Dating Advice for Women: How To Handle Men Who Won't Commit

[cecinia23]

i ask on the first date so he dont waste my damn time .

[GeminiKesha]

Revelation!!!Thanks DR.!

[SunnySunKansas]

You are right about your topic. Hope woman knows men and woman come from different world. i like your talk.

[atomicgdog]

Good video. Men do fear marriage to an extent. Many of todays women do not match the description of women you're talking about though. If they did, the man would marry them. If my girl matched that description, I would marry her in a heartbeat, regardless of my fear of commitment.

[mba2ceo]

Men do NOT fear marriage ... MEN fear divorce.

[mba2ceo]

Dating to Marriage = Preditoral Parasite

Cook ... I am happy if she sucks my ...

[ichangefaces]

I am especially proud of the fact that you acknowledge GOD in all things.



[TheBgoz]

this seems kinda off. dating someone just coz u wanna be married, & only staying with them if they r going to marry u? if u truly love someone, they would mean more to u than a marriage. date them, & then marry them coz u love them & u mesh well together as a team & if he is also your friend as well as your lover. & i can't help but find the whole "be like mum" thing more than a little creepy...

[cdw100]

Sex differences-why wont men commit it is on youtube, watch and learn

[gjbae]

May God bless you!

[justsayit2me]

Awwww he's cute / funny and he says things well. He says what us girls need to hear

[attractguynow]

awesome info.



[MELODY7809]

Thank you very much for your good advice!

So helpful.

May God bless you and your ministry. :)

[Sims8705]

Great video. Relationships take time to develop. The beginning can be great and then fall apart in the quick of an eye. Sometimes people change after a period of time. Those are the risks involved when pursuing romantic relationships.There is more to the situation that's meets the eye.

[trish0018]

I haven't heard anything more real. All men want is someone like their Mom!! Its so true!!

[mamavictoriarocky]

Some men just don't want to grow up. I am pregnant with his child and he still won't commit. So what do I do... walk away or put away with it.

[Agent1W]

Good advice but I have a real bad chip on my shoulder about marriage. Divorce still remains to be a quick and easy option to end a marriage. How do I know that my wife would remain faithful to me in the winter(the bad times) as well as she did in the summer(the good times)?

Men can willingly go all the way and still lose it all, and that is why many are afraid of commitment. It seems like a conditional risk instead of an unconditional promise.

[TheBgoz]

@Agent1W i think whether or not guys remain faithful is a bigger issue.

[Agent1W]

@TheBgoz But then who is making the real sacrifice here? A guy's faith will be tested once he puts everything on the line. Trial by fire: let's hope it all doesn't burn up for him! The man has but ONE chance, just like going "all in" in a poker game.

But of course that's not the woman's problem.

[TheBgoz]

@Agent1W & a woman isn't putting everything on the line & has more chances? what?

& if that was the case it would be the woman's problem, because he's her soulmate.

[Agent1W]

@TheBgoz You're making a different argument now because you mentioned soulmate. Women who really care about matters of the SOUL are very, very, hard to find.

But that's neither here nor there. A man's wealth is what does sustain a woman, but there's no guarantee it will be enough. There's always a richer man. In this manner, a woman has nothing to lose and everything to gain!

[TheBgoz]

@Agent1W if that woman's a fucking bitch, then yeah.

[Agent1W]

@TheBgoz Right-o! Exactly!

[SuperNikable]

Say Doc, What do you do if you went directly to the sexual part of a relationship and now you need to "retrain" this guy into seeing you as more then just a sex buddy? Is all hope lost? Or can the respect be still gained?

[MsLatifa26]

@SuperNikable Sorry I know you made this comment 5 months ago, but I had to make a reply. Men are not emotionally connected to sex the way we women do. When he put you into the sex buddy category he made up his mind that you will only be a sex buddy to him and nothing else, so it was up to you to hold out and change his mind, or walk away and look for a man who respects you. You should listen to Dr Tartt's other advices they are really good.

[MsLatifa26]

@SuperNikable Men put women in 2 categories, the she is a marriage material or she is just a dating/sex material. Now I’m not trying to insult you, but you need to be aware of a man game if you don’t know the game you could easily fall into trap. Ideally you shouldn’t sleep with him at all until he is committed to you, don’t you think you deserve that?

[floeticdeath]

don't do all that for a guy, balancing work schedules? etc? all that menial jobs? With respect, Dr. I disagree, a woman shouldn't be doing all those what I call "wife" things before getting married. I've seen that, where worship the man, even with expectancy only to have the guy string her along for a months, a years, a few years and then dump her.

But hey, you the doctor lol.

Other than that, video seems on point. Most people don't state what they are looking before they date.

[sjohn331]

Thanks so much....

[Apriluv7779]

So true! While dating my now husband, didn't to convince him to ask me to marry him. I told him I date for marriage and if marriage is not something he is interested in then we don't need to date. At the time, I was dating two other gentlemen "KIM." I also believe it depends on where the man is in his life; whether or not marriage is something he wants. Often men are not at that point and time if there life for marriage; in that case, don't waste your time :).

[hou67]

ur a sweetie and smart! cute too!

[MrRick5690]

Damn Dr. on the point.. I knew I wanted to marry my wife after 6mo.and if she started to leave I would have ran after her with only my under tights on! will subscribe

[caracre]

Great advice... I could have used this advice 10 years ago... Thanks for that male perspective. Most appreciated.

[ConnecticutsBest]

Hey you were at the ABC event with Hill Harper and all the rest talking about women, you were talking about about women making men supermen it was really good

[mylionk1]

without also teaching them what they should and indeed are entitled to ask of their men! Isn't it the Christian thing to do - to support each other, regardless of gender?

[mylionk1]

Excuse me, but many women today are career-driven. They want to start their own businesses, they study, they advance on the social ladder - and oftentimes men do not support them, not the way women are expected to support men. Men don't cook for you, men don't cheer for you, they don't listen to your plans and help you, or at least never as much as women are expected to do for their men! It's highly unfair, so please don't give advice that women should give every sort of support without

[MILLIONDOLLARGURL]

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[catali04]

Awesomeness!! That's some great, objective advice. Ur right!! Thank you!

[essence174]

What you said is sooo true!!! My dad married, not proposed but MARRIED my mom a year after meeting her. He told me he knew she was the one for him when they first met, and that all men know. If my mother had lived (she died of pancreatic cancer September 19, 2007) they would have been married for 39 years December 2, 2007.

[EritranPrincess]

@essence174 R.I.P for ur mother.

[proudnapps]

Amen!!!

[candykis33]

Dr. Tartt: I so agree with you about the "long relationships and engagements". You do not need to be engaged for 10 years to know if you want to marry someone or not. I will not settle for that. I like this video and thanks for posting!

[esotericgal]

You are awesome, Dr. Tartt! Another great video. What a blessing you are to us single girls out there. May God continue to bless you abundantly in your ministry.

[mistify77]

Thank you for taking the time to do this video a lot of women need to hear from a man's perspective exactly what they need to do to attract what they want in a relationship. May God continue to bless and empower you with more wisdom to share with everyone.

[pcewthn]

WOW!!! I soo appreciate this! Thank you!

[DRTARTT1]

@Tiara851 Thanks, God takes the lead!

[dedna2587]

Praise God!!

A man with Godly wisdom!!

Thanks for the Video..