How Long Should You Date Before It's OK To Have Sex?

[katieeg0123]

My first and only boyfriend and I waited more than 1 and a half years... but mostly because we were in a long distance relationship.. :P No regrets!

[likeastarbaby]

a few months i would say

[mazdaspeedmx512lbs]

These people are absolutely ignorant about what marriage & chastity is. Knowing how to have licentious sex does not make these people or just any body marriage & chastity experts. These people are also teaching “subjectivism” & most likely do not even realize it. Subjectivism has become many peoples religious belief. Making a youtub video does not make people experts.

[rjared]

date until your married.. then have sex!

[Jamieftm]

So, I just met this girl not that long ago, we're not dating, but we are really into each other and both want to have sex. We both think that a good relationship could be formed and we could make each other happy and possibly be "the one". Would it be wrong if we went through with it. Neither of us have a penis, although I am male, so no pregnancy there. We actually hung out yesterday for the first time and we connecting and kissed and almost went that far but my mom came home (lol!).

[Jamieftm]

@Jamieftm So, would it be wrong if we went through with it and had sex? :S We both really want to and are extremely attracted to each other... heh.. all I want to know is if its wrong to do that so soon, and if it could still work out as a great relationship if we did, even before really dating...well, we are going on dates, just not saying we are together, if you know what im trying to say :S

[afreeminded]

do not have sex untill marege

[brianagainn]

@afreeminded ... why?

[afreeminded]

i don't know

but this is the right thing .

[brianagainn]

Shouldn't there be a reason for something like that?

[sk8rgrl3303]

i would say it is a good idea to wait so u know that u respect each other and it is real love and so u dnt catch anything.....

[Mokurentate]

Learn how to spell marriage.

[afreeminded]

what ever

i'm not English , so it's not a big deal ! .

[barrettski189]

do not comment until u have a life :)

[jazzmanEE]

this guy sounds like Woody Allen..lmao

[TennisPlayer1413]

personally i believe it's important to wait until you're married for a couple reasons. First of all because I am a Chrsitian and the Bible talks about that. Two, because sex creates such a strong bond between two people and if you have sex with a bunch of people, you give so much of yourself away, and it leaves you with less of yourself to offer to the person you will eventually marry. A person having sex before marriage should at least be sure it is with the person they are going to marry.

[Athanakin]

grow some self-respect and consequently some self-confidence.

Then start screwing around passionately or with love or sensually or whatever, its FUN FUN FUN!

[TennisPlayer1413]

I have self respect and even more respect for girls and that's why I don't do that

[creativetest71]

.. it takes 7months before its ok =(

[goldgoku3264]

you should date until your ready to marry, then have sex.

otherwise your setting yourself up for heartach if you seperate. marriage is a covenent between two people. if he breaks even a covenent. then you've married the wrong man.

[micon14769]

yall suck, you never even answered her question

[CrazyWiki]

Yeah they did. They said 9 months

[jdfox1]

For as long as it takes. I have very high standards for my partners, so I am usually selective before I ever really become involved. In the past, and sometimes even recently, I would usually have sex on the first or second date. Again, i'm selective to begin with. It depends really. If it's just a quick fuck, the first date is good. That can be soooo sexy! If I think that it's more than just a one night fling, I might wait. Either way....very sexy !

[textilemonster13]

I don't like how they're implying that EVERYBODY who's 'abstinent' are 'cheating.'

[textilemonster13]

For me, abstinence means no sex of ANY KIND: No intercourse, oral, anal, any of that stuff. If the point is 'stimulation,' it's sex. And that is the abstinence that I'm living now. No hypocrisy here!

[KimySan]

God God, I'm so releived ! I thought 2 months was way too fast.. I mean, I wanted that, but I was too stuck on what people may think of it. But it's great to hear that, really, thank you :)

[Gimmesuga1]

Thanx guys I needed this... except sex is not the most grown up part of a relationship rite?

[Gimmesuga1]

LOLOLOLOLOL!!!

[thetruthishere357]

I would say 7 or 8 dates you might feel confortable with the woman to have sex. The longest I had to wait was three weeks. I allowed the girl to decide how long.

[chloegayfacemoon]

they're right, you should do what feels right for you, and nobody should sneer at other peoples point of view, just because your religious doesn't mean your right.

