Thanks for sharing and for putting together this terrific book, Roy. I think that anyone looking for or in a serious relationship can benefit greatly by it.
Wow!!! this is the issue for many men. They think that changing themselves in an impermanent way and being someone that they are not is a way to sell themselves. This is a bad idea. Look for the person most suited to yourself. Don't be a whore and trick anyone into getting married only to have her find out about you later. SELF ACCEPTANCE is the KEY. If you decide to change let it be on your own terms and for YOUR SELF instead of creating a phoney shell game. Honesty is under-rated.
i am working on myself to shed layers of protection which she used to stab me with when i threw down my emotional shields that any normal woman would be gracious of. I have 2 very loving women that will do pretty much anything i say yet i was attracted to the narcissist who was just downright cruel & abusive & gave nothing except heartache & only gave nice things to secure the whole rotten cycle of abuse over again. Seriously the amount of emotional abuse that woman gave me is almost criminal.
its nearly impossible to even be kind, considerate, respectful, and loving to most people these days without being taken advantage of and abused yourself.
So true! As I've finally gotten myself together after being with dangerous men, I met someone here on You Tube (on the other side of the world) who was able to remove himself from a dangerous woman. We're together now and stronger than ever together AND as individuals.
@Rijksband Sheppard is wrong and right.However,he assumes womens' perceptions and values to be similar to that of men,in today's society this simply is not the case.He should be candid and spell out how women REALLY see things and what their motivations are.it is dissapointing to see him write this book after some brilliant videos exposing the dangerous women.
@drfan2004 Good comment - you're right, I can definitely see where you're coming from :) The thing for me is (I'm a guy) I can't help thinking that the basic premise of what he's saying here is correct though: "be who you would like to attract" or, perhaps more succinctly: "do unto others..."
@Rijksband In a sense he is correct,it is natural and right to want to earn the respect of others,but where women are concerned in the times we live,it just doesnt work like that.its no more do unto others...... its more like you're just entitiled because you're female.thanks Rijksband
@drfan2004 I don't think you've found true love within yourself. Maybe YOU'RE the one with an subconscious sense of an entitlement feeling and are reflecting that onto your views of the opposite sex. You may deny this and get mad but ask yourself why first. There is no such thing as "female entitlement". You have negative views on woman for some reason. We are ALL entitled to what we deserve.
@darlingdino Female entitlement,is an objective and verifiable phenomenon,which has manifested it's ugliness in institutional discrimination against men and men's rights.how and if one finds "true love within yourself" is irrelevent.
@drfan2004 That's really sad. I hope one day you can find love and happiness in yourself and let the bitterness go. Your hypothetical phenomenon theory is just some psychobabble for I'm bitter against all women, they're all awful as a whole. You have to see everyone (all women and all men) as individual beings which is hard to do when you've been burned in the past. But just try. You're the one being discriminative here, using self projection as a defense mechanism, to avoid ego rejection.
@drfan2004 Oh and I believe there are SOME (probably very few) women AND men with "entitlement" egos. And the one's that do, have problems with themselves. Most people are good in this world it's just the "phenomenon" of how 1 bad person can change a person's perspective on a whole entire gender. But isn't it odd that for every negative person, 10 positive people (regardless of gender) are overlooked? Ask yourself how does the one negative aspect stand out yet all the positive goes unnoticed.?
@darlingdino that's a fair point you've made,my problem is not with women per se,however my criticsm of the author (Sheppard) is based on the fact that emotional maturity,fair mindedness and good character are not attractive in societies where the exterior appearance surpasses the reality of a person,such as Britain.It just wont work,im sure he really would like it to be like that.he would be setting up men to fail.
