Ugh, the one that made me cry on the spot was when my teacher from an old school asked "so are you and your husband purposely preventing having a child or is it God's will?". I had just had a miscarriage 2 months earlier! :'(
God will give u a baby when he's ready... Not when you're ready... That's the 1 I hate the most... Or it's just not your time... Or as soon as you stop thinking about it that's when it will happen.
i have a great one for you- off topic but still related. Right after my miscarriage someone said to me- "its not like you're 38 and its your last chance you can still have another one!
(i dont eat red meat) so i have heard "its cause you don't have meat on your bones... go eat a steak... maybe if you eat meat everything will work right and you'll get pregnant" I've also heard "your getting up there ( i'm only 27!), your eggs are like leather! you better hurry up!" grrrrrrrrrrrrr why are people so unbelievably thoughtless?!?
OMG I have heard EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THOSE. Especially the YOU'RE SO YOUNG, STOP TRYING SO HARD, and, IF YOU DON'T THINK ABOUT IT, IT WILL HAPPEN. The one thing that hurt me more than anything (before I had custody of my nieces and when I had a chemical pregnancy), WELL, IT'S OKAY, YOU DON'T NEED KIDS, YOU HAVE ANIYA AND ALIYAH. NO, I do not, they are my nieces. Now, I have temporary cusody of them . I love them so much, but it is only temporary.I still deserve my own family.
I have had all these comments too. My other two favourites are "maybe if you put on some weight you'd fall pregnant" - not sure how being above my healthy weight range will help, but whatever. And secondly (I'm a vego), "maybe you should eat more steak"..... interesting. Someone should tell that the millions of vegetarians in India who seem to managing just fine. SOOOOO frustrating. Great video
@sibbay4 Yea I have had that one before. Especially around other couples who may not know ur TTC. They might say something like, "so when are you going to join the club?".... OUCH
Great video. People who have not been in our situation seriously don't know what it's like! "Hey spend some time with my kids, that will be good birth control", or "God doesn't give you something until you are truly ready" Ummm, please don't bring God into this or I'm gonna unleash the Devil on you ;)
Yep I've heard a lot of those too!!! Also, "just get really drunk and have TONS of sex!" OH that's the problem, we don't drink enough?! People suck. Haha. Thanks for the vid Jenn.
@jennasmommy0718 Yea thats got to be hard. I know I have thought that before but its mostly out of jealousy.. Lol I know that one child would not be enough for us. We've always talked about having 4-5 kids.
Getting pregnant with my son Riley was extremely difficult i did 2 months of clomid and decided to take a break from clomid the third month ,low and behold i was pregnant trust me it will happen when least expected.Rowen my 5 month old was a surprise i found out i was pregnant a week after my 2 year was diagnosed with liver cancer.Rowen was a miracle i never thought i could get pregnant on my own and i did.It will happen
@jenhome31 Thanks for your story! Sometimes it does happen when you "least expect it" but honestly it is super annoying to hear that over and over again.
Maybe you weren't meant to have kids?!? Seriously! Someone said that?!
OMG! I have heard every other one though! Guess what my MOM randomly says to me last week....Bethie, are you putting your legs in the air after, ya know? My response...yea ma, of course. Nothing says romance like your husband sticking a pillow under your but afterwards! Jeeezus!!
Ok here's a winner... " having a baby at your age is kinda like child abuse isn't it? Because when you pass away you'll leave your child behind"..... Erhh.... Yah eff you. :( people need to keep their pie holes shut if they haven't got anything nice to say....
That darn "you can have one of mine"!!!!!!!!!! I want my own!!!!!! lol love this video its so true I'm ttc#1 @ 26.....Oh and it'll happen when you least expect it" I hate that lol
I have a good friend that keeps telling me "Just go get rip roaring drunk and get those legs way up in the air..." IF I HEAR IT AGAIN I AM GOING TO SLAP HER! I am sure after 2 years of trying THAT must be it. I don't get drunk enough and my legs have been laying in the wrong position THE WHOLE TIME!
luv this video, lol.. totally agree tho.. i wish they would watch this video.. the sad thing is that they don't know they are hurting you with those comments..