[Wsportys]

Silly Folks... Not a clue. Search for value in anyone you love and love itself, happiness can be obtained without selling yourself short. Selling yourself short is exactly what these 2 are teaching you. But then again, they need a job and money, so they must say 'Something' right.

[OGMO11]

perhaps in your ass?

[Gimmesuga1]

I agree to you my friend.

[dutroka]

Ive never made it past the first day cept my current one.

[dawoel]

to hell with specific time limits, when you both feel your ready go for it! I cud by 10 minutes it could be 10 years, it doesn't matter...

[conymadrox]

10 seconds

[JC240]

lmao! If it was just THAT easy :p Good one though hehe

[Sk8erKid980]

2 years.....

[DavidSaintOnge2007]

lol ouch...

[fire11ball]

i noticed alot of negatives on the comments about god..ok look people belive in god because its there religion...and the relgion they follow is based on a certain person...to be able to go to there heaven, they must perform certain things such as good deads. without people and religion not alot of people would find the reason for good..

so instead of hating on God as an example, why dont you just accept peoples OPINIONS! and im not supporting and im not hating... just think about the good stuff

[fire11ball]

i spelt deeds wrong but who cares

[LiVeFrEeAnDeNjOy]

you guys are great

[700016597]

Until fat lady sing!

No. I am just joking.

I think when you feel comfy to stand in front of him and pray!

Yours truly

Philosopher Mac

[BlakkGt]

jus fuck when you get horny and use a condom NUFF SAID!

[enzo1700]

It's people's business what they do with it other as long as they are both consenting. God can go and mind His own business (assuming He exists, something that has yet to be proved!)

[Zeldabo146676]

HELL YEAh.... :D FIGHT THE POWER>>>>>>

[Bobzeaux]

6 thumbs-downs just because you said the G-word in a sex thread. Sad really.

[AnneSoleil]

If both you feels like it then by all means get room.

[MuttinHead]

What!? BOTH HAVE TO BE CONSENTING ADULTS!?!? CRAP!!

[Bobzeaux]

I've seen more relationships succeed out of waiting because they actually became emotionally invested with each other as human beings, not engaging in a Who Can Fuck The Best? Contest.

[riceski]

that is a lame question - i wonder how long should ppl wait to masterbate after being in public is as good a question to some

[gumpydoood]

You should have sex with him the first five minutes you meet. That is when you will feel the trashiest: the most like a slut. And I know that will be a big turn on for all hung up on matters of sin.

[sadetune]

You are just expressing your own opinions, Dan&Jenn LOL:) What a fucking teachers you think you are? LOL:) Sex is for marriage is my opinion. Go to the kindegarten.

[aaronmp2003]

I dated a girl once who was "waiting for marriage". I did everything I could to convince her that she was making a mistake, but she wouldn't believe me. About 2 years later, she marriage another guy that I knew, and they ended up getting a divorce. The reason? Sexual incompatibility. Go figure. ;)

[Bobzeaux]

And she was doing everything in her power to keep you out of her pants all the while. What makes you think she'd be any happier with YOU?

[kejholliday]

I can't believe some of the questions Dan and Jennifer get.

[edmondov]

We must ask ourselves, what type of barrier is marriage? Some perverted priest saying you are one? HaHa

[hopefulspirit2007]

On the first date? Imagine! (That wasn't uncommon at all in the 60's and 70's.)

[U2RAWINNER]

If you are asking it may be too soon.

[AutumnBrooke]

And some girls might even have sex on the first date and then end up marrying that guy. :P Great advice, guys.

[Juggaloserialeater]

Im on the one day rule

[stevon78]

Hey Dan n Jenn...FANTASTIC ADVICE!! That is about as straight as advice can get--good advice, that is. Many women think they HAVE to bed the guy the first date--or he won't "like" them. Well, if she thinks that, her Guydar is broken, and she will keep on that same loop forever. Keep up the great work!! You're making a difference in the dating community...and keep us committed-types ON OUR TOES! hahaha

Steven

[ginginnyme]

At least a couple of months I think, once you know you will be with this guy a while.

[ProductPlacer]

I would say 3 hours but it depends on how much you drink on the date.

[DanAndJenn]

LOL