Dealing with Difficult People Part 2

[QuiEize]

hi I´m happy because you went to our school to 5th and 6th I´m 6th and I was impressed what a good work you do in my school you´re amazing I´M VERY IMPRESSED ABOUT YOUR CONERENCE I HOPE YOU LIKE MEXICO

[BillCPhD]

@QuiEize - Thanks - I had a wonderful time speaking to you and your friends and I LOVE MEXICO! Hopefully I can come back and teach you more about how to come from the Top of the Mind:-) Bill

[PsalmHymnSamHim]

9:19 The difficult person has problems associated with his view of himself in the world. . Like the motel manager in Psycho, the man had over identifyied with his late mother. He loved his late mother dearly when alive, to the point almost of exclusion of all others; she was a widow. . Once this regressive journey has commenced and developed to the state in the movie, it is impossible for the patient to heal itself. . Now-a-days drug therapy is prescribed. . . Cheers. from, del-boy.

[smartertosmartest]

I wrote an article at smartertosmartest,com which covers the psychology of dealing with needy people, part 2 - useful tips.

Needy is slightly different to handling difficult people, but the concepts of changing your perspective, communication, and understanding how someone is feeling are all ideas that cross these boundaries.

[MuddyTonic]

@ 12:21, nice ;)

[shiryu008]

we sometimes try to be receptive but....god! it is so difficult with some really thick people. I get a bully boss who likes to get on my nerves and I really use all kind of methods and sometimes they work fine. But I rally got tired cause he turnes back again to that cicle of conflict.

I need a drink!

thnks for you vids, and buy the way we would like from your channel on youtube to be more rich. Put more vids please. we really enjoy your teachings.

Thanks.

[BillCPhD]

:-) I think you may want to check out my website where I show people how to deal with stress and difficult people by changing the chemical make up of the body and shifting to the clear, confident part of the brain. That's where you will fine your "break" :-) Bill

[ellylite]

I found the speech very interesting and helpful,however, when do I get a break? The "difficult" people seem to have it easy since everyone needs to tiptoe around them and figure it all out. In the end I am afraid that the "patient" one breaks down and needs medicated for stress,depression and/or nervous breakdown.

[BillCPhD]

On a scale of 1 to 10 how important do you want this person to be in your life?

[MiniOffiz95]

I have a brother, he critisizes everything I say, he says so much crap about and tries to be a good person to our parents, and making me look like an idiot in front of my parents. He says so much whick makes my parents being concinced that he's a nice person.

But behind their back he is just as much a normal person who is just as much a idiot himself. He tries to make them think I'm a weak, selfish fucking asshole. He wants people to think I'm bad. He wants people to think I'm a fucking animal.

[BillCPhD]

I'm always amazed at how people, so clearly let you know who they are by what they say and how they say it:-)

[darkwhitedirewolf]

Are you Taoist?

[BillCPhD]

Not necessarily but I agree with many of the concepts☺

[elfilalysamira]

It s so obvious that it is fascinatingly amazing how we could not know it by ourselves!

Great presentation! i appreciate the calm voice

the easy statements

knowledgeable at waht he s doing!

[bigbrother396]

I totally agree with your rule of the FIST. So true and practical. Your sessions can really help someone in professional life.

[oddworms]

To be honest I wanted to ask you something. Normally when I deal with difficult people I find new people to hang around with. Am I thinking wrong?

[BillCPhD]

No, I am a big believer in being very particular about the people one hangs out with. So, when you have the option to create more positive, meaningful friendships, I would encourage you to go for it. The challenge comes when we can't "find new people" and it is then that the concepts I talk about here (and go into more depth on in my book) are helpful.

[oddworms]

@BillCPhD Glad to hear this, otherwise I would spending my life tolerating people I did not have to. Forgive my ignorance but what is you book called?

[BillCPhD]

No forgiveness necessary:-) It's called "Life from the Top of the Mind" and in it I describe how our emotions, behavior, and experience of life are triggered by specific parts of the brain. This why you can't give a difficult person data to convince them of your position or try to "calm them down." They are not in the part of the brain that can process data, or that wants to calm down. Feel free to Google Bill Crawford Ph.D. to purchase a copy or to learn more.

[oddworms]

Excellent video.... thanks for putting this on youtube so people can watch this. You make great sense in your video

[Sneakfreek95]

Why don't politicians that start wars watch these videos?

[BillCPhD]

Great Idea! Maybe we should suggest they do so:-) Bill

[apdharma]

Very valuable information, but he talks too fast. I know its a technique to engage and excite people, but i find it stressful. Would be lot better if he slows down a bit and gives us time to absorb and process all the info what he is giving. thanks anyway

[BillCPhD]

I agree - It's actually not a purposeful technique but just a result of my being excited about sharing the information. That being said, I am aware of the need to slow down and am keeping this in mind in future presentations. Thanks for the reminder:-) Bill

[menonfire12]

haha

You're good men.

[FeelFree3]

I have experienced some people who are so picky to others. For e.g. My uncle. If I missed something about the T.V. series and asked him what did the character said, he will say you can't even hear that? You are useless. But when he did the same, he act like nothing happened but I won't blame him for such a little thing.

[youraveragemat]

good videos. I really need to know how to deal with difficult people because I am turning into one.

[BillCPhD]

Thanks - You might want to look at my other YouTube video on stress because it show's what part of the brain our "difficult behavior" comes from and how to shift to the clear, confident, and creative part when this happens:-)

[Wargoat6]

Dr. Phil did the whole "you're wrong" thing on Oprah. Man, stuff just gets rehashed.

[windthatturnsthesky]

2:45 - "beliefs", as the lecturer suggests is the underlying problem, is only a symptomatic of a much deeper problem manifesting outwardly.

The World lieth in Sin.

& psychologists are tap dancers.

[DeenaTSome]

The information is gold . Thanks for making it available.

[nextor123]

I dont like sense of humor that american lecturers have

[coolbreeze922]

I hear you, and I can understand how someone could come to that conclusion.  What are some of your ideas for resolving this issue?

See how I Listened, Empathized, and Asked a question?

This stuff really works!

[researchfiend]

This is good information. Practicing this is a different beast entirely. Regardless, this is good to hear.

[pingbong44]

i agree with researchfiend, it sounds nice... but practicing this is near impossible

[asmodeus585]

Almost everything is easier said than done.

[videoagent]

Is there something in the past, that happened to her, or between you both, that is causing her to act this way toward you, and others?

[CheriS33]

I wish I could agree with this. I tried this technique, which I had read in a book... or similiar. In trying to be cooperative and actively involved in solving the situation, then my MIL became even more aggressive... I became her favorite target. When my husband died, she unleashed her deepest pent-up insults, she let me have it. Which I saw coming for a long time, she just confirmed what I already knew.

[eliecalano]

You could always escape the situation and not deal with her anymore. At least you have tried than not have tried at all.