@loveliveanddie damn man not all of them, but I do agree with this video about the competition aspect of it. How will she know how to treat a man if all she's ever wanted was a thug.
@EandA23 Thank you for admitting you have nothing going on for you other than your hatred of black women. Admit you hate black women and leave them alone. Stop thinking about black women and find other women.
Good post. I even notice, some women in general will make friends with unattractive females if they are somewhat attractive. This way, they will always at the center of attention when a guy tries to holla. Shady business, but you already know.
lol. njari2. you know that i've never said that. come on now. Its funny because black women want acceptance from black men but they dont want black men's input on issues related to them. At the end of the day, its still love.
Didnt you say you preferred Latin women? I mean your videos seam to be more about you getting a kick out of BW's dating difficulties than out of giving any sincere or real advice. And I would have no problem accepting advice from someone I fet was sincere and didnt have an underlying malice towards BW that they tried to disguise as "concern and advice". There are plenty of things I have agreed with when BM have criticised BW, but what your saying doesnt seem to come from a good place.
malice towards black women. if that is how u feel than my vids are not for you. im just sharing my thoughts. trust, if i were cool on black woman that i would not be doing this. i prefer some hispanic women think in terms of being professional and with family. i did that vid because black women tend to only want to believe that black men date outside because we dont find black women attractive. all im trying to do is add new perspectives on issues that are hurting us.
Yes malice. When you say how you are sitting back laughing at BW's awkwardness in certain settings how else can people take that? As a loving gesture? Lol. Its amazing how BM can say things like that and then expect for BW to take their advice as simple constructive criticism.
but i guess your okay when black women boast about being more educated than black men right. as if they are just more naturally suited to be more productive. how does black women gloating about being more educated than black men and taking extreme pride in that fact help them or the community out. you dont want to accept the fact that black women have also said so hurtful shit about black men. but we are just supposed to automatically take it as constructive.
When you hear ME gloating about that then you can criticise. We are talking about what YOU said. Not some other random BW and since we have never had such a conversation you can neither confirm or deny WHAT my opinion is on that subject can you? The topic we were discussing is how you are gloating about BW having dificulties in certain social settings YET claiming to be offering constructive criticism which will benefit the BM/BW relationship. I dont see that happening here.
i was using a figure of speech when i made that comment. i never said i was gloating either. i dont know why you have a problem with black men expressing their feelings. go to any counseling session and the counselor will make sure that both sides say what they have to say. i've talked about issues with black relationships and issues dealing with black women in a way that u might say is productive but i never have conversations with yall when i do them.
Fine then. Thats what you want to express? And I think the councilor would be in agreement with me on this one. Gloating does not help the lines of communication. You can say your not gloating BUT you come off that way. If you dont mind BW getting that impression from your videos then thats up to you.
i'm not negating how u feel. that vid was one of my more extreme vidz and i was trying to get responses from other black women. i honestly feel like you are taking this one vid (the title of the vid and not even the content) and using it as a summary of what im about. Im one of the only men on here who does not have a problem with black women on physical level and who has never called yall out of your name. i dont want the same conversations that you might find with swp and the others like him.
I appreciate the fact that you have not called any BW out of their names. I dont think this is all your about but I do think those feelings you expressed are genuine and you were being honest about what you really feel. And I dont have an issue with you preferring Latinas for physical or any other reasons. I just didnt see the point of the video if thats how you feel. I just dont see why BM who prefer other women feel the need to council BW. You'v laid your eggs in another basket so why bother?
i hear you. i did that vid because i do get upset that we automatically slander black men and non-black women when we date outside. its only for physical reasons or self hate reasons right? we both know thats not true. but when black women date outside we get other reasons that have nothing to do with physical attraction. i was just trying to let people know that black men are not just over sexed animals who date outside outta hate for black women.
