everyone acts differently out at parties. thats why i dont like parties either.

[PaintTHEstars777]

I thought this was great- it kind of made me think of Freshman year at Uni. You know the name of your roommate, and now with technology, you Facebook them or something (maybe just e-mail) You kind of feel like you are 'getting to know' that person, but I think it is all surface and you are not really going to know about them, in their true being, until you have that first night of sleeping in the same room as them. My roommates have never been who I thought they were- maybe I was different too.