Why Do Men Get Married?

[najohnsonful]

WOW, Interesting Men!!!!!

[TheJeffhero]

I would never get married fuck that

[megatron6644]

Totally ! agree Hadhairs!!! I've dated the way its done today and now the last 2 girls is the old fashioned Judeo-Christian way and I can say in comparison that the girls I had sex with before I started to lose respect for even if I never told them. Something inside ignited insecurities: things like do I measure up to all her ex's or flings, does she love me more, am I as big as any ex's...blah blah ...

[megatron6644]

.... And the girls I've dated who were waiting for marriage I respected their self control and commitment. Just being open as a guy. Its amazing how many other guys feel the same but never open up about it.

[TheNova1960]

What these men failed to mention is Invetro Fertilization! And, alot of men never get their sperm tested to see if they have any swimmers. Men and women should get married if they love each other and it's OK not to get married!

[mba2ceo]

Human use each other. As long as both parties desire the other marriage works.

[epicpwn15000]

Guys get married so they can fuck and not get bitched at my nuns

[mollykjody]

human condition to want human connection compassion companion

[Lachdenan]

If she's modernized, I would say "stupidity."

[123batty]

Haha, all these comments are hilarious. But everyone's different- some people have crappy marriages and some people have marriages that are hard work, but the people genuinely love and respect each other. It's not like pol who've been married for a long time always feel that romantic/tingly love all the time- it's more about friendship with occasional bouts of sexy love. Ya know? I've witnessed both types of marriages.

[BadHairsRevenge1981]

One of the reasons men don't want to get married anymore is because women act like men nowadays having sex with random people or even living with each other etc. and not getting married. (This is the downside to women's lib). What's the point for men to marry now? There isn't really a point to marriage for men. Women need to take back their femininity and power and make men wait for sex until after marriage, otherwise, men have no real incentive to marry. Sorry to break it to ya'll.

[TheJorjia166]

@BadHairsRevenge1981 YOU ARE right

[thickjai18]

@BadHairsRevenge1981 I completely agree, but I think it will be hard for a man to wait until marriage to have sex.............plenty of men say that If a woman refuses to give them a blow job they won't even talk to them...plus with stimulating things like porn, how can a man just go months without sex?.............Many people don't even believe in marriage anymore anyways lol

[jayc342009]

@thickjai18 We can wank, that is how.

[thickjai18]

@jayc342009 LMAO

[hcoprdice]

I base my statements on facts. Over 50% of marriages fail. And um, when I went to school, I was taught that anything over 50% was majority. Now lets take the remaining 40% or so who are still married. Do you believe most are happy? I would say about 1/2 (20%) are happy and half of that (10%) are truely truely in deep love. So Cat momma, what % of guys who are married do you believe are truely happy? And how many of them work late or cheat just to tolerate their situation?

[hcoprdice]

And I just have to laugh at the guys leaving comments about not getting bj's once they get married. This is so so so true. But it doesnt stop at bj's. Sex goes down hill also. Guys please, dont get married. More times than not, its a trap so the girl can finally have a baby, and increase her financial situation. They use sex to trap you, but once you are in it, it all goes away.  And women wonder why we cheat.

[CatMommy84]

Hmmm, funny I don't want children and my husband and I still have an active sex life that satisfies us both (we'll be celebrating our fourth anniversary this year). Want to make more ignorant assumptions?

[hcoprdice]

Wow, 4 years! Break out the champagne!! Congratulations on keeping the sex active for 4 whole years. You should win an award. My ignorant assumptions were based on the majority of relationships. Do you believe a woman who doesnt want children is in the majority category? How ignorant. I respect that you are still active in the sex dept (probably has something to do with not having kids), but please, talk to me once you reach that 7 year itch. then you will have some credibility.

[CatMommy84]

Actually women not wanting children is on the rise. I thought I was pretty much alone but I'm not. We're in the 21st century, not the 1950s anymore. There are lots of choices now. I was just telling you how long we'd been married. We aren't newly weds but we haven't been married super long. Way to be an asshole though. No wonder you think marriage won't work. Assholes don't make good partners. Nothing will change in three years. My husband and I have been to hell and back to be together.

