Loved the video and the wisdom. I am a young single woman who desires to be married someday. I see so many failed marriages, and I so want to do it God's way. Thanks again!! I will be subscribing.
I'm loving this! Thanks for posting this! Submission doesn't mean that we're not equal, it is just God's order. I'm glad that another woman feels like I do.
I would be unhappy with a life like that. I have seen too far often what dependency and submission to men (even the so-called Godly ones) has done to women, and it isn't pretty. I know you will argue that abuse and submission are two separate ideas but the line differentiating the two is blurred and is often crossed. Husbands and wives should respect, love and compromise with one another. In practical terms, compromise is an I give/you give situation, submission is an I give/you take situation.
@tickledxoxpink Are you equal to your supervisor at work? Equal to your town Mayor? Governor? Are you equal to your own mother and father?
You accept "submission" all around you every day in society, but yet you assume it has no place in your immediate life? I would suggest that there is already submission in your marriage: you have submitted to your wife under the disguise of "secular equality". I'm sure the "equality" idea wasn't your idea, was it now?
Most of the women around me always told me that if a man is doing what He has to do for me and our family then submitting to him shouldnt be a problem and i agree.
People have a problem with the concept because society tells us in order for women to be equal they must stand alone. Not true. Women are in fact equal. But, submitting does not take her equality away. If a husband is a man of God he will put his wife's needs before his own. Submitting to him will not be a sacrifice, it will be an equal partnership were each spouse makes decisions not based on their own needs, but on the needs of the other.
I signed in to "like your video" specifically for that reason. I never sign in to my account. Bless you sweetheart. Your series are amazing! Myself married christian woman for 20 years I embed and share your vidoes all the time on the different websites I am on. The word that you share is uplifting and beautiful. I love your work.
I began addressing my husband as Sir a few months ago. He wanted to know why and I told him that I wanted some little reminders to help remember to be submissive. It said it was OK and I think it help my attitude -- especially when I forget and then remember. What do you think?
For those women who want to be subject, but also have a husband who is seemingly pushing you to the brink, a great book is "Love Must Be Tough," by James Dobson. This is a great book that helps you to be a good wife, yet still not be "a doormat" (since that's how women who do submit to their husbands are seen by the world.) I have had many instances in my less than perfect marriage where this book (along with God's power and wisdom) helped keep my marraige from falling apart.
My mom always taught me that when I get older that I should submit to my husband. I can see that it is really a recipe for a happy marriage considering that she and my father have been married for 25 years and are happy. Nice video (:
It is so easy to submit to a Godly husband, because when he is truly a Godly man He will not treat you as to control you. My husband and I have been married for 11 years and He loves me enough to let me be me and I love him enough to follow him anywhere. There is trust between the two of us. I know he would never hurt me and he knows likewise. Submission is not giving up who you are it is becoming one with your husband :)
All the negativity, Courtney, just means you are being hated for His name's sake. Blessing to you for that. Perhaps you could put up an account on Godtube where you wouldn't be "casting pearls before swine." Keep speaking truth!
it is written that god wants us to submit to our husbands. if he didn't he wouldn't have said so and also man was made before women we came from man. God has been dealing with me about submission not only to my husband but to others, and to always humble myself, If you love God you will obey all his commandments weather you like it or not.
If you believe you were created by God, or you believe the Bible---then you will submit. It's a willfull submission, don't fool yourself into thinking you can do it half-heartedly also, or just go through the motions. If you don't want it, it will show in your countenance.
You have made up a god that suits your own interest rather than the submissive order put in place by the true God---and if He created you, He made women as helpmates(see Genesis 2:18 and 1 Cor 11:8-9)
Thank you for this video! I completely agree with you. I started following the bible, going to church and submitting to my husband and my marriage turned around! It has never been better! There are angels among us and you are one of them. I will be praying for these people who are not following gods word. God bless you!
i'm so glad i found your videos!!! i'm 22 and have been married for 2 years now. i love it but find it hard to be the proverbs 31 women...but very much want to be and am trying! I love how you always go to scripture and talk about getting into God's word, so awesome!! closer and closer together is what I want with my hubby cause i do love him so much, my attitude just needs to go! thanks for all you do in doing these videos, i've already watched like 5 so far. Keep walking w/the Lord sister!
