You Josh I started watching you at Brink and thought you where really cool. Today I find this video and I am very happy you actually think this way. Little crash on u..
Does Australia have a generally open attitude towards gays? While I was there, there certainly was a blokey attitude for Australia's men. Fortunately, I was perceived as straight and had no troubles in Aussieland. Perhaps it's just my impression of the small subset of guys I met there at uni.
This guy is cute. I want to make him my husband. On the other hand, after a year of G'day, I'd probably want to ship him back to the outback and find another handsome fixation. After a few decades of this, I'd die a lonely bitter forgotten old man. On my dying breath I'd say...G'day.....g'day....pfffttt..... .................................
Its sad that humans require "labels". I think Alfred Kinsey had it correct when he said that sexuality is not fixed but rather that we tend to fall somewhere between the extremes. No one is totally "gay" or "straight". If we were we would be incapable of developing sensual relationships with people of either sex. Friendships require attraction as much as sex buddies. We all seem to have the capacity to feel attraction at various levels to both genders. Labels are unnecessary.
Its sad that humans require "labels". I think Alfred Kinsey had it correct when he said that sexuality is not fixed but rather that we tend to fall somewhere between the extremes. No one is totally "gay" or "straight". If we were we would be incapable of developing sensual relationships with people of either sex. Friendships require attraction as much as sex buddies. We all seem to have the capacity to feel attraction at various levels to both genders. Labels are unnecessary.
Its sad that humans require "labels". I think Alfred Kinsey had it correct when he said that sexuality is not fixed but rather that we tend to fall somewhere between the extremes. No one is totally "gay" or "straight". If we were we would be incapable of developing sensual relationships with people of either sex. Friendships require attraction as much as sex buddies. We all seem to have the capacity to feel attraction at various levels to both genders. Labels are unnecessary.
that's like me i act stra8t talk stra8t but i love men i don't like musculus i don't like fashion and and don't have a lisp im not that streo of a gay man guys keep saying ur not gay but i am
@BANKSYSKNAB He didn't feel like all of the adjectives and attributes that come with the label "gay" apply to him. He just likes guys. In fact, he loves them :) You don't need a label for love
I watched this, loved it, and then closed my computer.. just to realize that i had not cliked the like button. I turned my computer back on just to do so :P That's how awesome, and right you are!
My belief is that there is no homosexual, no heterosexual... We are all just sexual beings. Attraction is attraction. It has nothing to do with gender. People are just attracted to other people. It's that simple.
You are so right. Everyone has been there and it does get better, if only you let it. Just be who you are and be honest to yourself. You don't have to prance around and wave flags or any of that shit. Just accept yourself and love yourself. Everything else will work out. And for those out there who Hate the people that don't fit their club, go f*^k yourselves because you're not perfect by any means. Peace - Love = Happiness
My best friend's 12-year-old nephew came out to me and her: he trusts us and he knows I'm gay.
Her first question: "Are you sure?" (with all the inflection of "Are you sure the dog's dead?")
My first question: "Are you happy?" (with all the intention to build a confident young man who can know himself well enough to withstand teasing and bullying.)
I had a talk with my friend: "Tomorrow he may or may not be gay. Be supportive."
I am so glad to have seen this. I live in a small town where yes there are gay individuals, but none I ever feel I fit in with. I am attratched to men, but I don't follow in the typical gay lifestyle. In fact I am most of the time taking for straight by gays and straights until I suprising inform them otherwise. I know that there are others out there that feel the same as me, but it's nice being able to see one.
You describe me in the present moment to 100%... the shallow tripe in the media that ppl define as "gay culture" feels like Bizarro World, I can't relate to it at all O______o
@Guitarscreech06 what's worse is actually being flamboyant, having nothing in common with the gay community, and then being thrust into the whole idea. I'm only flamboyant in the way I act, but I don't carry this on into my life. Despite this, I'm constantly pushed into this social group/culture that I really don't feel comfortable with. It gets old quickly.
