episode 9: a trans-girl in the gay community

[monsterjamfan08]

i am a trans girl n my community doesnt accept me so im stuck. but a have a friend that accepts me. im in mid transition

[lollipopthug]

i stumbled onto this kind of accidentally but thought i'd mention that i think you have a lovely voice.

[ayanamireiOO]

Ha don't worry about it. i'm a transgirl and so is my girlfriend, she is vary sweet. But we don't thank of eachother as gay in the way of guy's loving guy's. She is a girl to me and I am a girl to her, So I thank that would makes us Lesbians. I don't like guy's She is my 1st girlfriend, and I love her soooooo much!!!!! I wish you good luck. Hug's :)

[MrScoodles]

If you want to meet straight guys who like transgirls, where do you expect to meet them if not at a gay bar? Women are so easy for me to meet that the idea of using a dating site to meet a transgirl seems like too much work. Where do transgirls go to meet guys like me?

[CuteChick344]

Im a teenaged girl my lover is a transgirl shes the best thing that ever happend too me :)

[amygurl63]

I know this may sound rather odd but I've felt way more accepted within straight society then I ever did when entering the gay community. I can understand why many transwomen do like to hang within the gay community as it can often act as a comfort zone. For me; its the past and a past that has gone. But it all depends on what you want, and what you enjoy.

[specifyparameters]

I am a gay ftm who is attracted to natal and trans guys, and trans girls, but not natal girls.

with men, i am definitely attracted to their looks. but only hyper-feminine guys. i do __not__ think there is a grey area, though, where trans girls (pre or early transition) are just the next-most feminine thing. i tend to separate my attraction to trans girls from my attraction to feminine guys, as the difference between a purely physical attraction (to the guys), and a (to be continued...)

[specifyparameters]

(..continued here) more psychological attraction to the transgirl. with the transgirl, the attraction starts with the possible bond i may share with her, since i am also trans. also, i consider transgirls to be the only real "opposite sex" to me.

i am certainly not attracted to natal women whatsoever, though i am not sure why. i believe that the reason is psychological rather than physical (otherwise, i couldn't be attracted to post-transition transgirls, like i am). perhaps i have

[specifyparameters]

(more continuation) some phobia of natal women, because i have invested so much thought in my own transition - a rejection of any natal femaleness in myself.

[mrsethcorbin]

Hey there, nice to meet you.

I'm currently going through a similar dilemna in regards to the gay scene, because it suddenly doesn't feel like you totally fit it anymore.

The way I see it is, you can't put people in boxes, especially within queer communities- there are a lot of people who don't confine themselves to gay or het or whatever.. Attraction is attraction no matter what!

Good luck xo

-seth

[bucketoflead]

hey - enjoying your videos a lot. i need to echo what ashley said and add that sexuality is a spectrum and plenty of men in the "gay" scene are not absolutely gay. now, if you find that you're being treated more as a femme boy than a woman or feel dismissed etc. then it's probably smart to take a step back. and of course, flirting is not sexin. i'm sure lots of ciswomen have fun flirting with gay guys.

[NightShadow54]

Check my profile in defence of Gays even though I hate GAYS

[chinangel]

then why did you come to this video?

[icaleod]

because NightShadow54 is probably actually a big homo-momo.

[phoenixxxreborn]

I am a heterosexual female. Does that mean that I can't watch your videos? Does that mean that I could not go to any club with you because you would be ashamed?

Don't worry about what others think. I work on that every day.

Just from this video, I can tell that you are a very sensitive yet strong person. I really wish you well in your journey and hope you find peace within your heart and mind.

[unmeasuredinstances]

I think its fine and you should never feel boxed in by an imposed sense of which community you should be with. I would hope we all take on the work of transition to be who we want to be, including who we socialize with and feel most comfortable around.

[GoldRainGirl]

It's not the gay community so much as some of its leaders who forget that sexual minorities can't stand separately if opposition becomes stronger which are the problem - and flirt with whoever you feel comfortable doing it (and a nice bi guy could be an option, :) ).

[icecoldbath]

Go where you want, flirt where you want. I go to gay bars because the dancing is better there. And hey, lets face it, gay men are totally hotter then the straight guys. I definitely went on dates with gay men early in my transition.

[pigpen7471]

Despite what HRC thinks, we are all one "community"

We have to work together to help everyone!