Were you ever formally diagnosed with Asperger's? If not, how do you know beyond doubt that you have it? I'm wondering because I strongly suspect that I have a mild case of it, but I can't positively identify myself as an "Aspie". I have many classic symptoms (terrible face recognition; low tolerance for pressure; trouble with dating and females in general; need to be alone; aversion to touching people or being touched, etc).
@ejdf870 I was, when I was 16. I always recommend being tested properly - by both a psychiatrist and psychologist (preferably one specialized in autism spectrum disorders).
@TheAnMish Oh, I see. I have been going to psychiatrists for years, and none of them even mentioned "Asperger's". I actually learned about this condition on my own only a few months ago. However, I never went to a psychiatrist who specialized in autism disorders. I live in New York, and believe it or not, I have never seen such a sub-specialty when looking for a doctor.
@ejdf870 You usually have to search specifically for them.. they don't keep themselves listed the same way, because they only want clients that have to do with ASD.
Asperger Syndrome is a neurobiological disorder on the higher-functioning end of the autism spectrum. An individual's symptoms can range from mild to severe.
Their IQ's are typically in the normal to very superior range. They are usually educated in the mainstream, but most require special education services.
Because of their naivete, those with AS are often viewed by their peers as "odd" and are frequently a target for bullying and teasing.
when you say a person can "work" at being better socially. what do you think that looks like? because i feel like over the years i learned a lot about how to behave around people even when i feel awkward or don't understand the context. and like you i have learned how to sort of appear normal in what i say and stuff. but it doesn't mean i really am connecting with them. what advice would you give about how to work on social skills?
The worst part about having Asperger's is you're not autistic but you're not "normal" either, so people don't know what to do with you and you just end up by the side of the road while they party.
See at my work, being an aspie is a challenge but they expect me to do everything that everyone else can very well. Whereas there's a special needs employee who has constant job coaches with him, he might be autistic(i only suspect). His accommodation are HUGE whereas even when I disclosed to my employer, I barely had any. Thankfully I got much better on the job so now I'm fine. like u said, they think we're almost normal so we gotta be normal whereas the expectations are low for my co-worker
@TheAnMish, I'm glad that you make some exceptions. I believe that my social skills have improved slightly ( as evidenced by the fact that I have been able to hold down a steady job for more than 4 years ). BTW, Asperger's is pronounced with a hard G ( as in 'Get' ). The common error is to pronounce it with a soft G ( as in 'Germ' ). I know I'm being pedantic, but that's not such a bad thing, because that means that I'm less likely to settle for mediocrity than the average person.
@NoIslam4me It's a common misconception that aspies are incapable of having long term relationships and friendships. However common though, it is still a misconception.
Aspies can be very good friends, both to each other and to NT's. And they can be this for any length of time, whether it be a week, a month or 60 years.
@TheAnMish Can you think of any high scorer in the standard IQ test that manage long term relationships. Many who get such high scores are in some way AS, even if undiagnosed.
@Myrtone Well, my boyfriend scored 157 on the test, so yes, I can think of one. He has some strong characteristics of AS, but I have no doubt he would not be diagnosed.
@TheAnMish "He has some strong characteristics of AS, but I have no doubt he would not be diagnosed." This is basically the sort of thing I mean, these peolpe are so high functioning that they just pass out as normal in the enviroment in which they raised.
@Myrtone But he also has strong characteristics that he is not AS, which is why he def. would not be diagnosed. For example, he is extremely good at playing the social game, very good at spotting manipulation, very good at subtly steering a conversation, he also doesn't seem to have a special interest (not that you need one to be AS, but it's a major characteristic generally speaking). He has virtually no anxiety or stress that I know of (and after 6 years I should know) and the list goes on.
@TheAnMish But you had such a hard time convincing people that you have it. You say you have it and you know how you feel, I aknowledge that, but I'd say it's only a small part of who you are, would you say it's only a small part of how you feel.
@Myrtone I would say that having asperger's affects almost every part of a person's life. The emotions are included in that.
However, as with anything else, when you get to a certain point in dealing with things, when they no longer pose a problem on a daily basis, it seems to be a much smaller part.
I don't know if I understood your question correctly, though..
@TheAnMish Well on that basis any strong AS characteristics are going to affect a person's life in some way or another.
Counterintuative as it may be even I don't know whether you understood the question correctly.
Have you ever found a list of famous people with AS characteristics? Many of the suspected ones tend not to be seen as having anything wrong with them, only as eccentric and different.
@TheAnMish So what about his face recognition. If that's below average, I'm under the impression that he is better than you at acting normal and having done so from an earlier age has hindered him from getting diagnosed with AS.
my question is, is AS classed as a disability because we have social problems or because sci-tests took a selection of behaviors from a small minority of people and decided that because they think and act differently in a way that the majority of folks don,t understand that we must have a disability and be labeled as a stupid person, when in actually fact we,ve never had a social disability just a difference that people call a disability because they don,t understand it
@william52905 I think its the same with schizophrenics too. Were given the impression they're all insane, but I think they have different patterns that they filter reality through. There's less of a barrier between the subconscious and conscious for them, so they have greater intuition about things, and I think that's truly why the establishment wants to lock them up, medicate them into a passive stupor, and treat them like they're defective units.