BRAVO! Josh. Extremely well put. It was even harder to be gay for me back as a teen in the 60s. I know your work will help a young person now. Cheers!
Wow, you speak very directly and yet very eloquently and straight from the heart. That's exactly how teenagers view the world, that their "little universe of pain" (very good phrase, btw) is all that there is. That's why they NEED people to support them and adults to tell them that yes, it DOES get better and we're not just BS'ing. I was teased horribly in school and though it had nothing to do with my sexuality, I felt extremely lonely, but I had my parents, and that made all the difference.
As is evidenced from my comment, I did not feel the same reaction as you,and, oddly enough, I do not consider myself insane.When you are in emotional pain.I'm sure you one is much more interested in the sincerity of the person, than picking apart sentences to analyze for a better presentation.Everyone reacts differently to information, so to "broad brush" his comments, seems unfair and inappropriate in this situation.
I don't think this would save someone from committing suicide. They would probably feel as if you were trivializing their feelings... Perhaps a friendlier more understanding message would be more helpful... Anyways, I liked it. Subscribed ^_^
@YouStoleMyTube I wasn't aware there were rules on how to console others. He was simply speaking from his heart, in a way that was natural and appropriate for him.He was saying some really beautiful things. Too bad you were focusing on his delivery and couldn't see that.
@tet43 This is not a very good video if it's objective is to console someone. Saying something along the lines of "Everyone's been through that, it's nothing new." is definitely not how I or any sane person I know would say to comfort someone. It's more like an insult to their emotions and an attack their thoughts.
Ugh, you are so right! Everyone feels like they're alone at some point! I am not even gay, but just that line alone was an encouragement to me. Stay strong, guys! There are so many people out there who love you and there are people out there who WILL support you.
I liked everything he said but "gay agenda". He should really avoid that loaded, anti-gay phrase. The only agenda gays have is to be treated with respect, fairness, justice and equality. If he's not for that agenda then he should be ashamed of himself.
You mentioned the past. Ironically enough, same-sex attraction was more accepted, and even encouraged, in ancient civilizations than it is today. Are we going backwards? And which institution is to blame for this prejudice, I wonder?
hot as mofo..............oh, thank you for speaking out and caring......there are so many who fit in the gray area between black and white..............
one of the guys who bullied me apologized years later which helped. also ironically his dad came out of the closet and got divorced from his mother. so it threw him for a loop and was a sort of poetic justice in some ways. although after his apology i felt compassion for him and his journey.
@rjp0454 Thanks for telling me this, man. I know high school years can be a bitch, but I know it's better to just wait it out and stuff. Thanks again :)
Awesome video.The idea of not subscribing to the gay agenda but still knowing that I loved guys was very confusing for me as well. As a result, I tirelessly overachieved in my life to dilute the feelings of worthlessness.Not being well endowed made me feel ashamed in the gay community as well.Now that I'm 45 y.o. and have sorted out a lot of things in my life I am finally feeling like life is getting so good. I feel like I'm starting over again. Thanks for sharing yourself with the world!!!
Thank you for making this video, man. I'm also from Texas and I know what your friend means. I'm a senior in high school and things in my life seem so contradictory. Your speech is something I can really relate to. Thank you again :)
I think people have it all wrong about what is gay. The truth is human life spreads between two poles the female and the male. A 'gay' is somewhere in between. No one is completely male or female in either personality or physical features. Just something to consider. One straight males might be 85% male and another 55% male. Sexual preference is only one issue in all this.
Awesome video, subbed. Very gratifying to see your vlog, and Dan Savage's project; its something that I've known for a long time, but its not something that you can convey easily to young people who are having difficulty working out their sexuality.
I'm 24 and still wonder sometimes whether I'm fully gay, sometimes I'm still confused and are attracted to women, but the important thing is that I'm not in high school, I have space to work it out.
