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  • The watch is distracting

  • I'm still too young to have an actual "life," but this is great advice for when i'm older, and when I really know what my "Titanic" looks like.

  • i absolutely agree, brilliantly put and so very true, I am quite impressed with you, just subbed to you, England looks lovely, I really miss it.

  • Thank you-this is very encouraging and practical advice that you have given. It has really helped me understand that I do need to check on these areas and change them-I think that I tend to be more wrapped up in myself which might not be such a good thing-but thank God for second chances-I will start right now improving my self confidence-thank you again for bringing this to my attention-May God Bless You 4 Life!!!!!

  • i love you, but here's the problem: most of the time the third or "core" level of confidence is DERIVED from the top two levels. usually the reasons why you love yourself would be because you look good, have a successful career, are very athletic, highly talented, good family/friends, etc. if you love the top two levels, what else is there left to love? i'm having a hard time justifying that...

  • I agree with you, because i do love myself, I just have to get out of my way. LOL as corny as it sounds. and have more confidence. one thing i'm very confidence about myself is that i never give up on myself. i believe that is the best theory of confidence right. what do you think MR. Hussey?

  • Matthew you are amazing (: You've inspired me. Thankyou so much :D

  • omg ur like harry potter....

  • This is so true EXUDE CONFIDENCE!!

  • I love myself. I like the third part.

  • Thanks bro really helped

  • So true. And I guessed the third one.

  • Even kind of sounds like Daniel Radcliffe... Wtf.

  • Well put :)

  • I love this amazing guy.

  • Awesome video!

  • damn the Titanic? that boat sank hopefully my confidence doesn't

  • Great video, very deep.

  • great video!!!

  • i love you..just saying

  • I couldn't stop staring at the trimmed and then untrimmed trees in the background.

  • This is the most amazingly coherent piece of information ever provided by a speaker. =)

  • Just wanted to say I love your videos, and glad I found them! I've subbed and gonna subscribe to your site as well.

  • wht kind of education do u need 2 b a dating coach?

  • I have been watching a lot of Matthew Hussey's videos. He always has great advice. I am glad I stumbled upon his videos.

  • i'm going to love myself to death from this point on. don't be hatin me peeps

  • i love what he saids. I respect this guy.

  • i love your smile. =)

  • @DingDingDing33 but I won't ever be able to see him again if I don't get cloce to him. Even getting his number would be enugh....

  • Watching this video itself has made me feel good about myself because I actually realised these things myself too, although I never specifically split them up into 3 levels but feeling that I sometimes see things in ways that others might not is one of the few things that give me confidence at the moment, so thank you so much! your video's are great & cant believe they're free haha.

  • Help please!! I'm 13 and I like this guy a lot. But I'm realy realy shy and I have no dateing experience, so I have a lot of trouble aproching him! But he's a transfer student, so he will go back at the end of the year!! I don't have verry much time left to make him like me!! I will never be able to see him or talk to him again unless I get cloce to him!! Plese help me!! How do I aproch him? What do I say? Please help me!!! I don't want to lose him forever..... help?

  • @utauaya okay you're 13 calm down

  • I want to have your babies.

  • Thank you sir.

  • great video! all the other so called 'experts' out there talking on this topic are full of bs. glad you have the brains to bring truth to the matter and you're not all talk like the other posers out there.

  • I admire u for the brains first of all. Do you always have to wear your shirt like that? It's sooo distracting :) Thanks for the video!

  • Multisnoopdog: you have the greatest opportunity of any generation in history. I don't know if you have the talent to succeed, but the only way you will find out is if you just start doing what you love.

    Video cameras can be had for spare change. Write something and get your friends together: or if you don't have any friends, advertise for actors to play in your movie on a school bulletin board and GET FRIENDS. Then MAKE YOUR MOVIE!

  • JUST DO IT!!

    Then post it on YouTube with a link to your personal blog or website. People will tell you if they like it, if they think you have talent (and some will be really nasty about it, but grow a thick skin.

    You have your whole life ahead of you. Experiment. Play. Have fun.

    BUT DO IT!!

  • well I sure wouldn't mind you giving me all your.. resources ;)

  • this is so true, i totally agree with your thinking especially with loving yourself. if you can love yourself you can really enjoy your life. this advice seemed useful to me. you're just perfect

  • this is a really great, usefull video. thank you so much.

    btw, i could not help myself, but throughout the whole video i was imagining how you smell xD i bet you smell good...

