I'm glad the story worked out so nicely, but wouldn't it have just been easier to tell her from the get-go? As a gay guy who doesn't necessarily trip people's gaydars, I know that people are going to assume that I'm straight, and so I try to let people know early on, just to get it out of the way. :)
@GabreWinters I sound like a boy scout without meaning too....that's the only thing that people notice..that i'm "quiet" ..other than that ... they don't know i'm gay until I say....I'm fine thanks for asking and no I don't have a gf and don't plan on having one either because i'm gay..... this is their look O.O' (Didn't expect that )
If you hadn't told her,you would have hurt her in the process and the longer you go without telling her and being with her,the more hurt you would inflict on her.
Is this girl your friend on facebook? Could you tell me her name. I already found yours and learned a lot of interesting stuff about you and your mom. Could you make your profile not as private? All I could see was some of your info and your friends. I almost tried to be your friend but I thought you probably wouldn't want to.
I'm so glad to hear that she reacted well. I used to have a massive crush on a gay friend of mine too, though admittedly he had only come out as bisexual at the time. Once he finally told me he wasn't attracted to women at all, it made our friendship MUCH less confusing, haha. He's like my big brother now :)
I had a somewhat similar experience, but with drastically different results. I was best friends with this girl for about 5 years. From the onset of our relationship, I knew she a crush on me. At the time I still wasn't being honest to myself about being gay, so we went on a sort of date. I liked her a lot, but not romantically. I eventually told her than I was not really interested in a romantic way, but that I thought we had a great friendship and wanted to pursue that.
She seemed ok with that. We graduated from high school and then went to University together. We were in the same program and had all the same classes together. We had a lot of things in common and got along extremely well. For 5 years, we had a strong bond. She was one of the first people I came out to, because I thought of all people, she would accept me the way I was and would offer me her support. When I told her I was attracted to other men, she was devastated.
It turns out she had been keeping hopes all this time that I would eventually fall in love with her. She had never been open with me about that, and I definitely did not think that she still had such strong feelings for me. For a while things didn't seem to change too much, but more and more she started to avoid me. She would never call me up to hang out, and when I would do so, she never seemed like she really wanted to be with me. I believe she wanted to distance herself from me.
Now she has a boyfriend, and we hardly ever talk. The special bond that we had is gone. We don't laugh together like we used to, and do all of the activites what we used to do. I miss her terribly. Maybe it's all my fault for not coming out to her sooner, but then again, I didn't expect that she still hoped for a romantic future between us.
@seblepage Sometimes situations like the one you experienced do indeed happen. I wouldn't say it's your fault, you came out when you were ready. It's not her fault either, although perhaps it was wishful thinking of her. It seems she has recovered since she has a boyfriend. Perhaps she feels a little embarassed, or confused why you didn't tell her sooner. I would hope that should would understand your side though. Good luck to you and thanks for sharing.
@StraightActingGayGuy Thanks for your reply! I just wanted to add that I'm quite happy for you that this situation worked out well, and I didn't mean to put a damper on things. But it felt good to share!
Keep on making your great videos, I feel they're probably important to a lot of gay people out there who are having trouble accepting themselves (myself included, still) and/or coming out. And keep on smiling, 'cause you've got a great smile! :)
awhhh she seems sweet. Glad it worked out. I know what you're going through. I'm bi and sometimes it's hard to tell people that too..especially where I live in the south..grrrr. Nice video though. You are adorable. haha don't mean that in a straight way haha, I know you're gay. :) That's cool. By the way, I totally love your American Eagle shirt! Sooo stylish! Keep the vids coming!
I went to dinner one night with a friend and another girl. The other girl was really putting the moves on me...like woah. I felt really bad, cause she was just the sweetest person. So, I ended up not saying anything. Another friend solved the problem for me by saying that she and I were like Will and Grace (which is not necessarily true, but it got the point across.) Haha.
That's an awesome story! I'm sure she also felt a huge sense of relief. If you didn't tell her you're gay, she probably would have assumed that your lack of attraction to her was because you thought she was unattractive in general, rather than just unattractive -to you- because of your sexual preference. :D
I hate nitpicking, especially on positive comments, but being gay isn't a "preference". Liking chocolate ice cream more than vanilla is a "preference". The gender you're hard-wired to be attracted to...isn't, lol
A preference is just something you prefer, whether it's hard-wired or something you've grown up with, something you're simply familiar with, or something you choose to prefer... it's still a preference. That's not to say that being gay is a choice, but you still prefer one gender over the other in a sexual sense.