Every personality type can take its destructive form. Really the definition of an NT really fits the personality traits of most businessmen and politicians. The leaders have defined what's normal. However, its not like they aren't lying to people, stealing from people, and killing them. So, i don't really see how the establishment has room to judge me as an introverted personality type and label me as having some high functioning disorder or syndrome. The psychosis of extroverts is narcissism.
Please let me know what you know about the gluten diet b/c I am gluten intolerant and never got to see that video. I would LOVE to know if there is a correlation!
@TheAnMish Ah ok, I just heard in this video that you said that you deleted a video related to gluten and AS so I thought you meant was a correlation :P
I like the "aus-purr-jers" pronounciation best (same rhythm as 'ostriches'). Even if it is incorrect. I don't think encouraging "ass-purgers" should be allowed to continue - the joke is so banal at this point it's painful.
Hey TheAnMish. I would love it if you could help me answering a question.
I also have to be shown all the steps when explained to do something. I sort of pause and get stuck with something that was said in the beginning of the conversation and cannot continue to follow. I thought it was a phase but it just does not go away.
I always want to be practicing my piano playing monotonously. Is this Aspergers I have you think?
@time2learnnow I really wouldn't be able to say. It takes months to test someone properly. If you think you have it, start by watching some videos about it, see if you recognize a lot of the things that are said - doesn't have to be all though - and if you do, you may want to consider being tested.
It's also a good idea to read a few books - Tony Attwood is one of the better writers, in my opinion.
Aspergers and Autism is the same thing, Aspergers is simply a form of autism differing from say Kanners Syndrome. A bit like UK and England, UK = Autism, England = Aspergers , Scotland = Kanners Syndrome, Whales = Retts etc. yes world politcs is rapidly becoming one of my special interests lol
Wow, this video actually helped me understand abit more about my autism/aspergers. When I was a small child I didn't have any social skills at all, I couldn't speak. At a certain age I began to improve rappidly, yet I'm still classed as just having 'autism'. Because of that my teachers at school think I can't do well, so my predicted grades are F's and G's. In actual fact the grades that I've been getting are B's and the lowest C. I might have a word with the autism specialist at my school.
@tess0444 Study. Learn. Keep an open mind, and try to help when asked. Don't force normality, but also try to encourage him/her to learn how to make a good life for him/herself in this world of NT's. Try to stay calm, and respect it when he/she needs some space.
That's all very general and idiological I guess, but as far as general advice goes, it's the best I got :)
The wrost thing for me is that when I'm at work people will be joking with me. I can never pick up on the jokes or if they are telling the truth or not. So instead of just telling me they just keep on with the joke until I get really mad. I just want them to stop with the joking and understand that I'm not going to get it. I explain it to them ever time and it still does not help.
Listen you don't have it right??? You are social and therefore that goes against Autism for a start off. I am sick of these fake waster aspies especially women that go on youtube for sympathy.
@chemerblinker If you knew anything about autism, you would know that it is not the same as AS. Also, aspies -are- social. Not always good at it, but they generally want to and try.
And as to me "not having it", I would tell you to take that one with my psychologist, but I doubt you'd be smart enough to listen. She's a woman after all.
Yeah.. I was rude just there. Stop bitching at people, eh?
@chemerblinker To be fair, you dont have to not have any social skills to be autistic maybe if its kanners autism but for AS autism, you can be autistic and social....
I enjoy your videos and agree with most of what you say, but the work issue can be complicated. Many aspies also have comorbid conditions that can really do a number on their ability to work, depending on how severe they are. Along with AS I have very severe OCD and bipolar disorder, and have lost eight jobs because of the combination.
Aspergers can't become somewhat normal - can't do things right - not good enough... Why don't you just shut the f up doctor expert.....
Im an Aspie.... No-one notices until i tell them I am - because socially im totally normal functioning - i have not all ways been like that - but I learned it by being social.
hmm good video, i have a couple of questions though. and ill come out and say it. you are an attractive girl, and really smart too. i was wondering if you get any unwanted attention from men, and if you do, then how do you deal with it? im guessing picking up on flirting can be a pain sometimes. i struggle with that.
@Griffin9857 I do, yes. Lots. Over time, I get better at just ignoring it, but when I was younger (and undiagnosed) I couldn't read people's intentions at all, and was very socially naive because of that. It certainly brought some trouble.
@SpashleyForever93 I think boys get diagnosed more often, as it seems that girls are "better" at hiding it.
Making friends? Don't try to force it. If you find a person you want to know better, relax, take things nice and slow, and ask them about themselves. Although, don't get too personal for the first while.
You may want to study body language, intonation, facial expressions and so on. It helps when you've got some basic knowledge on that. :)
I am struggling with the use of the word "normal" a bit. My daughter is 8, and has been diagnosed with Asperger's. She is the most beautiful human being I know, sensitive and subtle in incredible ways. She is also incredibly intelligent. This is "atypical"? Ok. I WANT atypical. I LOVE atypical. I don't want her to change one iota. I focus on transferring to her the skills she needs to deal with the "typical" and with the "typical" world.