[hcoprdice]

I agree, women not wanting children is on the rise, and I think thats wonderful. In fact, I think its alittle selfish to have children. Also, I wasnt trying to be an asshole. I was just trying to point out that my statements werent ignorant. Stop using words like ignorant and asshole, and you may get better responses next time.

[CatMommy84]

Your statements are ignorant. You're generalizing and stereotyping. That's ignorant. It's so horrible for a guy to only be with one woman the rest of their lives? Things like THAT make you sound ignorant. Maybe for YOU that works but for a large part of the population it doesn't. You're begging guys to stay single, that's just stupid. People go in with silly expectations. That's what makes marriages fail.

[hcoprdice]

If its so normal or natural for a man to be with one woman the rest of his life, why was the institute of marriage created? Why would he need some sort of structure just to stay with her? Its because men arent wired to be with one woman. We need some sort of barricade (marriage) to help stop us from straying to other women. Marriage puts many pressures on the man, social and financial for example, to try to keep him in line. Now thats what I call true love! Love shouldnt require pressure.

[CatMommy84]

*rolls eyes* You just sound bitter and jilted.

[hcoprdice]

lol. great response. next time you try to debate, come with more energy and ammunition. you will need it.

[CatMommy84]

I don't need anything to "debate" with ignorant, bitter and obviously biased people. If I'm lacking energy it's because you're sad and tiring. Enjoy your miserable life sleeping with as many women as possible since you seem to believe this is the goal of all men.

[hcoprdice]

I wish you would stop assuming you know me. If you are a psychologist, I hope they take your license away soon. Please dont tell anyone, but I'm married and relatively happy. Again, I was talking about majority of men. And please, keep me updated on that 7 year itch. You can contact me for advice. I can also be hired to scratch the itch, but you must be half way decent looking.

[CatMommy84]

*Shudders* I think not. Instead of preaching your bullshit how about you try to educate on having a successful marriage. I agree, a lot of people that get married shouldn't. As I said people go in with expectations and when they aren't met the marriage fails. It can be salvaged but most give up which is why there is such a high turn around. But just shouting DON'T GET MARRIED! STAY SINGLE. Is not effective. Maybe you can't see the stupidity in that but I sure do.

[hcoprdice]

I hope you dont kiss your husband with that potty mouth. If shouting "dont get married, stay single" (which I didnt shout) is stupid, why do multi billion dollar companies have FOR SALE/LIQUIDATION SALE stickers on their front windows? To give you alittle lesson on marketing 101, its because it gets the person's attention. It allows the person to come on inside, and learn more about what is for sale. Obviously I got your attention so it worked.

[CatMommy84]

Happily married but you're offering to cheat on your wife. Nice marriage. Real nice.

[hcoprdice]

So tell me, who is dumber; the fisherman who puts the worm on the hook, or the fish who bites it? And again, if your not happy in a few more years, give me a call.

[AsukuraPunk]

@hcoprdice

That makes a hell of alot of sense!

N im a guy lol

[hcoprdice]

What are the benefits for a guy being married? He now financially supports another adult. He has sex with the same person for the rest of his life. He gets to listen to her nag about what needs to be done day in and day out. He becomes a psychologist to cheer her up constantly, because she is dependent on you to be happy. Unless you are truely truely in love, the opportunity cost is just to great to get married. Be free and live in happiness. Dont believe me, get married and you will agree

[hcoprdice]

If you really have found your soulmate (which again I doubt), then marriage makes sense. But to get married just to have kids is completely stupid. Yes, now you have a child, but you are living in misery because you cant stand the person in your bed. What is the benefit of coming home to the same person for the rest of your life if you dont truely truely love them with all your heart. Trust me, its a nightmare. Please guys, stay single, stay single, stay single. You will thank me.

[hcoprdice]

@suneeta862000 are you part of the gang?

[hcoprdice]

The best answer to this question is because of society pressure. Our whole lives we listen that marriage is the next step blah blah blah. We really only do it because we are like cows walking on the same path to the watering hole, that all the other cows take. If we really thought about it, men shouldnt get married, unless they really really really really believe that their girl is their soulmate (which I highly doubt she is). Other than that, there is no benefit to marriage.

