i came out to my mom and my friends. i cant come out to my dad. i could never do that. he would never look at me the same way. in his mind all lgbtq people should "go to an island and die off" which really hurt me and which is why i cant tell him. im probably not going to tell him until i am moved out and in a relationship with a girl. i know that my dad would disown me and verbally possibly physically abuse me because of who i am which is why i am deathly afraid of telling him
You know here's something I must ask. If your folks are that quick to her on you because you're gay, where they really great parents in the first place?
I must admit I've always thought of homosexuality as a bit odd, probaby because I don't think I could be gay even if I tried, but never hated those for it and wouldn't turn my back on them.
I have to say thank you. My mother is a homophobic person and i have been a lesbian for about 4 years and i still am scared to say anything today. This video made me cry cuz' I know when i do finally tell her shes just going to push me away and I don't want her to do that.
wow, the first time i watched this i cried cuz i didnt realyy think about what happens in the "real world" ,i take my hat off to the people ,including you, who have gone through anything like this and have still lived with their head held high. BIG UP !! x
funny think about parents!they dump you when you are little and then come to your life only to order you what to do and what not.care only about them selfs and what others say,and if you are in a small town with no friends you are screwd as me!
Its messed up how parents can abandon their kids over something that makes them who they they. Sexuality doesn't change a person.
I was lucky with my mum she is so down to earth and she's happy coz i'm happy. I new she would never turn her back on me yet it was still hard to build the nerve to tell her but had to b4 i was ready coz sum1 told her first grrr but anyways good video
This is the first video of yours that I've ever watched, but I can really relate to what you are saying. Well put. Can I ask how old you are? Sorry if that's either common knowledge or not something you want posted on the internet. Great video!
Thanks for this vid - its one of my biggest stresses and concerns.. ive tested the grounds and i know it my mom finds out i need to get the hell away - im definitely not ready to lose so much, but its way overwhelming ... definitely a touchy subject x
Hi I really like your videos and you touch one of my biggest fear ,am 25 and am in the Closet I dont think I will come out I just plan to get the hell out here , I never get attach to anyone friends or family bye
=/ my heart goes out to you. I'm sorry that you had to go through all that...I completely understand. Don't let any of it bring you down or make you cry. If they can't accept you for who you are then that's just them. You're an important person no matter what your life decisions may be, you're still you. So keep smiling!!! Cause we all want to see that smile of yours!! =p <3 <3
Thank you for this video. Thank you so much. This is such a great video. Somehow you've put together such incredible thoughts and feelings on the subject that I'd never be able to put down in words in a million years.
I'm planning to write out a letter/email to my parents to come out to them, and I'm definitely letting them know about this video.
it does hurt. my moms boyfriend is very religious and he doesn't approve of my being bi. he gave me a speech (knowing i was bi) that god doesn't approve and i'll go to hell. he doesn't like the fact that i have friends over (guys and girls) its messed up and i don't feel comfortable around him as much anymore. it sucks cause we had a good 'family' relationship.
@AmAnDaBiRd95 So my family is america baptist and in my religion we try to be like Jesus. He loved and cared for everyone ie. the lepors. we are created in the image of god, he made us the way we are for a reason. lova who you love and be yourself. best of luck.
my mom told me that she was disappointed in me and that my friends wouldnt want to ever see me again if i told them i was lesbian. how wrong she was. i have told most of my friends and they except me for who i am and love me no matter what. i love that my friends can except me more then my parents can...
i came out when i had 17,actually i'm 21,but i felt gay when i had 8 years,and when i came out i was so proud of myself but i lived my life,hiding stuff, telling lies,talking in codes,making everything to avoid my mom that she knew about my sexual orientation, but i came to hate my fake life, and i just wanted to feel free, then i told my mom,what she would do if she had a gay son, n' she answered: I would never have a gay son, first i exorcise him by myself!! and I could only keep silence.
this is what i was most afriad of when comin to terms with being gay because i was afraid of my familys rejections..i made plans in case i got kicked out when i told them. cuzz i come from a mexican catholic family. but luckly it came out good..my mom and sis had a tough time but eventually came over and support..i havent told my dad..but my mom has..we dont talk about it around him..but i was deathly afraid for a long time of tellin my parents because of that.