Awesome vid,Mate....gotta tell these teens that we have to love ourselves FIRST, then we can love others.....it TOTALLY gets better!!! you have NO IDEA about what an INCREDIBLE person you are about to turn into.....We are waiting for you- just as you are- to join us in this amazing world......Hang in there!! we NEED you!!!
freaking awesome, by far the best one. but, we need to get these to the airwaves whether it be radio or television. believe it or not, but not everyone has free and open access to the internet. some are not out and do not feel comfortable visiting LGBTQ sites for fear of discovery.
beautiful message. thank you for this. we need more people like you acknowledging ambiguity -- and how it can be a beautiful thing to nestle in the grey areas.
I think these kids honestly believe in their hearts that there is no hope. When it is your family, your school, your peers, your church...you feel like your "story" is unique....and it is. Everyone's situation is different. (which is why I would NEVER urge someone to "come out"....only THEY know what this may cause and if they can handle it) It does get better for most...obviously not for all. Everything in life comes from love...or from fear. Without having "someone/anyone" they are so afraid.
I've truly never felt so at peace with myself before in my entire life and I have you to thank.I don't feel like I fit into any sexual orientation label and I felt really alone because of it, I'm used to my nice tidy labels that make me feel like I belong somewhere but your simple reminder that everyone has felt this way and that I need to just join the f-ing club gave me such a feeling of relief knowing that I'm not alone. Thank you so much. You'll never understand how much this has helped me.
Thank you so much for this. I think the "It gets better" project is such an inspired idea and the contributions truly will make a difference. I really wish this had been around when I was a teen and I could have shortened the switch from "odd, geeky, picked-on-every-day-of-my-life kid" to being OK with myself (which is much of the time) by about 15 years. Who knows: someday, even I might figure out who I'm supposed to be. Thanks for helping.
This couldn't be any more true than I've heard in my life. It's good to hear about this 'blank space' that one may not be able to subscribe to a certain sexuality because I myself feel exactly this way.
Hey Josh, I love your message about not fitting into any category, being a 52 yo woman the world seems to view me as asexual and I have fallen into accepting that for myself despite having had relationships with women and men. It is nice to hear that I am not alone and look forward to the day when the labels are all gone.
At first when I saw the title I thought you were gonna say you're asexual, like me. I did not know where I fit until late in life that I did not feel attraction for either sex outside of friendships. Terrible oppression, depression, and thoughts of suicide. I went through life not fitting in until I found a group of people like me. WHat did I do? I joined the fucking club, or in my case, the non fucking club. I found AVEN. LIFE GOT BETTER!!! And now I live and love life. Great vid!!!
Hey, this is Josh from the video. Thanks for the comments and thumbs ups, guys. You've made this very rewarding. If ya dig me then subscribe to my podcast at fascinatingcrap dotcom (Dan Savage is an upcoming guest), follow my tweets ("joshzepps"), friend me on Facebook with a brief message that you saw me here (also joshzepps) and/or subscribe to very infrequent email alerts at joshzepps dotcom slash subscribe. Thanks again!
Great Advice Josh. I hope your friend is doing better in the days to come. As someone who grew up much the way you described yourself doing and in South Texas, it makes me happy that people like yourself are taking the moment to speak up and help reach people that are feeling weighted and struggling in the ocean of confusion.
My favorite line: "If you aren't sure who you are, and you feel like you're being oppressed....if the categories don't quite feel right and you feel like you're completely alone, join the f*#$in club because in reality everyone feels that way...even the people who are picking on you, even the people who look like they've got it sorted out feel alone in some little corner of their soul, deep down." You are so right: IT GETS BETTER!
@RipplesGuy it's not that easy. This is the perfect example of how we think people should resolve the problem. Not all of them are outgoing or in the position of taking charge of any decision making. Why? well, because they are devastated. We keep seeing this problem from our comfortable zone or point of view.