[CatMommy84]

I think people (*cough women cough*) put too much emphasis on marriage these days. So much so that the wrong people are getting married for the wrong reasons and a lot of it ends in divorce. Marriage is hard work and if you don't have the right foundation for it then it's going to crumble. relationships do not HAVE to lead to marriage, where the heck did that rule come from? Some relationships just need to fizzle out but instead people think getting married will solve that, it won't.

[LovingThisSite]

agree

[flowingover]

saying that a man will only marry cus he feels like he has to because of his older age..then why do all these guys get married at such a young age, whats their reason?

[Dean042]

"Why Do Men Get Married?"

I really don't know, I've thought about it and I still don't know. But I haven't seen any new and compelling answers in this clip. But then I'm not one to go and do something because it's what's supposed to happen, or because it's practical, or any of the pedestrian reasons I've seen here.

[LovingThisSite]

agree...shouldnt act on peer pressure

[balvear]

"Why Do Men Get Married?" You know that deep excited feeling, when your heart is pounding and you approach the girl you like, so you can ask her out? I tend to think that love is the most important thing when thinking about marriage and I am a guy.

I know that I have felt tingly, had my throat constrict and my heart pound extremely fast, just from the thought of trying to find out if a girl liked me. Of course, at that age, you aren't thinking about sex, you're thinking about holding her hand.

[PirateKing1256]

Afraid of old age?

[ultravioletcarson]

these guys are misogynistic morons. these are the reasons i believe men get married:

1. family - both men and women find the prospect of finding a partner and starting a family to be important.

2. emotional comfort and security - having someone to come home to to vent, comfort and love.

3. loneliness - some people just don't want to be alone, especially when one gets older.

4. long term care - wanting someone to take care of them when they are old or sick.

cont...

[javonpryce]

I think these guys are actually being honest. Guys really only get married because they have to. Marrying for love is also there but its more like an exception to the rule. So heres my list.

1. They are getting old..... so they get married

2. They have enough money to start a family so they decide to get married.

3. They want this girl to stick around for a long time.

4. They are in love

[yourtango]

These are all REALLY interesting points! It's different from person to person but it seems like there are many more reasons why men want to get married than we first thought.

[IramFromEngland]

i met my ex when i was 25 led me to believe we would marry i waited 5 years then realise this dick has been wasting my time. just turned 33 am i over the hill?

[popcornpickle]

no you are not. you are worthy of a someone that WILL LOVE YOU

[saintcaffeine]

Yep, you're over the hill.

[ultravioletcarson]

no you're not. in fact, often times people "start over" in their 30's because they rushed into marriage too early. now that you're older and more experienced, you have a better grasp on who and what you are looking for in a life partner. so go get 'em!

[yourtango]

popcornpickle and ultravioletcarson are right! There's no ONE time frame for when you should be married. So NO you are NOT "over the hill". 33 is young!

[superiormic]

@IramFromEngland yeh your getting a bit old, i probably would just give up with life. congrats to your ex finding some new women. tell him i think he is a legend.

[TheJordandelphonic]

@IramFromEngland well you aren't getting any younger! The older you get the less capable the body is of terminating unhealthy oocytes. This is why women who get pregnant in their late thirties have high risk for mentally handicapped offspring. Hurry up and get pregnant if that's what you really want. Otherwise just adopt, there are many needy children out there.

[jasonbear72]

@IramFromEngland Yep you are past your expiration date. Now is the time to focus on grandkids and medicare.

[cymbeli]

@IramFromEngland Baby girl..no you're young sweet pea..even now I think at this point you are 35. Very sexy age..if you haven't remarried at this point..you are fine....My friend just had her second munchkin and she's 39...sorry third baby...but don't worry so much about your age..you're fine.

[Jationator]

This is really ridiculous. Women don't just want to get married because their 'biological clock' is ticking for goodness sake.

[11visionary11]

My husband proposed bc he loved me, not any other reason. As for a womans biiological clock....there can be alot of health issues for both mother and child in late pregnancys, this isnt supermans lex luthor, but facts. Why should woman put themselves and thier kids at risk bc men can father kids when they are 70? And most men want to have kids relitivly young so they can enjoy them and not need a hearing aid to hear them cry:)

[bboicrazy8]

Arranged marriages are not between strangers most times. My friend from India said that her marriage would likely be arranged by her family with a man who her family was close with. She also had a final say in who she married.

