You cant deal with someone who has been drinking. Your anger will only fuel things. I would probably tell the person on the phone to call when sober. When they call, they would be made aware of what was said and that, if they were not apologetic, then I did not want to see them, hear from them, and no emails/texts from them. Basically, there is too much hate for my own friends to add to that nonsense. If they want to live like that, then I do not want to witness it.
Personally i would say something along the lines of "Oi you fat bitch who do you think your talking to?" thats how i deal with it - makes a few enemies but i wouldnt want to be around them anyway
IIIts funny you think you look blah and I think you look amazing. BUT...If someone were to give their friend a phone drunk or not I would chew her out and make her tell me who it was. And I Would give them a lovely call. I say there is no excuse for that...Drunks tell no lies. They have no excuse
In that situation i would wonder what the hell they were doing? I would want an explentation, you know? I would not take that kind of shit. The only friend of mine whom gets to call me "jævla homse(Norwegian)"(Fucking Faggot in English), is a friend of mine whom is like that.
But serriusly, get an explanation, and ask what they have against you. Thats what i would do. Or just ignore it and still be friends with my friend.. Kind of.. Did you gett any of that, at all?
hey there Ross. I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you. i would confront these people face to face and prob pulverize them but that's just me and that was a very shitty thing this person did to u but remember KARMA is a bitch and it will come back to them 10 fold. drunk or not still hurts. that's awesome yr going to Venezuela i hope u have fun. and
Out here, [normally] it's 4 years of high school and 3 years of junior high. You guys probably just combine the two.
Ouch. That's not good. Honestly, I can't tell you what to do. It all depends if you're willing to sacrifice this relationship, and how close you two are.
It's good to hear from you again Ross. Now that you're done with high school, do you have a year of college? Here in the states most everywhere high school is four years; grades nine through twelve. I'm sorry to learn that things have been a little rough for you. As for that phone call, I would have hung up as you did but I would have called my friend the next day and read the riot act to her.
I would try to stay calm cos there's nothing u can do in that very moment... and then I would wait to see her again (in a public place surrounded by her friends if possible) and would tell her very calm and serious "I would appreciate that you would either control ur drunk friends or don't let them take ur phone to ring random people and tell them those private things about you, people may think ur a slut u know?" :P
Thats fucking stupid . Your not even like stereotypical gay, which is who people usually hate on . I'd probs just be pissed at my friend even though it wasn't them
Sorry for the repetitions before (I'm writing from a mobile). From my experience I also agree that people when drunk are ironically most likely to show their real stand on things (which of course could also face some evolution over time)
Being hurt can bring out our bad. But the easiest way is not alway the wiser. Depends on how much of a good real friend she was until now, how active or passive she was during the bad action (sometimes group pressure makes for a less free response, ...) From your side of the friendship you should be able to wait for an apology and forgive before a major good, a worth keeping frienship where nobody is perfect
Um, yeah. i would have hung up. been pissed && very hurt that a "friend" allowed someone else to use their phone to harass you. Then, probably the next day, confront the "friend," tell them whats up && how it was a shit move on their part. regardless of whether they were intoxicated or not. Then, just wash your hands of them because they are not worth your friendship.
I'm sorry you got hurt, love. i hope everything gets better soon. <33
Hmmm ... I think I woulda said something like "Have a nice day" then hung up on them...
Your friend obviously knew what was going on be it wether they were drunk or not... I think I'd focus on the friends You've got and forget the one who's phone it was ... I've had a similar situatin and I've forgotten abou the person in Question 2 years later we are sorta back on talking time can be a healer.
I'm not sure what I'd do.. Probably be in shock, just like you... That would be the last thing to expect.. Afterwards, when you think about it, it's pretty obvious that you get angry.. I would too. About your friend, I don't know, probably talk to her about it and ask her what the ** was going on there and what her excuse is. If you get some crappy answer, I'd probably just quit being friends. I mean, it's pretty mean if she just let that person call you and start yelling these thing to you...
I would have just hung up. At some point, I would call your "friend" (the owner of the phone) and ask her what the circumstances of the call were. Maybe you should consider that your "friend" has the same point of view, in which case I would seek a new friend. I agree that what people say in a state of drunkedness is in all probability really what they think. I definitely don't care for people who change their personalities when they get drunk. Don from Tennessee, USA.