You Josh I started watching you at Brink and thought you where really cool. Today I find this video and I am very happy you actually think this way. Little crash on u..
kollingoff1 1 week ago
Does Australia have a generally open attitude towards gays? While I was there, there certainly was a blokey attitude for Australia's men. Fortunately, I was perceived as straight and had no troubles in Aussieland. Perhaps it's just my impression of the small subset of guys I met there at uni.
MrAlbie411 2 weeks ago
Thanks
rowan1325 1 month ago
Thanks for the message of hope to thousands of young teens and even some adults.
faerylord 1 month ago
Love the message
I hope teens everywhere realize it really does get better
And it's true no one really is alone.
Ps
Ur very attractive ;-)
rzv0205 3 months ago
This guy is cute. I want to make him my husband. On the other hand, after a year of G'day, I'd probably want to ship him back to the outback and find another handsome fixation. After a few decades of this, I'd die a lonely bitter forgotten old man. On my dying breath I'd say...G'day.....g'day....pfffttt..... .................................
paintur68 3 months ago
Its sad that humans require "labels". I think Alfred Kinsey had it correct when he said that sexuality is not fixed but rather that we tend to fall somewhere between the extremes. No one is totally "gay" or "straight". If we were we would be incapable of developing sensual relationships with people of either sex. Friendships require attraction as much as sex buddies. We all seem to have the capacity to feel attraction at various levels to both genders. Labels are unnecessary.
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Its sad that humans require "labels". I think Alfred Kinsey had it correct when he said that sexuality is not fixed but rather that we tend to fall somewhere between the extremes. No one is totally "gay" or "straight". If we were we would be incapable of developing sensual relationships with people of either sex. Friendships require attraction as much as sex buddies. We all seem to have the capacity to feel attraction at various levels to both genders. Labels are unnecessary.
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Its sad that humans require "labels". I think Alfred Kinsey had it correct when he said that sexuality is not fixed but rather that we tend to fall somewhere between the extremes. No one is totally "gay" or "straight". If we were we would be incapable of developing sensual relationships with people of either sex. Friendships require attraction as much as sex buddies. We all seem to have the capacity to feel attraction at various levels to both genders. Labels are unnecessary.
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i wonder if there has ever been a person that was gay that became straight. just wonder if that ever happend before
nothadnotbad 6 months ago
@nothadnotbad, no, it's never happened.
GodCreatesGays2 6 months ago
that's like me i act stra8t talk stra8t but i love men i don't like musculus i don't like fashion and and don't have a lisp im not that streo of a gay man guys keep saying ur not gay but i am
RobertHHMaxwell 7 months ago
god bless YOU
Bobbipens 7 months ago
Ok, 3 things:
1) youre gorgeous!
2) I feel that way too
3) such great message
4) love your accent
yeah i know, are 4!!! xD
93vk 7 months ago
UH You didin't "FEEL" gay?
BANKSYSKNAB 8 months ago
@BANKSYSKNAB He didn't feel like all of the adjectives and attributes that come with the label "gay" apply to him. He just likes guys. In fact, he loves them :) You don't need a label for love
Asmarashine 7 months ago 3
I love this video, just how I feel
ual744 8 months ago 2
@glamourennui no, inferred is the name for thermal vision dumbass. Your the one who flew off the handle queer
Integra0warrior 9 months ago
@glamourennui So? It was what I infrared from what you said. Fuck you bitch
Integra0warrior 9 months ago
Wow, thank you for a great commentary. I couldn't have said it better! Just be who you are. Take care.
kooldavewarren 9 months ago 2
@glamourennui They should keep it on the down low. Nobody wants to see queers sucking each other off in public. G unit!
Integra0warrior 9 months ago
I watched this, loved it, and then closed my computer.. just to realize that i had not cliked the like button. I turned my computer back on just to do so :P That's how awesome, and right you are!
OakdalesHappyCouple 10 months ago 9
I <3 Josh Zepps...the man is brilliant!! Too bad his show was cancelled on SCI Channel awhile back. Thanks for this!