I really wish there was a way to get parents out there to see this without directly telling them because unfortunately I know mine wouldn't be watching this
First off, I am a strong believer of Jesus, and I am a lesbian. Anyway, I was basically forced into coming out to my parents almost exactly 2 months ago. It was extremely painful, and my mom kept saying that she didn't know what she did wrong, and that this isn't who I am. The topic of my sexuality has kind of become something that my mom and I never talk about. I don't know if she will ever accept or understand it, but I know that she does love me, and I have friends that support me.
my mom loves me even tho im gay but she doesnt know how to deal with it so she goes to ur bf house 2 relaxe and think about it but i think all parents hav said sum pretty shitty things in fites my mom has threaten 2 disown me just durring fites my mom waz one of my first ppl i told becuz i thought i shuld come out 2 her first i came out 2 every else just this year and i told my mom 2 years earlier wen i waz 11 and now 13 im happy 2 say IM SOOO DAM QUIERD and pround posted sumthing on ur fb wall
@everydaykidinus and i wanna say thanks cuz mostly u and lady gaga made me relize tht its gonna be ok 2 be gay so thx for helping me come out 2 every1 else
im 19 and im EXTREMELY afraid of coming out .. its gotten to the point where ive even thought of suicide cause it makes sense to me to die with them thinking of me as their smart respectful perfect straight daughter .. i know thats fucked up but killing myself scares me less than coming out
@supachik9 I am also 19 and recently came out. Aside from the initial shock (I had a boyfriend for 9 months during senior year), my mother was totally fine with it. My dad did not even blink, I think he kind of saw it coming. Then again neither of my parents are practicing Catholics and they are really good friends with this gay couple (those guys are like uncles to me).
Unless your parents are religious, I think it may not go so badly for you. You are still smart and respectful and...
@Kimjira1 MOST importantly their daughter. A parent's love for their child *should* allow them to overcome prejudices. If not then that is a shame, and in my opinion parents who do reject/disown their lgb children are horrible parents as they have missed the whole damn point.
I hope that when you come out to them that they accept and love you for who you ARE not who they WANT you to be.
@Kimjira1 First I think your massage was a good and positive one, but I noticed something that bugged me. LGB, what happened to the T, it seems more and more that the trans community is getting pushed off to the side in the LGBT community. The public is understanding more and more all the time what i means to be gay, but trans people continue to be ignored for the most part and now our own community is doing it. Trans teens still have the highest right of suicide of any group and we are ignored
@Kimjira1 thanks for clarifying, its a bit of a sort spot I guess, being both trans & a lesbian, its just hard when your getting rejected by the community that should be there to support you and I know I can be hyper sensitive about it, I'm sorry for ranting. Grats on coming out by the way and I wish you all the luck and hope you do not face too much discrimination from the ignorant masses, on the up side the ignorant masses are shrinking by the day so here is to being who we are unapologeticly.
@Kimjira1 thanks its good to know that there are accepting parents. also my parents never had a problem with any gay ppl until they started to meet my friends, yesterday my mom told me i should stop hanging out with them which made me realize i cant come out yet if she doesnt want me to have gay friends. i think she suspects it but is in denial because for some reason she always tells me "its not that its contagious but if you keep hanging out with them itll be normal to u and u mght be one"
@supachik9 hmmm. the comment your mom made about "itll be normal to u and u might be one" is a bit worrying, but does not seem to indicate an overt homophobia, just a somewhat ignorant idea. If you do come out and it goes very badly, contact me or (more realitically) a local lgbt youth center/shelter.
@bambootablepdn come out when ur ready id recommend 2 come out jr or senoir year just so u only hav a couple of years left and than ur out of the house
I don't plan on comming out being Bi to my grandparents until I move out. I know how they feel about homosexuality, and I know that they'll be outraged. I hope they won't be, but it can't hurt to prepare for the good and bad reactions.
I asked my mom what she would do if my sister or I were gay. She said she would kick us out. I guess I'm glad I'm not gay, not that it's a bad thing. I just don't think I could handle everything you guys have to go through. I give you all kudos and I have great respect for having to handle the crap that the haters give. On the first episode of If You Really Knew Me, there was someoen who was gay on there. He talked about how his parents would verbally abuse him because of it. I cried
The closest I can personally relate to this is when my parents threatened to kick me out for refusing to go to church. Disowning works both ways though, I have hated them ever since.
i came out to my mom and my friends. i cant come out to my dad. i could never do that. he would never look at me the same way. in his mind all lgbtq people should "go to an island and die off" which really hurt me and which is why i cant tell him. im probably not going to tell him until i am moved out and in a relationship with a girl. i know that my dad would disown me and verbally possibly physically abuse me because of who i am which is why i am deathly afraid of telling him
LillyChic101 1 week ago
You know here's something I must ask. If your folks are that quick to her on you because you're gay, where they really great parents in the first place?