I agree with what you are saying. The thing is we need to define what submission is these days because it has become so distorted and women are turned off by it. Submitting means you have committed to supporting your husband no matter what but not meaning you are this weak woman who is walked all over. Especially if you are in an abusive relationship. Loving your husband can mean you disagree with his acts but making sure you are responding to him the way God wants you to.
I realize my relationship was falling apart because I was not submitting, only because of the pain of my previous marriage where I did submit but got abused. So I started to submit and realize that it is the best thing to do. I still have to learn a lot more though. Thank you for you videos they reinforce what I feel in my heart. God Bless you!
I can't agree with you more. Blessed Be. I am a black christian women and I follow my bible as well and my husband and I have a wonderful connection. The only sad thing is that I find in my social circle that I am referred to as a white woman because I am submissive and not dominating my marriage. I come from a family of women that have what is pretty known as "angry black woman syndrome. Which means that they are head strong, bitter and aggressive toward their mate. I guess I need new friends.
@8sakuraleaf9 I believe we will find true joy when we follow God and his word - the Bible. He is our creator and he knows how we the creation can live the happiest lives. I'm not really setting women back 200 years - it's more like 2,000 - that is what my blog is all about - following Jesus :-)!
Thank you so much for these awesome videos. I am not married yet but this is my hearts desire when I marry. MAy God bless you and bless your marriage!!
Two of my new years resolution was to get closer to God and become a better woman for my man. I will watch all of your videos and take notes. Thanx for placing your teaching videos on here. I do not have this type of teaching at my church...sad...but true. Once again, thanx.
Sounds like the perfect wife. However, would she still be if her husband lost his income and they were forced to live in a one bedroom apartment or something? Makes one wonder.
@OpenEye73 Yep she would :-) because this has nothing to do with how much money my husband makes but the God ordained role he holds in the home. For the first 3 years of our marriage, he was in college and I worked him through...he was still the head of our home. So you don't have to wonder...we lived in an apartment with me working and him going to school and indeed I submitted :)
@Courtneylivingwell I forgot to mention I am FAR from the perfect wife (as quoted above in your comment). I am pursuing what the Bible says with my whole heart. But the Bible says that I am a sinner...very flawed...that is what the cross says about all of us...so I humbly admit I am FAR from perfect. Just a sinner saved by grace striving to obey my Savior and Lord.
@Courtneylivingwell "LOVE" is the key! If the husband truly loves and is "in love" with his wife (as Jesus loves the church) then she will have his back.
@OpenEye73 Sarah whom the Bible uses as an example of what Chrsitian women should emulate (1 Peter 3:1-6), submitted to Abraham even though he told here to pretend to be his sister out of fear.
God worked things out in the end in spite of Abraham's poor judgement. This is where both men and women often fail. We are to do what God's words says regardless of what our spouse does (this is what faith is).
Amen! there is not enough elder women available to teach the younger women to submit and that joyfully as unto God! Whether someones husband is a believer or unbeliever. Thanks for the video
If the truth is "a house divided cannot stand". Then the wife and not the husband is responsible for the divisions that occur in the home. If he's a democrat she must be a democrat, etc. The wife can unify or divide her home. Her submission has to be willful and joyful. Kinda like getting that "dream job' and doing all she can to keep hold of it.
You're right about the key being that "no one will malign the word of God." If you take the whole of the scriptures in context you find that we are all "brothers in Christ" and no one is above or beneath the other, BUT when you have a very patriarchal (pater fmilias) society as it was in the time of Christ it WOULD malign Christians and the Word if they were drastically different. See all Paul's command to "be all things to all people." :)
Thank you Courtney. I just found your blog and it is so encouraging. I'm a younger sister in Christ -- married with a new baby -- and I so appreciate your ministry! God bless!
Thank you Courtney. I just found your blog, and it is so encouraging. As a younger sister in Christ who's been married for 5 years and has a new baby, I so appreciate what you're doing! Thank you for teaching us younger women to obey God's Word. :)
I agree with this 110%! And by sumbit, it doesn't mean we are our husband's slave; rather we honor and respect his authority. In response, a husband is to love his wife as himself, because he would care for us and cherish us. A wife is a gift to a man; more precious than rubies. ^_^
I think the Bible exalts women, but many people make it seems like it debases us. Which is definitely does NOT.