DACcaptain 11 months ago
My belief is that there is no homosexual, no heterosexual... We are all just sexual beings. Attraction is attraction. It has nothing to do with gender. People are just attracted to other people. It's that simple.
gousaredwhiteandblue 11 months ago 8
cute, doesn't help that your accent is so hot either!
jerichocrost 11 months ago
Thanks for posting this vid - very encouraging and helpful. Love it. I agree with RipplesGuy!
sunflyer40 1 year ago
montreal canada too, dude !!! lol
pxb353 1 year ago
You are so right. Everyone has been there and it does get better, if only you let it. Just be who you are and be honest to yourself. You don't have to prance around and wave flags or any of that shit. Just accept yourself and love yourself. Everything else will work out. And for those out there who Hate the people that don't fit their club, go f*^k yourselves because you're not perfect by any means. Peace - Love = Happiness
VinnieSutra 1 year ago
cute guy!
chr1so 1 year ago
thank you friend.thank you.
bishopaz 1 year ago
Best exchange I've ever heard:
"Are you gay?"
"Most of the time."
My best friend's 12-year-old nephew came out to me and her: he trusts us and he knows I'm gay.
Her first question: "Are you sure?" (with all the inflection of "Are you sure the dog's dead?")
My first question: "Are you happy?" (with all the intention to build a confident young man who can know himself well enough to withstand teasing and bullying.)
I had a talk with my friend: "Tomorrow he may or may not be gay. Be supportive."
CanTake8 1 year ago 4
HOW THE FUCK WOULD YOU NOT KNOW YOU ARE A TRANNY?
subsonicdemon1 1 year ago
HOW THE FUCK YOULD YOU NOT KNOW YOU ARE A TRANNY?
subsonicdemon1 1 year ago
what a cute guy!
MrVenatic 1 year ago 2
=oo^^oo=
You are kute
chunniechan 1 year ago
=oo^^oo=
You are kute
chunniechan 1 year ago
Thank you.
MrsSpotConlon13 1 year ago
I am so glad to have seen this. I live in a small town where yes there are gay individuals, but none I ever feel I fit in with. I am attratched to men, but I don't follow in the typical gay lifestyle. In fact I am most of the time taking for straight by gays and straights until I suprising inform them otherwise. I know that there are others out there that feel the same as me, but it's nice being able to see one.
draygon327 1 year ago
You describe me in the present moment to 100%... the shallow tripe in the media that ppl define as "gay culture" feels like Bizarro World, I can't relate to it at all O______o
Guitarscreech06 1 year ago
@Guitarscreech06 what's worse is actually being flamboyant, having nothing in common with the gay community, and then being thrust into the whole idea. I'm only flamboyant in the way I act, but I don't carry this on into my life. Despite this, I'm constantly pushed into this social group/culture that I really don't feel comfortable with. It gets old quickly.
OmgixitsjacobM 1 year ago
BRAVO! Josh. Extremely well put. It was even harder to be gay for me back as a teen in the 60s. I know your work will help a young person now. Cheers!
strafrag1 1 year ago
Wow, you speak very directly and yet very eloquently and straight from the heart. That's exactly how teenagers view the world, that their "little universe of pain" (very good phrase, btw) is all that there is. That's why they NEED people to support them and adults to tell them that yes, it DOES get better and we're not just BS'ing. I was teased horribly in school and though it had nothing to do with my sexuality, I felt extremely lonely, but I had my parents, and that made all the difference.
raerae1281 1 year ago
@xdevildawg4u clone!