Anyway what the heck are these guys talking about they sound dumb?

[2kjax007]

Not in all cases. In India, parents tend to butt in the lives of kids pretty much all their lives. Of course the support is always welcome but never always necessary. Unfortunately, an arranged marriage in my opinion is an extension of that control parents have. Now it is a fact that divorces are low in the Indian culture. However it is because the society frowns upon it and not because the marriages are stable. I'm Indian :P

[CustomMadness]

come on buddy come out da building... bwahahahahaha that was funny

[Nudiford]

So the biological clock is really a gynecologist telling women their time is running out? I dont think so.

As usual we dont talk openly enough about the fact men and women are biologically different and have different reproductive strategies. The reason for this is simple: it takes the conversation to logical and truthful places that our PC, hyper-egalitarian culture simply will not abide. Hence we have relegated our understanding of the sexes to being simple-minded and fucked-up.

[2009Max4Sense]

I married because I needed someone to wash the dishes.

As for the S E X, that's what the girlfriend is for :P

[aileenlearah]

these men are dumb!

[LacyRekShop]

i agree with the ladies! in that your with the wrong girl. i dont understand why some woman leave bjs for birthdays. there is nothing wrong with being sexual married or not

[EntropyGuardian]

Haha a once-a-year blowjob is the quickest way to make the man look for them elsewhere.

[ultravioletcarson]

sure, if the man looks elsewhere, then just remember it goes both ways. women have needs too.

[SparkoCity]

Sperm expires when men get old, right??

so its kinda like their biological clock ?

[john123wayne]

these guys are full of s. we marry chicks for the following reasons: (1) sex (2) sex (3) sex (4) she is low on the drama (5) sex (6) she wont drive us insane (7) she seems rational (8) sex #7 is where we go wrong.

[agirlnamedEddie]

I think you missed one. 3, 5, and 9 are blowjobs. Which, married men never get. Buuuuuuuut everyone knows this, of course.

[john123wayne]

its the reason i will never get married.

i love bj's and u r right....married guys dont get bj's....from their wives! so EFF THAT IDEA! lol

[schmokes1]

if ur game was better, you'd get bj's. complaceny is the other factor hand in hand with marriage.

[AnakinsPadawan]

you guys are meeting the wrong girls, there are good girls out there that love doing that. hahaha

[vfayo]

Yes there are! Dated 5 years and have been married 18yrs! Obviously the girls on here just aren't doing it right!

[AnakinsPadawan]

actually these guys are hilarious as hell. The other group of guys were lame. Cept 2 are still in this group.

7) and you guys are rational as well NOT hahaha yeah, i would marry for sex as well so i think this list is right on ;p

[john123wayne]

get in touch with me. i wanna party with you.

[honeybucket93]

i know this is off topic, but is it that the more sperm you have before you ejaculate, the higher chance that you would have a healthier baby? true right?

[MaiLouIsLegend]

hahah i wish it were true, but im pretty sure all sperm are the same either if they come after or before- theyll all be in the same health lolx unless you get the unlucky sperm with all the messed up genetics haaha

[ultravioletcarson]

nah, more sperm just increasing odds of fertilization. 100 million crappy sperms will have no higher chance of having a healthier baby than 10 million crappy sperms.

[sanjamax]

Older men who have babies, studies show, produce babies that aren't as healthy as younger men. It goes both ways!

[Ashlee198522]

Funny... ^_^

[infiniteme0586]

Women are born with a set amount of eggs BUT that doesn't mean they can't have any more. There are many new studies showing that NEW eggs are created in the ovaries periodically all the way up until menopause.

I would also argue that men DO have a biological clock besides scientific reason. Who wants to have kids when they're 80? No thanks.

[neesy76]

hah oh my - thanks for the vid. So as a single gal if i have a question to ask am i supposed to ask it here!!?

[justme252009]

i love these! yourtango, make more of these!

[minou182]

About the "biological clock" :

The testosterone level actually lowers 1% a year for men over 30 years old.

[justme252009]

yeah men like to think they don't have one but they do

[13Cadavre13]

@minou182 Soo, by 60 I'll have my 70% of it, and able to fuck and entire city, while a woman will be... dried out?... I'm proud to have a set-o-ballz than. XD

[celineB444]

great video! lol