In all my 55 years of life I find that what people say when they are drunk is how they really feel. Your friend that allowed this person to say the things she did to you, shows how she really feels about you. As I said on twitter, she should now be your ex-friend. You are way to intelligient and way to nice to have a friend like that. Your adult life has started and you have the world in your hands. Go from here and don't look back. Gregg from Indiana USA.
Hmm, well.. I think I would at first be shocked, hang up, and begin wondering why my friend would have allowed it to happen in the first place. Afterward, I would then talk to my friend at a later time and find out what she was thinking, letting that happen I mean. I'm sorry this happened to you man, hate of any kind is horrible, but this is just cruel and hurtful. I hope you'll be OK after you figure all this out. =[
Hanging up is the appropriate response. As for your "friend", with friends like that, who needs enemies? Friends watch your back just as much as they watch after who use their phone. Why would a true friend of yours even be associating with people that would be that mean & juvenile to you? Be glad that soon you will be living an entire world away from the people that have been harassing you.
I'm normally not one to let words get me down, so I would've probably either a) sighed, shook my head, and hung up, or b) utter the first withering retort that came to mind, and THEN sigh, shake my head, and hang up.
Public school sucks no matter what country you're in, but now that you're done with it, you can go where you want, and do what you want; if there are people around you who throw hate your way, you won't be forced to deal with them every day. Here's to an awesome future! =)
She's not your friend. Drop her. Don't waste energy.
gregorio73 3 weeks ago
quién so?
anitasseo 2 months ago
You cant deal with someone who has been drinking. Your anger will only fuel things. I would probably tell the person on the phone to call when sober. When they call, they would be made aware of what was said and that, if they were not apologetic, then I did not want to see them, hear from them, and no emails/texts from them. Basically, there is too much hate for my own friends to add to that nonsense. If they want to live like that, then I do not want to witness it.
jaydawg34 1 year ago
Personally i would say something along the lines of "Oi you fat bitch who do you think your talking to?" thats how i deal with it - makes a few enemies but i wouldnt want to be around them anyway
adrianspd 1 year ago
Ross!!! If you are going to Venezuela you must come to Sao Paulo as well!!! You have several fans here!!!
Hug.
TgTiagoFelipe 1 year ago
IIIts funny you think you look blah and I think you look amazing. BUT...If someone were to give their friend a phone drunk or not I would chew her out and make her tell me who it was. And I Would give them a lovely call. I say there is no excuse for that...Drunks tell no lies. They have no excuse
JamaisFAUX 1 year ago
In that situation i would wonder what the hell they were doing? I would want an explentation, you know? I would not take that kind of shit. The only friend of mine whom gets to call me "jævla homse(Norwegian)"(Fucking Faggot in English), is a friend of mine whom is like that.
But serriusly, get an explanation, and ask what they have against you. Thats what i would do. Or just ignore it and still be friends with my friend.. Kind of.. Did you gett any of that, at all?
arildsben 1 year ago
I'd probably just laugh it off. I'd be a bit pissed at my mate though.
busky18 1 year ago
hey there Ross. I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you. i would confront these people face to face and prob pulverize them but that's just me and that was a very shitty thing this person did to u but remember KARMA is a bitch and it will come back to them 10 fold. drunk or not still hurts. that's awesome yr going to Venezuela i hope u have fun. and
EXPLORER2400 1 year ago
dont give any more attention than it begs for ...IGNORE. they are not talking to you, you are a good person living your life, now go handsome :D
sleekcartim 1 year ago
HUG
:-)
ATBigger 1 year ago
bloody heterosexuals, at least we can take refuge in the fact that they will be burdened with children...
zodiac822 1 year ago
@zodiac822
Your comment made me laugh
DireDowns 1 year ago
@DireDowns
very pleased to hear it :) was my pleasure
zodiac822 1 year ago
Out here, [normally] it's 4 years of high school and 3 years of junior high. You guys probably just combine the two.