SuperJadeDragon 1 year ago
As is evidenced from my comment, I did not feel the same reaction as you,and, oddly enough, I do not consider myself insane.When you are in emotional pain.I'm sure you one is much more interested in the sincerity of the person, than picking apart sentences to analyze for a better presentation.Everyone reacts differently to information, so to "broad brush" his comments, seems unfair and inappropriate in this situation.
tet43 1 year ago
@xdevildawg4u I agree 100%
YouStoleMyTube 1 year ago
I don't think this would save someone from committing suicide. They would probably feel as if you were trivializing their feelings... Perhaps a friendlier more understanding message would be more helpful... Anyways, I liked it. Subscribed ^_^
YouStoleMyTube 1 year ago
@YouStoleMyTube I wasn't aware there were rules on how to console others. He was simply speaking from his heart, in a way that was natural and appropriate for him.He was saying some really beautiful things. Too bad you were focusing on his delivery and couldn't see that.
tet43 1 year ago
@tet43 This is not a very good video if it's objective is to console someone. Saying something along the lines of "Everyone's been through that, it's nothing new." is definitely not how I or any sane person I know would say to comfort someone. It's more like an insult to their emotions and an attack their thoughts.
YouStoleMyTube 1 year ago
@YouStoleMyTube I replied to your comment. it's on the video.
tet43 1 year ago
Ugh, you are so right! Everyone feels like they're alone at some point! I am not even gay, but just that line alone was an encouragement to me. Stay strong, guys! There are so many people out there who love you and there are people out there who WILL support you.
kcl060 1 year ago 2
Mate thanks for this video...ps: you are so hot :D
Wiilovewii 1 year ago
cool guy, great message, kudos!
jonbasi 1 year ago
ommggg you used to host Brink on the science channel!!! i used to love that show.
anyway, great video, very well said...
infinityonhigh75 1 year ago
I liked everything he said but "gay agenda". He should really avoid that loaded, anti-gay phrase. The only agenda gays have is to be treated with respect, fairness, justice and equality. If he's not for that agenda then he should be ashamed of himself.
xdevildawg4u 1 year ago
You mentioned the past. Ironically enough, same-sex attraction was more accepted, and even encouraged, in ancient civilizations than it is today. Are we going backwards? And which institution is to blame for this prejudice, I wonder?
edug8tor13 1 year ago
You said it perfectly. x
ZoeGeorge84 1 year ago
Gay agenda...what the hell is that. Equality takes work and sacrifices. Gay agenda means equality and acceptance
GaryInMilwaukee 1 year ago 2
hot as mofo..............oh, thank you for speaking out and caring......there are so many who fit in the gray area between black and white..............
driverain2 1 year ago
Canada thanks you for the shout out sexy;) love from Toronto.
logicalcreation 1 year ago
You are such a positive, adorable man. You are going to make one mans life a lot "better". hahahaha
txguy1980 1 year ago
one of the guys who bullied me apologized years later which helped. also ironically his dad came out of the closet and got divorced from his mother. so it threw him for a loop and was a sort of poetic justice in some ways. although after his apology i felt compassion for him and his journey.
soulfuljourney 1 year ago
Very good video and a very good looking guy.
mynyun 1 year ago
Great to see some fellow Aussies jumping in the mix!
BTW we dont all say G'day mate lol
Kavesh123 1 year ago
@rjp0454 Thanks for telling me this, man. I know high school years can be a bitch, but I know it's better to just wait it out and stuff. Thanks again :)
CesarCastillo24 1 year ago
Awesome video.The idea of not subscribing to the gay agenda but still knowing that I loved guys was very confusing for me as well. As a result, I tirelessly overachieved in my life to dilute the feelings of worthlessness.Not being well endowed made me feel ashamed in the gay community as well.Now that I'm 45 y.o. and have sorted out a lot of things in my life I am finally feeling like life is getting so good. I feel like I'm starting over again. Thanks for sharing yourself with the world!!!
coastalmaineman 1 year ago
This is by far the best "It gets better" video I have seen so far.
shabaash 1 year ago
CONFUSE PEOPLE .... GETS BETTER TOO !!!