Scene: I'm waiting to be service in a shop. There's a loud, low hum coming from a refridgerated cake display. I mention it to the person serving me: "I can't hear anything," she says ... "It must be in your head." A friend of mine who also hears these sounds accurately described them as "Attacking your head." That's just what it's like. Is ANYONE else bothered by the LOUD (for me) humming in this video? Can you hear it?
@TheAnMish with most people's hearing the brain reduces the volume of these low sounds (the sound here is about 55hz) and they become an often pleasant accompanyment of speech level sounda and are frequently not noticed until they are pointed out (or not consciously heard at all ... but they can be felt). I also have a lazy eye ... my brain plays tricks with my vision (up to 40% of Aspies have lazy eyes). My olefactory sense is "intense" and movement and touch are also "different" for me.
The Sound of your computer is very quiet compared to mine. My computer sounds like a truck, although it is overclocked to the hilt, turbo charged and it does have eight large fans working all at the same time to keep it cool. I'm wearing noise cancelling headphones right now but I can still hear my computer. Is Hypersensitivity to hearing and the other 4 senses common in Aspies and Autistics?
I can hear it as well. What you are probably hearing is the 60HZ/50HZ noise cycle coming from the power line. This can be removed with audio software that supports the plugin.
@CadicusTheDamned Having Asperger's doesn't make someone socially retarded. Things that come naturally to NTs we have to learn (in regards to social cues and such). That doesn't make them socially retarded. If someone was dyslexic, would you say that is a sign of lack of intelligence just because it's a bit more difficult for them to read?
The way I avoid discrimination is to never let anyone know about my diagnosis. Most Neurotypicals don't have a clue what AS/Autism is, and therefore not everyone is to be trusted. I simply don't take the risk of being fucked over.
Now people don't think of me as anything other than a little bit nerdy and socially awkward at most, because they don't know of my diagnosis. :)
@TheLostDemocracy I understand. More most of the time since my diagnosis (11 years or so), the only people who knew were those who had to. I only tell someone if I feel there's a reason they should know, and that I can feel I can trust them. Honestly, I don't think that you should hide it from everybody. With one small exception, I've never regretted telling a friend about the diagnosis.
@gamelvr1 I just don't think I can. As an example, my mom had told my teacher that I had AS when I was at primary school, but my teacher had told the other teachers, who in turn told the parents of the kids, and inevitably my secret had reached the other children's ears.
@TheLostDemocracy Was it made clear to the teachers that you guys would prefer for only the faculty to know? I ask because it was made clear when I was in high school that was our wishes. So only the school faculty knew. So basically it was only a need to know basis.
@gamelvr1 We didn't want anyone to know about it of course, but things got out of hand and escalated. My teacher had told the other teachers in good intent, but the other teachers didn't know how awkward this situation really was for me, and I guess they forgot about keeping this as private as possible. It's a terrible shame things happened this way, but I survived.
@TheLostDemocracy I'm truly sorry that happened. It's pretty messed up. I'm of the belief that growing up, only the people who truly need to know should be automatically told (parents of peers and said peers not included). Otherwise it should be person and their family (at least when the child is young) discretion. I personally think you'd be making a mistake by keeping it secret from everybody. It's totally up to you of course. I wish you luck in whatever you choose to do.
@gamelvr1 Well, I thank you for taking the time to read my little story, and for wishing me good luck. If I find someone that I trust (or perhaps 'someone special'), I might tell him/her. So I will consider it.
I went to a psychologist and she said that she doesn't give a diagnosis becouse the issue (for example depression) may not last forever and by doing it she will be labeling me, making me live acconding to that diagnosis. What is your opinion? Shoud I look for another psychologist? I didn't say anything to her that I think I have AS.
@animalinstintivo It depends. I have the diagnosis "depression", but it seems that really, it should be "depressive cycle". See, I don't have one depression. I have two small ones every year, and sometimes one of them turns into a bad one, which then lasts a long long time.
If you have one depression, then having the diagnosis -can- be irrelevant or even a bad thing. Unless of course you need anti-depressants.
I would agree with AnMish: it depends. Having a diagnosis can be a really good thing. If you are struggling in school and/or financially because of your disability, there can be supports in place to help you. Look into another psychologist if your disability is putting a strain on your life.
@Satanos777 It can be a bad thing too, before this diagnostic category existed, many AS type people would not have even be thought of as having any special psychological condition, they were simple seen as gifted, to see my point check out Famous people with autistic traits.
Within a minute or so into this my attention becomes totally focussed on the humming and I lose the sense of what you're saying ... you become just "words and phrases". My visual attention heightens and you become an animated face emitting words and phrases. If at the end you were to ask me what you were talking about I'd say "I haven't a clue" ... the hum "blocked out" the meaning.
About picturing steps memory, (not as photographic memory). I have the same experience as a child. Adults always wondered and asked me why I asked the same questions or instructions so many times. (Because I get the whole "picture" after they explain in many different ways). I realized this problem, and started a habit of carrying a pocket-sized notebook with me all the time. People assume I'm taking notes, but I'm actually writing down everything that's bothering me so I can asked them later.