What a practical comparison with the board game. Never thought of it that way, and it makes perfect sense! Thank you for sharing God's plan for marriage in a culture that is not encouraging such a lifestyle.
Exactly. If women learns submit to her man, and the man treats his wife like a queen everything works out.
MrKittyyy2012 4 days ago
Loved the video and the wisdom. I am a young single woman who desires to be married someday. I see so many failed marriages, and I so want to do it God's way. Thanks again!! I will be subscribing.
gracefulbeauty1985 1 week ago
Great words!
TheMrfreedomrequired 2 weeks ago
I'm loving this! Thanks for posting this! Submission doesn't mean that we're not equal, it is just God's order. I'm glad that another woman feels like I do.
Studwell76 3 weeks ago
I would be unhappy with a life like that. I have seen too far often what dependency and submission to men (even the so-called Godly ones) has done to women, and it isn't pretty. I know you will argue that abuse and submission are two separate ideas but the line differentiating the two is blurred and is often crossed. Husbands and wives should respect, love and compromise with one another. In practical terms, compromise is an I give/you give situation, submission is an I give/you take situation.
tickledxoxpink 1 month ago
@tickledxoxpink Are you equal to your supervisor at work? Equal to your town Mayor? Governor? Are you equal to your own mother and father?
You accept "submission" all around you every day in society, but yet you assume it has no place in your immediate life? I would suggest that there is already submission in your marriage: you have submitted to your wife under the disguise of "secular equality". I'm sure the "equality" idea wasn't your idea, was it now?
TruthandJustice101 1 month ago 4
Most of the women around me always told me that if a man is doing what He has to do for me and our family then submitting to him shouldnt be a problem and i agree.
RainbowRockaKiki 1 month ago
People have a problem with the concept because society tells us in order for women to be equal they must stand alone. Not true. Women are in fact equal. But, submitting does not take her equality away. If a husband is a man of God he will put his wife's needs before his own. Submitting to him will not be a sacrifice, it will be an equal partnership were each spouse makes decisions not based on their own needs, but on the needs of the other.
beward72 1 month ago 3
I signed in to "like your video" specifically for that reason. I never sign in to my account. Bless you sweetheart. Your series are amazing! Myself married christian woman for 20 years I embed and share your vidoes all the time on the different websites I am on. The word that you share is uplifting and beautiful. I love your work.
wickedhairdresser69 1 month ago
I began addressing my husband as Sir a few months ago. He wanted to know why and I told him that I wanted some little reminders to help remember to be submissive. It said it was OK and I think it help my attitude -- especially when I forget and then remember. What do you think?
Debbie
edwards63129 1 month ago 2
For those women who want to be subject, but also have a husband who is seemingly pushing you to the brink, a great book is "Love Must Be Tough," by James Dobson. This is a great book that helps you to be a good wife, yet still not be "a doormat" (since that's how women who do submit to their husbands are seen by the world.) I have had many instances in my less than perfect marriage where this book (along with God's power and wisdom) helped keep my marraige from falling apart.
giraffe1774 1 month ago
AMEN! Awesome message...
cpeacenlove 2 months ago 3
My mom always taught me that when I get older that I should submit to my husband. I can see that it is really a recipe for a happy marriage considering that she and my father have been married for 25 years and are happy. Nice video (:
druryatelia 2 months ago 4
I am a young woman and this is straight from the word! thanks so much!
FanOfMiLeyRay 2 months ago 3
Great video. Subbed. :)
flowahs 3 months ago 2
It is so easy to submit to a Godly husband, because when he is truly a Godly man He will not treat you as to control you. My husband and I have been married for 11 years and He loves me enough to let me be me and I love him enough to follow him anywhere. There is trust between the two of us. I know he would never hurt me and he knows likewise. Submission is not giving up who you are it is becoming one with your husband :)
jtscreenit 4 months ago 4
I saw you on the Rachel Rae show. What a great example you are setting.
TruthandJustice101 4 months ago
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7575047 4 months ago
amen. honey. amen
MyNORTHWIND 4 months ago
God bless u for being so brave to teach this in the face of all this feminist indoctrination!
patriciacarrasco 4 months ago
@johnsonnm17 I second that!