1 of my co-workers got pregnant and another one said, " i bet your jealous". yes, she knew we were trying, but she didn't know about our infertility. still doesn't make it right
I have been told all of these and much more. Sometimes I just want to punch them in their face. Every time I see those certain people they mention it over and over again. (I'm not a fighter, lol ) I just keep my thoughts to myself. Now when they ask I say "we just want to wait to have a baby." That way they don't feel sorry for me nor give me their unwanted opinion. It's just frustrating . I often used to share how I felt with my close ones, but even they don't totally understand. :-/
lol this is just hilarious, i cannot believe that people seriously said that! they must have lost their ability to think!!! I love the stuff, you guys are posting, thanks so much for sharing xxxx
Mine is regarding a loss but someone said to me "At least it happened early on and not later on when you get too attached." Really? How inconsiderate!!
And then when TTC someone told me just recently "Maybe you just need to relax and let things happen in their own time."
"Are you guys still even trying?". This was a comment I received from a close friend. It really devastated me when she said it! Thanks to both of u for ur great videos and sharing ur stories!
"You should be happy you have one already" has been a frequent one I hear. It's very frustrating we have been trying since our lil guy was 1 he is now 6 1/2. "It will happen when it happens you can't force it" I have heard lots of the ones you mentioned too. My family is pretty big and no one has faced infertility so none of them understands that I am having issues with getting pregnant.
I've heard some of these as well! I especially hate the "Oh, JUST RELAX - DON"T THINK ABOUT IT! AHHHH! Drives me nuts! They've obvisouly never been in our shoes!
i heard some of those to but hey guess what its not them going through what we r. did you try getting tested for PCOS if it turns out that you do have it metformin and clomid and provera either one of those r prescribed to help with conceiving good luck and baby dust your way.
Well I've heard them all, but what I like the most is what my Dr told me "If stress was the reason for not getting pregnant, no one in this world would have children" A-freaking-men!!
Well I basicly heard all of those. And it gets frustrating when poeple say o it will happen when u least exspect it, cuz when someone is trying to have a baby it's always on their mind. At Least for me! It just sucks how some couples can have a baby so fast and some have trouble having one. :-/ like me..
And then she proceeds on to say "don't cry, you're still young"
zSeher87 1 month ago
Ugh, the one that made me cry on the spot was when my teacher from an old school asked "so are you and your husband purposely preventing having a child or is it God's will?". I had just had a miscarriage 2 months earlier! :'(
zSeher87 1 month ago
God will give u a baby when he's ready... Not when you're ready... That's the 1 I hate the most... Or it's just not your time... Or as soon as you stop thinking about it that's when it will happen.
BabyMakingMission25 3 months ago
i have a great one for you- off topic but still related. Right after my miscarriage someone said to me- "its not like you're 38 and its your last chance you can still have another one!
jazztru1134 4 months ago
(i dont eat red meat) so i have heard "its cause you don't have meat on your bones... go eat a steak... maybe if you eat meat everything will work right and you'll get pregnant" I've also heard "your getting up there ( i'm only 27!), your eggs are like leather! you better hurry up!" grrrrrrrrrrrrr why are people so unbelievably thoughtless?!?
msalona 4 months ago
@msalona ridiculous ...wow
jonasnjennlove 4 months ago
Yes! Girl soo true.. I especially hate.. You should be lucky you don't have any. so rude and senseless
tasha1985 4 months ago
I love this video!
Heatherc015 4 months ago
@Heatherc015 thanks!
jonasnjennlove 4 months ago
OMG I have heard EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THOSE. Especially the YOU'RE SO YOUNG, STOP TRYING SO HARD, and, IF YOU DON'T THINK ABOUT IT, IT WILL HAPPEN. The one thing that hurt me more than anything (before I had custody of my nieces and when I had a chemical pregnancy), WELL, IT'S OKAY, YOU DON'T NEED KIDS, YOU HAVE ANIYA AND ALIYAH. NO, I do not, they are my nieces. Now, I have temporary cusody of them . I love them so much, but it is only temporary.I still deserve my own family.