I find that with social skills they can be learnt to a degree but it seems that any time then away from social activity then means having to relearn these skills, like they never really 'stick'? I think I remember you mentioning ADD in a previous video and I was wondering if you would mind talking more about that, particularly if you received any treatment as I was recently diagnosed with ADHD(I) as a co-morbid with Aspergers.
I know a youtuber named @shanejensen that has this syndrom. I noticed he gets very aggresive and lashes out. He has even made death threats against me.
@TheAnMish why did you say it like that? I would love to take someone as cute and nice as you on a date. I have a pretty strong accent so not a lot of girls like me. I also get teased by people and that makes me sad. i stood up to a pedo on here and now pretty much I get attacked daily.
I have a lot of problem sorting out verbal instructions in my head aswell. You made a good point in having to see while hearing complex things. That seems to fit on me aswell. ( <- aspie ). Aslo, eye contact can throw me off a conversation, making me forget what's been said. Listening to 2 people talk to each other makes me very tired, and sometimes I need to go to bed and sleep a few hours afterwards. Too few characters allowed here to really say anything coherent.
yay for long term friendships! :-) I think you are one of the oldest friends I have as well. You and the Anne-Clan -- only friends ive kept for more than a couple of years! (wow that makes me sound sad.....)
Having a social life is a real struggle. For me, my commitment varies and some people (non-AS) don't deal with that very well. Right now I'm willing to make an effort, I just hope I will accomplish something before I loose interest again :)
As for using it as an excuse. I mostly use it too fool around a bit, and to make people aware of some strange needs (like always wanting to sit in a specific chair/location)
Always try to improve though, even for non-AS it's something to strive for.
Do you stim?
goblin1005 3 days ago
Were you ever formally diagnosed with Asperger's? If not, how do you know beyond doubt that you have it? I'm wondering because I strongly suspect that I have a mild case of it, but I can't positively identify myself as an "Aspie". I have many classic symptoms (terrible face recognition; low tolerance for pressure; trouble with dating and females in general; need to be alone; aversion to touching people or being touched, etc).
ejdf870 1 week ago
@ejdf870 I was, when I was 16. I always recommend being tested properly - by both a psychiatrist and psychologist (preferably one specialized in autism spectrum disorders).
TheAnMish 1 week ago
@TheAnMish Oh, I see. I have been going to psychiatrists for years, and none of them even mentioned "Asperger's". I actually learned about this condition on my own only a few months ago. However, I never went to a psychiatrist who specialized in autism disorders. I live in New York, and believe it or not, I have never seen such a sub-specialty when looking for a doctor.
ejdf870 1 week ago
@ejdf870 You usually have to search specifically for them.. they don't keep themselves listed the same way, because they only want clients that have to do with ASD.
TheAnMish 1 week ago
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Asperger Syndrome is a neurobiological disorder on the higher-functioning end of the autism spectrum. An individual's symptoms can range from mild to severe.
Their IQ's are typically in the normal to very superior range. They are usually educated in the mainstream, but most require special education services.
Because of their naivete, those with AS are often viewed by their peers as "odd" and are frequently a target for bullying and teasing.
gayandpeace 1 week ago
Higher expectations, yes. That's it. It sucks. So glad someone understands this. You have been a blessing.
jls0037cslewis1 3 weeks ago
Thank you for posting these. I have not been diagnosed but I do relate to most of what you have said.
JamesKlawon 1 month ago
when you say a person can "work" at being better socially. what do you think that looks like? because i feel like over the years i learned a lot about how to behave around people even when i feel awkward or don't understand the context. and like you i have learned how to sort of appear normal in what i say and stuff. but it doesn't mean i really am connecting with them. what advice would you give about how to work on social skills?
KerenChen 1 month ago
We aspies deserve better, we gave neural typicals so much like E=mc2
TallandAsian89 1 month ago
why are autistics beautiful?
darrenpage2 2 months ago
Why do you always have to cry and whine? It's just so annoying to listen to.
TheKamikazeen 2 months ago
@TheKamikazeen If you find me annoying, then simply don't watch my videos.. it's easy really.
TheAnMish 2 months ago 10
The worst part about having Asperger's is you're not autistic but you're not "normal" either, so people don't know what to do with you and you just end up by the side of the road while they party.
owlcu 2 months ago
@owlcu:Aspergers is a rare form of autism.
INDLIS 2 months ago
i have Aspergers and your videos help me a lot
escoguy760 3 months ago
I didn't have a psyciatrist until I was 15 although I was first given Ritalin at age 11.
INDLIS 2 months ago
See at my work, being an aspie is a challenge but they expect me to do everything that everyone else can very well. Whereas there's a special needs employee who has constant job coaches with him, he might be autistic(i only suspect). His accommodation are HUGE whereas even when I disclosed to my employer, I barely had any. Thankfully I got much better on the job so now I'm fine. like u said, they think we're almost normal so we gotta be normal whereas the expectations are low for my co-worker
lindseywong919 3 months ago
@TheAnMish, I'm glad that you make some exceptions. I believe that my social skills have improved slightly ( as evidenced by the fact that I have been able to hold down a steady job for more than 4 years ). BTW, Asperger's is pronounced with a hard G ( as in 'Get' ). The common error is to pronounce it with a soft G ( as in 'Germ' ). I know I'm being pedantic, but that's not such a bad thing, because that means that I'm less likely to settle for mediocrity than the average person.
