Super interesting video. Do you have any theories? I'm only 3 months on T but I'm already finding myself more into men then before. I'm still into women, and I still see myself in a relationship with a woman, but the fact that its starting to creep up on me has me thinking and wondering where my sexual orientation will be at a year or two from now.
I can totally relate to this experience. I did however have some attraction to men prior to transition. But the bulk of my interests and experience has always been with women. However, the longer I've been on T, the more I notice I'm checking out masculine bodies and rarely women. I think I could still picture myself with a female, but probably someone more andro or very boyish looking. I agree it's taken/taking some getting used to. Just like coming out as a butch dyke did. It's a process.
Personally it hasn't happened to me. HOWEVER. Before I was absolutely repulsed by the male anatomy simply because I was jealous. Now I can actually admit that men can and some are attractive. I know that doesn't answer the complete flip-flop but I do believe in self acceptance that effecting you. Also, I'm rather... well I like clothes. A lot. And in the gay world, socially that's more acceptable making gay men seem more attractive just by that fact alone. Sorry if that doesn't help. Much luck!
my experience has not been completely the same. I was definitely soley attracted to males when I was younger but never had the opportunity to date guys. "Came out" as bi/dyke at 19 and thought I'd solved my identity issues. Later when I realized I was trans I dated a trans guy & continued dating women. Once I started passing though, men found me attractive, and I became no longer really attracted to women. So was dating women a safety thing? Just finding love where I could? Still not sure. :)
this is a great video. thank you so much for your honesty and willingness to be vulnerable to create dialogue around this topic. i personally have always been attracted to guys (cis and trans) though T for me has made me more open to the possibility of being attracted to femininity. (i'd only been with "butch" dykes and other genderqueer kids before.) and it has also given me the confidence to finally act on the feelings towards guys. though that is scary. i am embracing my sexual fluidity.
I still don't know what to believe (biological v. confidence changes, etc.), but here is how I like to think of the situation in general: Transitioning is like a fresh start. There is the opportunity to see the world in a whole new light. It is therefore not surprising that mental as well as physical changes happen. Embrace them and men (whoot!)
I too was in your shoes I transisioned really young & never really thought about who I was attracted too, then when I was finished I am attracted to ftm trans men. I dont understand it but I refuse to put myself in the Gay, Straight, Bi boxes.
Many "Lesbians" say..they are with women, cuz they understand each other, they relate. And i would say the same here..You relate with other dudes, comfortable and understand each other...
You like whatcha like..No rules or judgement from me...
see the thing is i dont think that its necessarily because of T, i think its more that your comfortable with yourself now and becoming more and more confidant with who you are. im not gay but i am a transguy and i have been on T for almost 2 and
a half years and i liked girls before and i liked girls after maybe even more now ;) but i think that its you adding new experiences to you. try not to read to much in to it, it could all change. Also i have really enjoyed your story bro, its been awesome watching you grow, Thank you
Someone else already touched on this, but I'm starting to think that some transguys are just wired to find those who embody physical characteristics you want/like attractive. By this theory, you were hard wired gay :) I also thought that maybe the crossing of gender boundaries allows us to look deeper into ourselves and find our true hidden sexualities. It is afterall hard to portray a gay man in a woman's body :P
Sexuality is fluid. I dont think it has to do with T at all. There are so many trans people whose sexuality did not change. Or maybe it wasnt a total flip but now see themeselves as bi or pan sexual. And non transitioning people may have had the sexuality shift. As for me. Male female its all the same so sexuality makes absolutely no difference.
Can't say I have any experience with this but I've only been on T one day (yey me!) so who knows what will happen. My theory on the "gay myth" has always been that pre social/physical transition guys have been too uncomfortable in themselves to see themselves with another guy and assume they like girls, then as they become more comfortable with themselves, realise they like guys. I get the feeling this isn't nessecarily the case for you, any thoughts? Perhaps my theory doesn't work?
if t is turning some transguys gay, then isnt hormones the cuz of homosexuality? its really weird to just suddnely like guys suddenly on it. maybe for some, T does turn some of us gay and i have seen this happen to a few other transguys. its all biological i guess. whatcha think?
The EXACT same thing happened to one of my closest friends, who is also FTM and from the Philly area. He still is attracted to guys and it has been over 15years! As a gay man myself, I always found hime very attractive and we have even had many "interesting" evenings! He also has 2-3 friends exactly the same way. So, you are FAR from alone in this regard! Also, as a gay man, I think you are EXYTREMELY sexy, so you should have no problem in the future! Write anytime!
Super interesting video. Do you have any theories? I'm only 3 months on T but I'm already finding myself more into men then before. I'm still into women, and I still see myself in a relationship with a woman, but the fact that its starting to creep up on me has me thinking and wondering where my sexual orientation will be at a year or two from now.
yourpalwes 2 months ago
I can totally relate to this experience. I did however have some attraction to men prior to transition. But the bulk of my interests and experience has always been with women. However, the longer I've been on T, the more I notice I'm checking out masculine bodies and rarely women. I think I could still picture myself with a female, but probably someone more andro or very boyish looking. I agree it's taken/taking some getting used to. Just like coming out as a butch dyke did. It's a process.
