MargaritaSAYS: Is it normal to be loyal sexually to one partner?

[YountFilm]

What are the criteria for "normal?" Is "normal" that which came first? In that case, asexual bacteria are normal, and sexual reproduction is the weird thing. Sex emerged because some species followed different urges & desires. No one wrote any rules. Do whatever fits you, accept whatever consequences. For some, monogamy is a fit. Wolves are like that. For others, like certain birds, having multiple partners is fine. Be what you are.

[MargaritaShamrakov]

@YountFilm

Thank you for your comment!

I just learned about coolidge effect in mammals, it is basically when female and male together for a long time they lose sexual interest and once you introduce a new female or male, they get very interested. Maybe we are not meant to be with one person for like ETERNITY?

[met324354]

A book I read recently discusses exactly this topic. What is our natural behavior from prehistoric times to today in terms of sexuality. The answer is simple, standard theories ingore important evidence indicating that humans are sexual animals with the need to have sex with many people and a lot of times. We don't need sex just to reproduce, we dont fuck a few times in our life, but a few thousands. The book is named "Sex at dawn".

P.s. Margarita, you are quite pretty. Enjoy life.

[verwoodzuluboy]

love doesn't change as often as sexual desire

[missdemeanour555]

Monogamy is unnatural. It all began with religion, invented to control people, thus many believe it is natural to be with one partner forever. It is all fairytales. The whole 7 year itch originates from neanderthal times, when a caveman impregnated a female, then left her after 7 years, when the child was old enough to help mother pick berries & skin animals.

[ThisYoungLibertine]

I want to fuck you.

[fireeyedb0y]

So what is important to me here is that I guard my boundaries and make sure I am able to communicate this to a significant other. Then it is up to this partner to decide how much she wishes to respect this boundary.

Same goes the other way around. If my partner is able to communicate her boundaries, I try to make sure I respect these. If I don't, I might conclude I don't care enough for this person, or maybe she will conclude this much earlier than myself. :)

[fireeyedb0y]

Another point I'ld like to make is, that eventhough I don't believe the human species is particularly monogamous, and I myself might not be particularly monogamous, that doesn't stop me from feeling betrailed/angry when I'm in a relationship and my partner wants to have/or has sex with somebody else.

[fireeyedb0y]

So what I am trying to say is, that there might be some general rule that can be applied to the human species (from a sociological/psychological viewpoint), but you are still an individual, with individual upbring/personality/emotions/b­oundaries, etc. etc.

[fireeyedb0y]

I think the question you raise here has much more to do with being in search of your own identity (very familiar). What I've learned so far in life is that it's much more important to try to figure out what you believe is important to you, rather than what other people do, believe, or what they percieve to be common/natural. While I do believe answers of others can guide you, YOU eventually are the only one who knows what is valuable to you.

[fireflygirl246]

While I think its important to be sexually open and explore ones sexuality, including having many lovers in your life, I still think those lovers should be one at a time. I think its very natural to form a life long bond with your partner and once the bond is there,you need to be loyal to it. you can move on form any relationship to take new lovers, just end it with your current partner first. Its about honesty and being able to trust them and have them trust you, the key to any relationship.

[NICOPSG5]

BON JOUR Margarita

hope u go well my dear friend

love your paintings behind u on the last video.

je pense souvent à toi Margarita.

je t'adore cheers NIC

[ComradePatriot]

It was just in the tabloid news that Paris Hilton dumped her boyfriend because he by accident yelled out the name Margarita in his sleep and then she kicked him.....so I guess men are not faithful to anybody anymore.

[Teslacow]

I believe it is natural. I think this is because humans tend to partner off and create a family unit as rearing a child is highly important and costly. It also requires a lot of time and is crucial for the development of a child. So I would think it is more natural than cultural.

[heidiheidi0]

What rules? There are no rules.

Actually, the norm is for people to have more than one sexual partner in their lives but to be with one partner at a time of course, not to cheat.

However, I think we should do what makes us happy and different people have different needs in their lives. Maybe some people only want one partner. Maybe others need more. Maybe at one point, you need a lot of partners at the same time but then at another part of your life, you only want one.

[ComradePatriot]

Whales are dedicated to one partner throughout their lives. So next time someone calls their cheating husband a wild animal then you should think about how you are offending the whales.