MissAsha69 1 year ago
fabulous presentation
suddenlyfem 1 year ago
Nice job, thanks!
richtafel 1 year ago
I accept love in any form or fashion. I guess I am Bi-as :) or Bi-coastal
Ratseno 1 year ago
Thank you for making this video, man. I'm also from Texas and I know what your friend means. I'm a senior in high school and things in my life seem so contradictory. Your speech is something I can really relate to. Thank you again :)
CesarCastillo24 1 year ago
@CesarCastillo24 Just remember one thing. You are not alone. We are all here for each other. Reach out anytime
rjp0454 1 year ago
I watch this just to listen to your accent.
JuzMe22 1 year ago 35
"when theyre married with a white picket fence and a wife and 2.3 kids and they dont know what the fuck theyve done with their life."
the 2.3 kids thing made me lol. is that like 2 and a half men? i'd like to see someone whos .3 of a kid XD other than that! excellently said, sir ^^
TheSunshineNetwork 1 year ago
@TheSunshineNetwork I'm surprised you've never heard that before. He is referring to 2.3 kids being the average, the norm.
RedUmbrella11 1 year ago
A+! everyone feels that way...
"your own little universe of pain.."
LOL! God bless you JZ!
TheAmatul 1 year ago
You sir... Deserve a cookie.
OmgixitsjacobM 1 year ago 2
you are adorable! i got your point exactly! thank you so much
ailovmaibed 1 year ago
make more videos i wanna subscribe :D
Leadman1989 1 year ago
GREAAAAAAAAT video!!!!
-And you're right!!! I also don't quite feel right in any category...And that's okay! :-)
harlemw651 1 year ago
I think people have it all wrong about what is gay. The truth is human life spreads between two poles the female and the male. A 'gay' is somewhere in between. No one is completely male or female in either personality or physical features. Just something to consider. One straight males might be 85% male and another 55% male. Sexual preference is only one issue in all this.
AudioIndi 1 year ago
Nice contribution. Thanks. It would get even better if you would come sit on my face :)
bamkablam 1 year ago
Awesome video, subbed. Very gratifying to see your vlog, and Dan Savage's project; its something that I've known for a long time, but its not something that you can convey easily to young people who are having difficulty working out their sexuality.
I'm 24 and still wonder sometimes whether I'm fully gay, sometimes I'm still confused and are attracted to women, but the important thing is that I'm not in high school, I have space to work it out.
Props for the vlog, and for your stand up
disamjisa 1 year ago
2.3 kids!
LOL hahahaha
awesome vid
themexicanmaus 1 year ago
G'day to you too! Great video!!!
ToonTownAngel 1 year ago
Awesome vid,Mate....gotta tell these teens that we have to love ourselves FIRST, then we can love others.....it TOTALLY gets better!!! you have NO IDEA about what an INCREDIBLE person you are about to turn into.....We are waiting for you- just as you are- to join us in this amazing world......Hang in there!! we NEED you!!!
SeattleRexx 1 year ago
freaking awesome, by far the best one. but, we need to get these to the airwaves whether it be radio or television. believe it or not, but not everyone has free and open access to the internet. some are not out and do not feel comfortable visiting LGBTQ sites for fear of discovery.
brew2431 1 year ago 2
Thank you Josh - I tried to focus but your too damn gorgeous but on a serious note, thank you so much for posting!!!
ChefKazzey 1 year ago
Fantastic video! Bravo!! Every kid should watch this!
TheCBGBoy 1 year ago
beautiful message. thank you for this. we need more people like you acknowledging ambiguity -- and how it can be a beautiful thing to nestle in the grey areas.
wonderoutloud 1 year ago
I think these kids honestly believe in their hearts that there is no hope. When it is your family, your school, your peers, your church...you feel like your "story" is unique....and it is. Everyone's situation is different. (which is why I would NEVER urge someone to "come out"....only THEY know what this may cause and if they can handle it) It does get better for most...obviously not for all. Everything in life comes from love...or from fear. Without having "someone/anyone" they are so afraid.