@drfan2004 I think what you're saying holds true in America too. The largest majority of men in this country lack respect towards women. (To me it's a lack of self respect which is the base problem). But the key word you used is emotional maturity. NOW if someone is emotionally mature enough, then surely (and hopefully) they are intellectual enough to make good decisions when it comes to what matters most in a healthy & loving relationship if they want it to last. And it's not looks ;)
@darlingdino And what could have caused men to have a lack of self-respect? Hmm? No, it couldn't POSSIBLY have been those scores of feminist teachers telling little boys that they should act more like girls because being a boy is problematic, could it?
It's not just a lack of self-respect, it's also DECADES of anti-male feminist propaganda: i.e. "consider every man a potential rapist," men only want sex in order to control and degrade women, men account for most criminals and spousal-abusers and child-abusers etc.
ALL LIES!
Women account for at least half of all domestic violence and child-abuse, while over half of all reported rapes are likewise FALSE ACCUSATIONS; meanwhile women ENABLE male criminals.
@SovereignStatesman OOUCH!! too bad wit does not come with a deflated ego. Get with it down to the macochists club to get all the women who will love you. There's a line up. You've been screened.
@SovereignStatesman Well I may be a little the worse for wear, but I still have a heart. Check for yours. I said you've been screened! Now get off my back. The line up at the pathetic old ass club is getting longer by the moment .Chug-a-lug!!!
@SovereignStatesman "B_A_A_A_loney least of all if sex was just sex WHY SO BITTER?" Would have to ask the same question @AnneFox7 asked ? Yes, why so awfully bitter ?
@drfan2004 I disagree. This is not understood form a humanistic viewpoint. I come from a place where women make .77 on the $1 for equal work. Men see us as a threat to wage scales via undercutting. The personal is the political. I have observed where men were sexually harassed, they were guilty of not effectively screening their audience ONLY. Nothing of the over-arching pink collar ghettoization. Masculine feminine continuum is situational yet each of us is a man or a woman.MERIT is the key.
What about dangerous men ??????
hmmm
too many around
missdarkangelxxx 2 months ago
Hi Gina. Thank you for your kind words. Much appreciated.
TheDangerousWomen 3 months ago
Thanks for sharing and for putting together this terrific book, Roy. I think that anyone looking for or in a serious relationship can benefit greatly by it.
ginadcarr 3 months ago
Wow!!! this is the issue for many men. They think that changing themselves in an impermanent way and being someone that they are not is a way to sell themselves. This is a bad idea. Look for the person most suited to yourself. Don't be a whore and trick anyone into getting married only to have her find out about you later. SELF ACCEPTANCE is the KEY. If you decide to change let it be on your own terms and for YOUR SELF instead of creating a phoney shell game. Honesty is under-rated.
AnneFox7 4 months ago
@AnneFox7
How many women have YOU dated, bitch?
SovereignStatesman 1 month ago
I just can't imagine it - having a relationship with a woman who is not a psychotic waste of time!
I guess it is possible, though. I suppose not every single woman is raving mad.
capturedpilot 6 months ago
@capturedpilot When you have attitudes like that, you chase the nicer kind of girls away.
ElanaVital83 5 months ago
@ElanaVital83 Thanks for the advice. You are totally wrong, though.
capturedpilot 5 months ago
@capturedpilot How do you know? You wouldn't because as I said before, you chase the nicer ones away.
ElanaVital83 4 months ago
@ElanaVital83 Okay. I will be reasonable from now on. I promise.
capturedpilot 3 months ago
@capturedpilot You better or I'll come after ya. ;)
ElanaVital83 3 months ago
@capturedpilot
"I guess it is possible, though. I suppose not every single woman is raving mad."
It's also possible to survive skydiving without a parachute... and equally worth the risk.
SovereignStatesman 5 months ago
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@capturedpilot
"I guess it is possible, though. I suppose not every single woman is raving mad."
It's also possible to survive skydiving without a parachute... and equally worth the risk.
