I definitely agree that the gay community has become very superficial and a lot is based on appearances. You to have a six pack and wear tight t-shirts. And usually (not always) men are out for sex and not love. However, I will say that this trend is not only seen in the gay community. People have groups of friends based on looks and is very exclusive. And one night stands are becoming more and more common in straight clubs. So I think it's something we have to deal with as a society as a whole.
you are so right, I as you do love sex, but found that most guys now days put that in front of the line. It seems like now I am sexier than before, but i find harder to be able to have a good relationship, where there is a balance between love, sex, been mature and having a PARTNER, that will really share all in your live.... I love your comments and your spirit...! xoxo
I agree 500% with everything you said, and also the other comments on here. Looks matter to me at the same time that I regret how superficial and unsupportive our community is. We need to stop getting caught up in our divisions and petty sexual politics, and instead wake up, be kinder to one another, and better organise politically. But how? What can we do to change this? How can we transform our community? Any ideas?
all this superficiality is a pretty sad thing. it actually scares me quite a lot bcos i have huge insecurities. daftool is right in saying that this is how the world is, but it shouldn't be like that. it's true, men ARE very much so visual people, and i don't know what can be done to change that :-(
There are a lot of issues at play here. Men are incredibly visual creatures, straight or gay. Women are forced to go through hoops to try to stay appealing to the men in their lives, and now gay men are being forced through many of the same hoops. I'm not saying that any of this is right; I'm just saying that's the way it is. Our society is becoming increasingly obsessed with appearance, youth, vitality, and money-making potential.
Women tend to be more forgiving about a man's looks, because they have the maturity to look beyond waistlines & hairlines. There are gay men out there that also have their priorities in order, you just have to know where to look for them. While some "twinks" can be superficial & vain, you'll find other gay men who are more rooted in the real world. In my local gay bar, these two groups often segregate themselves from each other. I'm not saying that's good either; just the way it is.
If the men you find yourself being surrounded by aren't reflecting the values you think are the most important, then perhaps you should keep on the lookout for a more supportive community. There are compassionate & understanding gay men out there; they just may be more difficult to find in our society's present superficial environment. Keep your dignity about yourself & remain hopeful. Stay active in your community. Utilize the internet. Expand your support network of friends.
hey ive seen you around the schoolio. i agree though there is alot of vanity, but im not going to lie, i have a feeling its not just in the gay world. i think we separate ourselves to much from straight men. we do alot of the same stuff. but alas it doesn't mean that it should be bad like that haha. anyways hope the boys be nicer haha ^_^ ttys :D
You're adorable. Ironic, huh.
supatween 2 years ago
I definitely agree that the gay community has become very superficial and a lot is based on appearances. You to have a six pack and wear tight t-shirts. And usually (not always) men are out for sex and not love. However, I will say that this trend is not only seen in the gay community. People have groups of friends based on looks and is very exclusive. And one night stands are becoming more and more common in straight clubs. So I think it's something we have to deal with as a society as a whole.
velocity246 2 years ago
you are so right, I as you do love sex, but found that most guys now days put that in front of the line. It seems like now I am sexier than before, but i find harder to be able to have a good relationship, where there is a balance between love, sex, been mature and having a PARTNER, that will really share all in your live.... I love your comments and your spirit...! xoxo
ramcy67 2 years ago
I agree 500% with everything you said, and also the other comments on here. Looks matter to me at the same time that I regret how superficial and unsupportive our community is. We need to stop getting caught up in our divisions and petty sexual politics, and instead wake up, be kinder to one another, and better organise politically. But how? What can we do to change this? How can we transform our community? Any ideas?
livinginlux 4 years ago
all this superficiality is a pretty sad thing. it actually scares me quite a lot bcos i have huge insecurities. daftool is right in saying that this is how the world is, but it shouldn't be like that. it's true, men ARE very much so visual people, and i don't know what can be done to change that :-(
Sikosm 4 years ago 2
There are a lot of issues at play here. Men are incredibly visual creatures, straight or gay. Women are forced to go through hoops to try to stay appealing to the men in their lives, and now gay men are being forced through many of the same hoops. I'm not saying that any of this is right; I'm just saying that's the way it is. Our society is becoming increasingly obsessed with appearance, youth, vitality, and money-making potential.
dafttool 4 years ago 5
Women tend to be more forgiving about a man's looks, because they have the maturity to look beyond waistlines & hairlines. There are gay men out there that also have their priorities in order, you just have to know where to look for them. While some "twinks" can be superficial & vain, you'll find other gay men who are more rooted in the real world. In my local gay bar, these two groups often segregate themselves from each other. I'm not saying that's good either; just the way it is.
dafttool 4 years ago 3
If the men you find yourself being surrounded by aren't reflecting the values you think are the most important, then perhaps you should keep on the lookout for a more supportive community. There are compassionate & understanding gay men out there; they just may be more difficult to find in our society's present superficial environment. Keep your dignity about yourself & remain hopeful. Stay active in your community. Utilize the internet. Expand your support network of friends.
dafttool 4 years ago 3
All very well said, dafttool.
Perroquet51 4 years ago 4
hey ive seen you around the schoolio. i agree though there is alot of vanity, but im not going to lie, i have a feeling its not just in the gay world. i think we separate ourselves to much from straight men. we do alot of the same stuff. but alas it doesn't mean that it should be bad like that haha. anyways hope the boys be nicer haha ^_^ ttys :D
blackhamster39 4 years ago 3