You realise the converse of the slandered BM is the jealous tossed aside for something better BW right? And I never did buy the self hate argument. BM dont seem to have a problem with ours. And for the last 15 years we've been hearing from BM how BW are lacking in character as to why they are with non-BW in ADDITION to them being more attractive. So how could BW NOT get that message? They are the package and we lack in almost every regard.
The physical is concentrated on more by BW bcs men for one yall ARE men and men do care about looks more than anything and two colorism and good/bad hair syndrome is well known and still very prevalent in the BC. When BM cast the physical attributes of non-BW in a positive light and those of BW in a negative light how can yall expect BW to not see that as a major part of why you prefer nonblack to black women? BM really dont have much room to stand on with this argument.
what causes insecurities in black women about their physical state is not the complete responsibility of black men. who conditioned black men? the same dominate white media that told black men what to like told yall what yall needed to look like. but yall still blame us like we control television. its so ironic. the same white man that yall are supposed to be moving on to were and are the ones who conditioned us. but yall think he looks past the image that he created.
Whats iroinic is that I'm not a BW thats embraces Euro ideals of beauty. Like so many BM condemn BW for doing while ONLY choosing women that fall into that category. I dont perm my hair. Been naturally nappy all my life. Yet the same white men that created those messages are the same ones who compliment me on my hair MORE than BM ever have. Ironic, no? I dont hold BM responsible for whats on TV, just for accepting whats on TV as the ideal.
Its natural for WM tom hold up whiteness as the standard bcs they ARE white. That makes sense to me. Whats never made sense is how a WM can appreciate nappy hair faster than a BM? Or how BM can with one breath condemn BW for weaving/perming and trying to look European by doing that and with the next breath state how ONLY the daughters of WM and those that look like them are the most desirable. Huh? I think BM and Bw have both drank the coolaid.
At the end of the day if BM can hold BW responsible for accepting societies ideas about what they feel is beautiful then why cant BM hold themselves responsible for what they've accepted. Shoudnt we BOTH try to resist those messages? So as long as BM are not accepting the idea that the WM appearance is not superior to the BM appearance its ok for them to accept the idea that the WF appearance is superior to the BF appearance? Cause they can say that without seeing themselves as self hating?
look . we both have been conditioned as a whole. but when we have these convos it seems like yall place the guilt on us and then turn around talk about how a small handfull of white men complemented yall. look. i've spent time working with elementary students. i've seen young black girls already trying to adhere to white standards of beauty even before the whole puberty thing. so should we blame the 5 year old boys for being conditioned?
u are using the wm that have complemented you and your hair and trying to somehow show that that is how white men view black women. your taking someones compliments and elevating it by sayintg that these men have power over the media. why would he compliment something and at the same time belittle it. i can share my "gym stories" and high school stories where i have been around white men who openly belittle black beauty and view beonce and halle as the exceptions. but u dont hear those men.
No thats not what I'm doing. Like I said its natural for WM to hold up whiteness as the standard. So those WM who state that Halle and Beyonce are more beautiful are doing what comes naturally to someone who views thei race as attractive. Namely finding features in others reminscent of their own. BUT I can also find a WM who will compliment my nappy hair faster than a BM who will. And the WM who compliment Beyonce and the ones complimented me are not necessarily one and the same.
why should a black man have to compliment a black women for wearing her hair naturally. i do because u never see it outside my own home but if it is natural to us why compliment. remember when black men had the jerry curl. should men with regular hair been complimented for wearing their hair natural?
In order to give encouragement. Make her feel its acceptable and attractive. BM dont understand how much negativity can be directed at BW for being natural although it comes naturally to us. And why NOT compliment BW? Why do you make it sound like its such a chore for BM? What woman doesnt want compliments? Why is it so hard for yall to give to BW what you so freely give to non-BW? BM go out of their way to compliment the features that come naturally to women of other races. Why not your own?
listen i agree. if i see than i will compliment and probably holla. i love the fact that both of two sisters are natural. im from sothern cali so natural chicks are not that visible. for the natural represents a lifestyle that works with mine.
