Beyond Blue: The Highly Sensitive Person

[pluvsl2007]

I am a highly sensitive person and at the same time nominated for NOBEL PRIZE....HAAAAAA; just true....but didnot get it. My Prof..did it... anyway. Just localize (time, why, when) when you are REACTING to your sentive mind.... I am the boss NOW. But was scared to fire anyone. Now fire them left and right. Not that I am rude. But I realized they use me. So protect yourself...ITS WITHIN YOU.... Remember what will get you through is truthfullness (You have - YH), compassion

(YH), tolerance (YH).

[Yeshuaiskingofkings]

the book is awesome; i read it several years ago and it explained me perfectly...great video :-)

[mrtruthforever]

All these videos that oversensitive people are more attune, aware, etc. Total crap! There is another side to this coin.The absolute living HELL for the person who is or was in a relationship with you. You guys are NOT more perceptive, not more aware. In fact you are less, because if you really were more aware, more perceptive, you'd be more objective, accepting of the other person's side & advice without interpreting it as criticism. Work on humility&your egos. Learn to laugh at yourselves.

[sclapione]

@mrtruthforever Are you sure she was HSP ? I laugh at myself all day, probably more than the average person . . . . Do you also understand what HSP is ? It's about taking far more information in, than normal.

[sclapione]

@mrtruthforever Bottomline: overstimulation. I suspect that personalitywise, you'll get different types, although I tend to believe that those who (truly) take more information in, see more nuances etc, may be more sensitive (in a positive sense) towards others. Cannot say what's the case there 100%. Maybe your girlfriend was just an ass.

[sclapione]

@mrtruthforever Also, maybe there are people who misuse HSP and want to make themselves seem important, but as a real HSP you just want to learn how to deal with the overstimulation properly.

[happywallflower]

I'm exactly like this. I wish I can desensitize myself. It's too overwhelming!

[goloka108]

I totally agree, I've read your crap. I've nothing to prove to you, so go get an education and please don't ever have the nerve to reproduce.

[valdezmiguel2]

you should consider wearing makeup, since you look like a dried sack of leathery shit. Or just kill yourself, since you provide nothing for society and are generally just ranting about egostroking bullshit.

[NeoNSPETSNAZ]

@valdezmiguel2 ~~~~~I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO YOU OR IF I EVEN SHOULD WASTE A BREATH OF AIR ON YOU! YOU (MIGUEL VALDEZ) SHOULD SERIOUSLY LOOK INWARD AND GET SOME HELP TO FIGURE OUT WHAT MAKES YOU SUCH AN ANGRY PERSON THAT YOU WOULD WANT TO HURT SOMEONE WHO IS TRYING TO HELP OTHER PEOPLE. I THINK SHE IS A BEAUTIFUL PERSON FOR SHARING HER PERSONAL STORY AND TRYING TO HELP OTHER PEOPLE IN THE PROCESS. WHY WOULD YOU TRY AND HURT SOMEONE LIKE THAT BY SAYING WHAT YOU SAID?

[goloka108]

@valdezmiguel2 Famous HSP's include: Einstein, Newton, Edison, Dostoevsky, Woody Allen, Neil Young, Emerson, Yeats, Thoreau, Leonardo Da Vinci, Beethoven, Mozart, Malcolm X, Picasso, Gandhi, Kurt Cobain, John Lennon, Bob Dylan, Steven Spielberg...the list goes on and on. So stop hiding behind your sticky keyboard, go get some therapy to resolve your pent up rage and post a photo of yourself so we can all have a laugh. fair?

[valdezmiguel2]

@goloka108 gonna have to cite some sources there, cowboy. HSP, OCD, ADHD, aspergers, etc. they all seem to cite the same handful of celebrities (who were never diagnosed, and are by in large deceased)... almost as if they were recruiting retards who are prone to emotional response and hypochondrias.

You are so stupid it hurts.