What I mean is, to say someone prefers men over women, sexually, isn't to say that they are hard-wired to like both and then later on, choose to like one over the other. The word (at least the way I use it) is something imposed on the person after all that. For whatever reason, they are attracted to the same sex - the word 'preference' is simply descriptive, and doesn't try to suggest how they came to be that way.
The reason that word is inappropriate for sexual orientation is that the word preference implies *choice*, whether or not you define or use that word that way yourself. That's how the vast majority of the population uses that word, which is why bigots come after us for our "sexual preferences" and say we "choose" to be gay.
I told you HONESTY is always the best policy! Being honest about being gay makes people trust you more I think. The people that hide in the closet and make up stories are not credible...
I still remember one of my first coming out experiences. I told a female friend of mine something along the lines of this: "You are such an awesome and pretty girl. If I were straight I would be all over that."
thats what happens when u don't sit next to the cute cock! u put yourself in that situation with the burd! Glad it worked out bro, get in about the guys or u don't deserve a penis!
Aww im glad everything worked out for you, if she had reacted in a bad way you would have known she wasnt a true friend, so she obviously is XD Im very happy for you!
That is seriously cool, she seems like a pretty sweet girl. I'm like totally happy that you two got everything worked out. Ahh, Business Statistics? I currently taking that class, I'm quite happy with the B I have in the class.
Well I better go before this turns into a business conference.
lessons in life are happening so much earlier and it is so nice to see, i am 40 and still running into past life lessons that i hadnt learned from, awesome vid, congrats on setting the example. hope u had a nice thanksgiving.
Glad this worked out! But don't just tell us, tell her! Tell her how much it meant to you that she stood by you, and how difficult it was for you to tell her because you didn't want to hurt her. Tell her!
That's really great to hear that it worked out. Hope she becomes a long-term good friend of yours, Erik, and I hope that it all works out in the future.
I'm glad to hear it turned out well. But I doubt this will stop her from being attracted to you, so hopefully you can help find each other boyfriends! :-)
I'm glad the story worked out so nicely, but wouldn't it have just been easier to tell her from the get-go? As a gay guy who doesn't necessarily trip people's gaydars, I know that people are going to assume that I'm straight, and so I try to let people know early on, just to get it out of the way. :)
logan43000 10 months ago
Woot Woot!!!
I love finding other deep voiced straight-sounding gay guys (it's almost as hard as finding waldo... almost).
GabreWinters 1 year ago
@GabreWinters I sound like a boy scout without meaning too....that's the only thing that people notice..that i'm "quiet" ..other than that ... they don't know i'm gay until I say....I'm fine thanks for asking and no I don't have a gf and don't plan on having one either because i'm gay..... this is their look O.O' (Didn't expect that )
furiousjuffowup 1 year ago
Ur lucky to have a friend like that who accepts you :D
yaelypower 1 year ago
Aw, don't be stingy mate... Go bi.
CybershulDotCom 1 year ago
I'm glad it worked out for you straightacting.
If you hadn't told her,you would have hurt her in the process and the longer you go without telling her and being with her,the more hurt you would inflict on her.
piromaniac9999 1 year ago
Is this girl your friend on facebook? Could you tell me her name. I already found yours and learned a lot of interesting stuff about you and your mom. Could you make your profile not as private? All I could see was some of your info and your friends. I almost tried to be your friend but I thought you probably wouldn't want to.
MyNameNoLongerExists 1 year ago
omg, I didn't expect it would turn out that well between you two! I'm glad for you.
14858631 1 year ago
Kid I could teach you to tap that ass and probably turn you straight. Is this a naive comment.....of course it is, but I bet I still can.
Dreamsex101 1 year ago
I'm gay, dang ur a cuuuutttiiiiieee!!!!!!!
wizard71995 1 year ago
I'm so glad to hear that she reacted well. I used to have a massive crush on a gay friend of mine too, though admittedly he had only come out as bisexual at the time. Once he finally told me he wasn't attracted to women at all, it made our friendship MUCH less confusing, haha. He's like my big brother now :)
OrionsChild 1 year ago
I had a somewhat similar experience, but with drastically different results. I was best friends with this girl for about 5 years. From the onset of our relationship, I knew she a crush on me. At the time I still wasn't being honest to myself about being gay, so we went on a sort of date. I liked her a lot, but not romantically. I eventually told her than I was not really interested in a romantic way, but that I thought we had a great friendship and wanted to pursue that.
seblepage 1 year ago
She seemed ok with that. We graduated from high school and then went to University together. We were in the same program and had all the same classes together. We had a lot of things in common and got along extremely well. For 5 years, we had a strong bond. She was one of the first people I came out to, because I thought of all people, she would accept me the way I was and would offer me her support. When I told her I was attracted to other men, she was devastated.