Alright cool. I can see I'm getting on your nerves though. Lol. I try not to do that but when I feel passionately aboyt something I have to speak on it.
lol. its cool. there's no convo that i have on youtube that i have not had with other black women before, whether it was a girlfriend, friend or actual sister.
we can go back and forth. all i can say is that i see more black man willing to accept the fact that their are certain black women that fall outta all hte negatives. but it feels like black women hold on to the belief that all black man are cut from the same mold so they all think and act in the same negative manner.
Hey, your shit is so correct, I watch sisters in Baltimore, when they come to the Salsa clubs, they are so lost, LOL. Mainly, because to dance Salsa requires skills and not drop it like its hot. As a New Yorker, NY sisters' know how to roll, but the sister's in MD and DC, they can't handle brothers that know how to lead, which also carry over in life, sisters', don't know how to follow.
I think you went off into left field when you said that as a group black women were probably the last to become independent. That is not true at all, and if you think so then you don't have much of a grasp on history.
And what you described in the club isn't competition. A woman throwing herself at a man isn't competition. Besides, the club is NOT the place to go looking for someone to start a serious relationship with. You must be young.
First and foremost, there is no competition in my book. What God has for me is for me and nothing or nobody can take that away from me. I don't step foot in a club, being in a club makes me extremely uncomfortable. I feel good about myself when I am around people who are like minded and people who are more successful. I just rejoice with them and know that my time is coming. I am confident everywhere I go. That may be true about some black women but it's not true about all of them.
another intelligent video and exposes what i have always suspected about the s.i.b.w syndrome its a novelty for them but a normality for everyone else whose taking care of business. Besides if you are s.i.b.w then you dont have to brag about it -people will see it for themselves.
I love the people from Hollywood that have visited me and talked about making movies about my life.
Today seven independent film makers who went to Pepperdine University met me at the Four Season Hotel over coffee and a great cigar.
I am scheduled to speak with them Monday morning.
They are amazed how foolish many are since HBO was so brave and daring and knew that opportunity with the American Patriot Jeff Fisher will be a winning and very profitable venture.
False confidence = major insecurities. A Bachelors or Masters degree is the foundation of the BW's false confidence. A BMW 745li ties in with it as well. If a brother don't got either of those, then some how he's not on their level. But, if a brother does have it, he's (somehow) on their level and he needs to approach her, not her approach him. To me, all it is, is smoke and mirrors.
I am confident in myself there is no competition for me because what God has for me is for me and nothing or nobody can stop that first of all. Second of all just because a black woman has a bachelors degree or master's degree does not mean that she has false confidence. My confidence is not in my degrees I have, but my confidence is in the fact that God created me to be someone great and to do great things.
I'm so happy you posted this,black women are pathetic.
loveliveanddie 1 year ago
@loveliveanddie damn man not all of them, but I do agree with this video about the competition aspect of it. How will she know how to treat a man if all she's ever wanted was a thug.
bmoe8880 7 months ago
Don't you sad cartoon characters have anything better to do than talk about women!
Quoranation 1 year ago
@Quoranation Do you have anything better to do than watch them make comments. Pinkk you are on point with this, black women love to go at losers.
EandA23 1 year ago
@EandA23 Thank you for admitting you have nothing going on for you other than your hatred of black women. Admit you hate black women and leave them alone. Stop thinking about black women and find other women.
Quoranation 1 year ago
More true science, keep teachin bro.
logician3 2 years ago
Good post. I even notice, some women in general will make friends with unattractive females if they are somewhat attractive. This way, they will always at the center of attention when a guy tries to holla. Shady business, but you already know.