SovereignStatesman 5 months ago
i am working on myself to shed layers of protection which she used to stab me with when i threw down my emotional shields that any normal woman would be gracious of. I have 2 very loving women that will do pretty much anything i say yet i was attracted to the narcissist who was just downright cruel & abusive & gave nothing except heartache & only gave nice things to secure the whole rotten cycle of abuse over again. Seriously the amount of emotional abuse that woman gave me is almost criminal.
uncreativeranter 7 months ago
its nearly impossible to even be kind, considerate, respectful, and loving to most people these days without being taken advantage of and abused yourself.
suchafool990 10 months ago 6
@suchafool990
It's also the ANTI-MALE HATE that feminism has produced.
There was a satirical poem made about women's lib co-eds in the 70's:
"The diamond wedding ring you wear is just a ball and chain, the new Mercedes that you drive is just to stop your brain,
your hundred-thousand dollar home is just a man-made grave,
so come and face it, mother dear, you're nothing but a slave!"
If that's slavery, they woulda fought for the South!
SovereignStatesman 5 months ago
Men who marry women 7 years or more younger than them live longer.
ExacavatoroftheWest 1 year ago
So true! As I've finally gotten myself together after being with dangerous men, I met someone here on You Tube (on the other side of the world) who was able to remove himself from a dangerous woman. We're together now and stronger than ever together AND as individuals.
darlingdino 1 year ago
Hi Roy, it's been a while. Nice to see you again, and thanks for the new video!
Rijksband 1 year ago
Simon Sheppard is a good bloke,but anybody would be wasting their time and money on a book based on a premise which is unrealistic in the real world.
drfan2004 1 year ago
@drfan2004 Unrealistic? Please elaborate.
Rijksband 1 year ago
@Rijksband Sheppard is wrong and right.However,he assumes womens' perceptions and values to be similar to that of men,in today's society this simply is not the case.He should be candid and spell out how women REALLY see things and what their motivations are.it is dissapointing to see him write this book after some brilliant videos exposing the dangerous women.
drfan2004 1 year ago
@drfan2004 Good comment - you're right, I can definitely see where you're coming from :) The thing for me is (I'm a guy) I can't help thinking that the basic premise of what he's saying here is correct though: "be who you would like to attract" or, perhaps more succinctly: "do unto others..."
Rijksband 1 year ago
@Rijksband In a sense he is correct,it is natural and right to want to earn the respect of others,but where women are concerned in the times we live,it just doesnt work like that.its no more do unto others...... its more like you're just entitiled because you're female.thanks Rijksband
drfan2004 1 year ago
@drfan2004 about female sense of entitlement - you are absolutely right on there. Sad but true.
Rijksband 1 year ago
@drfan2004 I don't think you've found true love within yourself. Maybe YOU'RE the one with an subconscious sense of an entitlement feeling and are reflecting that onto your views of the opposite sex. You may deny this and get mad but ask yourself why first. There is no such thing as "female entitlement". You have negative views on woman for some reason. We are ALL entitled to what we deserve.
darlingdino 1 year ago
@darlingdino Female entitlement,is an objective and verifiable phenomenon,which has manifested it's ugliness in institutional discrimination against men and men's rights.how and if one finds "true love within yourself" is irrelevent.
drfan2004 1 year ago
@drfan2004 That's really sad. I hope one day you can find love and happiness in yourself and let the bitterness go. Your hypothetical phenomenon theory is just some psychobabble for I'm bitter against all women, they're all awful as a whole. You have to see everyone (all women and all men) as individual beings which is hard to do when you've been burned in the past. But just try. You're the one being discriminative here, using self projection as a defense mechanism, to avoid ego rejection.
darlingdino 1 year ago
@darlingdino classical feminist response.
