Relationship Problems? The Most Important Lesson For Strong Relationships

[Ashleypunkchic2098]

Inbox me plz if you are willing to give me advice ON MT BOY DILEMMA! !! OR if u need help I can help!!!

[MrZeedooz]

omg don't even get me started so my school plays basketball and I'm playing and my gf is the cheerleader... so after the game I try to put my arm around her and she's all like NO DONT TOUCH ME! then she goes to her friends hugs them and flirts with them then I feel like shit.... I say nice things and she calls me embarrasing and stupid and an idiot alot... she said she might want to break up because I'm too emotional when she makes me feel like a worthless asshole

[DunComment3012]

This is very inspiring...I learn so much...But my girlf doesnt really appreciate our time together...When I go over to her house...She wont spend her time with me but spend the time watching movie or fb. What should I do? :(

[RazziaLowne]

Im with a man who just cant seem to get off my back with his jealousy, it onley shows me how insecure he is..while he is the one working at clubs day in day out, and i dont get to see him that often..i never have issue with jealousy, cause i woudnt care less if he would cheat..ive already been cheated once, and im kind of immune to it..as for him..he drives me crazy and we are engaged, what makes it harder to seperate..but its nt working and i refuse to get married this way ,any advice please!?!

[BlackJacketWasp]

@RazziaLowne you wouldn't care less if he would cheat? Uh, you may want to start working on that. Something tells me that you're detached.

[RazziaLowne]

@BlackJacketWasp No,sure i would feel dissrespected,neglected etc.But i woudnt be so down about it for to long.I have an instant turn off button for disrespectfull people,thats why.Im always comfortable cause i know that if he would cheat. It woudnt take weeks to get over him..and i feel more comfortable knowing im not goin to have depression for weeks (i been there already,and i've seen at the end that it wasnt neccesary at all .So my mind state and way of thinking are working that way to )

[DanaFillmorePsyD]

Try listening to her. One of the things that everyone likes is to be heard and understood. If she finds that you're really into "getting" her and supporting her, perhaps she'll want to spend more time talking to you instead of your friend.

[MBNxXx301WANT3D]

Me and this girl use to talk alot and now she's talking to one of my friends more than she does with me what should I do?

[TheDezizzle]

My self-esteem. I guess my question is how do fit in time together? Can that time be at home, maybe just talkin in bed for a hour or more?

[TheDezizzle]

My fiancé and I have been fighting an awful lot lately. We have a 9 month old baby in the house and I'm a stay at home mother. He seems to feel that I get to relax all day while he works. While any mother know that's not the case. I'm cleaning chasing a baby and have dinner ready. I feel very under appreciated. Not to mention ignored. He come home at night and spend a hour with the baby then bed. I want to have intimacy to get that connection. But he always seems tired. This is a real blow to

[DanaFillmorePsyD]

DevelopingFutures- So glad you found the video valuable! Wishing you years of love and happiness!

[DevelopingFutures]

Great video Dana! Lots of straight talk and good info. I have experienced how consciously committing to being together alone has become a corner stone in the foundation of our marriage. Thanks for the reminder!

[Waris26]

i would pay good money to stick my dick in her mouth

[Meticulous21]

Well, I just broke up with my bf.We`ve been together for a year.In the beginning, we had as much time together as we could but then, when he moved into his city, we used to see each-other more rarely.twice or three times a week.However, that doesn`t mean that I stopped loving him or whatever but he found it extremely suffering and painful to continue like this so he broke up with me, saying we should go on being friends until we start living together.Will this work out?Opinions...:(

[Delorioable]

how would you know if it is BEYOND saving? When should you call it a day? Isn't there a point when you stop caring? I ALREADY KNOW MY REALATIONSHIP IS OVER!!! But the reality of it is my realationship with the WHOLE HUMAN RACE IS OVER!!! Why the insistence on 'working it out' realistically-it probably isnt worth the effort!

[TroubledPictures]

relationships the ups an downs are forver ...

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[DanaFillmorePsyD]

To the person who asked if the priorities applied to couples who aren't married or don't have kids, the answer is that these priorities apply to any committed relationship.