42playaz 2 years ago 2
WHAT exactly is the point of psycho analayzing BW from the n'th degree since you have clearly decided BW are not for you?
njari2 2 years ago
lol. njari2. you know that i've never said that. come on now. Its funny because black women want acceptance from black men but they dont want black men's input on issues related to them. At the end of the day, its still love.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
Didnt you say you preferred Latin women? I mean your videos seam to be more about you getting a kick out of BW's dating difficulties than out of giving any sincere or real advice. And I would have no problem accepting advice from someone I fet was sincere and didnt have an underlying malice towards BW that they tried to disguise as "concern and advice". There are plenty of things I have agreed with when BM have criticised BW, but what your saying doesnt seem to come from a good place.
njari2 2 years ago
malice towards black women. if that is how u feel than my vids are not for you. im just sharing my thoughts. trust, if i were cool on black woman that i would not be doing this. i prefer some hispanic women think in terms of being professional and with family. i did that vid because black women tend to only want to believe that black men date outside because we dont find black women attractive. all im trying to do is add new perspectives on issues that are hurting us.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
Yes malice. When you say how you are sitting back laughing at BW's awkwardness in certain settings how else can people take that? As a loving gesture? Lol. Its amazing how BM can say things like that and then expect for BW to take their advice as simple constructive criticism.
njari2 2 years ago
but i guess your okay when black women boast about being more educated than black men right. as if they are just more naturally suited to be more productive. how does black women gloating about being more educated than black men and taking extreme pride in that fact help them or the community out. you dont want to accept the fact that black women have also said so hurtful shit about black men. but we are just supposed to automatically take it as constructive.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
When you hear ME gloating about that then you can criticise. We are talking about what YOU said. Not some other random BW and since we have never had such a conversation you can neither confirm or deny WHAT my opinion is on that subject can you? The topic we were discussing is how you are gloating about BW having dificulties in certain social settings YET claiming to be offering constructive criticism which will benefit the BM/BW relationship. I dont see that happening here.
njari2 2 years ago
i was using a figure of speech when i made that comment. i never said i was gloating either. i dont know why you have a problem with black men expressing their feelings. go to any counseling session and the counselor will make sure that both sides say what they have to say. i've talked about issues with black relationships and issues dealing with black women in a way that u might say is productive but i never have conversations with yall when i do them.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
Fine then. Thats what you want to express? And I think the councilor would be in agreement with me on this one. Gloating does not help the lines of communication. You can say your not gloating BUT you come off that way. If you dont mind BW getting that impression from your videos then thats up to you.
njari2 2 years ago
i'm not negating how u feel. that vid was one of my more extreme vidz and i was trying to get responses from other black women. i honestly feel like you are taking this one vid (the title of the vid and not even the content) and using it as a summary of what im about. Im one of the only men on here who does not have a problem with black women on physical level and who has never called yall out of your name. i dont want the same conversations that you might find with swp and the others like him.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
I appreciate the fact that you have not called any BW out of their names. I dont think this is all your about but I do think those feelings you expressed are genuine and you were being honest about what you really feel. And I dont have an issue with you preferring Latinas for physical or any other reasons. I just didnt see the point of the video if thats how you feel. I just dont see why BM who prefer other women feel the need to council BW. You'v laid your eggs in another basket so why bother?
njari2 2 years ago
i hear you. i did that vid because i do get upset that we automatically slander black men and non-black women when we date outside. its only for physical reasons or self hate reasons right? we both know thats not true. but when black women date outside we get other reasons that have nothing to do with physical attraction. i was just trying to let people know that black men are not just over sexed animals who date outside outta hate for black women.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
You realise the converse of the slandered BM is the jealous tossed aside for something better BW right? And I never did buy the self hate argument. BM dont seem to have a problem with ours. And for the last 15 years we've been hearing from BM how BW are lacking in character as to why they are with non-BW in ADDITION to them being more attractive. So how could BW NOT get that message? They are the package and we lack in almost every regard.