AspergianSaint 4 months ago
so beautiful.. :)
twi11ght 4 months ago
If you have long term friendships you should doubt the diagnosis of AS
NoIslam4me 5 months ago
@NoIslam4me It's a common misconception that aspies are incapable of having long term relationships and friendships. However common though, it is still a misconception.
Aspies can be very good friends, both to each other and to NT's. And they can be this for any length of time, whether it be a week, a month or 60 years.
TheAnMish 5 months ago 11
@TheAnMish Thanks.
NoIslam4me 5 months ago
@TheAnMish Can you think of any high scorer in the standard IQ test that manage long term relationships. Many who get such high scores are in some way AS, even if undiagnosed.
Myrtone 2 months ago
@Myrtone Well, my boyfriend scored 157 on the test, so yes, I can think of one. He has some strong characteristics of AS, but I have no doubt he would not be diagnosed.
I don't know others where I know their score.
TheAnMish 2 months ago
@TheAnMish "He has some strong characteristics of AS, but I have no doubt he would not be diagnosed." This is basically the sort of thing I mean, these peolpe are so high functioning that they just pass out as normal in the enviroment in which they raised.
Myrtone 2 months ago
@Myrtone But he also has strong characteristics that he is not AS, which is why he def. would not be diagnosed. For example, he is extremely good at playing the social game, very good at spotting manipulation, very good at subtly steering a conversation, he also doesn't seem to have a special interest (not that you need one to be AS, but it's a major characteristic generally speaking). He has virtually no anxiety or stress that I know of (and after 6 years I should know) and the list goes on.
TheAnMish 2 months ago
@TheAnMish But you had such a hard time convincing people that you have it. You say you have it and you know how you feel, I aknowledge that, but I'd say it's only a small part of who you are, would you say it's only a small part of how you feel.
Myrtone 1 month ago
@Myrtone I would say that having asperger's affects almost every part of a person's life. The emotions are included in that.
However, as with anything else, when you get to a certain point in dealing with things, when they no longer pose a problem on a daily basis, it seems to be a much smaller part.
I don't know if I understood your question correctly, though..
TheAnMish 1 month ago
@TheAnMish Well on that basis any strong AS characteristics are going to affect a person's life in some way or another.
Counterintuative as it may be even I don't know whether you understood the question correctly.
Have you ever found a list of famous people with AS characteristics? Many of the suspected ones tend not to be seen as having anything wrong with them, only as eccentric and different.
Myrtone 1 month ago
@TheAnMish So what about his face recognition. If that's below average, I'm under the impression that he is better than you at acting normal and having done so from an earlier age has hindered him from getting diagnosed with AS.
Myrtone 3 weeks ago
my question is, is AS classed as a disability because we have social problems or because sci-tests took a selection of behaviors from a small minority of people and decided that because they think and act differently in a way that the majority of folks don,t understand that we must have a disability and be labeled as a stupid person, when in actually fact we,ve never had a social disability just a difference that people call a disability because they don,t understand it
william52905 5 months ago 2
@william52905 That's what I've been thinking lately.;
JNathanK2011 5 months ago
@JNathanK2011 really wow i,ve wondered about this a lot recently
william52905 5 months ago
@william52905 I think its the same with schizophrenics too. Were given the impression they're all insane, but I think they have different patterns that they filter reality through. There's less of a barrier between the subconscious and conscious for them, so they have greater intuition about things, and I think that's truly why the establishment wants to lock them up, medicate them into a passive stupor, and treat them like they're defective units.
JNathanK2011 5 months ago
Every personality type can take its destructive form. Really the definition of an NT really fits the personality traits of most businessmen and politicians. The leaders have defined what's normal. However, its not like they aren't lying to people, stealing from people, and killing them. So, i don't really see how the establishment has room to judge me as an introverted personality type and label me as having some high functioning disorder or syndrome. The psychosis of extroverts is narcissism.
JNathanK2011 5 months ago
@JNathanK2011 Well said!
somotastic21 3 months ago
Please let me know what you know about the gluten diet b/c I am gluten intolerant and never got to see that video. I would LOVE to know if there is a correlation!
schtickl 7 months ago
@schtickl If you are intolerant of gluten, then you should do your best not to eat it.
But in those who are not gluten intolerant, I've seen and heard no evidence that it should affect the symptoms of AS.
TheAnMish 7 months ago
@TheAnMish Ah ok, I just heard in this video that you said that you deleted a video related to gluten and AS so I thought you meant was a correlation :P
schtickl 6 months ago
"A little worse"
I lost all my friends and failed my postgraduate university year due to the depression I went through after being diagnosed.
Lol
mtbers 8 months ago
I like the "aus-purr-jers" pronounciation best (same rhythm as 'ostriches'). Even if it is incorrect. I don't think encouraging "ass-purgers" should be allowed to continue - the joke is so banal at this point it's painful.
abyssquick 9 months ago
Hey TheAnMish. I would love it if you could help me answering a question.
I also have to be shown all the steps when explained to do something. I sort of pause and get stuck with something that was said in the beginning of the conversation and cannot continue to follow. I thought it was a phase but it just does not go away.