[goloka108]

@valdezmiguel2 Yeah, I'm stupid - that's why I have a Masters and a PHD. Obviously you've not found the right therapist yet, seeing as you are looking at these types videos in the first place....let me know if you need help, I will gladly make a donation toward helping you resolve your issues. Eagerly awaiting your photo...

[valdezmiguel2]

@goloka108 I strongly doubt you have a GED. I will take your donations if you want though.

[valdezmiguel2]

@goloka108 incidentally, the notion that a Ph.D. would write such an outlandish blanket statement without providing any type of citation (something which they would have to be at least somewhat familiar with regardless of field) is laughable.

"shit people say on the internet isn't always true."

--Abe Lincoln.

[sclapione]

@valdezmiguel2 It has nothing to do with hypochondria, at all, but taking much more information in than the average person, you tard. Something which would benefit you, when trying to "sketch" ! LOL !!

[sclapione]

@valdezmiguel2 She's lovely looking, I was thinking what a nice looking female, for once. You cannot even manage the most simple of sketching, so how would you even notice refinement ?

[valdezmiguel2]

@sclapione no, she's a fat skank who looks like she is 90 years old. If I were her, I would have definitely killed myself by now. And the world would be a little better because I am not a coward, like this self-depreciating faggot.

[sclapione]

@valdezmiguel2 You've already killed your braincells, I see.

[sclapione]

@valdezmiguel2 Oh, you're the "sketch" person *muffled chuckles* Righti-0 ...

[valdezmiguel2]

@sclapione I've had thousands of people watch me sketch things. When was the last time you had anyone care what you did, faggot? best be tightening that noose, cowardly faggot.

[NoLove4You0]

Therese....I love you ...& thanks.....you have helped me alot, alot more then you or even i may know....time well tell =- ) ...............coutinue being blessed .....you are a blessing.....Thank you!.....your helping me see....."know" me agine ......

ur part of it, a peace of the "whole" that makes love and real life happen!....again.....

Thank You!!!!!!!!!!!

Blessed Be with you in all ways!

[thejedi222]

Therese, I would like to say thank you. Its been an awful 13 yrs of my life.I was once told by a mental health expert that i had PTSD.Of course i did not settle easly with it. So , decided on donig further research on my own and discovered HSP. On that search i found you. thank you for being so open and good blessings to you.

[andrewgolightly11]

I find it really helpful how you mention the sort of occupations that sensitive people normally take on. Validates where I'm heading... :)

[LaffnSmile]

i dont like when you open that toy up. It makes me anxious.

[magictouch115]

Both me and my mom were diagnosed with high sensitivity when I was in the 10th grade on school. When I talked about it with the school psychologist, he explained alot to me. Every thing in the past that I did I didnt understand, I understand now. Hating social events, parties etc. its all very familliar to me. I hate over crowded places, and get a headache and sometimes my stomach gets upset. If that happens, I should leave before I throw up. I also have many problems with making new friends.

[veronicachic]

i absolutely hateeeee loud music and clubs and bright lights...it makes me feel so anxious and uncomfortable i feel like ripping out my skull!!! thats why i never go to social events like dances or prom =/

[crystalship42]

I hate amusements parks too...:-)

[crystalship42]

Beautiful video. So creative from your part. I love the color ball example. Thanks. :-)

[TOBIdoesntNEEDaHUG]

Not "normal brain," you mean "average brain." :)

[suzhall]

I have read this book and it helped me greatly to understand my sensitive nature and to begin to appreciate it. Thank you for sharing this with others. You analogy of the balls was excellent. It has taken me most of my life to understand this, and most people that I know do not understand the concept.

[rafapak]

strong, regular nervous system muffles stimulation. Weak , highly sensitive one intensifies stimulation. This is why it is difficult to live with the hs one. HS have to avoid stimulation. Problems with keeping work etc are frequent among hspeope. To have that weak ns really sucks! At least to me.