njari2 2 years ago
The physical is concentrated on more by BW bcs men for one yall ARE men and men do care about looks more than anything and two colorism and good/bad hair syndrome is well known and still very prevalent in the BC. When BM cast the physical attributes of non-BW in a positive light and those of BW in a negative light how can yall expect BW to not see that as a major part of why you prefer nonblack to black women? BM really dont have much room to stand on with this argument.
njari2 2 years ago
what causes insecurities in black women about their physical state is not the complete responsibility of black men. who conditioned black men? the same dominate white media that told black men what to like told yall what yall needed to look like. but yall still blame us like we control television. its so ironic. the same white man that yall are supposed to be moving on to were and are the ones who conditioned us. but yall think he looks past the image that he created.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
Whats iroinic is that I'm not a BW thats embraces Euro ideals of beauty. Like so many BM condemn BW for doing while ONLY choosing women that fall into that category. I dont perm my hair. Been naturally nappy all my life. Yet the same white men that created those messages are the same ones who compliment me on my hair MORE than BM ever have. Ironic, no? I dont hold BM responsible for whats on TV, just for accepting whats on TV as the ideal.
njari2 2 years ago 2
Its natural for WM tom hold up whiteness as the standard bcs they ARE white. That makes sense to me. Whats never made sense is how a WM can appreciate nappy hair faster than a BM? Or how BM can with one breath condemn BW for weaving/perming and trying to look European by doing that and with the next breath state how ONLY the daughters of WM and those that look like them are the most desirable. Huh? I think BM and Bw have both drank the coolaid.
njari2 2 years ago
At the end of the day if BM can hold BW responsible for accepting societies ideas about what they feel is beautiful then why cant BM hold themselves responsible for what they've accepted. Shoudnt we BOTH try to resist those messages? So as long as BM are not accepting the idea that the WM appearance is not superior to the BM appearance its ok for them to accept the idea that the WF appearance is superior to the BF appearance? Cause they can say that without seeing themselves as self hating?
njari2 2 years ago
look . we both have been conditioned as a whole. but when we have these convos it seems like yall place the guilt on us and then turn around talk about how a small handfull of white men complemented yall. look. i've spent time working with elementary students. i've seen young black girls already trying to adhere to white standards of beauty even before the whole puberty thing. so should we blame the 5 year old boys for being conditioned?
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
u are using the wm that have complemented you and your hair and trying to somehow show that that is how white men view black women. your taking someones compliments and elevating it by sayintg that these men have power over the media. why would he compliment something and at the same time belittle it. i can share my "gym stories" and high school stories where i have been around white men who openly belittle black beauty and view beonce and halle as the exceptions. but u dont hear those men.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
No thats not what I'm doing. Like I said its natural for WM to hold up whiteness as the standard. So those WM who state that Halle and Beyonce are more beautiful are doing what comes naturally to someone who views thei race as attractive. Namely finding features in others reminscent of their own. BUT I can also find a WM who will compliment my nappy hair faster than a BM who will. And the WM who compliment Beyonce and the ones complimented me are not necessarily one and the same.
njari2 2 years ago 2
why should a black man have to compliment a black women for wearing her hair naturally. i do because u never see it outside my own home but if it is natural to us why compliment. remember when black men had the jerry curl. should men with regular hair been complimented for wearing their hair natural?
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
In order to give encouragement. Make her feel its acceptable and attractive. BM dont understand how much negativity can be directed at BW for being natural although it comes naturally to us. And why NOT compliment BW? Why do you make it sound like its such a chore for BM? What woman doesnt want compliments? Why is it so hard for yall to give to BW what you so freely give to non-BW? BM go out of their way to compliment the features that come naturally to women of other races. Why not your own?
njari2 2 years ago 6
listen i agree. if i see than i will compliment and probably holla. i love the fact that both of two sisters are natural. im from sothern cali so natural chicks are not that visible. for the natural represents a lifestyle that works with mine.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
Alright cool. I can see I'm getting on your nerves though. Lol. I try not to do that but when I feel passionately aboyt something I have to speak on it.
