Coming Out Tips

[TickThis]

Yes! Finally someone who acknowledges that the coming out process doesn't end. I've been out for 5 years now and I still get the nerves when I come out to people. Hell, I don't even come out to people unless I absolutely have to.

[MrJason300]

Great video =)

[camel2chill]

wow! so so real. thank you!

[DarkKnight906]

OMG you look sooooooooooooooooooooo cute in that blue hoodie :D Coming out is really difficult but I'm so glad I did, it just eats you up inside if you don't do it

[lukees88]

this is the only vid that is true, there are no such thing a coming out tips. best vid ever

[unchico555]

Those were the best tips I've ever heard

[JSBulldog89]

"I can't give advice." - Wrong! You just did. Great video, and I think that if anybody else messages you about it, you should link them here :)

[nvogel6791]

Great video. Excellent advice. Well said.

[thegreatcomposer]

This is such a great video. It is one of the best you have made. :-)

[poophorsie]

first of all, mean girls is awesome. end of story. and your tip is great and I think you might help a lot of people :')

[ddshane]

You accidentally gave several useful coming out tips.

[moonchildlight]

anyone that's needing help needs to look at an "It Gets Better" video. I mean like thousands of us have em. Even me. If you look at enough of em you'll see that there are very different stories and things to learn.

[mpmikemp]

Excellent job. This would make a perfect public service announcement. I, for one, feel/know the entire world owes you a debt of gratitude for this honest, sincere talk that can reach as many as the coming out of "AreYouSurprised". You just made me, and probably thousands of others, so proud of you; and so proud of being who we are as a person, who just happens to be gay. Thank you.

[sander91nl]

Great vid, you're totally right, you can't give advice if you don't know the situation one is in. But I think you gave some great "guidelines" :p, especially on the parents accepting, nicely said :)

[Nirofen]

If your parents don't accept you, it's them who are disappointing you. If your friends don't accept you, get better friends. Both true. And still, if your parents don't accept you, if they hate you, you don't get an extra pair. You can realize it's not your fault. You can understand it's them who did the wrong. But that doesn't change anything. You only get 1 set of parents, however bad they might be.

[Aroundtheblockonce]

Excellent video. You are an excellent young man. I would be proud to have you as a son. You are going to do well in life. Luv ya

[999CHOPPERUK]

Great video. Every person is different & every situation is different so there can never be a magic formula. You came across as a very sincere person which is why I like your videos so much <3

[OneRandomVictory]

I like this video b/c its true. No amount of coming out tips is gonna make any difference in your uncertainty until you take that 1st step and come out. You're awesome for making this video :]

[smorikas]

It was very helpfull (well for me it was) ... too bad America is so far, but yet there's no distance far enough if something is rlly meant to happen... wish u all luck out there and my advice is to come out when u have something to come out for.

[GyThanksGd]

You offered what help you could, no one should expect more from you.

[cjay2]

Rev, this vid is so right-on, yes! You clearly know yourself and have a great deal of confidence, and you've said everything you had to say brilliantly. No apologies allowed for this vid.

<3

[mtheaterpimp1]

I really look forward to seeing your videos, especially ones like this. You are someone I look up to in terms of being comfortable with my own sexuality. Thank you for making these videos and giving people an insight into your life and into your mind.

[asifwekere]

Excellent advice. Everyone's situation is different. Thank You!

[alaninnh]

You actually did a very good job with this.

[musicismylove92]

This is exactly what people need to hear. No one wants to hear this, that there is a formula for having a "successful coming out"...but it's so true.

For the record, coming out via leaving-your-parents-a-note is a frickin terrible idea.

[M00nGlitz]

Did you ever good that hoody back to your ex-boyfriend?

[Paladin1701]

what is to the right of your screen that you keep looking at?

[RevelationWriter]

@Paladin1701 When people think they have a tendency to move their eyes to the left or right, depending on their left/right brain dominance. I think and speak at the same time when filming, so my eyes tend to roll to the right a lot. Purely psychological.

[johnhelinski]

@RevelationWriter that would make you left handed. you're left handed?

[randyseck]

You will lose friends, good friends maybe, make better ones, some people are bat shit religious crazy, others are republican conservative Christians who just sort of let the issue slde because YOU ARE FAMILY! Everyones situation is different, and honestly, as a fellow gay, I still do not tell people, although its obvious because few straight men bleach their hair and wear the most out loud watch and ring combination you may ever see. hahaha... Do what you are comfortable with!

[ShoutBackAtMe]

don't be sorry - you have been a great champion for gay youth

[AwesomelyAware]

Nice vid, I can tell you it east you alive lol been eating me alive for 23 years lol.

[cjay2]

@AwesomelyAware If it's eating you alive, then you need to change what you're doing. That's no way to live, dude. Time to live.

[Whiteboymdew]

This is true. Every situation is completely different. My situation has been pretty good, but I'm not comfortable with bringing a guy in my house. For the record, Coming out by text message is not a good idea.

[dkadave]

I still haven't come out completely. My parents were the first people to know as they kept asking me the "Are you?" question. My brother and several other family members know, all well accepting of me. It's never easy, the last person I've told was a friend of mine online. I typed out my message, but the hardest part was pressing send. It took me about 20 minutes to finally press send. One of these days I'll get the courage to finally tell everyone. Press the post button... 10 mins later.

[strauchanside]

Do not be sorry, any notes, or feedback in regards to coming out, will benefit someone. The more re-assurance a person gets is in correlation to their confidence, and as such may help them make the call to come out. Having said that you are unique, as is everyone else so each situation will not be the same.

[bbzrun2]

ahhh dominick, you sound so damn mature and intelligent! miss you bud -X

[jblyon2]

As someone who didn't fully come out until I was 24...and watched every single coming out video I could find...this is probably the best advice I've ever seen. Every individual situation is different...there is no 'best' way to do it. You just have to have the strength to take those first steps that are unique to you, and never look back.

[westislandkev]

good vid.

[RSL623]

I understand, thanks though! :)

[rayslinky]

i hope you say mean girls next time it comes up.

[giannisv6]

Agree 100%

The thing is that maaany parents just don't get it :/...

[rsftwhehe2]

I'm out to about like.. 18 people.. I'm still nervous about coming out to my parents! Haha, I will definately do it soon though.

[jwo92911]

Great words. the best advice anyone can give

[clickers123]

I LOVE YOU!

[hmmtrevor]

Beautiful video!

[nicolechenowethxo]

I love you!

[MrTinoTomotomo]

finally i get to comment in first