seblepage 1 year ago
It turns out she had been keeping hopes all this time that I would eventually fall in love with her. She had never been open with me about that, and I definitely did not think that she still had such strong feelings for me. For a while things didn't seem to change too much, but more and more she started to avoid me. She would never call me up to hang out, and when I would do so, she never seemed like she really wanted to be with me. I believe she wanted to distance herself from me.
seblepage 1 year ago
Now she has a boyfriend, and we hardly ever talk. The special bond that we had is gone. We don't laugh together like we used to, and do all of the activites what we used to do. I miss her terribly. Maybe it's all my fault for not coming out to her sooner, but then again, I didn't expect that she still hoped for a romantic future between us.
seblepage 1 year ago
@seblepage Sometimes situations like the one you experienced do indeed happen. I wouldn't say it's your fault, you came out when you were ready. It's not her fault either, although perhaps it was wishful thinking of her. It seems she has recovered since she has a boyfriend. Perhaps she feels a little embarassed, or confused why you didn't tell her sooner. I would hope that should would understand your side though. Good luck to you and thanks for sharing.
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
@StraightActingGayGuy Thanks for your reply! I just wanted to add that I'm quite happy for you that this situation worked out well, and I didn't mean to put a damper on things. But it felt good to share!
Keep on making your great videos, I feel they're probably important to a lot of gay people out there who are having trouble accepting themselves (myself included, still) and/or coming out. And keep on smiling, 'cause you've got a great smile! :)
seblepage 1 year ago
d'accord::)))
jordainetao 1 year ago
awhhh she seems sweet. Glad it worked out. I know what you're going through. I'm bi and sometimes it's hard to tell people that too..especially where I live in the south..grrrr. Nice video though. You are adorable. haha don't mean that in a straight way haha, I know you're gay. :) That's cool. By the way, I totally love your American Eagle shirt! Sooo stylish! Keep the vids coming!
ThatJENNAchick 1 year ago
Loud applaus for good friends and understanding people! Kiss AnneRose
BlogAnneRose 2 years ago
I went to dinner one night with a friend and another girl. The other girl was really putting the moves on me...like woah. I felt really bad, cause she was just the sweetest person. So, I ended up not saying anything. Another friend solved the problem for me by saying that she and I were like Will and Grace (which is not necessarily true, but it got the point across.) Haha.
fugue10 2 years ago
Nice that it worked out for you.
I've been there myself but we stopped seeing eachother a while ago due to going to different schools so I'm pretty sure she is over me by now. *phew*
I can imagine it must have been difficult for her if she really liked you so that is something to appreciate.
dimose14 2 years ago
That's an awesome story! I'm sure she also felt a huge sense of relief. If you didn't tell her you're gay, she probably would have assumed that your lack of attraction to her was because you thought she was unattractive in general, rather than just unattractive -to you- because of your sexual preference. :D
AislinCade 2 years ago
I hate nitpicking, especially on positive comments, but being gay isn't a "preference". Liking chocolate ice cream more than vanilla is a "preference". The gender you're hard-wired to be attracted to...isn't, lol
inuyashaxx 2 years ago
A preference is just something you prefer, whether it's hard-wired or something you've grown up with, something you're simply familiar with, or something you choose to prefer... it's still a preference. That's not to say that being gay is a choice, but you still prefer one gender over the other in a sexual sense.
AislinCade 2 years ago
What I mean is, to say someone prefers men over women, sexually, isn't to say that they are hard-wired to like both and then later on, choose to like one over the other. The word (at least the way I use it) is something imposed on the person after all that. For whatever reason, they are attracted to the same sex - the word 'preference' is simply descriptive, and doesn't try to suggest how they came to be that way.
AislinCade 2 years ago
The reason that word is inappropriate for sexual orientation is that the word preference implies *choice*, whether or not you define or use that word that way yourself. That's how the vast majority of the population uses that word, which is why bigots come after us for our "sexual preferences" and say we "choose" to be gay.
inuyashaxx 2 years ago
I told you HONESTY is always the best policy! Being honest about being gay makes people trust you more I think. The people that hide in the closet and make up stories are not credible...
Good for you!
stoner829 2 years ago
That's wonderful! She's definately a very good friend.
Great how it all worked out for you both!
TryingToDiscover2 2 years ago
Yay!!!!!! I'm so happy that worked out! :)
pvampire 2 years ago
Awe, I am super happy for you :)
I wish I had friends like that.