I must admit I've always thought of homosexuality as a bit odd, probaby because I don't think I could be gay even if I tried, but never hated those for it and wouldn't turn my back on them.
MIKECNW 6 months ago
thank you.. :) you just made my year =D
CaptinBuggernuts911 7 months ago
I have to say thank you. My mother is a homophobic person and i have been a lesbian for about 4 years and i still am scared to say anything today. This video made me cry cuz' I know when i do finally tell her shes just going to push me away and I don't want her to do that.
HazedNight 7 months ago
I will stand up for that love your vid
mineminecraft21 10 months ago
wow, the first time i watched this i cried cuz i didnt realyy think about what happens in the "real world" ,i take my hat off to the people ,including you, who have gone through anything like this and have still lived with their head held high. BIG UP !! x
twilightmadxox 10 months ago
i just dont understand parents that kick their kid out just because of their orientation ;/ wtf!
poluniaa14 11 months ago
funny think about parents!they dump you when you are little and then come to your life only to order you what to do and what not.care only about them selfs and what others say,and if you are in a small town with no friends you are screwd as me!
varnergirl 1 year ago
Its messed up how parents can abandon their kids over something that makes them who they they. Sexuality doesn't change a person.
I was lucky with my mum she is so down to earth and she's happy coz i'm happy. I new she would never turn her back on me yet it was still hard to build the nerve to tell her but had to b4 i was ready coz sum1 told her first grrr but anyways good video
layneac 1 year ago
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JayC4shaw 1 year ago
you're like amazing.
im so scared to come out to my famiy D:
Volcom1274 1 year ago
This is the first video of yours that I've ever watched, but I can really relate to what you are saying. Well put. Can I ask how old you are? Sorry if that's either common knowledge or not something you want posted on the internet. Great video!
lovingisliving18 1 year ago
Thanks for this vid - its one of my biggest stresses and concerns.. ive tested the grounds and i know it my mom finds out i need to get the hell away - im definitely not ready to lose so much, but its way overwhelming ... definitely a touchy subject x
Elenorahh 1 year ago
Hi I really like your videos and you touch one of my biggest fear ,am 25 and am in the Closet I dont think I will come out I just plan to get the hell out here , I never get attach to anyone friends or family bye
dvar21 1 year ago
awh feel better<3
regicide03360 1 year ago
=/ my heart goes out to you. I'm sorry that you had to go through all that...I completely understand. Don't let any of it bring you down or make you cry. If they can't accept you for who you are then that's just them. You're an important person no matter what your life decisions may be, you're still you. So keep smiling!!! Cause we all want to see that smile of yours!! =p <3 <3
MsDreamstream 1 year ago
Thank you for talking. I needed that.
AlicewithloveJack 1 year ago
Thank you for this video. Thank you so much. This is such a great video. Somehow you've put together such incredible thoughts and feelings on the subject that I'd never be able to put down in words in a million years.
I'm planning to write out a letter/email to my parents to come out to them, and I'm definitely letting them know about this video.
Again, thank you.
xrobx250 1 year ago
u looks like ashley simpson..but if u do FFS u will be 100% ashley simpson
sweetpienadya 1 year ago
when you talk,it shows that you're smart and mature.you can be a good motivator.
aom9010 1 year ago
Make more videos!!! :)
hpsaucelovesyourmom 1 year ago
thx ur video helped me a lot.
But i am still afraid of coming out to my parents because they are very very religious..and think that being gay is a sin:(
surayaiit 1 year ago
this is what i fear the most about coming out... ii probably never will to my family
RAWRchristinaRAWR 1 year ago
anyone know the song in this? =(
smibbie 1 year ago 2
@smibbie Spin by Monochromatic. :)
ElecTricProductionz 1 year ago
@ElecTricProductionz ah thanks! :D
smibbie 1 year ago
Can I tweet, post this on facebook and twitter? :D
sweetKaylahMartinez 1 year ago
@sweetKaylahMartinez Of course.