Ouch. That's not good. Honestly, I can't tell you what to do. It all depends if you're willing to sacrifice this relationship, and how close you two are.
edgehaedjr 1 year ago
It's good to hear from you again Ross. Now that you're done with high school, do you have a year of college? Here in the states most everywhere high school is four years; grades nine through twelve. I'm sorry to learn that things have been a little rough for you. As for that phone call, I would have hung up as you did but I would have called my friend the next day and read the riot act to her.
alaninnh 1 year ago
ignore... ice cream... move on...
sharkn02 1 year ago
I would try to stay calm cos there's nothing u can do in that very moment... and then I would wait to see her again (in a public place surrounded by her friends if possible) and would tell her very calm and serious "I would appreciate that you would either control ur drunk friends or don't let them take ur phone to ring random people and tell them those private things about you, people may think ur a slut u know?" :P
halfinadaytime 1 year ago
Thats fucking stupid . Your not even like stereotypical gay, which is who people usually hate on . I'd probs just be pissed at my friend even though it wasn't them
adamblogsyou 1 year ago
Sorry for the repetitions before (I'm writing from a mobile). From my experience I also agree that people when drunk are ironically most likely to show their real stand on things (which of course could also face some evolution over time)
layersonlife 1 year ago
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layersonlife 1 year ago
Being hurt can bring out our bad. But the easiest way is not alway the wiser. Depends on how much of a good real friend she was until now, how active or passive she was during the bad action (sometimes group pressure makes for a less free response, ...) From your side of the friendship you should be able to wait for an apology and forgive before a major good, a worth keeping frienship where nobody is perfect
layersonlife 1 year ago
Fuck that bitch up!!!
Hebimaru112 1 year ago
Ugh, that sounds so awful.
I love you, Rossy. <3
JollyGreen303 1 year ago
Um, yeah. i would have hung up. been pissed && very hurt that a "friend" allowed someone else to use their phone to harass you. Then, probably the next day, confront the "friend," tell them whats up && how it was a shit move on their part. regardless of whether they were intoxicated or not. Then, just wash your hands of them because they are not worth your friendship.
I'm sorry you got hurt, love. i hope everything gets better soon. <33
MMP8705 1 year ago
Hmmm ... I think I woulda said something like "Have a nice day" then hung up on them...
Your friend obviously knew what was going on be it wether they were drunk or not... I think I'd focus on the friends You've got and forget the one who's phone it was ... I've had a similar situatin and I've forgotten abou the person in Question 2 years later we are sorta back on talking time can be a healer.
Rach4evaRox 1 year ago
I'm not sure what I'd do.. Probably be in shock, just like you... That would be the last thing to expect.. Afterwards, when you think about it, it's pretty obvious that you get angry.. I would too. About your friend, I don't know, probably talk to her about it and ask her what the ** was going on there and what her excuse is. If you get some crappy answer, I'd probably just quit being friends. I mean, it's pretty mean if she just let that person call you and start yelling these thing to you...
Kyraaah 1 year ago
I wouldn't really care. I don't want someone in my life like that and wouldn't talk to them again and just forget about them...
skywards16 1 year ago
I would have just hung up. At some point, I would call your "friend" (the owner of the phone) and ask her what the circumstances of the call were. Maybe you should consider that your "friend" has the same point of view, in which case I would seek a new friend. I agree that what people say in a state of drunkedness is in all probability really what they think. I definitely don't care for people who change their personalities when they get drunk. Don from Tennessee, USA.
TnDon 1 year ago
In all my 55 years of life I find that what people say when they are drunk is how they really feel. Your friend that allowed this person to say the things she did to you, shows how she really feels about you. As I said on twitter, she should now be your ex-friend. You are way to intelligient and way to nice to have a friend like that. Your adult life has started and you have the world in your hands. Go from here and don't look back. Gregg from Indiana USA.
gcanary 1 year ago
Hmm, well.. I think I would at first be shocked, hang up, and begin wondering why my friend would have allowed it to happen in the first place. Afterward, I would then talk to my friend at a later time and find out what she was thinking, letting that happen I mean. I'm sorry this happened to you man, hate of any kind is horrible, but this is just cruel and hurtful. I hope you'll be OK after you figure all this out. =[
tempestg473 1 year ago
Hanging up is the appropriate response. As for your "friend", with friends like that, who needs enemies? Friends watch your back just as much as they watch after who use their phone. Why would a true friend of yours even be associating with people that would be that mean & juvenile to you? Be glad that soon you will be living an entire world away from the people that have been harassing you.
dafttool 1 year ago
I'm normally not one to let words get me down, so I would've probably either a) sighed, shook my head, and hung up, or b) utter the first withering retort that came to mind, and THEN sigh, shake my head, and hang up.
Public school sucks no matter what country you're in, but now that you're done with it, you can go where you want, and do what you want; if there are people around you who throw hate your way, you won't be forced to deal with them every day. Here's to an awesome future! =)
starjake 1 year ago