But super happy for you :)
You always look so HANDSOME.
XOXO
Take Care
CasualLuxuries 2 years ago
aww thats a lovely end to the situation and it seems you will have gained a good friend out of the whole thing :) Thanks for updating us!
haggied 2 years ago
I still remember one of my first coming out experiences. I told a female friend of mine something along the lines of this: "You are such an awesome and pretty girl. If I were straight I would be all over that."
wolfcub82 2 years ago
Honesty works when the person is worth it.
ModernKami 2 years ago 3
I agree
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
thats what happens when u don't sit next to the cute cock! u put yourself in that situation with the burd! Glad it worked out bro, get in about the guys or u don't deserve a penis!
fergybox 2 years ago
Glad things worked out for you
sexiboyjulian 2 years ago
Glad it all worked out!
ncteenboy16 2 years ago
Thanks buddy!
=)
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
I'm glad it worked out. :)
richmooremi 2 years ago
You've a way with stories. Brought it to life on screen.
raisinhead2 2 years ago
awesome! That's cool to hear. =)
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
Great story, I love the way you told it, I felt like I was there.
Have you seen the old Italian/French film "La Cage aux Folles"? Not to be missed.
Ciao
whataboutAlfie 2 years ago
About time you told her XD Lolz
Aww im glad everything worked out for you, if she had reacted in a bad way you would have known she wasnt a true friend, so she obviously is XD Im very happy for you!
xoxo
CeeLoobyLouDee93 2 years ago
Thats really cool man...she def is!
dj0785 2 years ago
Thumbs up =)
mackmeck13 2 years ago
A happy and perfect ending! :)
msmsimon 2 years ago
Glad it worked out Eric. Take Care and keep SMILING. :)
tommy2tone 2 years ago
aw thats sweet you are to much
partycrasher454 2 years ago
great story!
dlyc4714 2 years ago
That is so great that it turned out for the best!
IDH2008 2 years ago
Well, I am happy that everything turned out good. I love your videos. Keep posting.
crakri 2 years ago
she sounds like a great friend! It's good that everything went alright!
DUSTINISMS1 2 years ago
=D thats great im glad everything worked out well =D
RolyUnGashaa 2 years ago
Im glad things worked out.
depfox 2 years ago
That is seriously cool, she seems like a pretty sweet girl. I'm like totally happy that you two got everything worked out. Ahh, Business Statistics? I currently taking that class, I'm quite happy with the B I have in the class.
Well I better go before this turns into a business conference.
=)
~Benji
Benjikahikina2009 2 years ago
Thats a fucking AMAZING story!!!! So happy things worked out. =]
TimothyMcVain 2 years ago
Aww. It should've ended with "and they lived happily ever after.. as friends. The End." lol
NoiretteBlanc 2 years ago
That's awesome Erik!
pcwalker 2 years ago
Great that everything turned out in a good way. Now all you have to do is to find a guy to crush on you! lol
ParmaGayGuy 2 years ago
Yes, I do need to! =)
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
Do not worry Erik, you will find your guy soon enough!
ParmaGayGuy 2 years ago
Congratulations! I'm really glad it all worked out and am very happy for you. Best result.
speedoboyny 2 years ago
lessons in life are happening so much earlier and it is so nice to see, i am 40 and still running into past life lessons that i hadnt learned from, awesome vid, congrats on setting the example. hope u had a nice thanksgiving.
thedancetuber 2 years ago
That's the best kind of friend. Happy for you that it worked out fine.
sprtsluvrr 2 years ago
I'm so glad it all worked out for you! :)
retrofun1479 2 years ago
Glad this worked out! But don't just tell us, tell her! Tell her how much it meant to you that she stood by you, and how difficult it was for you to tell her because you didn't want to hurt her. Tell her!
nexttsar 2 years ago
Good luck! =)
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
That sounds great! What did you expect to happen though? Hope you are doing well!
Take care and stay safe!
Lathan
LathanJV36 2 years ago
Like I TOLD you..HONESTY is the best policy!!!! SEE..you are honest and she is still your friend!!!
Hugs! Jim
stoner829 2 years ago
That's really great to hear that it worked out. Hope she becomes a long-term good friend of yours, Erik, and I hope that it all works out in the future.
TheGeek1028 2 years ago
I'm glad to hear it turned out well. But I doubt this will stop her from being attracted to you, so hopefully you can help find each other boyfriends! :-)
vwestlife 2 years ago
congratulations erik.
yaymamayay 2 years ago
Yes, definitely a good friend... hopefully for life :)
tattooskin72 2 years ago