  • I cant say i love myself, im not blaming anyone, the big problem is my dream. Im still young at 14, but my dream is too become a movie wrighter or director. My problem is just, who to talk too? If i could ask someone: is this good, should this be in a film? It would make my day. Thx for Reading

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  • so true, i find it hard to argue with you on all these points you've made

  • the only reason why any girl would want to be called a hussy is if they are Mrs. Hussey. lol

  • do you want me to tell you what i don't like about all of your videos? that you say it exactly how it is. it's hard to be confronted with the things you don't necessarily want to hear about yourself. but thanks for doing this. sometimes all it takes is someone to tell you the truth (:

  • gud video...thankz man

  • Is confidence really that great? Suppose you're a person who doesn't have that and who doesn't want to change, or who simply rejects the idea that there is something called "confidence". Suppose you're someone that wants to be loved just as he/she IS , called "unconditional love". What then? If people only approach you because you are confident like SOCIETY wants you to be, I do not call this relationship "unconditional love". How about "Social Darwinism" instead? Food for thought!

  • @NoNameArtist89 He's trying to help people who want to fit IN the society we are holding now. Unfortunately, confidence does exists to the majority of the people, therefore it IS important for getting things you'd like such as a job, a date, etc. Even if there´s a person too stubborn to realize that having ¨confidence¨ boosts the way you are perceived to the great majority, those kind of people normally fall into procrastination, laziness and depression which only results in hatred for life.

  • @NoNameArtist89 In order for a person to want for others to accept them as they are, that person must have accepted themselves for who and what they are. When you accept yourself for who you are, you are in essence "confident"...Confidence is just self acceptance. Self acceptance is self love... Thats all :)

  • You are an amazing speaker :) You give great advice!

  • so motivational, the part of loving yourself really moved me. i subscribed b/c of this. thank you.

  • This is so right! I feel I'm really getting my confidence back now after a rough few years. I'm never going to be a thoroughly loud person because that just isn't me, but i don't get shy talking to different people any more and although I've had alot of knock backs finding a job- it isn't really phasing me because I know I'll get one eventually!

  • I have such low self-esteem its pathetic. Im learning how to address and deal with my issues. I have achieved alot in my life that Im so proud of, but Ive been so fixated on all my flaws. Im going to stop blaming everyone. Thanks for this advice.

  • Confidence...It is a great topic for people to discuss and I think you, Matthem Hussey, are the right person to teach us how to be more confidence because you're so naturally confident, it just flows from you. You make us believe that it is so easy to get confidence but it is not...A strong sense of self is not easy to get to as I thought it would be. I think not being affected by things that have happened aroung us is like tapping the ears to not be influenced by what others talk about us.

  • I am so gonna make up some multiple personalities to boost me :D

  • I'm in love!!!!

  • brilliant :)

  • great advice..keep it coming!

  • i am so immature everytime he says his name i crack up

  • Why does he have to bite his lip? This guy makes me smile =)

  • He's awesome.

  • agree agree agree! :D you're my hero :)

  • Wonderful video. Thank you.

  • The Titanic is an awful example, because what if a person's confidence hits an iceberg and sinks?

    Otherwise, great advice! :-)

  • 5:40 - 8:48  now that's a confident person! LOL

  • I really love your videos. Beautiful advice.

  • This video is awesome covered in awesome sauce and it helped me tremendously! Thank you for sharing this invaluable insight with us for no charge!

  • This really helped me a lot. Thanks. :)

    Oh and you're probably the cutest thing I've ever seen.

  • I love you Matt Hussey! I would marry you in a heartbeat!!

  • 3 levels? AHHHH INCEPTION

  • I couldn't help but watch all the business people in the background....lol thinking to myself, They look confident. Hahaha

  • i love your content!! Many many levels of cool :) Cheers for sharing youself and your time :)

  • I'm just wondering...are you a Christian? Because what you're saying in a lot of your videos sounds Christian, and like you've been told NOT to mention God or something

  • I love this episode so much. This is not just about you could get a guy but getting yourself look in and deeply clearly truly understand yourself. People always get it wrong betaween loving yourself and be selfish.

  • sooo true

  • Its all so hard to love myself, when I do something stupid, or am lazy....what to do then ??and additionally I am sometimes think the anger I have on my self when I do soemthing wrong helps mee to start over and to put more energy into solving the issue,

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  • It's amazing what you can learn about life in 8 minutes and 48 seconds. Thanks for this vid and the wisdom!

  • Good thinking !!! Useful infor glad I watched it

  • A healthy respect for oneself, now there's a way to get what you want.

  • @yourlocalcharli I'd have to agree with you! I've watched at least ten of his videos already and for every single one I've thought about how he reminded me of Daniel Radcliffe!

    Btw your videos are so helpful and just make me feel better! :)

  • ur videos are pretty good and to the point. theyre much better then self help books. the key is to the point. great job=]

  • Holy Shit! Harry Potter just taught me how to be confident! :D

  • Love your self

  • I've been watching many videos and none like yours. Very complete and great advice other vids just tell u to mimic others. Thanks

  • excellent video, you've opened my eyes. i really hope you continue uploading this kind of videos

  • great video really helpful

  • Thank you for this video! I really learned a lot! Keep 'em coming!

  • those clicknoices in the background really makes me hell of annoyed!