I always want to be practicing my piano playing monotonously. Is this Aspergers I have you think?
time2learnnow 10 months ago
@time2learnnow I really wouldn't be able to say. It takes months to test someone properly. If you think you have it, start by watching some videos about it, see if you recognize a lot of the things that are said - doesn't have to be all though - and if you do, you may want to consider being tested.
It's also a good idea to read a few books - Tony Attwood is one of the better writers, in my opinion.
I hope this helps.
TheAnMish 10 months ago
@TheAnMish Thank you very much. sorry for the late reply though. I'll try Tony Attwood's books.
time2learnnow 9 months ago
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krstcmjns 1 year ago
Aspergers and Autism is the same thing, Aspergers is simply a form of autism differing from say Kanners Syndrome. A bit like UK and England, UK = Autism, England = Aspergers , Scotland = Kanners Syndrome, Whales = Retts etc. yes world politcs is rapidly becoming one of my special interests lol
TheSchemer1 1 year ago
Wow, this video actually helped me understand abit more about my autism/aspergers. When I was a small child I didn't have any social skills at all, I couldn't speak. At a certain age I began to improve rappidly, yet I'm still classed as just having 'autism'. Because of that my teachers at school think I can't do well, so my predicted grades are F's and G's. In actual fact the grades that I've been getting are B's and the lowest C. I might have a word with the autism specialist at my school.
shannon13lol5705 1 year ago
What advice do you have for the family and friends of aspies?
tess0444 1 year ago
@tess0444 Study. Learn. Keep an open mind, and try to help when asked. Don't force normality, but also try to encourage him/her to learn how to make a good life for him/herself in this world of NT's. Try to stay calm, and respect it when he/she needs some space.
That's all very general and idiological I guess, but as far as general advice goes, it's the best I got :)
TheAnMish 1 year ago
The wrost thing for me is that when I'm at work people will be joking with me. I can never pick up on the jokes or if they are telling the truth or not. So instead of just telling me they just keep on with the joke until I get really mad. I just want them to stop with the joking and understand that I'm not going to get it. I explain it to them ever time and it still does not help.
Epica124 1 year ago
I really enjoy your videos and I adore listening to your voice, it's so soothing. : )
CuriosityRocks 1 year ago
Listen you don't have it right??? You are social and therefore that goes against Autism for a start off. I am sick of these fake waster aspies especially women that go on youtube for sympathy.
chemerblinker 1 year ago
@chemerblinker If you knew anything about autism, you would know that it is not the same as AS. Also, aspies -are- social. Not always good at it, but they generally want to and try.
And as to me "not having it", I would tell you to take that one with my psychologist, but I doubt you'd be smart enough to listen. She's a woman after all.
Yeah.. I was rude just there. Stop bitching at people, eh?
Have a nice day.
TheAnMish 1 year ago
@chemerblinker To be fair, you dont have to not have any social skills to be autistic maybe if its kanners autism but for AS autism, you can be autistic and social....
TheSchemer1 11 months ago
@chemerblinker le trollin
ElleEstVivante 8 months ago
i think i have it 2
hazemmmmm 1 year ago
I think it's 10x easier for a women like this who's Autistic to get friends then your typical Aspie.
JigglesJingle 1 year ago
@JigglesJingle lol she just is not an aspie at all
chemerblinker 1 year ago
I enjoy your videos and agree with most of what you say, but the work issue can be complicated. Many aspies also have comorbid conditions that can really do a number on their ability to work, depending on how severe they are. Along with AS I have very severe OCD and bipolar disorder, and have lost eight jobs because of the combination.
ParadoxIncarnate 1 year ago
Yeah,I fall into the category of High Functioning Autism going into Aspergers
TelePaulCaster 1 year ago
Aspergers can't become somewhat normal - can't do things right - not good enough... Why don't you just shut the f up doctor expert.....
Im an Aspie.... No-one notices until i tell them I am - because socially im totally normal functioning - i have not all ways been like that - but I learned it by being social.
TheAbisgu 1 year ago
hmm good video, i have a couple of questions though. and ill come out and say it. you are an attractive girl, and really smart too. i was wondering if you get any unwanted attention from men, and if you do, then how do you deal with it? im guessing picking up on flirting can be a pain sometimes. i struggle with that.
Griffin9857 1 year ago
@Griffin9857 I do, yes. Lots. Over time, I get better at just ignoring it, but when I was younger (and undiagnosed) I couldn't read people's intentions at all, and was very socially naive because of that. It certainly brought some trouble.
TheAnMish 1 year ago
I have aspergers and i was wondering do you think there are more boys with as then girls and whats a good way to make friends
SpashleyForever93 1 year ago
@SpashleyForever93 I think boys get diagnosed more often, as it seems that girls are "better" at hiding it.
Making friends? Don't try to force it. If you find a person you want to know better, relax, take things nice and slow, and ask them about themselves. Although, don't get too personal for the first while.
You may want to study body language, intonation, facial expressions and so on. It helps when you've got some basic knowledge on that. :)
TheAnMish 1 year ago
I am struggling with the use of the word "normal" a bit. My daughter is 8, and has been diagnosed with Asperger's. She is the most beautiful human being I know, sensitive and subtle in incredible ways. She is also incredibly intelligent. This is "atypical"? Ok. I WANT atypical. I LOVE atypical. I don't want her to change one iota. I focus on transferring to her the skills she needs to deal with the "typical" and with the "typical" world.