[rafapak]

This woman never did anything bad to me but I am scared to watch her clips. I am hsp too and probably similar to her in many ways but don't know why I feel scared when watching her clips. Is there something wrong with me?

[dazlisalon]

@rafapak If ur a male, she might remind u of someone u block out of ur brain, u might not liked what she did or didn't like. This could mean saying something really mean that hurt u etc, not necessarily physically though. If ur female, r u pregnant, cos I felt the same feeling about a few men & I was right about them, when I'm pregnant, feelings, sounds, smell & frequencies r more stronger & intense. My small sensory was way too much for me to stand /bear, I could smell like a bloodhound dog.

[KuroiiTenshii]

I am a HSP and also have ADD. I know what you guys are talking about, but drowning yourself in self-pity isn't the best option. I am very skeptic and have always been an optimist, always trying to, indeed, see everything from each angle. I am stubborn and respect life. I value myself and simply refuse to let certain people hurt me, and I think by trying to continue this I keep most people at a distance. What I'm trying to say is; don't be depressed, because most people don't care. Be yourself.

[rafapak]

terrible body! terrible life! mutated brain gives you little chances for anything.

[OdeToNecrophilia]

wow, people just looove talking about themselves. it's so damn stupid.

[dazlisalon]

@OdeToNecrophilia What the f**ks wrong with that, Wow! I wouldn't want to talk to u, I'd probably smack u in the mouth, u'd be oozing in so much disrespect towards them & their story not to mention their feelings if they were telling u their sad story. I most likely poke ur eyes out as well, couldn't stand watching them roll up to the sky with self boredom, f***en STUPID LOVE URSELF DAMN DICK.

[OdeToNecrophilia]

@dazlisalon i do love myself. have fun.

[dazlisalon]

@OdeToNecrophilia Thanks, & good luck with that (Acting Style), just don't take on the jobs that required u to get naked in, I mean cry in, (s**t) get emotional in. Oh, & I'm happy u do love yourself but don't looove talking about yourself, cos it's so damn stupid to u right. It's OK though, just leave that talking about yourself it's so damn stupid to the professionals, (ME!) ;-)

[OdeToNecrophilia]

@dazlisalon ok. thanks. will you talk about yourself to me now..?

[dazlisalon]

@OdeToNecrophilia I've been considered a gifted person all through my life, I draw photo image like pictures with coloring pencils, but I don't like drawing. I only drew cos I can, I don't mean that in a cocky way either, it is the only thing I can do physically & of course cleaning. I only drew cos that was my only way of communicating to people when I was younger or be noticed cos I couldn't spell or read. I stopped drawing 10 years ago cos I found or felt it was a cures, not a gift..

[dazlisalon]

@OdeToNecrophilia I was told to see these video by another person cos I was trying to find someone or someone's like me with confused feelings. I see things, hear things & yes they talk to me, but their all be good so far, until not long ago. I haven't slept well since, in fact I've became so sick, worn out & tired, I'm at the doctor often, hoping they might find the answer to my problems & explain these shocking headaches I've been getting for a year now.

[dazlisalon]

@OdeToNecrophilia I'll take a gamble & tall u what I think & believe is true about the little boy that lived before story. I can't remember if I've lived before, but I have had someone jump / enter my body, & this happened in front of 4 friends of mine. I went all funny, felt like I'm not me but someone else, I couldn't move, he said there is a God, he made my boyfriend disappear, asked me to ask my friends is their mum their favorite mum & said sorry to me for jumping in my body.

[dazlisalon]

@OdeToNecrophilia He said he didn't think I'd react that way, we do it all the time, it so easy. It feels like u imagine it would feel, the only way I can explain it, how u imagine to urself right now, u r right so to speak. No room for to souls, ur body only fits one soul, we only get one body, not 2, & when that body dies, can't work anymore or gets to old. We're still here, only some of us can see someone without a body, u can ask if u want to see them as well, but I won't, cos I know.