33melonpaws77 5 months ago
All the negativity, Courtney, just means you are being hated for His name's sake. Blessing to you for that. Perhaps you could put up an account on Godtube where you wouldn't be "casting pearls before swine." Keep speaking truth!
cptwentworth 5 months ago 5
it is written that god wants us to submit to our husbands. if he didn't he wouldn't have said so and also man was made before women we came from man. God has been dealing with me about submission not only to my husband but to others, and to always humble myself, If you love God you will obey all his commandments weather you like it or not.
jessica5562 5 months ago
@MegaWinnieGirl
If you believe you were created by God, or you believe the Bible---then you will submit. It's a willfull submission, don't fool yourself into thinking you can do it half-heartedly also, or just go through the motions. If you don't want it, it will show in your countenance.
You have made up a god that suits your own interest rather than the submissive order put in place by the true God---and if He created you, He made women as helpmates(see Genesis 2:18 and 1 Cor 11:8-9)
droptozro 5 months ago
@courtneylivingwell
Thank you for this video! I completely agree with you. I started following the bible, going to church and submitting to my husband and my marriage turned around! It has never been better! There are angels among us and you are one of them. I will be praying for these people who are not following gods word. God bless you!
misslilly1989 5 months ago
i'm so glad i found your videos!!! i'm 22 and have been married for 2 years now. i love it but find it hard to be the proverbs 31 women...but very much want to be and am trying! I love how you always go to scripture and talk about getting into God's word, so awesome!! closer and closer together is what I want with my hubby cause i do love him so much, my attitude just needs to go! thanks for all you do in doing these videos, i've already watched like 5 so far. Keep walking w/the Lord sister!
eaguenther 6 months ago 3
If what she is saying in wrong, then why are so many Marriages ending in divorce?
glasscitadel12 6 months ago
There is a big difference in being submissive and being a doormat; I think most people have a misconception about this.
txwildflower45 6 months ago
I agree with what you are saying. The thing is we need to define what submission is these days because it has become so distorted and women are turned off by it. Submitting means you have committed to supporting your husband no matter what but not meaning you are this weak woman who is walked all over. Especially if you are in an abusive relationship. Loving your husband can mean you disagree with his acts but making sure you are responding to him the way God wants you to.
amyatheart 8 months ago
I realize my relationship was falling apart because I was not submitting, only because of the pain of my previous marriage where I did submit but got abused. So I started to submit and realize that it is the best thing to do. I still have to learn a lot more though. Thank you for you videos they reinforce what I feel in my heart. God Bless you!
LATINMOMIE 8 months ago 2
I can't agree with you more. Blessed Be. I am a black christian women and I follow my bible as well and my husband and I have a wonderful connection. The only sad thing is that I find in my social circle that I am referred to as a white woman because I am submissive and not dominating my marriage. I come from a family of women that have what is pretty known as "angry black woman syndrome. Which means that they are head strong, bitter and aggressive toward their mate. I guess I need new friends.
mbullock1b 11 months ago
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8sakuraleaf9 11 months ago
@8sakuraleaf9 I believe we will find true joy when we follow God and his word - the Bible. He is our creator and he knows how we the creation can live the happiest lives. I'm not really setting women back 200 years - it's more like 2,000 - that is what my blog is all about - following Jesus :-)!
Courtneylivingwell 10 months ago
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jc7622 1 year ago
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jc7622 1 year ago
Thank you so much for these awesome videos. I am not married yet but this is my hearts desire when I marry. MAy God bless you and bless your marriage!!
DanceoftheBride 1 year ago
Great advise, I only pray my wife would watch this, and not get mad at me.
geraldlee33 1 year ago
Two of my new years resolution was to get closer to God and become a better woman for my man. I will watch all of your videos and take notes. Thanx for placing your teaching videos on here. I do not have this type of teaching at my church...sad...but true. Once again, thanx.
mocaa27 1 year ago
Sounds like the perfect wife. However, would she still be if her husband lost his income and they were forced to live in a one bedroom apartment or something? Makes one wonder.
