The rule of thumb to go by is to observe the way she treats others early in the relationship. Later in the relationship, she will treat you the same way. Good video by the way.
Ive had alot of issues much like these but at a much younger age I am only 24 and i believe I am getting better also the difference with me I always would atleast attract toxic abusive men as well which actually made it worse and never believed I deserved a good man so I always pushed those men away very quickly nvergetting close enough,but having bpd is not an easy thing to live with at all I hurt myself far worse than I ever hurt anyone else
great words of wisdom and after watching several video's to find fault in her ( and I did ) I also found fault in myself in this coming to an end of a very toxic relationship.
Crazy thing is I still love her and feel as though it's more than she loves herself.
I'm numb over it all right now but want to thank you for sharing your insight.
@MerulaMondlicht Good on ya mate. And yes, life isn't perfect, i truly believe there will be going to have fights and arguments. I now tell myself, what's most important, is to find a partner who will fight it right, and fight it maturely. Agree to disagree or agree to agree. No more one sided put downs or lose lose situation anymore. Thanks for sharing.
@EYEOFASERPENT Did she stuff drug and hold the knife together with you to cut yourself? Remember this though, nobody can force you to act that way. I hope you are not continuing this habit as it may really harm your health in the long run. I suggest you find someone you trust to talk about your problems. Or seek professional help.You may be under depression until you have gone to that stage. God bless.
good video until half way thru, where you chalk all of the womans behavior back to her father. while that may be true in some cases here and there I think the vast majority of these issues stem from the rise of feminism in the west and the constant perpetuation in all forms of media that woman are owed and deserve everything simply for being women. thus creating legions of women with severe entitlement issues and little to no empathy for the feelings and emotions of men.
@suchafool990 it is true that the media, western influence played a role in producing self entitlement women. They get peer pressured into the worldly stuff. Though that fact is somewhat true, there are also very down to earth woman who play it fair and understanding towards men. Good facts you point out there though. Thumbs up.
The woman you describe in part 1 and 2 is not a mature woman. They're still growing and changing. I essentially agree with parts 1 and 2, with some exceptions. If she stays as she is, she will have a lonely life. A woman who lives on the cell phone is a messed up one indeed. I'm glad you're now aware of such toxic women.
@lancethrustworthy I agree. Sad to say she was 28 during that time. I would have expected a higher level of maturity, but then again, people are just being themselves. ^^ Anyway, good to hear your comment lance.
My last ex boyfriend was and still is toxic... I'll pray for him and myself for never falling in love with him ever again!! This time it will come from within and not because I love someone else.... Even though I do LOL
added to the below comment. she cheated on me numerous times and embarrassed me and took her anger out on me all the time. my ex feels like shes the best bc her father owns a fast food restaurant in the area. my father is the senior vice pres of a major health care group. she feels she is the hottest thing ever, when people asked me if i was dating a transexual, or a severely retarded girl. shes ugly and the worst person ever. like i said, im different from most guys. i care about women
@kwhardin i believe you care about women. If you didn't care, you wouldn't have given her chance to be with you after numerous times of cheating. The problem sometimes is, we are TOO forgiving, compassion, emphatic towards individuals like this. Which somehow, i believe, looking in a different perspective, is not doing us good. Its good to hear your sharing, glad to hear you have got her out of your system.
i dated a woman just like that. at first my ex would be very nice and caring and i fell for that bs. all my friends and fam kept warning me about her. all my ex wanted was to be treated like a queen. im a man who loves treating women like queens, but id like to be treated well in return. she always complained at me, gave me the cold shoulder, thried to hit me, caused me emotional and physical harm. she even cheated on me numerous times and after i broke up with her, she became very jealous
@adamrocks2006 :) well, i did find it out last month, that she indeed did, cheated. It was the best closure ever. I finally was able to let go totally.
@adamrocks2006 My honest tips, would be to believe ourselves. To believe there truly is someone out there, that will be good for us. But first and fore most, that we all men, are the leaders in a relationship, women are just relationship managers. We need to find the good relationship manager. Therefore, improving ourselves is a day to day thing. We don't stop just because of one toxic women. Because deep down, we know, its pathetic. ^^
hey ispyspeed.... one thing you touched on is that's it's not up to us to fix these people. This is something that anyone that is dealing with a toxic person needs to come to terms with. It's not our job. We need to heal ourselves. Learn what went wrong, and apply it to meeting a more healthy partner the next time. Thanks again for the shout out to menwhoareabused . I'm glad the site is helpful
@begood4000, you are so right. It took me a long time to accept this. I cannot fix her. More than one person has told me, ``don`t worry about her. I worry about you.`` These are good friends who have helped me to see the truth.
This is a good awareness..
TheEllieliz2 1 week ago
Ouch. So true. So true.
Intelxx01 1 month ago
The rule of thumb to go by is to observe the way she treats others early in the relationship. Later in the relationship, she will treat you the same way. Good video by the way.
Haseeb2 1 month ago
Ive had alot of issues much like these but at a much younger age I am only 24 and i believe I am getting better also the difference with me I always would atleast attract toxic abusive men as well which actually made it worse and never believed I deserved a good man so I always pushed those men away very quickly nvergetting close enough,but having bpd is not an easy thing to live with at all I hurt myself far worse than I ever hurt anyone else
Lilmissladylike 1 month ago
sounds like you both have issues, how did it last 2 years?!!..
sammipooh 1 month ago
His words are profound. REAL TALK, people. This vid is a diamond in the rough. Watch part one too, then watch TOM LEYKIS.
macswing 2 months ago
great words of wisdom and after watching several video's to find fault in her ( and I did ) I also found fault in myself in this coming to an end of a very toxic relationship.