[DiazdelVivar]

the main question is, how do you order that expansive ball? I don't know what to do with it, so many options... ppl who only see a few options can achieve so many goals easily, handling with their choices, but HSP don't... because there are so many that never get anywhere or much less than others... is there a brain order formula or something?? what can you do, for knowing what to do with that expansive ball?????

[LemonOdette]

wow. there's books. i thought i was the only one with this orange brain... noone gets this.

what gloves are you talking about? only ones i found were alcohol and medication, both of which i can't use. my body repels it now because it's bad for you. but it did glove me. :P at least somewhat.

[hot1stuff1000]

If someone has sensitivity to high sounded noices you might have Central Auditory Processing Disorder. I just got diagnosed this year.

[elenagabrielle]

I'm currently reading this book and i agree with you..it's so enlightening! great video!

[artemisshock]

You have to read the book to know what she is talking about in this video. The trait of high sensitivity is a biological one and it is a small percentage of the population. It's more than feeling emotionally sensitive. Noise and smells that other people don't notice drive you insane. This isn't a cool thing to have, it's extremely difficult.

[rafapak]

@artemisshock

I feel sad because you closed your account on youtube. Is there any chance to have a contact with you via mail, catherine?

[hafnia28]

Such baloney

Anxiety and depression has nothing to do with being highly sensitive. It is a chemical imbalance in the brain. Sleep right, eat healty and excerise a lot. That is the best medicine. Not reading a of this fraud that just makes you believe you are special and sick. 15 oranges he he he

[jlc33300]

Thank you for expressing yourself, very helpful and informative

[myfanwyd2005]

You are very intelligent.

[rafapak]

what kills me about being hsp is not just having low tolerance for strong stimuli. I consider my brain weaker and I always felt as if I had a pudding in my head instead of working neural cells that do their job when pushed to do that. When I push my ' pudding ' for working I feel like it does little work because it can not go any further. Do you guys have the same feelings?

[BR177]

@rafapak you have to organize yourself... make a checklist... then go to more complex tasks/systems...never lose the balance... you will never get over it otherwise, you will have to learn to ignore things that does not matter with the subject at hand, it is an attitude... more concerns equals more problems... first master the simple ones and then move forward

[rafapak]

@BR177

you wrote that I should learn to ignore things that does not matter with the subject at hand. It is not that I dont understand words here but message is what I don't get. Can you be more specific? If you don't mind I also need some clarification in relation to ' never lose the balance...you will never get over it otherwise . I don't get this one either. Words I understand but message seems unclear to me.

[BR177]

@rafapak you do not have to worry about everything... "carpe diem"

just stop thinking and get things done... if you need quiet space for a task look for it, if you need to get something done in a noise environment.. just do it... do not worry about anything else but that...

but go slowly, keep track with a diary...If you work for 10 hours and you get exhausted for 4 days... it is not worth it... just go slowly and you'll be amazed by how much you can achieve.. write down everything!

[BR177]

@rafapak and please do not try to change people around you... they have their own problems.. you can only change yourself and how you feel about it...

you do not choose your family and if they do not help you do not fight against it... fight for changing your life one day at a time... slowly, like ants work...

[rafapak]

@BR177

thanks!



[FreedomFighterJamesB]

Join my Cyclothymia facebook group, be great to have you as a member. Cheers.

[rawrebrev]

Thank you so much. I'm bi-polar and highly sensitive. Just dealing with the highly sensitive part now as it was brought up to me in group. I'm going to a group at a drug/ alcohol rehab. because of my DUI and b/c I'm an alcoholic. And I'm grateful that this happened. The way that you put things makes me feel like your talking about me. And this was such a great thing to learn. Thank you so much! Peace, Mateo

[pricelesspam]

PEOPLE THAT ARE NON SENSITIVES DONT UNDERSTAND HSP AT ALL.They seem to be made really uncomfortable by hsp's.

[fosponomot]

It's not a good thing. I am unemployable. i cannot maintain friendships. i am the black sheep of my family. I am poor. I cannot afford the help I need. My government doesn't give me the help i need. ITS NOT A GOOD THING.