ablhugsbugs 4 months ago
I have had all these comments too. My other two favourites are "maybe if you put on some weight you'd fall pregnant" - not sure how being above my healthy weight range will help, but whatever. And secondly (I'm a vego), "maybe you should eat more steak"..... interesting. Someone should tell that the millions of vegetarians in India who seem to managing just fine. SOOOOO frustrating. Great video
1mmcquade 4 months ago
@1mmcquade people are so dumb sometimes!
jonasnjennlove 4 months ago
It sucks that people are so mean.
moooviebuff 5 months ago
I hate when people constantly ask "why aren't you pregnant yet?" It's so freaking insensitive!
sibbay4 5 months ago
@sibbay4 Yea I have had that one before. Especially around other couples who may not know ur TTC. They might say something like, "so when are you going to join the club?".... OUCH
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
Great video. People who have not been in our situation seriously don't know what it's like! "Hey spend some time with my kids, that will be good birth control", or "God doesn't give you something until you are truly ready" Ummm, please don't bring God into this or I'm gonna unleash the Devil on you ;)
hollyehughes 5 months ago
@hollyehughes Yea they def dont understand. I've had that comment combined with "you're young you have plenty of time"
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
Yep I've heard a lot of those too!!! Also, "just get really drunk and have TONS of sex!" OH that's the problem, we don't drink enough?! People suck. Haha. Thanks for the vid Jenn.
MiaVerita 5 months ago
@MiaVerita yep thats def one I have heard too!
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
@jennasmommy0718 Yea thats got to be hard. I know I have thought that before but its mostly out of jealousy.. Lol I know that one child would not be enough for us. We've always talked about having 4-5 kids.
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
"Everything happens for a reason." I hate that one, too!
NYdrone 5 months ago
@NYdrone me too!
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
Haha ive probably said over 50% of those things, lol so yea useful video
quinnrin 5 months ago
@quinnrin lol. you're fine! xoxox!!
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
I remember being told "Your too skinny, If you gain weight you'll be pregnant in no time!"
JenS0905 5 months ago
Getting pregnant with my son Riley was extremely difficult i did 2 months of clomid and decided to take a break from clomid the third month ,low and behold i was pregnant trust me it will happen when least expected.Rowen my 5 month old was a surprise i found out i was pregnant a week after my 2 year was diagnosed with liver cancer.Rowen was a miracle i never thought i could get pregnant on my own and i did.It will happen
jenhome31 5 months ago
@jenhome31 Thanks for your story! Sometimes it does happen when you "least expect it" but honestly it is super annoying to hear that over and over again.
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
Maybe you weren't meant to have kids?!? Seriously! Someone said that?!
OMG! I have heard every other one though! Guess what my MOM randomly says to me last week....Bethie, are you putting your legs in the air after, ya know? My response...yea ma, of course. Nothing says romance like your husband sticking a pillow under your but afterwards! Jeeezus!!
brooklynslove04 5 months ago
@brooklynslove04 lol yes! haha my mom hasnt asked that but friends have. lol
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
Ok here's a winner... " having a baby at your age is kinda like child abuse isn't it? Because when you pass away you'll leave your child behind"..... Erhh.... Yah eff you. :( people need to keep their pie holes shut if they haven't got anything nice to say....
krystyne3434 5 months ago
@krystyne3434 ouch! Thats awful!
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
That darn "you can have one of mine"!!!!!!!!!! I want my own!!!!!! lol love this video its so true I'm ttc#1 @ 26.....Oh and it'll happen when you least expect it" I hate that lol
slimmbaby85 5 months ago
You look so pretty! LOVE your shirt too! I cannot believe people say those things!! I'd be speechless!!
dreamflight6000 5 months ago
@dreamflight6000 aww!! thanks! hehe I went out and about that day so I dressed up ;)
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
ive heard them all and i cant stand it
dreamz123181 5 months ago
I have a good friend that keeps telling me "Just go get rip roaring drunk and get those legs way up in the air..." IF I HEAR IT AGAIN I AM GOING TO SLAP HER! I am sure after 2 years of trying THAT must be it. I don't get drunk enough and my legs have been laying in the wrong position THE WHOLE TIME!
irishfrenchgirl1 5 months ago
@irishfrenchgirl1 Oh yea, i've heard that one too! lol... ugh!!! That must be the way all the girls do it!