njari2 2 years ago
lol. its cool. there's no convo that i have on youtube that i have not had with other black women before, whether it was a girlfriend, friend or actual sister.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
Really? No wonder you think you have all the answers. Lol.
njari2 2 years ago
haha. they tell me that all day.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
Giving BW compliments makes them that much more difficult to deal with.
bca0003 2 years ago 4
we can go back and forth. all i can say is that i see more black man willing to accept the fact that their are certain black women that fall outta all hte negatives. but it feels like black women hold on to the belief that all black man are cut from the same mold so they all think and act in the same negative manner.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
i bet you a superficial shallow broad who go for them pretty boy faggot looking dudes
imthrowed94 2 years ago
OHHHH!!!!! Boring..can you do something else to make this more interesting???
shirsmit 2 years ago
lol. why comment. when i see a vid that bores me, i press the back button. lol. god bless.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
Hey, your shit is so correct, I watch sisters in Baltimore, when they come to the Salsa clubs, they are so lost, LOL. Mainly, because to dance Salsa requires skills and not drop it like its hot. As a New Yorker, NY sisters' know how to roll, but the sister's in MD and DC, they can't handle brothers that know how to lead, which also carry over in life, sisters', don't know how to follow.
knifekali 3 years ago
I think you went off into left field when you said that as a group black women were probably the last to become independent. That is not true at all, and if you think so then you don't have much of a grasp on history.
And what you described in the club isn't competition. A woman throwing herself at a man isn't competition. Besides, the club is NOT the place to go looking for someone to start a serious relationship with. You must be young.
LadyRo602 3 years ago
First and foremost, there is no competition in my book. What God has for me is for me and nothing or nobody can take that away from me. I don't step foot in a club, being in a club makes me extremely uncomfortable. I feel good about myself when I am around people who are like minded and people who are more successful. I just rejoice with them and know that my time is coming. I am confident everywhere I go. That may be true about some black women but it's not true about all of them.
SMJGraphicArtist 3 years ago 3
This video is so true.
bellamuerte333 3 years ago
another intelligent video and exposes what i have always suspected about the s.i.b.w syndrome its a novelty for them but a normality for everyone else whose taking care of business. Besides if you are s.i.b.w then you dont have to brag about it -people will see it for themselves.
dlfunky 3 years ago
I am beyond in agreement with this video....
KaptanSoloToo 3 years ago
I miss my middle court days. Right now I'm in side court shape. LMAO!!!!
kuunami 3 years ago
lol. i hear you boy. lmao
pinkkelephant 3 years ago
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I love the people from Hollywood that have visited me and talked about making movies about my life.
Today seven independent film makers who went to Pepperdine University met me at the Four Season Hotel over coffee and a great cigar.
I am scheduled to speak with them Monday morning.
They are amazed how foolish many are since HBO was so brave and daring and knew that opportunity with the American Patriot Jeff Fisher will be a winning and very profitable venture.
LoveAmericaStyle 3 years ago
False confidence = major insecurities. A Bachelors or Masters degree is the foundation of the BW's false confidence. A BMW 745li ties in with it as well. If a brother don't got either of those, then some how he's not on their level. But, if a brother does have it, he's (somehow) on their level and he needs to approach her, not her approach him. To me, all it is, is smoke and mirrors.
Remedymp 3 years ago
Damn!....good point
He gets on "her" level and then "he" NEEDS to approach "her".
That is fucked up when you look at it like that...damn.
KaptanSoloToo 3 years ago
I am confident in myself there is no competition for me because what God has for me is for me and nothing or nobody can stop that first of all. Second of all just because a black woman has a bachelors degree or master's degree does not mean that she has false confidence. My confidence is not in my degrees I have, but my confidence is in the fact that God created me to be someone great and to do great things.
SMJGraphicArtist 3 years ago