  • You are so right on!!! Actually, loving yourself (albeit narcissistically), is also the first step to enlightenment. Also, people who hate themselves hate others (complaint mongers, people who see the glass as half empty, formerly abused people and people who aren't tolerant of other cultures) I've watched one of your other videos about how to tell if a guy is attracted to you, and this guy did ALL of the signs you mentioned. I "felt" he was, but your signs nailed it!

  • i love your accent !

  • i love how you can articulate your thoughts so well. i admire this trait of yours.. when i talk i tend to say 'like' 'um' 'well idk... whatever' just stupid phrases like that.. watching this video has made me inspired to become more fluent with my words!! you're my new role model =)

  • Matt, you are able to explain this concisely and well. Keep up the good work. I'd like to see more videos of this type. 

  • Wow. This is just what I needed.

    Thank you so much.

  • Wow, you are really good at this kind of thing! I've found so many of your videos extremely helpful and I hope to watch loads more and learn loads of this stuff.

  • thankyou for sharing, god bless :)

  • I wish I could love myself like that and be my own best friend..

  • my shyness overcomes my confidence :( 

  • wow, there is so much wisdom in these short 8 minutes.

  • I didn't like your explanation of the "core" level. You said love yourself and mean it. But how do you "love yourself and mean it." It sounds simple, but in reality i think it's more complex. If it was that easy to love yourself everyone would love themselves. I wish you could explain that more. How do you love yourself?

  • @Wiseguyzmoney you're only making it complex.. if it's that hard then you don't love the life your living in. many people actually do love themselves :) thats how they make friends and move on with their life lol

  • @JustmeKasie Maybe it's just one of those thing's that you can't explain or give a 123 list of steps to. Kind of like how you can't explain to someone how to ride a bicycle or else you might end up confusing them even more. Maybe you just have to sit on the bicycle and give it you're best shot... and if that doesn't work there are plenty of good therapists in this world lol.

  • @Wiseguyzmoney loving yourself is about being happy i mean sure it takes work to actually Love yourself because naturally we compare our lives to others and we feel like crap when we dont have that kind of life we imagine their lives to be. i believe there is no 123 steps to anything. we have to experience it etc.. and yea we would just have to ride on that bicycle and so on but we would ride it with family.. people that will pull you up and give you a reason and of course there is faith :)

  • @Wiseguyzmoney being happy relates to being confident and being confident relates to loving yourself and loving who you are

  • well said!

  • Ya quite Cute.... And a very good public speaker.... Good Job :))

  • This is soo helpful!

  • I'm not happy with how I look, but I do love what I have.

    I use what I have and like how I look, so do others.

    I do get compliments.

    & I do love how I talk with people, I love how my life stands together.

    & personally, I don't mind how I look.

    I use what I have and put it to better ways, and I do think if I lose all, I have my confidence and myself.

    This attitude has let me keep my job and friends.

    And most of all just happiness, it's improved that too !

    You're so right ! :D

  • you are so damn right!

    thank u

  • your watch is huuge

  • Thank You :)

  • you're brilliant

  • I'm a dude, and I concur with all this.

  • personally I think he got the right but relayed in the wrong order the core is the most important part in everything because when your surface is destroyed and your middle wastes away your core survives which means you survive. So shouldn't you look after that first ?

  • @Dekorum1989 he prob mentioned that one last to put more attention and importance in it, he did said that ur core is the most important. ppl sometimes say the most important things at the end rather than the beginning, finnish off well.

  • some real things. straight up. nice vid man.

  • You're soooo cute... can you be my personal life mentor? hahah

  • Thank you for sharing your wisdom-*

  • I can really understand your explanations since you provide examples!

  • Omg this is sooooo true.xox

  • Awesome video Matt!! Honestly I just found your youtube videos but in the last couple of months I've been watching your section in the Pickup University DVDs and they are great. Thanks for sharing this stuff!!

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  • that stuff about "loving yourself" is so true! I'm a confident person and people only notice me when I'm unaware of everything else by enjoying myself, rather than paying too much attention to my surroundings.

  • @christan4ev2204 Sounds a little self-centered broham. You should enjoy your surroundings too.

  • @christan4ev2204 Check out 7:52 brohemmorhage.

  • This all reminds me of cognitive behavioural therapy and reducing down to one's core beliefs about themselves, the world, and other people. I think it's something very important for all people to realize and work on. Thanks!

  • Hey Matthew, I feel like we are brothers. We think the almost the same things.

  • I used to think that confidence is something that I can naturally work on when I need to improve my confidence. And most other times, I would think I am confident, and that there is no need to be confident. But until today, I kinda feel the need to be confident now that there is someone I like, and want to differentiate myself from other guys. This video is very helpful for me.

  • very well said mate, extremely surprised this hasn't got more views and comments. only 600-ish views since june 2009 wtf?

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