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
luv this video, lol.. totally agree tho.. i wish they would watch this video.. the sad thing is that they don't know they are hurting you with those comments..
1 of my co-workers got pregnant and another one said, " i bet your jealous". yes, she knew we were trying, but she didn't know about our infertility. still doesn't make it right
waitingtobeblessed 5 months ago
I have been told all of these and much more. Sometimes I just want to punch them in their face. Every time I see those certain people they mention it over and over again. (I'm not a fighter, lol ) I just keep my thoughts to myself. Now when they ask I say "we just want to wait to have a baby." That way they don't feel sorry for me nor give me their unwanted opinion. It's just frustrating . I often used to share how I felt with my close ones, but even they don't totally understand. :-/
WaitingNPraying 5 months ago
lol this is just hilarious, i cannot believe that people seriously said that! they must have lost their ability to think!!! I love the stuff, you guys are posting, thanks so much for sharing xxxx
fienelchen 5 months ago
Inconsiderate bastards, they are!
peeechiz 5 months ago
AMEN!
SunshineDaydreamist 5 months ago
Mine is regarding a loss but someone said to me "At least it happened early on and not later on when you get too attached." Really? How inconsiderate!!
And then when TTC someone told me just recently "Maybe you just need to relax and let things happen in their own time."
superfunlantztime 5 months ago
"They are cute when they are babies but then they grow up!" Uh, we didn't ask your opinion is our reply!
My MIL actually told me "In your dreams"
GonnaBAMom1Day 5 months ago
the one about adoption is my personal favorite lol
taetwa 5 months ago
"God has a plan for you"
FamilyAndLife 5 months ago
@FamilyAndLife While that may be true, its still annoying. Especially if you pray about it all the time. Its just frustrating to hear people say it!
jonasnjennlove 5 months ago
wow everyone you said befor and after my m/c people can be so Grrrr....
mrsriffle2348 5 months ago
"Are you guys still even trying?". This was a comment I received from a close friend. It really devastated me when she said it! Thanks to both of u for ur great videos and sharing ur stories!
2113deb 5 months ago
"You should be happy you have one already" has been a frequent one I hear. It's very frustrating we have been trying since our lil guy was 1 he is now 6 1/2. "It will happen when it happens you can't force it" I have heard lots of the ones you mentioned too. My family is pretty big and no one has faced infertility so none of them understands that I am having issues with getting pregnant.
justsewbabysew 5 months ago
@justsewbabysew we get this too been ttc since our daughter was 6 months old (dec 2002). She turned 9 in June.
TTCPCOS 5 months ago
I've heard some of these as well! I especially hate the "Oh, JUST RELAX - DON"T THINK ABOUT IT! AHHHH! Drives me nuts! They've obvisouly never been in our shoes!
WithGodsGrace 5 months ago
I don't want to disrespect my brotha Jonas in anyway but Jenn you're frickin gorgeous!!
Pardon my language but I know no other way to say it. Jonas you're a very lucky brotha to be able to wake up next to this woman.
Jonas, I wouldn't even lie to you bruh, I'm slightly envious. This channel doesn't concern me as I'm not TTC but, I subscribed just to see Jenn.
Badin10tions 5 months ago
i heard some of those to but hey guess what its not them going through what we r. did you try getting tested for PCOS if it turns out that you do have it metformin and clomid and provera either one of those r prescribed to help with conceiving good luck and baby dust your way.
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Well I've heard them all, but what I like the most is what my Dr told me "If stress was the reason for not getting pregnant, no one in this world would have children" A-freaking-men!!
latnprincess1 5 months ago
Well I basicly heard all of those. And it gets frustrating when poeple say o it will happen when u least exspect it, cuz when someone is trying to have a baby it's always on their mind. At Least for me! It just sucks how some couples can have a baby so fast and some have trouble having one. :-/ like me..
RayGirl0214 5 months ago