Napoleon0927 1 year ago
Oh, this whole time I just thought you were VERY timid for some reason.
MrStillmans 1 year ago
What do you personally consider to be "high-functioning"?
sleepyducksleeps 1 year ago
Correction: '... to be served ... ' (I'm a perfectionist. My silly mistakes annoy me)
newtonscat 1 year ago
Scene: I'm waiting to be service in a shop. There's a loud, low hum coming from a refridgerated cake display. I mention it to the person serving me: "I can't hear anything," she says ... "It must be in your head." A friend of mine who also hears these sounds accurately described them as "Attacking your head." That's just what it's like. Is ANYONE else bothered by the LOUD (for me) humming in this video? Can you hear it?
newtonscat 1 year ago
@newtonscat I can hear it, yes. Unfortunately I can't do anything about it. It's the sound my computer makes when it's on... it's the coolers in it.
TheAnMish 1 year ago
@TheAnMish with most people's hearing the brain reduces the volume of these low sounds (the sound here is about 55hz) and they become an often pleasant accompanyment of speech level sounda and are frequently not noticed until they are pointed out (or not consciously heard at all ... but they can be felt). I also have a lazy eye ... my brain plays tricks with my vision (up to 40% of Aspies have lazy eyes). My olefactory sense is "intense" and movement and touch are also "different" for me.
newtonscat 1 year ago
@TheAnMish
The Sound of your computer is very quiet compared to mine. My computer sounds like a truck, although it is overclocked to the hilt, turbo charged and it does have eight large fans working all at the same time to keep it cool. I'm wearing noise cancelling headphones right now but I can still hear my computer. Is Hypersensitivity to hearing and the other 4 senses common in Aspies and Autistics?
writer2036 1 year ago
@newtonscat
I can hear it as well. What you are probably hearing is the 60HZ/50HZ noise cycle coming from the power line. This can be removed with audio software that supports the plugin.
Satanos777 1 year ago
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Thanks, This helps a lot.
AureliusIX 1 year ago
Thanks, This helps a lot. :)
AureliusIX 1 year ago
So... Basically, you're socially retarded, but still have a normal intellect?
CadicusTheDamned 1 year ago
@CadicusTheDamned Having Asperger's doesn't make someone socially retarded. Things that come naturally to NTs we have to learn (in regards to social cues and such). That doesn't make them socially retarded. If someone was dyslexic, would you say that is a sign of lack of intelligence just because it's a bit more difficult for them to read?
gamelvr1 1 year ago
The way I avoid discrimination is to never let anyone know about my diagnosis. Most Neurotypicals don't have a clue what AS/Autism is, and therefore not everyone is to be trusted. I simply don't take the risk of being fucked over.
Now people don't think of me as anything other than a little bit nerdy and socially awkward at most, because they don't know of my diagnosis. :)
TheLostDemocracy 1 year ago
@TheLostDemocracy I understand. More most of the time since my diagnosis (11 years or so), the only people who knew were those who had to. I only tell someone if I feel there's a reason they should know, and that I can feel I can trust them. Honestly, I don't think that you should hide it from everybody. With one small exception, I've never regretted telling a friend about the diagnosis.
gamelvr1 1 year ago
@gamelvr1 I just don't think I can. As an example, my mom had told my teacher that I had AS when I was at primary school, but my teacher had told the other teachers, who in turn told the parents of the kids, and inevitably my secret had reached the other children's ears.
It was Hell.
TheLostDemocracy 1 year ago
@TheLostDemocracy Was it made clear to the teachers that you guys would prefer for only the faculty to know? I ask because it was made clear when I was in high school that was our wishes. So only the school faculty knew. So basically it was only a need to know basis.
gamelvr1 1 year ago
@gamelvr1 We didn't want anyone to know about it of course, but things got out of hand and escalated. My teacher had told the other teachers in good intent, but the other teachers didn't know how awkward this situation really was for me, and I guess they forgot about keeping this as private as possible. It's a terrible shame things happened this way, but I survived.
TheLostDemocracy 1 year ago
@TheLostDemocracy I'm truly sorry that happened. It's pretty messed up. I'm of the belief that growing up, only the people who truly need to know should be automatically told (parents of peers and said peers not included). Otherwise it should be person and their family (at least when the child is young) discretion. I personally think you'd be making a mistake by keeping it secret from everybody. It's totally up to you of course. I wish you luck in whatever you choose to do.
gamelvr1 1 year ago
@gamelvr1 Well, I thank you for taking the time to read my little story, and for wishing me good luck. If I find someone that I trust (or perhaps 'someone special'), I might tell him/her. So I will consider it.
Thank you yet again, and good luck!
TheLostDemocracy 1 year ago
Thank you!
stealthbadger 1 year ago
I have a question for you (I hope you include this on your next video).
What are your views on the Americans with Disabilities Act?
pjfislord 1 year ago
@pjfislord I don't think that has to do with AS but more to do with physical disabilities.