[nir8vana]

@fosponomot It is a good thing in essence, but it's been made as bad, you know, in this fucked up society. In the end it's up to us what to do with it...

[rafapak]

@nir8vana

they usually don't want to employ us . Dying for hunger is not that funny. this is what makes me suicidal. that fact that they don't want to employ us.

[nir8vana]

@rafapak Yea, it can be hard, it usually is for us, but if you love yourself, everything will turn out right. Doesn't matter if THEY don't love you, they can go and love themselves!

[rafapak]

@fosponomot

i agree!

[rafapak]

@fosponomot

you are right

we cannot go into well paid, good jobs like law, medicine etc, if we have a job it is usually badly paid crappy job because since we can't have good jobs all the rest are shitty ones

[rafapak]

@fosponomot

i am the same case in my family

[carpetmermaid]

Thank you thank you thank you...the service you provide is priceless and valuable beyond measure <3

[gleefully29]

This is a good summary of how a sensitive person responds to the environment, and how one could be affected by depression, etc, without this understanding.

[hybridxr]

I am a HSP, and have been to Elaines website for the HSP book. The only problem is that I am not good at reading books, and prefer audio books. Unfortunately, this book is not available in audio format.

[crystalship42]

The oranges example. That is me at work. I look at details in order to work and sort my paperwork, more time searching information. Can be overwhelming, but at the end I feel satifsied and I can stay on top of my work. I think how my performance can affect positive or negative my Team, even when I know most of them don't think like. But also I learned that when I shut down my PC at work, I do the same with my mind. What is done is done. What is not...Whatever..:-)

[mummum123abc]

haven't read this book but the term highly sensitive sounds like me. i deal with anxiety and depression all the time and feel overwhelmed by life's situations that most people can easily deal with

[rosiCullen7]

I´m an HSP too :)

[LUVJONZ99]

I think I have found my TRIBE!!! I really find your videos very inspiring and healing, the examples you give are excellent. People always tell me I over analyze everything and look for too complex solutions.......video gave me alot to ponder.

[JoeNJ1]

I think I just found my place;

[pmcmusik]

You have the book I found in 1999 "The Highly Sensitive Person. I just finished telling about it on another video on the highly sensitive person" I think you would find that discover what kind of Empathic you are too. I just someone to learn to love themself. My power of awareness are strong, but I am learning to control the over stimulations now. Thank you for Elaine Aaron.

[AronAgmar]

thank you so much

[somanynamesihave]

I like the second ball

[SaiYanSighT]

I was born 23rd day of september.

When I put the comment, there were 23 comments.

When I assessed the video [5 *] there are now 23 scores.

Could I have been born, if I've never felt truly existing?

That's how SaiYanSight SEES things.

[bowflexor]

when i watch your video my dick became so hard. does that makes me sensitive?

When u touch it white stuff "cums" out

[morikahjo]

:) You have a unique way of looking at things and explaining things. YAY HS People!!!

[kelly1968]

I love your series and relate to so much of what you are saying. Could you post ALL the books you are reading and finding helpful? =)

[420bmxer]

for you are making me make since of myself!

For i am HSP, right now i cant understand this world and the way it is going

for i need to find a job for my self but i can barly read or wright

[tristanedgar87]

I think my sensitivity is a bit different because I can often read a person when I meet them and know what kind of person they are. I often know when someone is lying to me and when something is wrong. Yet I like to keep all of this to myself, and Love being by myself and especially love learning new things I can spend weeks learning about something. Most of the time I stop and map out everything I need to do and can never work in clutter.

[capnvideo2006]

very well done presentation.....since age 19 I have been a nervous wreck LOL finally a doctor a few years ago told me had social phobia......but I read the book Highly Sensitive people and in many ways I seem to fit that "mold" also.....I am 56 now and stuck in a rut...cant push myself to look for a job/fearful of the thought

[VenusAsABoyFilms]

I'm reading that book now, I can't put it down. so good. thanks for the video.

