"Ask Dr. Tony" October 2011 - Aspergers Faulty Logic, Aspergian Masks

[petchharrison]

sorry i am back my problem started when i went away to school i made myself funny so i would fit in as i thought i would be accepteble,as i am a bit of a geek.and yes i have had depressionss breakdowns cancer you name it.one word of advise.be you if others dont like it tough.

seen that anmish vid yep i am just like her i just got red eyes over it .. jeff ..

[petchharrison]

funny i am just like victor,one day a church friend told me loose the mask and be you god knows your a very deep man so you dont need to be a jester anymore..jeff,,

[Primasanto2011]

so how do tell the difference between making progress on my social skills and pretending to be good at social skills? if i managed to hold eye contact for more than 5 secs with the person Im talking to, is that a progress or a mask?

[autismhangout]

Dr. Tony confirms, it is indeed Maja's "Aspies don't have emotions" video. Search this address: IFxWdpuyY6o

[markleerose]

@autismhangout A link in the video summary may be useful to others.

[YuHarr]

I wonder if an aspie holds a mask and want to try to keep it at any cost, will he starts a manipulation?, My father for me has many of the aspies caracteristics, I'm neurotypical, but I have the feeling that when I behave with empathy in situation were he fails the acting, he becomes very agresive to me, trying to convince me not to act with empathy, can it be? is there a realtionship in between an aspie acting and a manipulator?

[autismhangout]

I've written Dr. Tony and asked for the exact title of the Maja Toudal (AnMish) video he mentions. Will report it here when I find out.

[MsDigitalMelody]

Trying to break out -- to reveal itself to everyone else around me. Holding it back is tiring, so draining. And all the while that I won't set it free It ravages away inside my head instead. If I gave up and let go it would show the world my autism. I would hold my head and rock and sream and cry. But I'm a wife, a mother so I must fight it ----

I have to be strong and try.

[MsDigitalMelody]

I'm not sure if this is the video Tony is taking about but she completely tells you exactly how it feels wearing a mask every day to hide the Aspieness and "Appear Normal". :D and then as I have found from many Women with Aspergers, told that she has nothing wrong with her and she is completly normal by Youtube viewers or ignorant people. As a Female with Aspergers I completly relate to it. search IFxWdpuyY6o on youtube or Aspies don't have emotions...???

[slaintedeleon]

Thank you so much for this video. Do you have a link to the youtube video by Marge Toodle mentioned please, or the name of it? I can't find it and I would like to watch it.

Thanks

[soulmasterdw]

and it works fine for me open up try put mask on then be urself then put the both together try to not think thgs ova let it flow like a river and wen u hit the dam then go over it as i like to think its not a problem till its made a problem or dnt fix it till it needs fixing

mi best 1 of all is reailty takes awhile to asert itself

[soulmasterdw]

from ur mistakes dnt hide behind urself in fear of others opions urz is the only 1 that matterz and is the only 1 that effects u i do pretty out of it wacky stuff im encentricc to hell and ive got lots of people who lnow me and a few freinds that are normal

[soulmasterdw]

person if wat they sed is ok normal people jst say it and if it ofends it does and sort it after it ofends and the other thg is being scared to say stuff jst say it and its others problem if they dont like it take a it dnt care ur problem attude and learn

[soulmasterdw]

me miself though self training have learnt how to work and be normal and autistic at the same time and 1 of the worse traits i notice with other autistic people is wat i call ova thinking the problem u dnt need to re-invent the wheel wen it just needs a tire change i notice that some people will talk then ask that

[soulmasterdw]

and to talk and relate to autisic people its like a computer u dnt tell it u feel it should open c drive and would like it to open such file u tell it as it is straight ford do this do that not all autisic people are fully unemotional but in general we should be asumed tio have no feelings or emotions no middle area of thinking its yes or no on or off and its also like a dog u dnt walk around telling it to do thgs blah say u look it in the face and say sit etc autiusm is very much like this

[soulmasterdw]

mask and urself together as 1 so ur not so outhere and true to urself to scare off people but ur not faking who and wat u are as i like to think of it as a autistic way to relate to others because lets face it autiusim to normal people is like a horse sized bitbull runing towardz u leaping on u to lick u and all u can think of is omg im gna die

[soulmasterdw]

ive been told i have asbergers but havent been officaly dianosed

i bealeve u should not get rid of the mask that u put infornt of people to sosilise with them and u should not hide urself eatheir i bealeve u should intagrate the

[erdal0]

TheAnmish brought me HERE

[thebestwillow]

how do I get people to take me seriously when I tell them that I will react a certain way if they do a certain thing? - as it is, a lot of the time people think it is an empty threat I am using as manipulation to try to prevent them from doing a particular thing, and it's not. it's a statement of how I will react. it's not that I choose to react that way.

[soulmasterdw]

@thebestwillow

its because u explain it as a empty threat not as a mental problem that cant be helped say its like turets witch is the swearing condition or like if u have a car thats auto and u work on it leave it runing and in drive and its idleing it will (generaly) not move but if u accerate it moves u can tell it to the cows come home to

[soulmasterdw]

@thebestwillow

stay but its still gona move its they way it is say watever u got that u do is a mental fault in ur brain that will do wat ever it does inreaction to the thg they do i live in a place with people who have that kind of reaction u do somethink like call there real name and they go off there nut at u like ur about to gang up on them but if u say there intails there sweet

[Stephitza]

Wow. LOTS of good stuff here. I think it can be so hard to keep the mask from re-appearing out of habit and fear of exposing the self... and sometimes the mask has been relied on for so long, that it is hard to know who the real you is and what will happen when you take off the mask.

[TheAnMish]

Hm, cool that he refers to my video. I think he misunderstands why I do it though... it's not a confidence issue.. it's more that I don't feel like me when I act AS. Even though it's exhausting to act NT, I don't regocnize myself when I can't do it anymore.

[markleerose]

The video Dr Attwood is referring to at 7:55 is at youtu . be / IFxWdpuyY6o