OpenEye73 1 year ago 5
@OpenEye73 Yep she would :-) because this has nothing to do with how much money my husband makes but the God ordained role he holds in the home. For the first 3 years of our marriage, he was in college and I worked him through...he was still the head of our home. So you don't have to wonder...we lived in an apartment with me working and him going to school and indeed I submitted :)
Courtneylivingwell 1 year ago 14
@Courtneylivingwell I forgot to mention I am FAR from the perfect wife (as quoted above in your comment). I am pursuing what the Bible says with my whole heart. But the Bible says that I am a sinner...very flawed...that is what the cross says about all of us...so I humbly admit I am FAR from perfect. Just a sinner saved by grace striving to obey my Savior and Lord.
Courtneylivingwell 1 year ago 9
@Courtneylivingwell Well, your husband is certainly a blessed man to have you as a wife. Some of us (men) have not been so lucky.
OpenEye73 1 year ago 3
@Courtneylivingwell "LOVE" is the key! If the husband truly loves and is "in love" with his wife (as Jesus loves the church) then she will have his back.
SISKENNIE 1 week ago
@OpenEye73 Sarah whom the Bible uses as an example of what Chrsitian women should emulate (1 Peter 3:1-6), submitted to Abraham even though he told here to pretend to be his sister out of fear.
God worked things out in the end in spite of Abraham's poor judgement. This is where both men and women often fail. We are to do what God's words says regardless of what our spouse does (this is what faith is).
ttsqas 1 month ago 2
Amen! there is not enough elder women available to teach the younger women to submit and that joyfully as unto God! Whether someones husband is a believer or unbeliever. Thanks for the video
GodspromisesRyes 1 year ago
You are SO well spoken!
MyWordsofLove6 1 year ago
Thank you, sister.
SerJahPhoto 1 year ago
Excellent vid!
If the truth is "a house divided cannot stand". Then the wife and not the husband is responsible for the divisions that occur in the home. If he's a democrat she must be a democrat, etc. The wife can unify or divide her home. Her submission has to be willful and joyful. Kinda like getting that "dream job' and doing all she can to keep hold of it.
052333roger 1 year ago
You're right about the key being that "no one will malign the word of God." If you take the whole of the scriptures in context you find that we are all "brothers in Christ" and no one is above or beneath the other, BUT when you have a very patriarchal (pater fmilias) society as it was in the time of Christ it WOULD malign Christians and the Word if they were drastically different. See all Paul's command to "be all things to all people." :)
rachelserine 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing! I struggle in this area so I'm always looking for inspiration!
jennilynneo 1 year ago
I agree with everything that you say.
roxannegbc 1 year ago
Does submitting to your husband get you an incredible house with a beautiful fireplace?!? hmmmm I SUBMIT...I SUBMIT!!!
MsCuriousturtle 1 year ago
By submitting to your husband you are not glorifying him but the LORD.
WorshipInTruth 1 year ago 3
Thank you Courtney. I just found your blog and it is so encouraging. I'm a younger sister in Christ -- married with a new baby -- and I so appreciate your ministry! God bless!
TheMegffrey1 1 year ago
Thank you Courtney. I just found your blog, and it is so encouraging. As a younger sister in Christ who's been married for 5 years and has a new baby, I so appreciate what you're doing! Thank you for teaching us younger women to obey God's Word. :)
TheMegffrey1 1 year ago
rock on sister
HollyGOrtega1 1 year ago
awesome concept... love it!!!!
MsBreeah 1 year ago
I agree with this 110%! And by sumbit, it doesn't mean we are our husband's slave; rather we honor and respect his authority. In response, a husband is to love his wife as himself, because he would care for us and cherish us. A wife is a gift to a man; more precious than rubies. ^_^
I think the Bible exalts women, but many people make it seems like it debases us. Which is definitely does NOT.
HumbleBeliever08 1 year ago
What a practical comparison with the board game. Never thought of it that way, and it makes perfect sense! Thank you for sharing God's plan for marriage in a culture that is not encouraging such a lifestyle.
jalburn 2 years ago 5
Amen sister!
There is nothing wrong with a wife submitting to her husband, because you are doing it as unto the Lord!
I agree with Titus 2 and the book of Ephesians 100%.
Autimama 2 years ago 26