Myrtone 2 months ago
@Myrtone:Well Aspergers is a rare form of autism.
INDLIS 2 months ago
Both people I know with Asperger's Syndrome are severely impaired in terms of communication. I did not know that it was possible to improve.
imarealgamer 1 year ago
@imarealgamer it is possible, I like to think I get better and better from day to day :)
puritain1 1 year ago
I went to a psychologist and she said that she doesn't give a diagnosis becouse the issue (for example depression) may not last forever and by doing it she will be labeling me, making me live acconding to that diagnosis. What is your opinion? Shoud I look for another psychologist? I didn't say anything to her that I think I have AS.
animalinstintivo 1 year ago
@animalinstintivo It depends. I have the diagnosis "depression", but it seems that really, it should be "depressive cycle". See, I don't have one depression. I have two small ones every year, and sometimes one of them turns into a bad one, which then lasts a long long time.
If you have one depression, then having the diagnosis -can- be irrelevant or even a bad thing. Unless of course you need anti-depressants.
But really, in the end, I don't know.
TheAnMish 1 year ago
@animalinstintivo
I would agree with AnMish: it depends. Having a diagnosis can be a really good thing. If you are struggling in school and/or financially because of your disability, there can be supports in place to help you. Look into another psychologist if your disability is putting a strain on your life.
Satanos777 1 year ago
@Satanos777 It can be a bad thing too, before this diagnostic category existed, many AS type people would not have even be thought of as having any special psychological condition, they were simple seen as gifted, to see my point check out Famous people with autistic traits.
Myrtone 2 months ago
Within a minute or so into this my attention becomes totally focussed on the humming and I lose the sense of what you're saying ... you become just "words and phrases". My visual attention heightens and you become an animated face emitting words and phrases. If at the end you were to ask me what you were talking about I'd say "I haven't a clue" ... the hum "blocked out" the meaning.
newtonscat 1 year ago
About picturing steps memory, (not as photographic memory). I have the same experience as a child. Adults always wondered and asked me why I asked the same questions or instructions so many times. (Because I get the whole "picture" after they explain in many different ways). I realized this problem, and started a habit of carrying a pocket-sized notebook with me all the time. People assume I'm taking notes, but I'm actually writing down everything that's bothering me so I can asked them later.
countingtls 1 year ago
Is fear of social situations an AS trait?
Orygyn 1 year ago
What's that low humming noise? It's my experience that an awful lot of NT's can't hear noises that low ...
newtonscat 1 year ago
It's now in my favz and shared on my facebook... Great vid. I'm pondering a vid response, but still pondering... Cheers !
lexxintegra 1 year ago
You rock :)
2200ratedHunter 1 year ago
Excellent video. Thank you for taking the time to explain to us about AS and some of the situations around it.
kelliko70 1 year ago
Long live mental diversity!
eydos 1 year ago
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andrew7a 1 year ago
I find that with social skills they can be learnt to a degree but it seems that any time then away from social activity then means having to relearn these skills, like they never really 'stick'? I think I remember you mentioning ADD in a previous video and I was wondering if you would mind talking more about that, particularly if you received any treatment as I was recently diagnosed with ADHD(I) as a co-morbid with Aspergers.
andrew7a 1 year ago
I know a youtuber named @shanejensen that has this syndrom. I noticed he gets very aggresive and lashes out. He has even made death threats against me.
BagBoysBack 1 year ago
@BagBoysBack I see no reason why those two things would have any causational relationship.
TheAnMish 1 year ago
@TheAnMish Ok well you are cute.
BagBoysBack 1 year ago
@BagBoysBack Thank you, I guess :)
TheAnMish 1 year ago
@TheAnMish why did you say it like that? I would love to take someone as cute and nice as you on a date. I have a pretty strong accent so not a lot of girls like me. I also get teased by people and that makes me sad. i stood up to a pedo on here and now pretty much I get attacked daily.
Have a nice day.
BagBoysBack 1 year ago
I have a lot of problem sorting out verbal instructions in my head aswell. You made a good point in having to see while hearing complex things. That seems to fit on me aswell. ( <- aspie ). Aslo, eye contact can throw me off a conversation, making me forget what's been said. Listening to 2 people talk to each other makes me very tired, and sometimes I need to go to bed and sleep a few hours afterwards. Too few characters allowed here to really say anything coherent.
devilsaddendum 1 year ago
yay for long term friendships! :-) I think you are one of the oldest friends I have as well. You and the Anne-Clan -- only friends ive kept for more than a couple of years! (wow that makes me sound sad.....)
*hugs*
Freak7109 1 year ago
Having a social life is a real struggle. For me, my commitment varies and some people (non-AS) don't deal with that very well. Right now I'm willing to make an effort, I just hope I will accomplish something before I loose interest again :)
As for using it as an excuse. I mostly use it too fool around a bit, and to make people aware of some strange needs (like always wanting to sit in a specific chair/location)
Always try to improve though, even for non-AS it's something to strive for.
Jarudin 1 year ago
Thanks,
Thumbs up (Y)(Y)
ShortFuseNL 1 year ago
By the teats of Aphrodite, I hope nobody says "first"
gangstermaori 1 year ago
@gangstermaori Second
Hanskfheag 1 year ago