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Personally it hasn't happened to me. HOWEVER. Before I was absolutely repulsed by the male anatomy simply because I was jealous. Now I can actually admit that men can and some are attractive. I know that doesn't answer the complete flip-flop but I do believe in self acceptance that effecting you. Also, I'm rather... well I like clothes. A lot. And in the gay world, socially that's more acceptable making gay men seem more attractive just by that fact alone. Sorry if that doesn't help. Much luck!
SeanJamesP 6 months ago
my experience has not been completely the same. I was definitely soley attracted to males when I was younger but never had the opportunity to date guys. "Came out" as bi/dyke at 19 and thought I'd solved my identity issues. Later when I realized I was trans I dated a trans guy & continued dating women. Once I started passing though, men found me attractive, and I became no longer really attracted to women. So was dating women a safety thing? Just finding love where I could? Still not sure. :)
Popeslave 6 months ago
this is a great video. thank you so much for your honesty and willingness to be vulnerable to create dialogue around this topic. i personally have always been attracted to guys (cis and trans) though T for me has made me more open to the possibility of being attracted to femininity. (i'd only been with "butch" dykes and other genderqueer kids before.) and it has also given me the confidence to finally act on the feelings towards guys. though that is scary. i am embracing my sexual fluidity.
videokidsam 6 months ago
it didnt turn you gay, it was in you all along
rarestcat 7 months ago
I still don't know what to believe (biological v. confidence changes, etc.), but here is how I like to think of the situation in general: Transitioning is like a fresh start. There is the opportunity to see the world in a whole new light. It is therefore not surprising that mental as well as physical changes happen. Embrace them and men (whoot!)
roswellcactus 7 months ago
I too was in your shoes I transisioned really young & never really thought about who I was attracted too, then when I was finished I am attracted to ftm trans men. I dont understand it but I refuse to put myself in the Gay, Straight, Bi boxes.
All the best
Belinda x
502belinda 7 months ago
Many "Lesbians" say..they are with women, cuz they understand each other, they relate. And i would say the same here..You relate with other dudes, comfortable and understand each other...
You like whatcha like..No rules or judgement from me...
Enjoi'd ya video my friend. Be blessed
-Kamari aka Lyrikal
KamariUpdatez 7 months ago 2
see the thing is i dont think that its necessarily because of T, i think its more that your comfortable with yourself now and becoming more and more confidant with who you are. im not gay but i am a transguy and i have been on T for almost 2 and
superman32talon 7 months ago
a half years and i liked girls before and i liked girls after maybe even more now ;) but i think that its you adding new experiences to you. try not to read to much in to it, it could all change. Also i have really enjoyed your story bro, its been awesome watching you grow, Thank you
Talon
superman32talon 7 months ago
Someone else already touched on this, but I'm starting to think that some transguys are just wired to find those who embody physical characteristics you want/like attractive. By this theory, you were hard wired gay :) I also thought that maybe the crossing of gender boundaries allows us to look deeper into ourselves and find our true hidden sexualities. It is afterall hard to portray a gay man in a woman's body :P
DeclanIsHere 7 months ago
Sexuality is fluid. I dont think it has to do with T at all. There are so many trans people whose sexuality did not change. Or maybe it wasnt a total flip but now see themeselves as bi or pan sexual. And non transitioning people may have had the sexuality shift. As for me. Male female its all the same so sexuality makes absolutely no difference.
senpai16 7 months ago
Can't say I have any experience with this but I've only been on T one day (yey me!) so who knows what will happen. My theory on the "gay myth" has always been that pre social/physical transition guys have been too uncomfortable in themselves to see themselves with another guy and assume they like girls, then as they become more comfortable with themselves, realise they like guys. I get the feeling this isn't nessecarily the case for you, any thoughts? Perhaps my theory doesn't work?
isthistherealdeal 7 months ago
if t is turning some transguys gay, then isnt hormones the cuz of homosexuality? its really weird to just suddnely like guys suddenly on it. maybe for some, T does turn some of us gay and i have seen this happen to a few other transguys. its all biological i guess. whatcha think?
jaysongamble1111 7 months ago
pre T I was more attracted to men opposed to now post T I am way more attracted to women so it defiantly flip flopped for me but the opoisite of you.
ShaiIsAFlyGuy 7 months ago
Wow, you look really great. Getting hotter and hotter lol. I feel ya on the sexuality thing. Mine is flipflopping as well. I'd say I'm pansexual.
FindingLevi 7 months ago
The EXACT same thing happened to one of my closest friends, who is also FTM and from the Philly area. He still is attracted to guys and it has been over 15years! As a gay man myself, I always found hime very attractive and we have even had many "interesting" evenings! He also has 2-3 friends exactly the same way. So, you are FAR from alone in this regard! Also, as a gay man, I think you are EXYTREMELY sexy, so you should have no problem in the future! Write anytime!
Dave
DaveHFX 7 months ago