"you are angry/bitter because you can't get laid/ find love/female attention"
nice try.I wont waste my time in debating with such a person.address the issue and i might do.
drfan2004 1 year ago
@drfan2004 That's not what the person wrote. Would be good to actually read what is written and not put a different spin on it.
y3ko86 1 month ago
@drfan2004 Oh and I believe there are SOME (probably very few) women AND men with "entitlement" egos. And the one's that do, have problems with themselves. Most people are good in this world it's just the "phenomenon" of how 1 bad person can change a person's perspective on a whole entire gender. But isn't it odd that for every negative person, 10 positive people (regardless of gender) are overlooked? Ask yourself how does the one negative aspect stand out yet all the positive goes unnoticed.?
darlingdino 1 year ago
@darlingdino that's a fair point you've made,my problem is not with women per se,however my criticsm of the author (Sheppard) is based on the fact that emotional maturity,fair mindedness and good character are not attractive in societies where the exterior appearance surpasses the reality of a person,such as Britain.It just wont work,im sure he really would like it to be like that.he would be setting up men to fail.
drfan2004 1 year ago
@drfan2004 I think what you're saying holds true in America too. The largest majority of men in this country lack respect towards women. (To me it's a lack of self respect which is the base problem). But the key word you used is emotional maturity. NOW if someone is emotionally mature enough, then surely (and hopefully) they are intellectual enough to make good decisions when it comes to what matters most in a healthy & loving relationship if they want it to last. And it's not looks ;)
darlingdino 1 year ago
@darlingdino And what could have caused men to have a lack of self-respect? Hmm? No, it couldn't POSSIBLY have been those scores of feminist teachers telling little boys that they should act more like girls because being a boy is problematic, could it?
loqutor 11 months ago 7
@darlingdino
It's not just a lack of self-respect, it's also DECADES of anti-male feminist propaganda: i.e. "consider every man a potential rapist," men only want sex in order to control and degrade women, men account for most criminals and spousal-abusers and child-abusers etc.
ALL LIES!
Women account for at least half of all domestic violence and child-abuse, while over half of all reported rapes are likewise FALSE ACCUSATIONS; meanwhile women ENABLE male criminals.
And sex is sex!
SovereignStatesman 5 months ago
@SovereignStatesman B_A_A_A_loney least of all if sex was just sex WHY SO BITTER?
AnneFox7 4 months ago
@AnneFox7
Because feminists claim that men only want sex for POWER, and are POTENTIAL RAPISTS?
That's the most defamatory thing anyone can say about men as a group, you ignorant slut.
SovereignStatesman 4 months ago
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AnneFox7 4 months ago
@SovereignStatesman OOUCH!! too bad wit does not come with a deflated ego. Get with it down to the macochists club to get all the women who will love you. There's a line up. You've been screened.
AnneFox7 4 months ago
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SovereignStatesman 4 months ago
@AnneFox7
that's what an ignorant slut would say.... particularly an old used-up one like yourself.
SovereignStatesman 4 months ago
@SovereignStatesman Well I may be a little the worse for wear, but I still have a heart. Check for yours. I said you've been screened! Now get off my back. The line up at the pathetic old ass club is getting longer by the moment .Chug-a-lug!!!
AnneFox7 4 months ago
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AnneFox7 4 months ago
@SovereignStatesman "B_A_A_A_loney least of all if sex was just sex WHY SO BITTER?" Would have to ask the same question @AnneFox7 asked ? Yes, why so awfully bitter ?
y3ko86 1 month ago
@y3ko86
I don't answer online pussies with their nose up some bitch's ass.
SovereignStatesman 1 month ago
@drfan2004 I disagree. This is not understood form a humanistic viewpoint. I come from a place where women make .77 on the $1 for equal work. Men see us as a threat to wage scales via undercutting. The personal is the political. I have observed where men were sexually harassed, they were guilty of not effectively screening their audience ONLY. Nothing of the over-arching pink collar ghettoization. Masculine feminine continuum is situational yet each of us is a man or a woman.MERIT is the key.
AnneFox7 4 months ago
@drfan2004 Women, just like men, come in a variety.
y3ko86 1 month ago