yescandles 1 year ago
I've truly never felt so at peace with myself before in my entire life and I have you to thank.I don't feel like I fit into any sexual orientation label and I felt really alone because of it, I'm used to my nice tidy labels that make me feel like I belong somewhere but your simple reminder that everyone has felt this way and that I need to just join the f-ing club gave me such a feeling of relief knowing that I'm not alone. Thank you so much. You'll never understand how much this has helped me.
bethanatorrrr 1 year ago 3
Thank you so much for this. I think the "It gets better" project is such an inspired idea and the contributions truly will make a difference. I really wish this had been around when I was a teen and I could have shortened the switch from "odd, geeky, picked-on-every-day-of-my-life kid" to being OK with myself (which is much of the time) by about 15 years. Who knows: someday, even I might figure out who I'm supposed to be. Thanks for helping.
EnfinLePlan 1 year ago
This couldn't be any more true than I've heard in my life. It's good to hear about this 'blank space' that one may not be able to subscribe to a certain sexuality because I myself feel exactly this way.
Thanks for the video josh, and love your accent.
MSFC94 1 year ago
Hey Josh, I love your message about not fitting into any category, being a 52 yo woman the world seems to view me as asexual and I have fallen into accepting that for myself despite having had relationships with women and men. It is nice to hear that I am not alone and look forward to the day when the labels are all gone.
vlrandrew1 1 year ago 3
Lovely message and it doesn't hurt that you are way hot with a sexy voice and accent! :)
ddog5858 1 year ago
I love your video and what you had to say. Hope your friend is ok.
mydoggie01 1 year ago
Wait.... he said 2.3 kids???
MrEaglesfan2012 1 year ago
At first when I saw the title I thought you were gonna say you're asexual, like me. I did not know where I fit until late in life that I did not feel attraction for either sex outside of friendships. Terrible oppression, depression, and thoughts of suicide. I went through life not fitting in until I found a group of people like me. WHat did I do? I joined the fucking club, or in my case, the non fucking club. I found AVEN. LIFE GOT BETTER!!! And now I live and love life. Great vid!!!
bibbeny 1 year ago
Hey, this is Josh from the video. Thanks for the comments and thumbs ups, guys. You've made this very rewarding. If ya dig me then subscribe to my podcast at fascinatingcrap dotcom (Dan Savage is an upcoming guest), follow my tweets ("joshzepps"), friend me on Facebook with a brief message that you saw me here (also joshzepps) and/or subscribe to very infrequent email alerts at joshzepps dotcom slash subscribe. Thanks again!
apungentbreeze 1 year ago 2
Great Advice Josh. I hope your friend is doing better in the days to come. As someone who grew up much the way you described yourself doing and in South Texas, it makes me happy that people like yourself are taking the moment to speak up and help reach people that are feeling weighted and struggling in the ocean of confusion.
BLACKSUNR1SE 1 year ago
Nice work Josh :)
bearnuckle 1 year ago
Wonderful speech and a pleasure to look at :)
shallowmic 1 year ago
My favorite line: "If you aren't sure who you are, and you feel like you're being oppressed....if the categories don't quite feel right and you feel like you're completely alone, join the f*#$in club because in reality everyone feels that way...even the people who are picking on you, even the people who look like they've got it sorted out feel alone in some little corner of their soul, deep down." You are so right: IT GETS BETTER!
RipplesGuy 1 year ago 40
@RipplesGuy it's not that easy. This is the perfect example of how we think people should resolve the problem. Not all of them are outgoing or in the position of taking charge of any decision making. Why? well, because they are devastated. We keep seeing this problem from our comfortable zone or point of view.
wokker 1 year ago
@RipplesGuy lol i read this comment before i heard that part. and i read it as join the " fucking" club. lmao. and i was like, that's kinda genius.
kukuluku1 1 year ago
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@RipplesGuy It will never get better ! Ban gay marriage now ! Vote the Bible in 2012 !
GrandInquisitor7 8 months ago
great video Josh. short, concise and to the point! and of course the Australian accent doesnt hurt anything ;)
astrolabe1976 1 year ago