ElecTricProductionz 1 year ago
you made me cry :(
labrams89 1 year ago
Cool vid
junkoschmandt 1 year ago
great video
ThatPunkBrent 1 year ago
it does hurt. my moms boyfriend is very religious and he doesn't approve of my being bi. he gave me a speech (knowing i was bi) that god doesn't approve and i'll go to hell. he doesn't like the fact that i have friends over (guys and girls) its messed up and i don't feel comfortable around him as much anymore. it sucks cause we had a good 'family' relationship.
AmAnDaBiRd95 1 year ago
@AmAnDaBiRd95 So my family is america baptist and in my religion we try to be like Jesus. He loved and cared for everyone ie. the lepors. we are created in the image of god, he made us the way we are for a reason. lova who you love and be yourself. best of luck.
teddybear221995 1 year ago
hold on, let me get my world's smallest violin for this...
Need any gay cheese with your gay whine?
MoneyIsSilver 1 year ago
@MoneyIsSilver Jerk
PoeticPoppa 1 year ago
@PoeticPoppa :D
MoneyIsSilver 1 year ago
my mom told me that she was disappointed in me and that my friends wouldnt want to ever see me again if i told them i was lesbian. how wrong she was. i have told most of my friends and they except me for who i am and love me no matter what. i love that my friends can except me more then my parents can...
XXTeganandSaraXX 1 year ago
I posted this on my facebook and twitter account...
I may not know what this feels like for those who have experienced it....but I just wanted to share because what you say comes from the heart.
MoonspiderHugs 1 year ago
i came out when i had 17,actually i'm 21,but i felt gay when i had 8 years,and when i came out i was so proud of myself but i lived my life,hiding stuff, telling lies,talking in codes,making everything to avoid my mom that she knew about my sexual orientation, but i came to hate my fake life, and i just wanted to feel free, then i told my mom,what she would do if she had a gay son, n' she answered: I would never have a gay son, first i exorcise him by myself!! and I could only keep silence.
bathorysoul999 1 year ago
this is what i was most afriad of when comin to terms with being gay because i was afraid of my familys rejections..i made plans in case i got kicked out when i told them. cuzz i come from a mexican catholic family. but luckly it came out good..my mom and sis had a tough time but eventually came over and support..i havent told my dad..but my mom has..we dont talk about it around him..but i was deathly afraid for a long time of tellin my parents because of that.
rebelyell11338 1 year ago
2 words. Thank You
heck2theno1 1 year ago 11
I really wish there was a way to get parents out there to see this without directly telling them because unfortunately I know mine wouldn't be watching this
008wombatable 1 year ago
First off, I am a strong believer of Jesus, and I am a lesbian. Anyway, I was basically forced into coming out to my parents almost exactly 2 months ago. It was extremely painful, and my mom kept saying that she didn't know what she did wrong, and that this isn't who I am. The topic of my sexuality has kind of become something that my mom and I never talk about. I don't know if she will ever accept or understand it, but I know that she does love me, and I have friends that support me.
TheBlankPage22 1 year ago
Husband/Wife?!?!?!? Lawl wuttt?
And I don't believe you are born your sexuality, I believe it is what you do somewhat.
PsalmsOfPlanets072 1 year ago
my mom loves me even tho im gay but she doesnt know how to deal with it so she goes to ur bf house 2 relaxe and think about it but i think all parents hav said sum pretty shitty things in fites my mom has threaten 2 disown me just durring fites my mom waz one of my first ppl i told becuz i thought i shuld come out 2 her first i came out 2 every else just this year and i told my mom 2 years earlier wen i waz 11 and now 13 im happy 2 say IM SOOO DAM QUIERD and pround posted sumthing on ur fb wall
everydaykidinus 1 year ago
@everydaykidinus and i wanna say thanks cuz mostly u and lady gaga made me relize tht its gonna be ok 2 be gay so thx for helping me come out 2 every1 else
everydaykidinus 1 year ago
im 19 and im EXTREMELY afraid of coming out .. its gotten to the point where ive even thought of suicide cause it makes sense to me to die with them thinking of me as their smart respectful perfect straight daughter .. i know thats fucked up but killing myself scares me less than coming out
supachik9 1 year ago
@supachik9 I am also 19 and recently came out. Aside from the initial shock (I had a boyfriend for 9 months during senior year), my mother was totally fine with it. My dad did not even blink, I think he kind of saw it coming. Then again neither of my parents are practicing Catholics and they are really good friends with this gay couple (those guys are like uncles to me).