[LubMubbin]

Do these priorities apply to a man and woman who are not married and do not have kids?

[wendymooreful]

Perhaps you can talk to merujhaspell on facebook if you got any relationship/marriage issues . You can even order a love spell from him...

[TheTweeter53]

I respect your rationale Dr. Fillmore, but I just don't agree with it! I understand what you're saying, but it's awful hard for me to unlearn a lesson my mom pounded into my head many, many, many times, and for many years. You subscribe to the Dr. Phil-Ronald and Nancy Reagan version of marriage; a kind of patriarchal and hierarchal version, a "Father Knows Best" mentality, where everything and everybody revolves around the man and woman in the marriage, and everybody else is a distant 2nd.

[DanaFillmorePsyD]

Thanks for the comment. The rationale behind the spouse being ahead of the kids is that the marriage needs to be #1. Marriages that break up don't do the kids any favors. Spouses that aren't on the same page don't help the kids have healthy relationships. The best service you can give your kids is to have a strong, healthy marriage and in order to do that, your marriage and spouse needs to be #1. Hope that helps explain the rationale.

[TheTweeter53]

@DanaFillmorePsyD There is also a class aspect to your 4 priorities in marriage. Wealthy couples can and do hire many household tasks done such as cooking, cleaning, yard work, time with kids, paying bills, etc... Also, their homes are much larger, with more privacy zones. This lends itself to more intimacy and more date nights if the couple so chooses. Average folks are much more tired at the end of the day because their life is so much harder than are affluent couples. These are facts.

[TheTweeter53]

@DanaFillmorePsyD Another thing: True, "marriages that break up don't do the kids any favors." But it's also true that marriages that stay together with much bickering and discord don't do the kids any favors either. I'm not sure which is worse. Basically, my mom told me that in marriage you may have romance, and then again you may not! But you will have BUSINESS; every day, and every day, and every day! Marriage is in essence a business agreement between people for the raising of kids.

[sugarlandlist]

@DanaFillmorePsyD : one of my friends is having problem wid marriage. husband is drug addicted and drink a lot. have no time for kid, but i told her try to save the marriage 1st b4 going for divorce option... is it a good idea?

[TheTweeter53]

I found it interesting how you ranked the 4 categories. Spouse ahead of kids? Are you serious? Growing up, my mom always told me that once a woman has kids, the husband must take a back seat. Given the choice of saving her kids or her husband if they were all drowning, 99% of women would save their kids first. Kids represent the future, once a guy spreads his seed, he in essence becomes a has been. Sorry guys, if you want to be #1 in a woman's life; don't have kids!

[blcdfblcdf]

@TheTweeter53 Kay, by put your husband ahead of your kids doesn't necessarily mean forget about the kids if they're about to die, it just means don't let your family fall apart. I guess it's funny, because growing up my grandmother always told me that out of everyone in her family, kids and grand kids in included, she would always love my grandfather the most, because he was her soul-mate.... and if you're basically using a guy for sperm, why not just make it simpler by getting a sperm donation?

[DrGspicylove121]

Where is God in this ?

[blcdfblcdf]

@DrGspicylove121 Haha that's what I've always wondered too... but differently....more like; "What's that lazy old fart doing anyway? Can't whip up a few miracles anymore? Sheesh."

[Brookercovers]

My boyfriend keeps tellling me that he feels like he's growing apart from me. And, I have communication problems and I get mad at him easily. What can I do to fix this? I don't want to loose him. :'(

[lokkkness]

Haha, thanks, I also analyzed myself and apparently, I just can't get enough, maybe I need to slow down a little.

[lokkkness]

This helped a lot, I need to talk to my gf because we don't spend enough time together, I'm still in love but I feel like Im falling out of love slowly, because she doesnt seem to care that much when we spend this much time apart. I hate it, I hate that she thinks only the weekends are good.

[DanaFillmorePsyD]

@lokkkness So glad this helped you! Spending time together makes an incredible difference in keeping a relationship strong.

[thomaserossi]

This entire program is bullshit. It's supported by the Leftist charlatan Deepak Chopra.