I haven't come out to my family because it hasn't seemed relevant. As a biological female, no one thinks twice about me wearing men's clothing, and I'm not in a relationship. I don't feel any urgency to tell them either, because it's not a change in who I am or what I do, only a change in what it's called.
I do love your videos, Pica. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
and because its so real and present that even sounds ridiculous to talk about and because sounds overly simplified when put to words. not easy to define a soul.
When dealing with people in real life, it just doesn't seem normal to announce one's gender. Guys don't announce, "Hi, I'm a guy". And women don't announce, "I'm a woman." So for me to come out and say something like "I'm an androgyne"... it would seem weird, even if I explained what it meant. It's just explaining something about my mind. The average person won't react by thinking "Oh, I thought ze was a woman but ze's actually an androgyne!", but rather "this woman thinks she isn't a woman".
your right, in real life it mostly doesn't affect you. Because in real life people deal in case by case basis.
Though it might pay to mention it to a good mate, if there was someone known to point at and go, 'I'm one of them' then that might be a nice casual way to say it, and they might treat you more as you wish.
I've told many people online that I'm an androgyne... online, it makes sense to tell people what gender you are, especially if one has a non-gender specific name, because then they are probably wondering about it, anyway. And it's a way of introducing oneself, explaining a part of who one is. But even after they meet me in person, as the case may be, sometimes I think they think it's just some odd thing I believe, and like my mom, it doesn't really change how they view or think of me.
I told my mom at least once that I was androgyne, and tried to explain it. I don't think it made much of an impression on her. I'd have to tell her over and over again, and then maybe she'd remember that this gender-thing is actually somewhat important to me, but she'd probably still think of me like she thinks of me, as her daughter. So why should I even bother, and what difference does it make.
Ah, why does youtube only allow such short comments.
I think if you feel like you are 'hiding' anything, or that you are being held back by people not knowing about your being androgyne then yes I think it's something you should consider more seriously (telling people). If you don't feel repressed or anything maybe that grants you a little more time to do some research etc. Maybe you could write a book on he subject?!
I haven't come out to my family because it hasn't seemed relevant. As a biological female, no one thinks twice about me wearing men's clothing, and I'm not in a relationship. I don't feel any urgency to tell them either, because it's not a change in who I am or what I do, only a change in what it's called.
I do love your videos, Pica. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
justanotherjunkaddy 1 year ago
and because its so real and present that even sounds ridiculous to talk about and because sounds overly simplified when put to words. not easy to define a soul.
cheers!
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mistresspav 3 years ago
When dealing with people in real life, it just doesn't seem normal to announce one's gender. Guys don't announce, "Hi, I'm a guy". And women don't announce, "I'm a woman." So for me to come out and say something like "I'm an androgyne"... it would seem weird, even if I explained what it meant. It's just explaining something about my mind. The average person won't react by thinking "Oh, I thought ze was a woman but ze's actually an androgyne!", but rather "this woman thinks she isn't a woman".
Darkoshi 3 years ago
your right, in real life it mostly doesn't affect you. Because in real life people deal in case by case basis.
Though it might pay to mention it to a good mate, if there was someone known to point at and go, 'I'm one of them' then that might be a nice casual way to say it, and they might treat you more as you wish.
If there was a known person.
picaVpica 3 years ago
I've told many people online that I'm an androgyne... online, it makes sense to tell people what gender you are, especially if one has a non-gender specific name, because then they are probably wondering about it, anyway. And it's a way of introducing oneself, explaining a part of who one is. But even after they meet me in person, as the case may be, sometimes I think they think it's just some odd thing I believe, and like my mom, it doesn't really change how they view or think of me.
Darkoshi 3 years ago
I told my mom at least once that I was androgyne, and tried to explain it. I don't think it made much of an impression on her. I'd have to tell her over and over again, and then maybe she'd remember that this gender-thing is actually somewhat important to me, but she'd probably still think of me like she thinks of me, as her daughter. So why should I even bother, and what difference does it make.
Ah, why does youtube only allow such short comments.
Darkoshi 3 years ago
I think if you feel like you are 'hiding' anything, or that you are being held back by people not knowing about your being androgyne then yes I think it's something you should consider more seriously (telling people). If you don't feel repressed or anything maybe that grants you a little more time to do some research etc. Maybe you could write a book on he subject?!
musely81 3 years ago
Boy George identified as neither man or woman, but most people associate him with just being gay. And I don't know about Pete Burns...
figtus 3 years ago
pete burns identifies as male, just an odd looking fishy lipped male.
picaVpica 3 years ago