Crazy thing is I still love her and feel as though it's more than she loves herself.
I'm numb over it all right now but want to thank you for sharing your insight.
readmuch 5 months ago
i still have sex with her but she is toxic waste pure evil no empathy no feelings i pity her
MrNightshade69 11 months ago
yea this is so right..part one and part two....This reminds me exactly of my Ex,,,thats why she's my EX^^^^^^
Dustin19kilo 11 months ago
@MerulaMondlicht Good on ya mate. And yes, life isn't perfect, i truly believe there will be going to have fights and arguments. I now tell myself, what's most important, is to find a partner who will fight it right, and fight it maturely. Agree to disagree or agree to agree. No more one sided put downs or lose lose situation anymore. Thanks for sharing.
ispyspeed 11 months ago
@EYEOFASERPENT Did she stuff drug and hold the knife together with you to cut yourself? Remember this though, nobody can force you to act that way. I hope you are not continuing this habit as it may really harm your health in the long run. I suggest you find someone you trust to talk about your problems. Or seek professional help.You may be under depression until you have gone to that stage. God bless.
ispyspeed 11 months ago
good video until half way thru, where you chalk all of the womans behavior back to her father. while that may be true in some cases here and there I think the vast majority of these issues stem from the rise of feminism in the west and the constant perpetuation in all forms of media that woman are owed and deserve everything simply for being women. thus creating legions of women with severe entitlement issues and little to no empathy for the feelings and emotions of men.
suchafool990 1 year ago 2
@suchafool990 it is true that the media, western influence played a role in producing self entitlement women. They get peer pressured into the worldly stuff. Though that fact is somewhat true, there are also very down to earth woman who play it fair and understanding towards men. Good facts you point out there though. Thumbs up.
ispyspeed 11 months ago
JESUS CHRIST YOU ARE DATING MY EX
MrNightshade69 1 year ago 3
@MrNightshade69 I'm not surprise. I get a lot of that, and i even said that to those who were with toxic women.
ispyspeed 11 months ago
The woman you describe in part 1 and 2 is not a mature woman. They're still growing and changing. I essentially agree with parts 1 and 2, with some exceptions. If she stays as she is, she will have a lonely life. A woman who lives on the cell phone is a messed up one indeed. I'm glad you're now aware of such toxic women.
lancethrustworthy 1 year ago
@lancethrustworthy I agree. Sad to say she was 28 during that time. I would have expected a higher level of maturity, but then again, people are just being themselves. ^^ Anyway, good to hear your comment lance.
ispyspeed 11 months ago
My last ex boyfriend was and still is toxic... I'll pray for him and myself for never falling in love with him ever again!! This time it will come from within and not because I love someone else.... Even though I do LOL
PHEOLA1 1 year ago
added to the below comment. she cheated on me numerous times and embarrassed me and took her anger out on me all the time. my ex feels like shes the best bc her father owns a fast food restaurant in the area. my father is the senior vice pres of a major health care group. she feels she is the hottest thing ever, when people asked me if i was dating a transexual, or a severely retarded girl. shes ugly and the worst person ever. like i said, im different from most guys. i care about women
kwhardin 1 year ago
@kwhardin i believe you care about women. If you didn't care, you wouldn't have given her chance to be with you after numerous times of cheating. The problem sometimes is, we are TOO forgiving, compassion, emphatic towards individuals like this. Which somehow, i believe, looking in a different perspective, is not doing us good. Its good to hear your sharing, glad to hear you have got her out of your system.
ispyspeed 11 months ago
i dated a woman just like that. at first my ex would be very nice and caring and i fell for that bs. all my friends and fam kept warning me about her. all my ex wanted was to be treated like a queen. im a man who loves treating women like queens, but id like to be treated well in return. she always complained at me, gave me the cold shoulder, thried to hit me, caused me emotional and physical harm. she even cheated on me numerous times and after i broke up with her, she became very jealous
kwhardin 1 year ago
Thanks for your encouragement bro. Couldn't do it without you.
ispyspeed 1 year ago
@ispyspeed hey just wondering could she be cheating on you?
adamrocks2006 1 year ago
@adamrocks2006 :) well, i did find it out last month, that she indeed did, cheated. It was the best closure ever. I finally was able to let go totally.
ispyspeed 1 year ago
@ispyspeed sad to hear that bro.. Hey man any tips.. I don't wanna go gay.. I use to like women.. but it turn out they are all bunch of W#@$#..
adamrocks2006 1 year ago
@adamrocks2006 My honest tips, would be to believe ourselves. To believe there truly is someone out there, that will be good for us. But first and fore most, that we all men, are the leaders in a relationship, women are just relationship managers. We need to find the good relationship manager. Therefore, improving ourselves is a day to day thing. We don't stop just because of one toxic women. Because deep down, we know, its pathetic. ^^
ispyspeed 11 months ago
@adamrocks2006 my answer, is yes. ^^
ispyspeed 11 months ago
hey ispyspeed.... one thing you touched on is that's it's not up to us to fix these people. This is something that anyone that is dealing with a toxic person needs to come to terms with. It's not our job. We need to heal ourselves. Learn what went wrong, and apply it to meeting a more healthy partner the next time. Thanks again for the shout out to menwhoareabused . I'm glad the site is helpful
begood4000 1 year ago
@begood4000, you are so right. It took me a long time to accept this. I cannot fix her. More than one person has told me, ``don`t worry about her. I worry about you.`` These are good friends who have helped me to see the truth.
chrisman737 1 year ago