Unless your parents are religious, I think it may not go so badly for you. You are still smart and respectful and...
Kimjira1 1 year ago
@Kimjira1 MOST importantly their daughter. A parent's love for their child *should* allow them to overcome prejudices. If not then that is a shame, and in my opinion parents who do reject/disown their lgb children are horrible parents as they have missed the whole damn point.
I hope that when you come out to them that they accept and love you for who you ARE not who they WANT you to be.
Good luck.
Kimjira1 1 year ago
@Kimjira1 First I think your massage was a good and positive one, but I noticed something that bugged me. LGB, what happened to the T, it seems more and more that the trans community is getting pushed off to the side in the LGBT community. The public is understanding more and more all the time what i means to be gay, but trans people continue to be ignored for the most part and now our own community is doing it. Trans teens still have the highest right of suicide of any group and we are ignored
fireflygirl246 1 year ago
@fireflygirl246 I actually did not intendt to leave out the t. I was probably typing fast enough that I missed the t key.
Kimjira1 1 year ago
@Kimjira1 thanks for clarifying, its a bit of a sort spot I guess, being both trans & a lesbian, its just hard when your getting rejected by the community that should be there to support you and I know I can be hyper sensitive about it, I'm sorry for ranting. Grats on coming out by the way and I wish you all the luck and hope you do not face too much discrimination from the ignorant masses, on the up side the ignorant masses are shrinking by the day so here is to being who we are unapologeticly.
fireflygirl246 1 year ago
@Kimjira1 thanks its good to know that there are accepting parents. also my parents never had a problem with any gay ppl until they started to meet my friends, yesterday my mom told me i should stop hanging out with them which made me realize i cant come out yet if she doesnt want me to have gay friends. i think she suspects it but is in denial because for some reason she always tells me "its not that its contagious but if you keep hanging out with them itll be normal to u and u mght be one"
supachik9 1 year ago
@supachik9 hmmm. the comment your mom made about "itll be normal to u and u might be one" is a bit worrying, but does not seem to indicate an overt homophobia, just a somewhat ignorant idea. If you do come out and it goes very badly, contact me or (more realitically) a local lgbt youth center/shelter.
Kimjira1 1 year ago
@Kimjira1 thanks =) ... buut i dont think im going to come out until after i get a job to atleast have some money to support myself
supachik9 1 year ago
@supachik9 Ok. Good luck and stay strong. :)
Kimjira1 1 year ago
im just waaaay too scared to come out. my parents know ive had girlfriends but they dont know ive had boyfriends too
bambootablepdn 1 year ago
@bambootablepdn come out when ur ready id recommend 2 come out jr or senoir year just so u only hav a couple of years left and than ur out of the house
everydaykidinus 1 year ago
I don't plan on comming out being Bi to my grandparents until I move out. I know how they feel about homosexuality, and I know that they'll be outraged. I hope they won't be, but it can't hurt to prepare for the good and bad reactions.
BokuwaFdesu 1 year ago
I asked my mom what she would do if my sister or I were gay. She said she would kick us out. I guess I'm glad I'm not gay, not that it's a bad thing. I just don't think I could handle everything you guys have to go through. I give you all kudos and I have great respect for having to handle the crap that the haters give. On the first episode of If You Really Knew Me, there was someoen who was gay on there. He talked about how his parents would verbally abuse him because of it. I cried
FleshEatingFairy 1 year ago 9
@FleshEatingFairy there should be more people like u in the world =)
stoner0824 1 year ago
i totally agree with you! it drives me crazy when parents cant accept their children for who they are
plzmarrymejeydonily2 1 year ago
This is why I never wanted to come out till I left home.
RainbowSpiceGirl 1 year ago
The closest I can personally relate to this is when my parents threatened to kick me out for refusing to go to church. Disowning works both ways though, I have hated them ever since.
paul20072007 1 year ago
I completely agree with everything you said. It's awful what some parents are willing to do to their own children just because of sexual preference.
spunkytatertot135 1 year ago