[Saskiaatjeeh]

Hey, everytime when someone gets angry to me. I think the world is going to end. I always feel scared, and such a painfull feeling when somebody gets madd. My mom just got mad on me a few hours ago, and I locked my self up in the Shower. and i have social phobia so i can't celebrate mother's day. she wanted me to go too. I feel really bad. So anyway, I always had this problem. At skool I was sitting under the table when a teacher went mad. And I cried and cried.. and was ashamed of my action.

[SaiYanSighT]

The world shouldn't be the way it is...

When I was 5 years old I got so depressed due to problems of my parents [they are NOT hsp's] that I got sick. It turned out I have bacterial brain infection. It's been quite a while since I realised I'm HSP, and that HSP's a major reason why I was so prone to illnesses and stress. Hopefully [or maybe not] I'm still alive.

And I guess I'll be as long as there are people like US. Thank You for being. For being who you Are.

[icecreamandsingasong]

what is it with HSP!? Well, autistics are HSP ADHD= HSP, Tourettes is HSP normal people have hsp but it is softer I always thought I was HSP but i am super HSP. I have ts adhd (autism?) Anyone feel the same?

[flippedy]

Thank you so much for this video. I had never heard of this book or that there is the highly sensitive person. I knew I was sensitive as a child and now as an adult but when people just keep telling you, you are too sensitive and need to toughen up, you don't consider that maybe being sensitive is not a bad thing.

[joddar]

As a highly sensitive male, I must say that I found your video fascinating. You know what you are talking about, and I am looking forward to hearing more from you on the subject of high sensitivity. Thank-you!

[LuvLiWords]

You are doing very fine & exquisite work here. Stay ENCOURAGED!

Echoed Notes Rolling In On Waves of Salty Air at a Tempo Barely There and the Obtrusive Nature of Dark and Light Ever Beckons the Anxious Day Unto the Lonely Night While Vapors Rise Like Mist at Dawn to Somehow Carry On DespiteDespiteDespite

One day one of us

Is gonna hear that

The other one is gone

From: A Crime and a Simplification of Something Sublime by LB Lacey on Amazon,com

[DelusionDispeller]

being that I was a close friend of this type of person, i'm going to go against the "norm" or "crowd" here and say it is VERY difficult to be close with someone who is highly sensitive in a negative way. I prefer non-highly-sensitive people as my closest friends...I get really worn out having to walk on eggshells

[Willowenchanted]

I cried while watching this video (still am) because I personally identify with everything that was said. It's a lonely and depressing world when no one else around you is like this and there is a lack of understanding. Thank you for the connection.

[iammandymoore]

I like the theory about estrogen and pituitary gland/ my doctor dismissed it but I think she's uneducated.

[beatmaker2000]

stamp 2039

[mrsloveblossom]

Thank you... your video was very helpful to me, and I especially appreciated the beachball and expandable sphere metaphor.

[beatmaker2000]

I love your oranges metaphor!

[spiritprofessor]

I have taught myself how to breathe in Love and breathe out Love. It took me 37 years to understand who I AM.

Love to all!

[emergegrowprosper]

I love your beach ball metaphor! That is so true. I would love to know what you would think about Help Is On Its Way - A Memoir About Growing Up Sensitive. I wrote it to offer an insider's view of what it is like day to day as an anxious, overstimulated child who believes that better things are coming - who knows that this is all for a greater purpose. Jenna

[rforbes1]

Intuition can be seen as breaks in words when writing in cursive. Sensitivity can be influenced by pituitary deficiency which can sometimes cause panic attacks. The sex hormones namely estrogen can create sensitivity. We call these individuals either male or female, gynics. Sometimes a little testosterone helps create more balance. R.F.

[NoMoChacha]

love it

love your pacing of thoughts

use of visuals to keep my interest

thanks for sharing so much of what you are learning!!!!